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The Nigeria Football Federation(NFF) has frowned at the exodus of Nigeria young players moving to China in pursuit of greener pastures in football which will not be of help in terms of developing their games. Speaking to Sportinglife at the Nff secretariat, the head of NFF Technical Department Bitrus Bewarang, said Ighalo’s move to Changchu Yartai F. C of China was least expected at his age except he was not stating the obvious in terms of his true age. He said the former Watford forward is expected to rediscover his striking role at the club or move to another English club rather than moving to China where football has not fully grown. ” Personally I didn’t sanction the move but he has his reasons for taking such option . If I am to advise him, I will tell him to sign for championship clubs to get back to his form”, said Bewarang The former Plateau Utd Football Club Chairman stated further that the Super Eagles players should seek professional advise from the federation before taking decisions. “Football is not all about money . The most important thing is to improve your career. To me Ighalo is still young to move to China but for Mikel Obi, the federation understands his situation and encourage him to move”.

God warns us about the consequences of our sins. What are biblical consequences of having sex outside of marriage? The Two Become One Whether someone likes it or not, when someone has sexual relationships outside of marriage, they are not only sinning against God or against their spouse, but they are actually sinning against their own body. When a person has sex outside of marriage, whoever they have sex with, they are joined together with that person and the two become one. That the two become one in marriage is what God intended but when they venture outside of their marital relationship, for example a man has sex outside of marriage, he can become one with the prostitute. Here is what Paul says about such a relationship in 1 Corinthians 6:15-18: “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” One of the main reasons that we are not to have sex outside of marriage is because that person becomes joined to…becomes one with…the person that they are having sex. So if they have sex with someone who is committing adultery, they are joined together with the adulterer and God will not fail to judge those two who do such a thing. I knew a man who once had an affair with a woman who was also married and so these two became one; one in adultery and they were literally “joined” with each other in sin. That joining together, in this case for the worse, is something that will carry severe consequences. It could result in a sexually transmitted disease, AIDS, unwanted pregnancy, and also result in divorce and the breakup of a family and home and any children in that marriage will forever be changed. If we choose to sin we are choosing to suffer the consequences. Exclusion from the Kingdom of Heaven In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Paul asks a very serious question: “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” God cannot be mocked for whatever a person sows they are sure to reap and what greater consequence than to be cast out of the Kingdom of Heaven when Christ returns. No believer in Christ lives in sexual immorality for they are deceived if they do such things and still believe that they are headed to heaven. We are lying to ourselves and greatly deceived to believe that we can do such things and not pay a penalty and what greater penalty than to lose your own soul for eternity? John says that “ We know that everyone who has been born of God does not keep on sinning, but he who was born of God protects him, and the evil one does not touch him” (1 John 5:18). The wording of 1 John 5:18 is clear that everyone who is born again does not keep on sinning. They might stumble and fall but true believers will repent but if they “keep on sinning” John says that they are not truly born again and someone who is committing ongoing, unrepentant sexual immorality like adultery most assuredly does not have any assurance of their going to heaven but instead may be headed to the lake of fire (Rev 20:11-15). Financial Ruin Can a person take a fire out of the fireplace and not be burned? Clearly they cannot as Solomon wrote in Proverbs 6:27 “Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned?” A person that is committing adultery is playing with fire and it can bring destruction to their home but not only that, it can bring financial ruin because families that go through divorce have a greater risk of living in poverty. In this same chapter Solomon warns that “for the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life” (Prov 6:26). Remember too that “he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; none who touches her will go unpunished” (Prov 6:29). Cause and effect are in mind here because God says that whoever commits adultery will not go unpunished. Even if a person repents from this and it is only a one-time affair, the penalty will not go away. Is it worth going into poverty over or is it worth destroying a marriage for a one night fling? Of course not! Making Enemies Proverbs 6:32-35 says that “He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself. He will get wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace will not be wiped away. For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge. He will accept no compensation; he will refuse though you multiply gifts.” There are fewer things worse than the jealous rage of a betrayed spouse. The person who has cheated may have this in the back of their minds; what if someone finds out, what would the other spouse do if they knew, what is the risk to my life over this? There are crimes of passion that have happened when a jealous and betrayed husband or wife discovered that their spouse has cheated on them and their angry retribution is taken out on the adulterous spouse or the one who committed adultery with their spouse. People have died in the passion of such affairs. What a risk there is to make enemies that will never, ever forget what the adulterer has done. They might be looking over their shoulders for the rest of their lives or they might be seeing people whispering over this and the associated scandal that this brings. Destroyed Reputation I already touched on the thought that a person’s reputation can be ruined by even one affair. Even it if happens only once, people have long memories and tend to not forget. You lose the trust of those around you. You lose their respect which affects all of the other relationships you have and those who know you will never see you as quite the same person again. They may forever be suspicious of you and your motives will always be in question. There is nothing that can restore a good name because “A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, and favor is better than silver or gold” (Prov 22:1). Conclusion The sanctity of marriage is at stake if you commit adultery. Even flirting at the office or at work is playing with fire. You put yourself at great risk when you play the charmer or flatter someone of the opposite sex. It is simply not worth the risk. Ask yourself these questions: Do you want to become one in the same with a prostitute or adulterer? Do you want to risk financial ruin? Do you want to play with fire and get burned with disease or unwanted pregnancies? Do you want to make an enemy for life? It is worth a lifelong ruined reputation? And is it worth losing your soul over? Of course it isn’t. There are more than 5 biblical reasons to not have sex outside of marriage but the number one reason is that God commands us to stay faithful to our mate or to abstain from having sex outside of marriage. These are not really “Don’t do this” but “Do this and get hurt.” They are meant for our own good and that is my hope in writing this that if I can prevent even one person from committing adultery, then it would have been worth writing this in ten thousand words.

