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FromZeroToHero:
Why would you leave in the same room with a lady you are not married to. Is the mother aware that you guys are cohabiting? Answer me first before I will advise you.

yeap, her mother knows

Grandlord:
Yes it is! We can be stupid in love all we want!

I guess

Godsonjolly:
This is the most funny story have ever read since January 1st.... Just too funny o. Bro leave the girl abeg and stop wasting ur time, let her pack and things and leave. Heart break won't kill you.

okay.... thanks

ruggedtimi:
JAPA JAPA... she will probably tell the caretaker you caught her and they have to becareful next time

.funny but true

Tonyfx:
Bro, create a standard for yourself and have the discipline to stick to it. if i were you i would forgive her and breakup with her. if a woman or anybody at all does something to hurt you delibrately they really should be deserving of that friendship/relationship. thats my take on this matter.

okay thanks

Zerlo:
Are u not cheating her dad by living under a roof with her without paying her bride price?

Anyway, two things are involved....
1. It's either she's d financial muscle of d relationship and u are only a glorified sissy with a stick in-between d legs. Or
2. U are naturally slow and it affects ur self esteem that u can't be assertive with a girl that f**k neighbours with no remorse.

Pls share her contact here, I believe there are hundreds more of her kinsmen here

. No, she NOT the financial muscle of the relationship.
she was remorseful though

Generalissimo75:
Congratulations cos you are not married to her. It's complicated when you are married with kids.

exactly my point. it's Just a relationship. got good plans for her though

judgementyard:
@op, I seriously want to believe that you wrote this just for fun?
But if it's the truth,then you really need help.
I'd advise you with love to pls break up with her, she's not worth it and you better go for STD test you never can tell!

the STD part keep freaking me out...

Grandlord:
Well until you stop loving her, then you can be able to see through her bullsh1t and break free. For now, just keep being blinded by love. Isn't it beautiful?

.. I just kept smilling viewing this comment...
beautiful indeed

MizzPhoney:
I would have really knocked some senses into you, considering the fact that you are even my younger brother's age mate, I feel so disappointed in you.
What are you cohabiting with a girl for?
What is she giving you? Sex, every day free house wife duties? What exactly?
It's so obvious you aren't serious with your life oh, if you were, you'd know that you are heading for the rocks. You will end up taking care of that baby she is carrying since you are a habitual mumu!

maybe I didn't think it through...
besides,she didn't got pregnant. it was just a glitch on her circle

your point was taken you shouldn't have insulted

ranmoor:
Just look for another apartment and leave them. If you kick her out, you will be surprise that the so called caretaker will accommodate her, trust me, your life will be miserable.
Also, stop cohabiting with your gf, face your studies. Have fun but have boundaries. Telling her mum is just a waste of time and stooping too low. Until you have done official engagement/intro, parents have no business in your affairs...

alright... thanks

Liposure:
What are u still doing in dat relationship. Sebi She don carry bele make she go meet her babydaddy

No,she didn't get pregnant. maybe it's just a glitch on her circle

iceybux:
U Guys Are Young,my Candid Advice .. Dnt Chase Her Outta The Crib But Remain And Maintain A Platonic Friendship, A Girl Who Did Shag 2guys In A Space Of 2days Withoup Protection And Dont Even Know Who Got Her Preg,could Infest U And Alter All Ur Life Plans, Forgive Her But End That Luv Relationship,trust Me U Be Safer,if U Cant Bear The Sight Moveout The House.

Thanks.. your advice is deeply appreciated

Depressed101:
you are not a nairalander, so therefore i cannot help you, if you are? You should have fortified yourself with RedPill 1&2 by Ubunja pharmaceutical Plc. AT least, to save you from such a disgrace, now tell us how you intend to live with that winch you call girlfriend, for the rest of the semester.

Your momma and papa send you go school, you carry woman put for house.. You are a mumu man, and chances are you are the one seeing her through school..

am planning of moving out of the room we BOTH rented. and no am not The one seeing her through school....


besides,you don't have to insult me to drive your point home

Kantebets:
Fake story Fvck!

no, it's not.. I wouldn't believe it either

splendour7:
pack out from that house and look for a new apartement,your number 1 priority now should be your studies not relationship,never let the girl blackmail you emotionally...maintain a mutual friendship with her but cut off any kind of relationship with her,,,,it hurt when you initially break up,but with time you will overcome.

okay thanks

OlaitanAkanbi:
Best advice don’t have sex with her again
But you guys can stay together till you get a new place or a new lover and move on
Pretend like you are not too update
Don’t fight the caretaker oh
Still let him be
But be smarter
Find a better girl in school to date and flirt with her with you are Hot
Don’t sex your girlfriend again she can kill you easily

Note: don’t sex her again free her but be friends with her

duly noted
thanks

anigbajumo:
Truth must be told,the next generation of guys might find it hard to control their wives.I never caught lady up to this extent before I put the end to relationship,just a sign of cheating,u are gone....

