₦airaland Forum

blackprowler:
I did not say it's a crime to marry, or even say we shouldn't marry. I am not married because I couldn't find the partner and wherewithal to be so involved. My problem with Nigeria remains the insistence on everyone being the same - no diversity. The person who doesn't have a wife/husband or children of her/his own will live just like those who do; just like someone who had a spouse who has died. My mother had a husband and children, but now in old age, husband is dead and children are grown up and out. She lives alone like those who didn't have. People who didn't marry their whole lives are rare and hence it is most likely they have siblings themselves, nieces, nephews, inlaws - they're all family. Who are they living for? Who is anybody living for? You're just following the normal reasoning here which is not based on anything but repeated inanity over time. Sexx? Sexx is what happens when you penetrate or are penetrated. I've done it quite a couple of times but I've never been married. If you follow what some people from man's ignorant past dictate to you as to how to live your life, not my fault. It's good to marry, but not nearly as the Nigerian society dictates it and harangue you into it and run away when you end up in problem as a result. Childbirth is worse: 2 children per family or anything more, you're a problem to the country (I don't mean it that strongly, lol). Some may have 3 or 4 but those barren or having none, or one shouldn't be demonised as this society does. IT IS NIGERIANS AND THEIR VALUES THAT ARE DESTROYING NIGERIA!

Hmmn… This is insightful.

blackprowler:
Of course, I didn't expect you to get it. Oh God, I UNDERSTAND Nigeria but they don't believe me. To you, marry, born, have grandkids as the philosophy of life is like moving from pry 1, pry 6, Jss, sss, university etc. So the one in SS3 is senior to one in primary 6 and the latter has to automatically aspire to be in that SS3 and so on and so forth. Now, this is despite my explanation to you. Let me break it to you again, THERE IS NO LAW THAT YOU MUST MARRY AT ALL EVEN AT 100 OR TO HAVE KIDS. Oprah get moni; she never marry one day, no kids and she's over 60 and a dollar billionaire. You know, I've said repeatedly that until we re-examine our understanding of what we value and what matters in life, we will continue to be in the problems we're in. Go and read. Leave what mama, papa, uncle, friend, nairaland and Nollywood says and think with your own brain and look at other peoples of the world and how they live and if you try hard enough, you might just get wiser. Nigeria was bastardised in the last one generation and it affected the youth. Instead of that to reflect on their outlook on life, they're still trying to copy their parent's generation where life was much easier and straightforward and indeed the abuse of over-reproduction then is why we're suffering today as no one is farming again and an ever increasing population is reliant on "oyel moni". Look: many things dey and it's so tragic that instead of grappling with serious issues, Nigerian youths are just preoccupied with music, Nollywood and reality TV glitz. I no fit shout. I only regret I'm trapped in Nigeria

I must confess, I admire your philosophy. But I have a reservation. When one is approaching old age, how will such fellow be living his/her life? I mean no child, no spouse, no in-laws. Who is d person living for? I also want to believe sir that you are not eunuch. So how do one satisfy sexual desire in an honourable way in such condition. I am sincerely asking out of curiosity.

sisisioge:
Why not? All cards on the table dude, what's so daunting about the past that can't be heard.?

What if there is possibility of him/her using that past to get back at you in d future?

We all have pasts. There are some of this past that we don't wish to remember not to talk of telling someone else. Guys do you think it is reasonable to let our future spouse know our past? If YES, then how much should he/she know? At what stage of our relationship should we reveal the pasts?
If NO, why should he/she not know?

ExInferis:
My anger is directed only towards idiots.

okay o. Most wise one.

ExInferis:
Gerrout.

You would expect someone of his caliber to be meticulous and careful...it should be second nature to him.

And if he stayed long enough in the US to acquire so many credentials..english should be muscle memory.

Okay o. keep hating here in Nigeria.
Mind u, you don't need to shout "Gerrout" on me. Work on ur temperament, at least for d sake of ur wife and children.

ExInferis:
6 Master's and 3 PhDs and yet he spells "off" as "of".