Prayer is the amazing line God has provided for direct access to His throne. D.L. Moody once said, “Next to the wonder of seeing my Savior will be, I think, the wonder that I made so little use of the power of prayer.” Truly, it is a resource we should avail ourselves of continually. Sometimes, however, we jam this line of communication and prohibit our prayers from being answered. Dr. John R. Rice often spoke of the hindrances to prayer. Below is a list of seven. 1. Personal known sin in the believer’s life “If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me” (Psalm 66:18). 2. Strained relationships between husbands and wives “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” (1 Peter 3:7). 3. Unreconciled wrongs, debts, or offenses between Christian brothers and sisters. “Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift” (Matthew 5:23–24). 4. An unforgiving or bitter spirit “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven” (Matthew 18:21– 22). “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32). 5. The sin of covetousness “From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts” (James 4:1–3). 6. Neglect and indifference to the Word of God “He that turneth away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer shall be abomination” (Proverbs 28:9). 7. Prayerlessness itself “Moreover as for me, God forbid that I should sin against the LORD in ceasing to pray for you: but I will teach you the good and the right way” (1 Samuel 12:23). How tragic it would be to allow any of these things to hinder our prayers from the answers our Heavenly Father delights to give.

Members of the Church need to be involved in the world in a positive way. Adapted from “Lessons from the Old Testament: In the World but Not of the World,” Ensign, Feb. 2006, 53–55. Sodom and Gomorrah have actual and symbolic significance representing wickedness in the world. The Lord appeared to Abraham and said, speaking of those who lived in Sodom and Gomorrah, “Their sin is very grievous” ( Genesis 18:20). Their sinfulness was so great, and those who were righteous so few, that God destroyed these two cities of the plain. Our recent prophet, President Gordon B. Hinckley, stated: “All of the sins of Sodom and Gomorrah haunt our society. Our young people have never faced a greater challenge. We have never seen more clearly the lecherous face of evil.” Separating evil from our lives has become even more essential since our homes are wired to bring much of what the Lord has condemned into our own living rooms if we are not vigilant. One of the most difficult challenges in our lives is to be in the world but not of the world (see John 15:19). Gospel doctrine makes it clear that we must live in this world to achieve our eternal destination. We must be tried and tested and found worthy of a greater kingdom (see 2 Nephi 2:11; D&C 101:78). We must do as Abraham did when he pitched his tent and built “an altar unto the Lord” ( Genesis 13:18) and not do as Lot did when he “pitched his tent toward Sodom” (Genesis 13:12). Being a Light to the World We cannot avoid the world. A cloistered existence is not the answer. In a positive sense, our contribution to the world is part of our challenge and is essential if we are to develop our talents. President Brigham Young (1801–77) said, “Every accomplishment, every polished grace, every useful attainment in mathematics, music, and in all science and art belongs to the Saints.” President Spencer W. Kimball (1895–1985) challenged members to accomplish more, stating, “We must recognize that excellence and quality are a reflection of how we feel about ourselves and about life and about God.” To accomplish the above, members of the Church need to be involved in the world in a positive way. How then do we balance the need to positively contribute to the world and to not succumb to the sins of the world? (See D&C 25:10; D&C 59:9.) Two principles will make a significant difference. 1. Let people know you are a committed Latter-day Saint. I learned the importance of this early in my career. After finishing my education at Stanford Law School, I sought employment at a particular law firm. No members of the Church were associated with the firm, but the firm was made up of lawyers of character and ability. After a morning of interviews, the senior partner and two other partners invited me to lunch. The senior partner inquired if I would like a prelunch alcoholic drink and later if I would like wine. In both cases, I declined. The second time, I informed him that I was an active Latter-day Saint and did not drink alcoholic beverages. I received an offer of employment from the firm. A few months later, the senior partner told me the offer of the alcoholic beverages was a test. He noted that my résumé made it clear that I had served an LDS mission. He had determined that he would hire me only if I was true to the teachings of my own church. He considered it a significant matter of character and integrity. In my years in San Francisco, I knew some members who avoided letting their associates know they were Latter-day Saints. Invariably they were drawn into compromising situations that could have been avoided had they forthrightly declared what they believed. They symbolically pitched their tents toward Sodom (see Genesis 13:12). 2. Be confident about and live your beliefs. In our personal lives, we should avoid the sometimes evil and destructive pursuits of the world—especially when they are contrary to the gospel standards. We should not be caught up in the current trends of society when they are not in harmony with revealed truth. “We inevitably must make choices. If we know the doctrines and principles of the gospel, we can make wise decisions.” A derogatory comment occasionally made about members of the Church is: “They are like sheep waiting to be told what to do by their leaders. Why can’t they think for themselves?” While this comment may sound plausible on its face, the truth is that faithful Latter-day Saints, in a thoughtful and prayerful manner, study the doctrines and principles in the scriptures and in the counsel from living prophets and then seek to receive a confirming witness from the Holy Ghost. They don’t have to make every heartbreaking mistake in life. They know what is right and what is wrong. They don’t have to decide over and over again how they will live. They can benefit from the life experiences of all those generations that have preceded them and from instructions from our Father in Heaven and His anointed servants. They can turn away from temptation. We inevitably must make choices. If we know the doctrines and principles of the gospel, we can make wise decisions. If our lives are pure, the Spirit will guide us. Then we will be able to symbolically pitch our tents toward the temple (see Genesis 13:18) and the covenants we have made to the Lord, and we will be in the world and not of the world. We must do as Abraham did when he pitched his tent and built “an altar unto the Lord” and not do as Lot did when he “pitched his tent toward Sodom.” If our lives are pure, the Spirit will guide us. Then we will be able to symbolically pitch our tents toward the temple and the covenants we have made to the Lord.

