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mrblessed:
Even a minute-old baby is eligible for beating. Just forget about the western unnatural concept that criminalises beating. This question might seen plausible because Africans almost always accept hook, line, and sinker most values that west hold. Corporal punishment is an integral disciplinary code of African culture. Is it not written somewhere in their bible that "Spare the rod and spoil the child?" What is unacceptable is battering and infecting bodily injuries to a child. Yes, a two-baby can been corrected through beating with love.

Howeger, madam, it is tantamount to abuse to lock up a two-year-old child and switch off the light. No, you crossed the line. Stop it.

Thanks .I am a dad..will not do such again..


He didn't even spend one minute in that room before I asked his mum to pet him.

Thanks

Cecegracen:
Op

You went too far flogging him with belt and later locking him in the room with light off. For me I prefer flogging with tiny cain at such age.

I remember in 2013, when my first son was 11 months old, by then he has started walking very well. However he had a terrible temper and formed the habit of hitting his forehead on the floor each time he got angry.

Each time he was angry, he would just come in front of me or his dad, bend down and start hitting his forehead on the floor, the harder he hit it, the more painful it became and of course the more he cried. At a stage he was beginning to develop dark mark on his forehead.

I jejely went to market, bought tiniest Cain, I think I bought it for N10 then. The next time he tried it, the head was down as usual, while bumbum was up, I gave him 3 strokes mildly on the buttocks, he got up instantly, ever since that day, he discarded the habit.

Like seriously ?

All these kids sef.

Na God know where dem dey get their power to be angry

thelish:
Why will a two years be destroying things at this tender age?
To d extent of hitting his dad?
If he's not cautioned now, water go pass garri
Na small pikin, na small pikin, nai dem take dey spoil.
Next time, when he remember d beat, he nor go try am.

Where did you read that he destroyed things ?

mejai:
Omotowo2, I want to believe u didn't flog him hard with the belt. Makeup with him. It's part of training. Next tym, he may want to try such, but eye contact with him will make him have a rethink.




My only problem is locking him and switching off the light... Jezzz! It's scaring. He could have convulsion or serious effect. Next time, don't. Or leave the lights on, please.

Didn't beat him hard that much..

I was scared he will have a mark on his bum bum but I checked later ,there was nothing of such..

I will not lock him up again..thanks

thelish:
How can two years old be this violent?
E be like say una don pet am spoil already oo

It is not a matter of violence.He was only restless because he was telling me something I didn't understand .When he noticed I couldn't grab his point,he threw the Pepsi plastic

Rozz:
ok I'm coming with the cops

Waiting.for you dear

emae009:
it'll end in tears...

Med oo

Ahahaha

Rozz:
You need to be arrested

I will even like if u will be the one that will arrest me

Ybaby:
Buy books on parenting fast.

They call it "terrible twos" for a reason. It is lazy parents who beat thier children. You want to instill fear in him like a small ram and when in future he starts acting like a meh you will ask him to sharpen up.

2 year olds are notorious for throwing things, beating people, being troublesome and saying no to everything etc .... they are asserting themselves and it is normal and good for thier self esteem

Use your words he can hear you... he is not an animal.

Read this article https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/terrible-twos

Thank you .He does all these though and look so unrest .I will not be a lazy father .I will device another means of punishment .I will not beat him again.

Thanks

frozen70:
Disciplining of a child starts as early as 1yr when he can understands when you talk

Beating a child is good but not all the time you beat him

Get a Cain not a belt

Seat him down and talk to him and let him know that you will not tolerate nonsense from him because he is already two years

Let him see the Cain amd understand that the Cain is for him amd you will beat him very well anytime he misbehaves

You amd your wife ha e to team up to make this work

Don't beat him all the time, you can give him punishment like knell down and hands up

You can restrick him to what we call naughty corner, get a space in your house where he did stay alone without toys if he behaves naughty

They hate their freedom being restricted so keep him there for over one hour and you will see him cry for freedom

Then if you must beat him do that when it's necessary amd make sure you beat him in the bum bum or on his palms so that you don't spoil his skin

Get an exercise books and teach him how to start holding pencil to write because he is due for schooling

Get a nursery rhymes video for him or teach him how to watch kids stations where they sing nursery rhymes

All this will keep him busy from being naughty

He have started going to school already and hr is learning fast.He have an android phone loaded with kids rhymes ,spelling ,cartoons and kids stories in case his mum will not give up watching telemundo or zeeworld .