If it is me,she will never sleep in my room again the night I first suspected her not to even talk of call her mother,beg her bla bla bla...@OP,u are too weak as a man in relationship.

nope,am not weak. or am I?

ashawopikin:
Your girlfriend is a nymph, she just can't stay faithful to just one guy

I guess

Grandlord:
You forgive her again. As long as you still love her.

that's funny..

Davash222:
Take what back? Seems your head is paining you. You can’t take what’s not yours!

that's true

ranmoor:
1. What is the essence of still been her friend?
2. Someone will be sleeping with a lady on the same bed probably naked with confirm fat ukwu for more than a month and you think he won't enter Jerusalem? That your advice no fit work !
Remember, an erected penis has no conscience..

funny but true

michealoluwaseyi:
it simple the op shud make the lady just a Bleep mate,while searching for a decent lady out there,but if i am the op i will move out of dat house once my rent is due,he can keep wakeing up seeing the caretaker sleeping with his girlfriend'but last last the girl get op mumu button

okay thank you. your advice is deeply appreciated..... PS no one got my MUMU button

Grandlord:
Bro get back with her. We all make mistakes and deserve forgiveness.

To err is human...

well,you are right.. she did felt remorse for what she did. but don't you think she'd do same again?

[quote author=Grandlord post=86268077]Bro get back with her. We all make mistakes and deserve

danot1030:
Some of you guys are just immature and annoying when it comes to relationship and unfaithfulness.

Why discussing this here when what you ought to have done is sending her out of your room and your life permanently then you can come here to tell it.

here is the thing... I needed the candid truth without sentiment

GANAYAD:
Guy, bro code
Run for your life d girl is an evil manipulator with no conscience, better let love clear for your eye,who does that you must be a weakly, let me tell you this you're a subject of mockery whenever she's with the caretaker

I personally don't think am weakly.
am not

Kennyprince:
Bro your woman is just too cheap

but she has the nicest of heart... or so I thought

Froshloaded:
If you still love her Take her back

okay thanks

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Hello everyone.. please I need your advice

So,I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over three years now (since my year1 in school) and I just found out she was cheating with me with our caretaker.. He(the caretaker) and my girlfriend are of same tribe, I guess they kinda blend. Am older than the guy he is 23 and am 24.

My girlfriend and I are currently roommate in year 3). We moved in together late October last year.
She also cheating on me with another dude from her town where she resides. Before our academic break (22 Dec 2019) she frequent our caretakers room too often,I try tell her to stop that am not comfortable with it, of which she shrug off saying she is only being friends with him because the speak same dialet,and we all live in the same compound. She would stay late at his room,I had to tell her(sternly) not to visit his room again and she agreed. But she still visit him.

When we return from our academic break,she started to visit him again. She stayed late again with our caretaker Just outside our room and I asked her nicely to to get inside because it's late and she entered and bid caretaker goodnight. She got the bed after taking her bath,and we got talking I told her not to stay out past 9pm. She got angry saying I simply don't like him that and I hate seeing him with her,she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her.
The next day she refused to talk to me before going to class.
When we got home later that day,we just found ourselves Talking . A mutual friend (female)of our visited, we were eating and my eyes just got a glimpse of her WhatsApp message telling our caretaker that I almost attack her yesterday because I saw them together. I didn't react then,I had to keep my cool. Later that day I told my friend what I just saw (my girlfriend message to our caretaker) she said I should ignore,but anger got the best of me.i was angry because she told him I nearly attacked her.

When we got home,I asked her for her phone which she gave me reluctantly,I went through her WhatsApp messages with the guy. And I found out she do tell the guy our personal things ( including when I told her not to visit him) she shouldn't tell anyone. She must have told the guy am controlling her because he asked if am still controling her that I have no shame for trying to attack her the previous day. I went further into their chat and I saw where he told the boy that she missed her period and the boy told her they would do pregnancy test.

I know she might have told a very good friend of her about the guy,so I went to their chat. She told her friend about the guy and she told her she lived him and they had sex already.but her friend told her not to destroy her relationship for just a crush or is she willing to leave me for the boy,she said NO.

I had to check if she still cheating on me with others guys. I got to a chat and my suspicion was right.
She was telling this guy she was pregnant and this dude was ignoring he messages and chats. She later went on saying is is because she was forcing herself on him.

She had sex with this dude 25 December,had sex with caretaker 27december.
After I must have read all chats,I went home and confronted her she denied at first I later told her i read her chats and she started crying saying it was a mistake that it won't happen again ,that she was drunk when the second guy had sex with her and having sex with our caretaker was a mistake. I called her mother and told her what has happened she was disappointed in her but she also begged me to forgive her.
I keep wondering where I got it all wrong and asked her but she said i have been nothing but faithful that she can't explain something what came over her. I have been good to the caretaker I painted his room for Free. He do call me "BRO" when addressing me

To cut the story short. I told her I have forgiven her,but deep down,I haven't..

I don't know what to do..
Please help...

NOTE
I have Never cheated on her.
I believe in equality in relationship. I don't control her. I never Never check her phone all through our relationship. I guess that's why she didn't had to delete her chats.

Kindly ignore my grammatical errors