1. Love For God – A well devoted man to God, obey God and his word, strives for perfection in Christ, and keep your home burning for Christ and awaiting Christ return. 2. Prayer Life: His intensity and faithfulness in prayer and His attitude about sin and the world 3. Commitment To The Things of God And Service: His commitment to building the kingdom of God, His service to the church, and His biblical knowledge and lifestyle connect with each other. 4. Morals – Pretty simple, morals are important. 5. Patience – Marriage and kids require patience. 6. Integrity: A truthful man that stands by his words always. 7. Faithful: He is not a cheater, or a heart breaker, and a double standard person (Neither is he here or there with one person). 8. Loves Children – If you want to have children then the man in your life needs to love children. You don’t want to end up with a man that can’t stand being around children. 9. Ambition – He wants to better himself, achieve goals and make a better life for his family. 10. Is Open-Minded – Having an open mind is a great trait! He’ll be open to change and welcome new ideas. 11. A Sensitive Side – Of course, women don’t want a man that’s a cry baby but he also needs to show some emotion. 12. Hobbies – It’s healthy for couples to have their own hobbies. Encourage the man in your life to pursue his hobbies. 13. Close Friends – A man with close friends is a good thing! He is able to keep long-term relationships. 14. Be a Good Listener – Your partner needs to be able to listen to you to understand your wants, needs and any concerns. 15. People Love Him – If other people love him then chances are he’s a really good person. 16. Good Hygiene – Pretty self- explanatory. 17. Team Player – This shows he can work well with others. 18. Treats His Mom with Respect – A good man who knows how to treat his mother nicely will likely treat you right. 19. Wants to Please His Partner – A good man wants to please his wife. This will come in handy in more than one way! 20. Can Cook – Obviously this isn’t a must but it sure is sexy and helpful when a man can cook! Not to mention helpful on those nights when you’re busy with the kids. 21. Enjoys the Outdoors – He doesn’t need to be super active but getting out and enjoying some fresh air is a good thing. He’ll probably enjoy playing outside with the kids. 22. Loves Animals – If a man loves animals is probably safe to say he has a soft side. 23. Love Adventure – If he’s up for anything then you know the two of you will always have a good time. 24. Enjoys Learning – Life is one big learning experience. He needs to learn in every aspect of life in order to grow. 25. Will to Help Others – If he’s willing to help others chances are he truly enjoys people and doing for others. I Pray That God Will Make Our Men To Have Good Qualities In Jesus Name (AMEN). Feel Free to Add More Qualities in the Comments Box below If It’s Not Here …. God Bless You.

The Bible often speaks of the importance of faith in knowing God. For example, Ephesians 2:8 teaches, "For by grace you have been saved through faith." First Corinthians 13:13 adds, "So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love." But Why Does God Require Faith? One way to answer why God requires faith is because He is our Heavenly Father. Our relationship to Him is similar to other relationships in the sense that it includes trust in the other person, time together, love, and respect. Because we cannot fully know another person, let alone an infinite God, all relationships require some degree of faith (trust). God is our Father and it takes faith to believe that He loves us and that He provides for our needs. Faith is also important because God is not visible to humanity. Hebrews 11:1 teaches, "Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen." We cannot see God (John 1:18). However, we have faith in Him that provides assurance. Faith is necessary to please God. Hebrews 11:6 notes, "And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him." Not only does faith please God, it leads to reward—eternal life, heavenly rewards, and experience of fullness of life on earth (John 10:10). Faith is important in order for believers to obey the Lord. For example, Adam and Eve had been given a command—to not eat from a particular fruit (Genesis 2:15-17). Because their faith wavered regarding this command, they ate the forbidden fruit and sinned. Contrastingly, James 2:23 shares, "Abraham believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness." God requires faith because it allows humans the ability to choose or reject Him. Without the ability to make choices, humanity would cease to be human as we know it. Because people can choose to have faith or not to have faith, there is a way for God to know those who have believed in Him and those who have not. Faith in God is not "blind faith" as some argue. Instead, it is a choice based on the available information. The Bible, the created world, the changed lives of believers, Jesus Christ, and other ways God operates in our world provide sufficient evidence for people to choose faith in God. As Jesus taught in Luke 16:31, "If they do not hear Moses and the Prophets, neither will they be convinced if someone should rise from the dead." Are you desiring anything from God in prayer? Check within, how strong is your faith in God? I Care But God Cares More!

Like everything he had attempted to do in the past, top Ogun State based independent broadcaster, Desmond Abiodun Nwachukwu, has succeeded in his desire to become the president of Freelance and Independent Broadcasters' Association of Nigeria (FIBAN). He emerged the new helmsman of the prestigious association after a keenly contested election at FIBAN National Secretariat, New Oyo Road, Ibadan, Oyo State, on Thursday, 19th January, 2017. According to impeccable information reaching Saheed Ojubanire Online, Enugu born Nwachukwu who speaks Yoruba, English and Igbo fluently, was up against an opponent named Elder Dele Oladejo and Nwachukwu emerged victorious by 71 to 27 votes. And right after his victory, the outgoing president, Yemi Sounde, a consummate broadcaster handed over the reins of power to Nwachukwu by declaring that henceforth, every matter concerning the FIBAN Presidency should directed to Nwachukwu. Meanwhile, some other new officers who emerged alongside Nwachukwu included Sulaiman Adegbenro a.k.a. Mr. Consoligbadun who emerged as the 1st Vice President and Ellen Njoku as 2nd Vice President. Their emergence with other excos is believed by many observers, to have come with a promise of a new dawn for the association in Nigeria. source:Saheed Ojubanire online

Operatives of the Nigerian Police Force attached to the Assistant Inspector-General of Police (AIG) Zone II X-Squad unit in Onikan, Lagos, have arrested two male teachers who allegedly defiled a six-year-old girl. Stanley Akanno and Olakunle Hassan were arrested after the victim confessed to her mother while she was caught practising oral sex on her brother. But the suspects denied the allegation. According to the victim’s mother, the minor had told her that her lesson teacher usually played pornographic films on their laptop for her to watch and after that, they would defile her. She said: “I noticed that my daughter was kissing her brother’s penis. I called her and asked where she learnt the behaviour and she told me that her lesson teacher plays erotic films on his laptop and forced her to watch it. “She added that the teacher will then defile her. We reported the case to the police and from the investigation, it showed that she was defiled.” Denying the allegation, Akanno said: “I am her lesson teacher but I did not defile her. Though she is loved by all in the school she is not the only one I give after school lessons to. They should find out from her home where she was discovered to be behaving such way. My God will vindicate me.” Parading the suspects, AIG Kayode Aderanti said they would soon be charged to court. He said: “On January 10, the Zone II ‘X’ Squad arrested one Stanley Akanno and one Olakunle Hassan both teachers in a private primary school at Amuwo Odofin area of the state for serially defiling their six-year-old female pupil for some months. “Investigation revealed that during extra moral classes, the teachers showed pornography on the laptop to the pupil and made her practice same on them. The pupil has been taken to a government hospital where it was medically ascertained that she had been deflowered.”

