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This how we date now.

We dont commit now, we dont see the point to, they've always said there are so many fish in the see.
We think intimacy lies in a ''good morning'' text. We say romance is dead, because maybe it is. Maybe romance in our modern age is putting the phone down long enough to look in each others eyes at dinner. Maybe romance is deleting tinder off your phone after an incredible first date with someone. Maybe it's still just there but we dont know what it looks like now.

We're too busy eyeing the mediocre buffet,''choice''. Choice that has been killing us, we think choice means something, we think the more chances we have the better.
But it makes everything watered-down.

Never mind actually feeling satisfied, we dont even understand what satisfaction looks like, sounds like, feels like.
We're one foot out the door, because outside that door is more, more, more.
We dont see who's right in front of our eyes asking to be loved.
We soothe ourselves and distract ourselves and, if we cant even face the demons inside our own brain, how then can we stick something out to love someone even when it's not easy to love them?

We bail, we leave, we see a limitless world in a way that no generation before us has seen.
We can open up a new tab, look at pictures, open up instagram and see the lives of others, the life we could have.
See the places we're not traveling to. See the life we're not living. See the people we're not dating.

We bombard ourselves with stimuli, input, input, input and wonder why we're miserable.
Why we're dissatisfied, why nothing lasts and everything feels a little hopeless because we have no idea how to see our lives for what they are instead of what they aren't.

And, even if we find it, say we find that person we love who loves us. Commitment intimacy ''i love you'' we do it, we find it, then quickly, we live them for others.

We see these other happy, shiny couples, we compare. Choice, culture. The comparison generation, measuring up. Good enough, the best.
Never before have we had such an incredible cornucopia of markers for what it looks like to live the best life possible.
We input, input input and soon find ourselves in despair. We'll never be good enough because what we're trying to measure up to does not exist. Those lives do not exist. Those relationships do not exist.

Yet we cant believe it, we see it with our own eyes . And we want it. And we will make ourselves miserable until we get it.
So, we break up. We break up because we're not good enough, our lives aren't good enough, our relationship isn't good enough. So we break up.

And the cycle starts again from the Genesis.




Until we know that there is nothing like a perfect person we will keep searching and breaking up till theu kingdom come.

[quote author=lordtosan post=37641380]I will dump any girl my mum doesn't love and approve of. Mum must have seen something in her that would destroy me in the future which i am not seeing because i'm in love. Love can be blind. so, we need a third party who is not blind to help us. And mothers are the best third party.

Like a sage once said:
"if you love Alice, you are no judge of her"

Here is a song by lucky dube that always get me thinking about rushing into marriage because of the feeling called 'love':

BEAUTIFUL WOMAN LYRICS

I remember the day I called mama on the telephone
I told her mama I' m getting married
I could hear her voice on the other side
Of the telephone she was smiling
And she asked me a question
That I proudly answered
She said son did you take time
To know her?
I said mama she is the best
But today it hurts me so to go back to
Mama and say
Mama I' m getting divorced oh
I' m getting divorced
The choice I made didn' t work out the way
I thought it would
This choice I made it hurts me so mama
This choice I made didn' t work out the
Way I thought it would
This choice of mine oh....
Mama said to me

Chorus (x2)
It' s not easy to understand it son
But I hope you' ll make it
You' ll be happy again

I remember in church when the preacherman
Read the scriptures
You looked so beautiful, so beautiful
And so innocent
I did not know that behind that beauty
Lies the true colours that will destroy me
In the near future
This choice I made didn' t work out to be
What I thought it would be
Oh mama this choice I made
Didn' t work out the way I thought it would
Now I' m hurting
I remember when I held you by the hand

Preacherman read the scriptures
Putting words in your mouth
Maybe what the preacherman said
Was not something that was within you
Now I know what they mean when
They say

Beautiful woman
Is another man' s plaything
Oh Lord I' m hurting now

that's my best lucky song, each time i play that song it makes me wonder deep in my heart

Would you dump the girl/man you love and want to marry because your mom said she or he is not a wife/husband material?



