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OniKingWealth:
Cc Laslastica

Please we all need to come together to make sure this man's work on here comes to an end,We need someone that could go to the banks he uses to get good informations to get him arrested... If we keep ignoring, Till he does something more harmful to someone that's gonna be when we all gonna start wailing. Let's help each other to make sure our hard earned money doesn't go to the wrong place

So you defraud me of my 300£ gift card on Paxful and think you’ll get away with it huh? Olé buruku! Never! We will find you and get you jailed!

OniKingWealth:
Sir can I text you on whatsapp for more enlightenment on business sir... With due loyalty

So you defraud me of my 300£ gift card on Paxful and think you’ll get away with it huh? Olé buruku! Never! We will find you and get you jailed!

Dear dtanigwe,

I'd like to share my own story with you, which is a complete contrast in itself.

6 years ago I married to my first boyfriend, an Igbo man from Aba, Abia state.
I was 19 at the time and a bit of a late bloomer
After getting married, we had a huge disagreement and didn't speak for 2 years,
I must add, that we were living in different countries at the time, he in Sweden
and I in Germany, I also went to the UK for a year in the meantime.
At one point I decided to file for divorce, as I the whole thing was just intoxicating,
I couldn't live with loving him and being so torn up and far away yet feeling so abandoned
and misunderstood. But I received a text from him that changed my mind and made me want
to give it all a second chance. So I moved to Sweden, not knowing the language and him
being my only contact person there.
It turned out to be that I didn't know him at all before, I opened a company with him,
so he could quit his night job, seeing him work all through the night was killing me,
and it wore him out.
But in his eyes I was too big, and he started fighting with me over it, I lost over 40 kg
in less than a year, but with him beating me up on top of it and never giving me the love
or attention I needed, and I don't need much.
He would tell me, if I annoy him or speak when he doesn't want me to speak, he would have
the right to shut me up by punching me in the face.
Long story short, after 1 and a half years of mistreatment and delirium, his application
for a permanent stay in Sweden was rejected and we went to my country together, where it all
continued to the extend that when I got pregnant two years ago, he kicked me in the stomach
and kicked in the bathroom door after I locked myself up in it, being scared.
He was arrested and taken away but I still took him back, after all I was pregnant with his
child and couldn’t imagine raising it alone.
But I was jet to be horrified the more…. he kept on fighting with me of the silliest things
and put mine and our child’s life in danger by hitting me and torturing me mentally.
My daughter was born at 25 weeks into the pregnancy, due to a placental abruption.
Severe distress had put me in hospital 2 times before that already and I kept having
complications up until then. My daughter lived for only 7 days and he never got to see
her, since he told me upfront he would take her from me if he gets to see her and before
that told me I should cook soup with her.
This is when I filed for divorce and kicked him out of my apartment.
He didn’t work, just went to a German course for three hours a day and would sleep
through the rest of the day or sit in front of the PC. I paid for everything and worked
a 10 hour job throughout my pregnancy.
I don’t miss a second of it!
He seems to now still be getting his stay after getting another girl pregnant, I feel sorry
for her….

But I found my happy ending !
I am since seeing an Igbo guy who is studying here in the UK, who doesn’t need me
for papers, just for who I am. He is kind, honest, loving and caring. Everything I never
had in my marriage. I in no way could compare him to my ex, and he is a true example for
all good Nigerians. It truly isn’t all of them who are bad, and I am being told I am crazy to
even consider being with another Nigerian man….
But honestly, people are different and I wouldn’t miss a second without this wonderful
and amazing man. I consider myself blessed !

Hi, I am sure many of you have heard about the belief of witch children in Akwa Ibom,
I have known about the happening there for about 4 years now and have been wanting to
do sth about it. I spoke to a friend of mine who is into Charity Work and have joined
Stepping Stones Nigeria as well. I have been wanting to help build a school and shelter in
one of the rural areas of Akwa Ibom, where education is hardly accessible. I believe that
every child has deserves the right to a childhood. This is not anything like a childhood for
them, being tortured and sometimes even killed by their own parents, and being so
absolutely vulnerable, and not able to defend themselves, it is so unjust.
But I have been thinking tirelessly about how a school and shelter could benefit the children
and provide a bit of an escape as well as the opportunity to be educated and taught reality.
My heart bleeds when I just think about this happening right this second again somewhere.
I would like to get some ideas, suggestions and thoughts on providing a tiny part of a solution.
Thank you!

No mind am, some no know wetin dem get

pleep: So many crazy and excitable ppl on this site.