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Today, I’m aware of the fact that life is better than I deserve, which is saying something these days. The world is full of pain and suffering, hardship and turmoil, disappointment and regret. So the fact that I can be thankful and mean it is, in its own way, a small miracle. I’m learning there is a responsibility that comes with privilege. That I am blessed to bless. Gifted to give. I am not lucky, fortunate, or merely disciplined; I am expected to do something with the grace I’ve been given. And so are you. When I was younger, I didn’t understand gratitude. In a universe that seemed to hurt for no reason, giving thanks felt disingenuous. Living in a world where children die of hunger every day, it just didn’t make sense. But now I understand. Being grateful is a choice. So today, I chose to make a list. The gratitude list Gratitude is not my natural disposition, so this took some time and effort. It was a discipline to remind myself of the many reasons I have to be grateful. But it was an exercise well worth the discomfort. Here’s my challenge to you: Take some time today, wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, to come up with a gratitude list. If it doesn’t come naturally, don’t let that stop you from still giving thanks. There is still much to be thankful for, if we only have eyes to see. And in case you were wondering, here are my 10 reasons to give thanks today: 1. I am thankful for my health, for being able to run half-marathons and eat turkey dinners. 2. I am thankful for my wife, who vowed to be my biggest fan on the day we were married and has never once let me down. 3. I am thankful for the gift and work of writing — that it is both extremely hard and easy at the same time. Easy to do, hard to master. Always frustrating. Always rewarding. 4. I am extremely thankful for the online community of writers and readers who are making a difference in the world. You guys inspire me. 5. I am thankful for living in a town full of creative minds and opportunities. 6. I am thankful for doing work that matters. 7. I am thankful for music — bands like Mumford and Sons and Nirvana and the Beatles. Their words and music inspire me to create my own art. 8. I am thankful for movies — for being able to turn part of my brain off and still be inspired. 9. I am thankful for books — eBooks, audiobooks, children’s books, novels, and memoirs. My shelves are full of them, and they are my one true lust. 10. Lastly, and most importantly, I am thankful for Grace — for love that cannot be explained (only surrendered to), for a Creator that inspires creativity, for purpose and a hope that there is more to the story than we see. Looking for a way to give thanks?

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I never knew someone was after my life.I visited my friend in his house lastSaturday, he welcomed me and took me in."What will i offer you?" he asked me.I said just offer me anything you have..he went inside and brought two glasses oforange Juice, he put one of the glasses inmyfront and put one in his front, then hewent to bring something inside his room.I never had any negative thought butsomething told me to exchange the drinks,so i quickly took the juicy glass he kept inmy front and exchanged it with the one hekept for himself.when he came back, we drank together,but as he was drinking the juice, hestarted fillinguncomfortable and he asked me: "GIVENdid you exchange the drinks?"i said yes i did.he screamed and shouted..."Oh! you havekilled me"I did not understand and he ordered me toleave his house which i did..The next morning i got a news that he isdead, people confirmed that he confessedbefore he died,he said that he wanted to poison his bestfriend but the poison turned back at him asthe best friendexchanged the drink he gave him.This was how God delivered me from beingpoisoned by my best friend..My Brothers and sisters God is so faithful, myprayer for you today is that what you dontknow will never know you, any evil planagainst you will backfire.

Unidentified gunmen have kidnapped a prominent politician and businessman, Mr Amaete Akpan Ntuk from Ikot Abasi Local Government Area of Akwa Ibom state. The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) learnt that Ntuk was abducted with his wife around 7pm on Saturday, on his way home from Ibom International Airport. NAN also gathered that the incident occurred at a village in Mkpat Enin Local Government area, near Ikot Abasi. It was learnt that they were returning home after attending the inauguration of the new Managing Director of the Niger-Delta Development Commission NDDC, Obong Nsima Ekere in Abuja on Friday. The Police Public Relations Officer in Akwa Ibom ASP Cordelia Nwawe, confirmed the kidnapping, adding that investigation on the incident has commenced. Ntuk was a former Chairman of Ikot Abasi Local Government Area of the State in 1990, under the National Republican Convention.