For me i will, cause my mom is a good judge of character, there must have been something she saw that made her to say so

Jarizod:
God will heal u

u be pastoring church, i no dey sick oo i well

Jarizod:
same here bro

I think the G is high

even me mysalf i no know waten i dey do no be my fault sha make una no look my typing mistake must dey oo

czarr:
I'm confused

which part confused u make i fuse u back

Is beauty a competition?


hahahahaaaaahhhhaaaaaahhaaa.


Is like i'm going crazy dis afternoon, no be my fault sha na them say make i kolo.

Back to our discussion

is beauty a competition? Well beauty cant be a competition.

But wait ooo why does it look as if ladies are competitioning, yes competitioning,

hahhhhaaaahhhaaaaahhhhaaa

well make i answer the ques

well it looks as if they are, but the truth is that all they want is to be the best version of them selves.

hhhaaaahaaahhhhaaaahhaaaa

ladies make una carry go


hahaaahhaa,
no be my fault make una forgive me ooooohhhhhhh.
Na so de thin dey start small small hhaahhhhaaahhhhaaaa

well i dont crush, but some of them that crushed on me later realised that,





they was just carried away by something

heayey:
lolz... C whinning
Guy person no fit follow u joke ni...1morepls...

lol u know hear when i said we're all joking,
but

on a more serious note

watchout for my next nonsense titled


is beauty a competition

heayey:
Onemore nonsense pls...

u need more nonsense

kossyablaze:
Abeg sorry...na joke I dey

we're all jokeing





smiles

Melahou:
Bad news...your GF dumped you

Good news...your formal EX is back with your baby

there can never be any past without present, there is no present, so there cant be any past

kossyablaze:
Crazy.Too much weed maybe

didn't u hear my warning

heayey:
... Bad news: Someone is going nuts

nuts, which of the news is getting u nut the good or the bad

I have good and bad news.
Let's start with the bad news,

The bad news is that i dont have good news.
And the good news is that i dont have bad news.



Warning



Dont write any nonsense below.



Bewarned.

and u just got ur own device today september 2, ur a fool just look for attention, idi-ot

vayne:
She desired to rape u abi
Did you also have the same desire to be raped

i dont get ur question, i said i escaped one attempted rape from a girl

vayne:
Desire to do something is temptation.

ok, if is d guy is his desire and if is d girl is her desire, according to u, then why wil d name be different for the two genders

vayne:
Don't confuse "inability to resist temptation" for "rape"

If you are unable to resist temptation,that your own cup of tea....don't claim victimized..

This is an insult to women who get raped

u call theirs temptation ok pls wat is temptation

vayne:
Pluto

no wonder

vayne:
I asked because it's rear to see women with high raging testosterone trying to rape a guy..
Nice story though

WHAT, which part of d world are u from

donholy28:
so when a lady seduces a guy knowing fully well that he's take or he's married and d guy tries to resist but fails..what then is that? isn't it sex against will?..its just that guys don report

dont mind d nigga he knows so wel wat ur talking about

vayne:
escaped
Hmm you must be related to that cute Arab guy that was refused visa...

why do u ask

vayne:
E dey pain you say woman never rape you since abi

And small boys around you just dey collect anyhow

pain me, ur funny i'm telling u i escaped one ur still talking rubbish

vayne:
All I see are sex starved little boys wishing to be raped by girls

If I wanted a triple/Group Intimacy,I'd get it just by snapping my fingers

who ask u if u can get triple/Group Intimacy by snapping ur fingers

vayne:
All I see are sex starved little boys wishing to be raped by girls

If I wanted a triple/Group Intimacy,I'd get it just by snapping my fingers

who ask u if u can get triple/Group Intimacy by snapping ur fingers

vayne:
If you may asking
You,talk like you have stopped sucking na

yes if i may asking

vayne:
If you may asking
You,talk like you have stopped sucking na

yes if i may asking

vayne:
What dictionary
Kids everywhere..

how old are u if i may asking, cause u talk as if ur still sucking

charijee:
[color=#CD1076]He's the spokesman[/color]

but he just said u should answer