And those DJI Phantom toys are what you call drones for the US military?

I thought with all that bragging he'd have something to do with the MQ-9 Reaper.

How can u be so negative? Do you know what it means to av PhD? Don't u think he made typographical error? Nawa for you o. As if correct English translate to intelligence

themosthigh:
Come and work for us, we are preparing an army to stand with Satan on Armageddon and attack the forces of jehovah.
We have already found a way to destroy angel Micheal sword and we hope that jehovah essence proofing on our nuclear bombs will finish the host of saints.
We plan to our overthrow jehovah and enthrone lucider and then lock Christ up in the bottomless pit since that is his plan for the lucifer our lord and master.
The age of God is over and he has messed up the earth totally due to his jealousy, wickedness and stupidity.join us and stop being a slave and help us

what is this one saying now?

Kakamorufu:
u are mad.

Easy now

I av a feeling that Ajibola was set up by Adigun.

Op, if my fiancée read ds ur article and break up with me, I will kill you.

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OlajumokeBread:

God is a scam
Jesus Christ is a scam
Religion is a scam
Bible (story book) is a scam

Hope u are now feeling good wt ur scam scam scam

aminusanti:
confused hypocrite! So u can understand when a verse is in it context??but when it comes to the Quran u turn your face?
Your explanation is what I call complete nonsense, u are busy contradicting yourself without even realizing it.. most of you Paulians r suffering from Cognitive dissonance.

So r u now trying to tell us that the God of OT is different from NT??

You pple always singing God of OT and God of NT always make me laff. Focus on ur religion not on others. Is that too difficult?

ERO32:
now you are talking. Christmas here i come. But what if she didn't come back?

Pray to God

ERO32:
bro. It is up to three years now and the conversation on phone is nothing to write home about. Tired:-@

3 years! 3 years of worse communication or 3 years of courtship? In either case, use ds festive period to have a talk with her. Tell her your mind and let her tell you her decision about d courtship.

No time to be wasted at ds age.

ERO32:
seriously long distant relationship is as good as nothing. I am into one and i am ending it soonest.

Hand on a little more. I know it isn't easy, I am also into one, but believe me, d distance doesn't last.

Seun:
Either this is just a coincidence,
or God loved this man so much that He allowed him to be seriously injured in a plane crash and barely escape with his life.

I thought you are an atheist. This should be a coincidence.

Explain yourself better. Are u talking of preparation for English proficiency tests or you just want to understand English language

My brother, don't disturb yourself with vegetables since u av little time. Go for plantain, u can plant like 2000 suckers on that land and reap more than 500k at d end of d year.

I appreciate ur attempt op. I was into dt bisnez 2 years ago. I doubt if it is water that is causing d problem. Maybe insecticides were not sufficient enough or the land is not too suitable for it. I doubt if there is any intervention other than for u to hope for the best, cos d pests are already inside d fruits.

but don't give, there should be hope

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Hmmn. This is serious and thank God you are not taking it as a normal occurrence.

Before the atheists bombard you wt series of theories, I av ds advice for you. You and ur family shd draw closer to God through prayers.

There is ds prayer mountain that I can vouch for. Let me know if u are interested in going dia, then u will gv u d direction dia.

Ds post hurt me so much and I think it is because I care so much for the less privilege.

What is intelligence? It is not necessarily excellent academic performance. It extends to other facet of life. For instance, Successful musicians, artisans, artists e.t.c may be dullard while they were in school.

Before u insinuate another thing, OP, I should be brilliant and intelligent than you. I was Senior boy in primary and secondary school. I graduated wt a CGPA of almost 4.5 and that was d best result in my class. Besides, the way you reason to compose this message tells me you are not intelligent. Remember intelligence is not synonymous wt excellent academic performance.

I sincerely pray u don't get to managerial position because you are the type that will intimidate the less privileged wt ur running mouth.

One reasonable lesson from ur topic is dt pple shd not gv birth to plenty children and I don't think one need to attend costly secondary or university to know that too.