“I waited patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry.” (Psalm 40:1). Read: Psalm 40:1-3 One of the cheapest and fastest routes to an early grave and eternal destruction is impatience. The easiest mistake responsible for the errors in so many lives, careers, education, marriages and destinies is the inability to wait patiently for their correct timing in accordance with divine agenda and purpose. No two persons are the same. We all carry different destinies and purposes on earth. God didn’t create you to be like any other man. You are unique in your way. Comparing yourself with another man is readiness to run the race that is not originally yours. The end of such a journey made in impatience, can never be palatable. The message this morning is a direct warning to a subscribers to this devotional. It’s possible you are getting frustrated already with your results on earth. It appears things are not working out in the same way as with your friends or neighbours. Maybe you have engaged your heart in ceaseless comparison on why this has worked for your friend and not for you. You need to be very careful not to destroy your future through lust and impatience. …but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.” (2 Corinthians 10:12). It’s pure foolishness to compare yourself with others. Envy and jealousy will put your originality in a cage and will push you into doing things that were never part of the requirement for your fulfilment in life. You can’t copy the styles of your friends to get a good job, you don’t need to imitate the world to get your desired partner in marriage. It is foolishness to jump from pillar to post in the name of searching for greener pasture. Many through impatience have ended their journeys in endless sorrow and regrets by these means. Wait for your time. Prayerfully consider the portion of God for you in the redemption. See the scripture below: “The lines are fallen unto me in pleasant places; yea, I have a goodly heritage.” (Psalm 16:6). You don’t have a bad heritage. Stop grouping yourself with failures. You have called yourself names enough. You need to see with the eye of the Spirit what God is calling you. You need faith and patience to enjoy the provisions of God for your tomorrow. If you run in error today, you will eat the bread of sorrow tomorrow. “That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises.” (Hebrews 6:12). Patience is a great virtue. You either wait for your time or you end up a waste on the earth. Some ladies are nothing to write home about in our environment because they failed to take it easy. Some women are regretting and are without a way out of that marriage because they failed to heed the right counsel but were too much in haste to get to the altar like their friends. The promises of God are yea and amen. God cannot lie neither will he repent of his promises. If you will get the best of God on the earth, you must be conscious of divine timing. Beloved, “For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.” (Hebrews 10:36). Don’t labour in vain, don’t allow yourself to be used without the desired result in view. Encourage yourself to wait for what God has to offer. Don’t be in a rush to say yes to that guy who wants your hand in marriage by force and fire. Don’t follow the multitude to do evil and be careful never to involve yourself in anything that will jeopardise your glorious future. Don’t rush into ministry because some folks are making it through deceitful means. It’s dangerous to be in a haste. Your journey on earth has been written in a manual by your maker. Wait patiently in order to fulfil your divine destiny. Reject the dictates of the flesh and be careful of evil communication and counsellors. David said: “I waited patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry.” (Psalm 40:1). “But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.” (James 1:4). Instead of rushing, switch to praying. Call on God and He will direct you properly on how to get it better and faster. Don’t jump the gun and shoot yourself on the foot. Don’t make that mistake that can cost you your joy in marriage, business or even claim your glorious life. Stop comparing your home with those of your friends. Your husband will soon make it and your children will equally be mighty on the earth. Please wait for God’s ordained timing and pray for the correct and timely manifestation of God’s agenda for your destiny. It shall be well with you Prayer: Father, I receive grace to live in patience and never to miss your portion for my life in Jesus name.