This is first time of beating him this much


Thanks so much .

jenifer007:
Going to conceive

Oh OK thanks

zedegit:
To marry don dey hungry me if not for the divorce cases and finances.

Funny.

You will be fine soon

zedegit:
This is quite incoherent.

Initially it was a boy, later she...

Keep looking for he and she u hear ?

Ohemababy:
Wait allow me to finish laughing before typing.
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You said he did what?

My son is two plus and does worse. Right now as am typing he is busy jumping on me and hitting me with his toy. He does a lot of other things that make me tired of life.
Do I beat him, yes but once in a while and very mild just for him to know what he did is unacceptable.

Hes still a baby!
He prolly doesn't understand anything yet but you should still correct him.
However beating him or anybody else with a belt and locking him up in a dark room is really abusive. Kilode!

Am sure [b][/b]his mother can never do that to him.


My husband will not even try that, it will turn to fight.
Everyone knows baby boys are always hyper active.

Please try to be patient with him and stop the abuse.

Thank you

jenifer007:
That was so harsh of you....children especially male children are too energetic....what if you have my type of son.....He is over energetic self...pls don't beat that boy again with belt.....he won't be stubborn forever....You better don't allow gtc mothers on TTC thread catch you....

I know TTC .what is GTC

michlins:
Bro you owe that kid an apology. A big one at that and please ensure you do that if you want him to forget that action of yours. My dad never beat me with a belt and I turned out alright.

There are ways to discipline a child and right now you just traumatized him

He is awake and Infact ,while I was saying I am sorry ,he was busy waving his hand to say sorry ..

We are together eating cocoa pods and biscuit .

I will not beat him again.When he woke up,he was surprised to see me beside him on bed .He is a very sensitive boy .

Thank you sir

April2525:
Beat a two year old baby with Belt and lock him in a dark room alone?
That is abuse sir, lucky he is young enough not to remember and be traumatized .
Please don't do it again.
Toodlers can be a handful especially boys.he was probably just seeking attention from you!
I know you feel bad which is why you posted this.
Look him in the eye and tell him you are sorry and explain why you Did what you did and give him a warm hug he will understand.
Apologise to your wife too.
Parenting is INTENTIONAL work and we have to learn not to to discipline in the heat of anger.
Going forward talk to him in a stern voice looking him in the eye and let him seat in naughty corner for two minutes.
Talking works.

Thank you .

I will do as you advised..

Brighfuture:
It's okay... Please he's just a baby, please take it easy ..thats how baby boys behave ...talking from experience.

Thanks

RiyadhGoddess:
Why beat a 2 year old with beat?
Please stop it just stop it!
Don't sow seeds of hatred into that boy's heart. I repeat don't sow seed of hatred into that boy's heart. Kids don't forget...go ask my father.
Someone once said on NL that I don't talk about my father or whatever, it's because of reasons like this...

Yes I understand that we shouldn't over pamper our children but using belt on a 2 year old? That's extreme sir! He is 2 years you are already using belt, when he is 3 years you will graduate to cable be that. Please don't ruin things for yourself ooo, don't make mistakes that you will live to regret.

There are better ways to correct children of that age. If your boy misbehave which is of course for his age, just scold him repeatedly not to do it again. Tell him what is wrong or right. If he repeats it, bring out his palm, and slap him on his palm or his butt. It's a good corrective measure for toddlers. The bible is another corrective measure sir. Start telling the boy about what God likes and don't like. Start telling him about good deeds and bad deeds. Tell him about Jesus and Satan, hell fire and heaven. He is not too young for Sunday school. Start now Start now. As he grows, when he remembers that Gods children do this, Satan children do that, he will go for the former because he is a child of God. Those where the tricks I used on my niece and nephews. It works like magic. You should see them today. They are just between 3 and 7 but fear God and knows the bible so well... Instil the fear of God in him not belt...

Don't ever try correcting or beat kids while provoked or angry because you will subconsciously go extreme and that single offense will be counted...

Be careful with the mistakes you make with kids because they do not forget!!!