Rather thank God for giving u such background. Seek knowledge from elderly ones so that u can understand what life is.

Happy searching for a wife of 100% IQ.

saintmark88:
Na wah o, when will I c u post a sensible and intelligent comment, seem more like giving u and ur gullible wailing Nigerians something to jerk off on.

If they r detained nd not released u cry not following the rule of law, d are released u cry media trial not processes are been followed, there is a court process tht follows after arrest have been made and charges have been filed by the prosecutor...

Let me tell u incase u dnt know, in Nigeria, unfortunately, Court cases last a very good number of years, due to a certain number of factors:

1) Tht is just d way the judges have made d judicial system to be for whatever reason best known to them, esp wen it has to do with a politician, ever wondered y it doesn't take long for a judge to send an ordinary citizen like u to let's say 90years n prisonment, but once it is a politician, he can buy his way, file all manner of injuctions and dese judges allow it, y because he has money

2) Bribery, after all d delay tactics been played by d politician, you wonder y do dese judges allow dese nonsense, the reason isn't far fetched, it's simply due to bribery........ Look at dariyes case, it's still n court almost 9-10years now.......

This is the system Buhari is fighting, the only one so far who has the guts to face D judiciary, to get them up and doing, to flush out these corrupt judges, u mite say its one sided, wen pple say its one sided, I now tend to ask, do we also now have APC judges and PDP judges too??.

I weep wen I see vibrant youth like yourself hu is supposed to champion for a better tomorrow, make unintelligent comments... It makes me wonder what people like u will pass on to the younger generation.. Probably tell dem, tht it's best to put their fingers into the cookie jar, whack it n ridicule any attempt to fight against corruption

for ur mind now, u av typed d most sensible comment.

This is d problem wt ur God father also, PMB, who think he is d most reasonable.

seunmsg:
You cannot diversify the economy under 17 months in a period of very low oil earnings. Diversification can only happen over a long period of time and provision of key infrastructures is key to diversification.

it baffles me when intellectuals still defend Buhari
so 17 months in office is not enough fr diversification?
y do u pple love to blindfold yourself to d obvious truth?

trishapal:
I'm not surprised at all... The closer you are to any Nigerian church alter, the more of the Pastors' messes you see. Most Nigerian Pastors are in the business for one worldly thing or the other. That's why the second coming of Christ is hardly preached on any RCCG alter (I know more about RCCG because I'm a minister there). They are all getting their rewards here on earth and they will do anything to continue... Tithes and offerings matter to them more than salvation. I say authoritatively that whenever an RCCG church organises any special Anointing/Praise/Deliverance service, the sole target is the offering. Anyone who is close to any Pastor can bear witness with me on this.

why did u make such generalized conclusion? in d rccg that I attend, my pastor gv to the church, and d 7k he is entitled to as a part time pastor, he has her collected it. I know this because we do returns together every month

Student125:
6 month after service, I hav learnt corelDraw, Photoshop and InDesign......I do graphics job for pple and dat hav been providing peanut atleast for subscription and other stuffs..d market is already saturated with lots of designers dats y am nt getting enough job yet bt I believe when God finally picks my call...... more money will follow,...proudly an agric graduate though.

Proudly an agric graduate? are you practising agric? if not remove proudly an agric. My observation is that most agric graduates never practise dia profession.

Ginaz:
They should get outta MA front, pre wedding pix don baff? Love ain't about taking pictures, pls let them get married long for 5 years and come and tell me real shitt how marriage is like.


Nice pictures I know buttttttt, it's getting too much.

When you're getting married now you get pressure to

1) get engaged in a big big way
2) pre wedding pictures nko?
3) wedding go big like president own
4) then you take pictures for Facebook, whatsapp, 2go, twitter (aside the pre wedding own o)
5) then you talk about traditional marriage, marriage cloth, marriage this marriage that.

Why can't you just get married without this?

You sound simple. I wish most ladies are like you. at least one will not in cure debts because of a day wedding.