We all want good things to happen in our lives, but too often we want it now...not later. When it doesn't happen that way, we are tempted to ask, "When, God, when?" Most of us need to grow in the area of trusting God instead of focusing on the "when" question. If you're missing joy and peace, you're not trusting God. If your mind feels worn out all the time, you're not trusting God. The tendency to want to know about everything that's going on can be detrimental to your Christian walk. Sometimes knowing everything can be uncomfortable and can even hurt you. I spent a large part of my life being impatient, frustrated and disappointed because there were things I didn't know. God had to teach me to leave things alone and quit feeling that I needed to know everything. I finally learned to trust the One who knows all things and accept that some questions may never be answered. We prove that we trust God when we refuse to worry. God wants us to live by discernment— revelation knowledge, not head knowledge. It's difficult to exercise discernment if you're always trying to figure out everything. But when you're willing to say, "God, I can't figure this out, so I'm going to trust You to give me revelation that will set me free," then you can be comfortable in spite of not knowing. Trusting God often requires not knowing how God is going to accomplish what needs to be done and not knowing when He will do it. We often say God is never late, but generally He isn't early either. Why? Because He uses times of waiting to stretch our faith in Him and to bring about change and growth in our lives. Wait With Patience We spend a lot of time in our lives waiting because change is a process. Many people want change, but they don't want to go through the waiting process. But the truth is, waiting is a given—we are going to wait. The question is, are we going to wait the wrong or right way? If we wait the wrong way, we'll be miserable; but if we decide to wait God's way, we can become patient and enjoy the wait. It takes practice, but as we let God help us in each situation, we develop patience, which is one of the most important Christian virtues. Patience is a fruit of the Spirit (see Galatians 5:22). It's developed only under trial, so we must not run from difficult situations. But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing (James 1:4). As we develop patience, the Bible says we finally feel completely satisfied—lacking nothing. Even our relationship with God involves progressive changes. My relationship with God is so much different now than it was in the early days of my Christian experience. It is not nearly as emotionally exciting...and yet it is better. Every change I've gone through has made me more mature, solid and well-grounded. We learn to trust God by going through many experiences that require trust. By seeing God's faithfulness over and over, we let go of trusting ourselves, and gradually we place our trust in Him. Looking at it like this, it is easy to see how timing plays an important part in learning to trust God. If He did everything we asked for immediately, we would never grow and develop. Timing and trust work side by side. Accept God's Timing God gives us hopes and dreams for certain things to happen in our lives, but He doesn't always allow us to see the exact timing of His plan. Although frustrating, not knowing the exact timing is often what keeps us in the program. There are times when we might give up if we knew how long it was going to take, but when we accept God's timing, we can learn to live in hope and enjoy our lives while God is working on our problems. We know that God's plan for our lives is good, and when we entrust ourselves to Him, we can experience total peace and happiness. The book of Genesis tells the story of Joseph, who waited many years for the fulfillment of the dream God had given him. He was falsely accused and imprisoned before the time came for him to do what God had shown him he was to do. Exodus 13:17-18 tells us that God led the Israelites the longer, harder way on their journey to the Promised Land because He knew they were not yet ready to go in. There had to be time for their training, and they had to go through some very trying situations. They wasted a lot of time wondering about God's timing, but God never failed to take care of them and show them what He wanted them to do. The same is true in our lives. It was many years after I received my call from God in February of 1976 before I finally began to see major fulfillment of what God had called me to do. God's training period simply requires us to do what He tells us to do when He tells us to do it...without questioning or trying to figure everything out. Learn to Rely on God Proverbs 16:9 says, A man's mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure. Proverbs 20:24 says,Man's steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way? When God directs our paths, He sometimes leads us in ways that don't make sense to us so we're not always going to understand everything. If we try to reason out everything, we will experience struggle, confusion and misery —but there is a better way. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. This sounds so simple, yet too many people make the mistake of trying to figure everything out themselves. Most of us have spent our lives trying to take care of ourselves, but when we accept Christ as our Savior, we must learn to trust our lives to His care. When we do, we can say with the psalmist, ...I trusted in, relied on, and was confident in You, O Lord; I said, You are my God. My times are in Your hands...( Psalm 31:14-15). First Peter 5:5 tells us that ...God sets Himself against the proud (the insolent, the overbearing, the disdainful, the presumptuous, the boastful)—[and He opposes, frustrates, and defeats them], but gives grace (favor, blessing) to the humble. Anyone who thinks they're a self-made man or woman has a rude awakening coming because Jesus said, ...apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing ( John 15:5). Humility is a covering that draws the help of God into our lives to protect us. When we humble ourselves by saying, "God, I don't know what to do, but I'm trusting You," God gets in gear to help us. God won't allow us to succeed at anything unless we're leaning and relying on Him. But when we humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God, in due time, He will exalt us (see 1 Peter 5:6). "Due time" is God's time, when God knows we're ready, not when we think we're ready. The sooner we understand and accept that, the sooner God can work His plan in our lives. From Seedtime to Harvest Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us: To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven. This lets us know that we all don't live in the same season at the same time. You should never be jealous of someone who is enjoying harvest while you're still in the planting season. Remember, they had to go through a season of planting just as you are. Seeing the results they are enjoying should be an encouragement to you. Understand and trust that God is doing the very best for you in your present season. Seedtime represents learning the will of God. Each time I choose God's will instead of my own, I'm planting a good seed that will eventually bring a harvest in my life. If you want to be victorious, you cannot afford to get pulled into the world's system, doing what you feel like doing. James 1:21 tells us what we should do: ...get rid of all uncleanness and the rampant outgrowth of wickedness, and in a humble (gentle, modest) spirit receive and welcome the Word which implanted and rooted [in your hearts] contains the power to save your souls. Your soul is your mind, your will and your emotions. When the Word gets rooted in there and begins to change your mind, it begins to heal your emotions and turn your will away from self-will and onto doing the will of God. Living out of one's own soul is equivalent to staying in the wilderness. When my flesh is finally crucified and I get out of my soul and into doing the will of God, that's when I enter the promised land. The promised land is knowing who you are in Christ, knowing how to fellowship with Him, enjoying His presence, and having peace, contentment and joy. Between seedtime and harvest comes a time of waiting. After a seed is planted, the heat, moisture and pressure of the ground finally cause the outer hull to crack open. Then roots shoot down, digging their way through the ground. It takes time for this to happen, and it takes place underground. Above the ground, you can't tell anything is happening. That's the way our lives are. After we plant seeds of obedience, we feel like nothing is happening, but all kinds of things are happening inside where we can't see. And like the seed that finally bursts through the ground with a beautiful green shoot, our seeds of obedience finally break forth into a beautiful manifestation of God in our lives. When harvesttime comes, the desires of your heart begin to manifest—bondages fall off of you and you see your dreams come to pass. You see your kids changing and your family getting saved. Prosperity, favor, promotion, honor, and all kinds of good things come out in the open where they can be seen. In harvesttime, more than ever before, you hear from God, you enjoy His presence, and you're led by the Spirit. Blessings begin to chase you down the street, and joy and calm delight become your normal mood. Are you tired of waiting for harvesttime in your life? Are you frustrated, crying out, "When, God, when?" Then you need to understand that God's timing is often a mystery. He doesn't do things on our timetable. Yet His Word promises that He will not be late, not one single day. But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day! ( Habakkuk 2:3 TLB). God causes things to happen at exactly the right time! Your job is not to figure out when, but to make up your mind that you won't give up until you cross the finish line and are living in the radical, outrageous blessings of God! The more you trust Jesus and keep your eyes focused on Him, the more life you'll have. Trusting God brings life. Believing brings rest. So stop trying to figure everything out, and let God be God in your life.

I often get people asking me for tips for a successful marriage. And so today, I thought I’d oblige with 25 of my favorite ones–some are funny, some are serious, but all are practical. Do them–and you’ll have a much more successful relationship. Here goes: 1. Talk to your spouse more kindly than you talk to anyone else in the world. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us. 2. Remember that marriage is less about marrying the right person and more about becoming the right person. 3. Don’t forget to laugh. Most couples spend the majority of their time talking logistics: who’s doing the grocery shopping, who’s calling the repairman, who’s picking up the kids. A relationship can’t survive on logistics. Have a water fight instead. 4. She needs you to be her best friend. Everyday, talk to her and tell her what you’re thinking. Even if you don’t think you’re thinking about anything. She needs to hear your heart. 5. He needs you to be his cheerleader. Let him know you believe he can take on the world. 6. Find ways to say “I love you” that don’t involve sex. 7. When you dress up, make sure the main person you’re dressing up for is him. And put on lipstick. 8. Leave the toilet seat down. 9. Forgiving means not bringing that old infraction up every time you have a new fight. Let it go. 10. If it’s not solved at 2:30 a.m., it’s not going to be solved at 3:00 a.m. either. Go to sleep. You can deal with it tomorrow, assuming you even remember what the fight was about. 11. When you’re having an argument, listen to understand, don’t listen to find loopholes so you can win. Marriage is either a win/win or a lose/lose. You can’t win by beating someone else down. 12. Your kids come second, not first. Your marriage needs to be number one. Your spouse was there before the kids and will be there after the kids move out. Work on that relationship first. 13. If you haven’t fully committed to your marriage, it won’t succeed. If you’re always testing your spouse, your spouse will always come up short. No one is perfect. 14. You will never drift together. People only ever drift apart. If you want to grow closer, you have to be intentional about it. 15. Let her cry. She needs to every now and then. 16. Don’t bug him if he doesn’t cry. Some men just don’t show their feelings. That’s why they’re men. 17. Don’t say everything that’s on your mind. More marriages would survive if more things went unsaid. 18. Let her be your every fantasy. Keep your eyeballs off everyone else. 19. Let him be your every fantasy. Keep your eyeballs off romance novels. 20. Don’t think he’s gross if he farts. Don’t think she’s pathetic if she obsesses over paint colours. You married someone of the opposite gender. That’s what life is about. 21. Don’t run to your mom if your spouse does something you don’t like. You’re a unit now. Act like it. Every Love Story Wall Decal–$25 22. Make one of your favourite topics of conversation how much you admire your spouse. Tell your kids. Tell your friends. And let your spouse hear. 23. Men would be ecstatic if women showed up naked and brought food. Most women need more than that. Men, make it your goal in life to figure her out. Woo her. She’s worth it. 24. Say yes far more frequently than you say no