God will help you Sir.

Thank you

Vyolet:
He must have seen one of you throwing things at the other person when angry.

The belt you used on him is too much for his age, he may not even understand your reason for beating him.

Once he wakes up tomorrow morning, go to him bed and pet him, be responsible for him for the day that is, bathe him, take care of his room and make his cereals, smile at him and tell him you are sorry, all these is to win back his trust.

Next time, get a really tiny "pankere", threaten him anytime he errs and watch him adjust, he will adjust as he grows.

Thanks ..u edited

delugajackson:
Children are known to be restless at that age, you as a parent should know that. There are different ways to handle a child .

Inflicting pain on a young child when he's not a criminal. What was his offence again? 2 year old for that matter.

Na only belt you see? You for use plank or baton.

Thank you

Tushnigerian:
When I saw the topic, in my mind there’s no big deal in correcting a Two year Old, by spanking him on his hands or butt especially when he did something wrong.
But beating a two year old with a belt is a big NO! Absolutely wrong, when you correct kids, you hug them and also correct them in love.
I have two amazing boys so I know how stubborn they can be, the belt was just out of line.

Compensate him with lots of Candy � and Chocolates!

OK

When he wakes up,I will hug him and compensate with enough candy .

Thank you.

Vyolet:
He must have seen one of you throwing things at the other person when angry.

No I don't know if he have seen that in his cartoon or his mum telemundo or zeeworld series .I can't answer that .I don't even argue with my wife talk more of throwing objects .The worst I do when I am angry with her is to stop talking to her for some days ..

ahnie:
Before the elders will arrive,lemme state these.
First ....when he started this habit of aiming you should have nip it in the bud when you guys first noticed it.
He has seen it as normal runs.


Secondly some kids can be very stubborn...I know your spanking him was base on accumulated anger.
I won't judge you tho.

Although I love twisting ears instead of spanking.

OK thank you.

Actually I hope he will change .I will not beat him again .I was so angry because the head of that Pepsi bottle he threw hit me seriously .I just checked the eye now and it is red already .

ahnie:
This one is strong o....


Wait Fess...lemme ring the elders for proper analysis of this matter

I am not frustrated ..the thing really hit me so much.

Brighfuture:
Hmm... Two years old with a belt... Why are putting your frustration on that baby... It's not fair

This is the first time I am doing that

Good evening daddies and mummies .

I just beat my 2-year old son with a belt(beat him on his bum bum) .After beating him,I asked him to go inside the room and lie down while I off the bedroom light and locked the door .I discovered he was breathing so fast on the bed when i checked two minutes later .He was crying and keep banging the bedroom door for us to open.He kept on crying .So,i have to tell his mum to carry him and pet him.

When i went to sitting room to pick something ,he didn't even want to come near me .He kept on dragging his mum cloth thinking I still want to beat him .Infact,he refused to come to bedroom .He cried and keep telling her mum to put her down when she was about entering the room with him.

He is fond of throwing spoon,pencil,cups,plates ,biscuit,cup,plates and tonight ,he threw a water plastic at me and that hit me on my eye and I felt so much pain .So,I had to beat him that much .He is asleep now .

I just want to ask if it is right to beat him at that age or what other measure can we adopt to discipline him?We used to talk to him and sometimes ,he says sorry when he notices he have done something wrong .

A

Opexzy:
I was surprised on Monday when i got to berger. The bus I boarded made sure every passenger wore a face mask. Though we were three per row but the bus was relatively big, we were given sanitizers to sanitize our hand. The fare from berger to ikeja was 200 naira instead of the usual 150 naira.. Which is still understandable.

From grammar school to Ikeja now is #150 buy two on a seat

From ojodu to Ikeja is #150 compared to the usual #100 but it is 2 passengers on a seat .

Kudos to NURTW

AngryIgboMan:
Must we over stress things?

For those saying the head is used to cover the brain... Does that even make sense to you? How do you teach that to a child? Prior before the invention of carriers, don't you use your head to carry loads when your hand is tired?

If the hand can be used to wash clothes, why can't the head be used to carry load?

Or will you teach the child that clothes is watched by washing machine and not hand too?

How do you want somebody like Buhari with the brain of a Kindergarten to understand this?

Guy u be baba were I swear