I absolutely agree with you, makes you wonder where they left their intelligence

@odumchi like I said it is just an observation and as stated, not only about two men but several, both friends, relationships and friends' relationships. I in no way meant to say that all Igbo men are like this anyway but even Igbo men themselves have told me this is true about themselves. No yawa now

PAGAN 9JA:
they have no culture and no tribe. they can go join the akata genopool. i would never have mixed kids. NEVER!

wat nonsense, u get mouth but e be like say u no get brain behind am, pfeeahh

This is by no means an intenion of offence to anyone being from Igbo heritage, but merely an observation made by me and friends of mine who have been with Igbo men for years.

In 7 years of being in relationships with two Igbo men and being good friends with some for years as well, I have observed very strongly and sometimes painfully that in numerous occasions, their pride and ego seems to be holding them back from progressing in certain parts of their lives.
Over the years I have found Igbo men to be very independent and intelligent, very thriving too. But what I have repeatedly come across, is that they are very reluctant when it comes to asking for help or advise, it seems to me as if they consider themselves weak, having to do so and yet they get very disappointed in themselves, when they can't seem to reach up to their enormously high set goals on their own, feeling ashamed of themselves. When it comes to problems arising, they struggle very hard to find a solution on their own and in the process shutting people out who care about them, leaving them to feel absolutely helpless and out of place, with no clue just what to do about it. I guess it must be deeply rooted, as it is so difficult to approach them in a way that is not offensive to them in this time of their trials. I always say, that someone who loves you should be informed about whatever problems you are facing, as they can be part of your solution. In many relationships I have heard about, women really struggle to understand their men and the Igbo men struggle to open up and not take care of everthing on their own. It can be poisenous to a relationship and lead to terrible outcomes. My ex used to beat me up, simply because I couldn't stop trying to get him to open up and I ended up being miserable, crying so many times, I just wanted to know what is going on and be of help. I now do not get so much involved but do do say that I am there and I have an open ear and a caring heart. In the end it is your decision what you do with your troubles, but it would be easier for all people involved, if you'd open up, God did not create humans to be able to handle life completely on their own. In love to all my brothers ! Life is too short yo spend it grieving. Start rejoycing and don't worry so much about problems that don't live past today. The solution might be just around the corner. Your loved ones will thank you! Igbo kwenu !

na wao, maka gini ? I no understand dose people. Wetin be deir problem now? Dem no respect life at all, Chineke m

if you are still with him, free your heart ! Dont stay sad. Right now, things with my bf arent as smooth, but I am doing my best and he sees my effort, as the problem is sth he alone is going through actually, and I am helping the much I can, trying not to feel too bad, cause he is so occupied and feels down. He has done alot for me! And I appreciate and love him. But anytime I am not happy with things he says or does, I tell him. I wont stay miserable in a relationship again. You go girl !! You are worth more !!!

Hello dear, I absolutely feel you. I was with an Igbo man for 6 years, married when I was 19, and the marriage lasted for 5 years. I am now divorced and have an Igbo bf. My relationship with my husband was dreadful, absolutely horrible. I was so insecure at that time and he isolated me from family and friends. The last 3 years of the marriage he kept beating me up and he even got arrested twice. I was always questioned what Im doing and where I am going, at a point I just told him upfront, cause I was tired of being asked. Then he said I should not disturb him with every detail of my miserable days, yeah ! He absolutely drove me insane. I was a good wife, not perfect, but we spent 3 years apart and 2 years of those we were not a couple, we didnt even talk. So I had other relationships, and I believe he did as well, (saw pics of him with other women, but he denies it til today). He forbid me to call his relatives although he knew every single one of mine and could talk to them whenever he wished to. He also said he will never take me to Nigeria, cause he is ashamed of me. He made me so so miserable. There were times when he didnt speak to me for 2 months continously. I could never ask any question and could never follow him anywhere really, unless my coming was for a purpose for him.

Wow lol I too dey impressed ! I meela nwanne m!!! xxxxx

Your skills are absolutely excellent, I bow ! Could you help me with this as well perhaps?

eh ya, I see, thx jor

eh ya

Daalu ! Thank you so so much ! That must have been a tough one and alot of work ! Chukwu gozie gi nwanne !

I meela !!!

Daalu

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I hear from everywhere it shouldnt be much of a hassle, no idea. He said its alot of money they want, he is a Medical Doctor.

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Thank u

Oh well I dey feel u sha, but de film industry no suppose be dat dat shallow. As for me I am a 25 year old German native, I speak fluent Swedish and broken as well. Was together with my ex who's from Aba for 6 years, married for 5. I'm really in love with the culture as well and also speak some Igbo and Yoruba. Well, no yawa o

Hi there

I am going to visit my man very soon and I want to prepare a very tasty soup for him,
he is from Aba, so it should be an Igbo soup u know how they are
I can cook egusi and ogbono and stew and all that, but it has to be sth extraordinary

Hope u ladies have some good ideas for me!

Lov ya lots !

Stay blessed !