Don't listen to advice from anyone: When someone is getting married especially the bride, many people tend to give her advice that will supposedly help her marriage; some do it with good intention and others don't. But good intention or not, some of these advice are biased and are likely to stress you out in your new life. For example in Nigeria some will tell the bride 'never let your husband's people live with you', 'monitor how much your husband spends on his family' and so on. And to the groom, 'don't always give in to your wife else...', 'women need to always be shown who the boss in the house is' and so on. Having said that, advice coming from your parents who've been successfully married for many years could be helpful. Your spouse's family is also your responsibility: I had to mention this because it's something one of my brother's wives always said to me while I lived with them. She wouldn't let me cook and when she does she wouldn't include my share. And when I asked she'll say "my husband is my only responsibility". Likely before she got married someone had told her that she should make sure her husband's sister move out because immediately they got married she was doing everything to ensure that. While I'd rather any family member doesn't live with a married couple especially newlyweds; sometimes there could be a good reason for it and you'll have to accommodate your spouse relations for awhile. For example the last time I visited my sister's family I met the husband's nephew living there and when I asked my sister why, she said the owner of the house he was living suddenly sold the house and asked them to move out. Life is full of many unforeseen occurrences, when a relation of your spouse has a good reason to temporarily live with you, it's not time for you to be territorial instead be understanding and welcoming. After all, if you love your spouse, you should naturally also love those he or she loves. When you marry you marry a family not just your spouse. Know when to be the fool: I keep telling one of my neighbor's wives this because she seem to be the type that if her husband say abusive words to her, she must respond with more cruel words. And I'm like can't you just keep quiet when he's angry like that? Marriage isn't a competition for headship or any other thing for that matter. When two people are boiling with anger and no one is willing to calm down and be the fool then they could do real damage to each other. Sometimes you may be even be right and you feel your spouse is unnecessarily angry, it's not time for you to also be angry especially when he or she becomes abusive. Keeping quiet and waiting to discuss matters when your spouse is calm and saying I'm sorry even when you're not really at fault are not signs of weakness instead signs of maturity and doing that you'll be able to avoid serious quarrels. Don't read meaning to everything learn to laugh over some things. Make God the third party in your marriage: God is the institutor of marriage and he provided guidelines in the bible for a successful marriage. So anytime you need advice turn to the bible for answers not family and friends. See bible verses about marriage. Keep private matters private: The success of your marriage depends on you and your spouse not anyone else. So learn to deal with your issues privately. Don't go running to your mother or friends each time there's a misunderstanding; trust me sometimes they'll aggravate the whole thing. Moreover there are some friends who are not happy in their marriage and will take the opportunity to create problems in yours. Now you have to think Us not Me: Before you were married you likely did things when you wanted to without having to answer to anyone and enjoyed your own space without anyone to bother you. Now you're married, you have to recognize that and adjust where necessary. Don't go out without telling your spouse, don't keep late night without giving an explanation, don't be unnecessarily territorial and consider your spouse at all times. Focus on the good things: No one has a perfect spouse trust me. My parents are one of the few long time happily married couples I know. However on their 25th anniversary my Dad admitted that their success is not because they are perfect. Every one of us have our great sides and not so great sides. It's likely you won't be satisfied with everything your spouse does, however instead of focusing on those things and gradually becoming bitter, focus on the things you do love about him or her. And if you're really bothered by something he or she is doing, then discuss it and you both should find a way that is fair to both of you to improve on it. Make the effort to have good marital sex: There's a reason why many believe that marital sex is boring. Some couples obviously let things go once they're married especially after having children. Sex is part of the deal that comes with being married. Although no one said you must have sex while married and you could decide not to if both of you are okay with it, however if it's something important to the two of you or one of you, then the other must make real effort to deliver. It's normal if two people don't have the same intensity for sex. One person might be more sexually demanding than the other but instead of the other person to be turned off by it, he or she should make workable compromises. Keeping things interesting could help. Not everyone will still be interested if sex is always done traditionally. Spice things up. Don't have a fixed time for sex, instead go with the mood and carry your partner along too. Instead of being aroused and suddenly asking your partner for sex, do things that naturally arouse him or her too; things like flirting, leaving a love note, giving surprises and so on. This will not only make sex interesting and satisfying but also makes the other person feel special. Be open-minded to the sexual needs of your partner. And if there's a medical reason you can't give your spouse a satisfying sex, then see a doctor. For more marital sex tips, read the following articles: Wedding night ideas How to make first time sex on wedding night feel good How to have hot honeymoon night sex Keep communication line open: Make it a regular habit to sit and talk, talk about the little and big things, get to know each other better and build your trust for each other. Before you both go to bed discuss how your day went and don't let disagreement linger on. That's what true friends do and that's what you and your spouse should aim to be since you'll be spending the rest of your lives together. Create memories that you can both look back on with joy many years later. Don't lose who you are: Your spouse married you because of WHO YOU ARE. If you lose that, then admiration and respect is likely to diminish. So while you'll have to make some compromises for your marriage, make sure you don't lose who you are in the process. And that include your physical appearance and your lifestyle. If your spouse married you while you were fitted he or she likely prefers that stature so take care of your physique and do your best to remain your own person; don't get lost in your spouse's shadow. If you kept friends before, try to still keep in touch with some of them. Make arrangement to go out with close friends once a while and have fun. If you had a job keep your job or if you're the wife create a work schedule that can allow you more time. You can become an entrepreneur. The point is, don't be nothing without your marriage. Have activities going on in your life that are just for you. You'll not only be happier but having separate things you do without your spouse gives you more to talk about and connect with. And more reason for your spouse to continue to admire and respect you. Respect each other: Deal with each other with respect whenever there's a disagreement; fight fair. A man is the head of the house God made it so; so women ought to be submissive and men ought to be loving and know that their wives are weaker vessels as the bible said. Compliment each other regularly and show appreciation more than you complain about things. Without respect you'll end up tearing down your relationship instead of building it. Discuss finances: Now you're married, there are more responsibilities so you can't be selfish. Adding to your needs and perhaps that of family members you support, now you have your in-laws who may come to you sometimes for financial support and you'll be starting a family soon so you both have to be wiser in the way you spend your money. Be understanding and cooperate with your spouse in managing your resources. This is not the time to be crazy over latest gadgets. Instead both of you should come up with a way to manage your resources properly. You can decide on how much you both want to allocate to monthly expenses, emergency funds and savings for the month and how much each of you should contribute to each account. And then make sure you don't significantly exceed the amount for your monthly expenses each month. And try to stay away from debt. Explore/Support each other's interest: You don't have to like what your spouse likes but try to support it especially if he or she is passionate about it. For example many men are crazy about football. If you're a Nigerian you know how men who are passionate about football get when their favorite club loses a match, some become grumpy and even refuse to eat. Personally I think it's stupid; why will they be taking Panadol for someone else's headache? The players, lose or win they'd still be paid handsomely. However it's something they are passionate about. So if that's the case with your spouse though you don't agree but don't start to run him down either especially not when his club loses a match, be supportive. Also when you can watch the match with your spouse it's always more interesting when two or more people watches a match together. This is just an example. You can also find things that you both enjoy doing together. Sharing interests continues to build your bond for each other and keep you connected. Also it helps make sure that you two spend time together regularly. Take 100% responsibility for the success of your marriage. And I hope you put my advice for newlyweds to use.

1. Not dealing with debt When you do not deal with debt, you let something that could potentially blow up in your face linger. Couples fight about debt all the time and money will always be a big issue when it comes to anger and negativity. Money is hardly ever positive, and not communicating effectively about it just makes matters worse. Both parties in the relationship need to be honest about their finances. Both people in the relationship must be transparent about finances if success is to be achieved for the long term. This means being honest about FICO scores, spending patterns and debt. Not talking about money is one of the main factors of why relationships fail; the sooner you realize that money is just as important as anything else, the better off you will be. 2. Abandoning friends Friendships are important. They sustain us during the good times and the bad. Many couples make the major mistake of abandoning friendships once they enter into a new relationship or get married. This is a major relationship no-no. The reason is simple – without friendships, you have no outlet to emotionally discharge your feelings. You also run the risk of losing your sense of individuality, which is a major reason couples split. Friendships also help with emotional balance, meaning they serve as outlets for sharing so that one party in the relationship does not become emotionally dependent on the other and helps to prevent codependency. You may dislike your boyfriend’s buddies and he may dislike your girlfriends however, this is no excuse to cut ties. You will need these friendships for the long term. 3. Not making love often Although this may be taboo to some, not having enough sex can be a big problem over the long term. Making love is an important expression of closeness and intimacy. There is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to exploring each other’s bodies and finding out what the other loves physically. Ignoring this aspect of a relationship is a vital mistake and creates atrophy. Reaching for an open relationship may seem like a good remedy but more often than not, it’s a bad idea. 4.Letting yourself go It’s like this – when people get involved in a new relationship, they often let themselves go. Here we are talking about personal appearance and weight gain. The reason letting yourself go in a relationship is a bad idea relates to two specific areas: 1. Self- esteem and; 2. Level of attraction. First, when you skip your fitness program because you are with someone, you are running the risk of damaging your self- esteem over the course of time. The sudden realization that you have a muffin top may cause you to hide your body from your mate, which in turn can reduce intimacy. Second, when you let yourself go you become less attractive to your mate. This may sound harsh and even politically incorrect but it is absolutely true. While it’s normal to not focus on your appearance as much as you once did when you were single, this is no excuse to completely let yourself go. 5. Outlawing the in-laws Let’s me real – sometimes outlaws can be a caustic force in a new relationship. This is particularly true if your boyfriend’s mom is a total control freak or your girlfriend’s sister is a clingy basket case. Part of the reality of being in a romantic relationship means having to deal with overbearing in-laws. Many couples find that they are unable to handle family influences and decide to outlaw the in-laws. While this may seem like an attractive remedy, it can cause problems over the long term. Eventually one or both of you will become resentful. This can cause a “blame game” fight to erupt and plant the seeds for a potential break-up. Rather than outlawing the in-laws, try to create healthy boundaries around communications and interactions. Sometimes, working with a couples therapist can help in this area. 6. Crazy fighting Disagreements are going to happen in relationships from time to time. How a new couple goes about handling those disagreements is the where most problems can be found. You should never let a disagreement turn into a name-calling match and it goes without saying that arguments should never turn physical. If you are in a heated argument, the both of you need to be ready to call a time out. Find different ways of cooling off and revisit the topic later on. If you have a pattern of ugly, crazy fighting in your relationship that makes more days than not miserable, the chances of your relationship lasting long term are minimal at best. Some people find they have pulled in baggage from previous relationships into their current ones. If this is the case for you, consider going to individual relationship counseling to work out the issues. 7. Baby obsessed When you have been in a relationship for a while, you may long to have a child. While this is a perfectly natural desire, it is important that you not become baby obsessed. Most couples want to start a family at some point don’t try to force it. Just remember that it takes two people to make a child, and when the time is right it will happen. This is not to say planning should not take place. It is always better to examine your baby readiness. Here, we are talking about finances, availability to care for your baby and so forth. The problem for many couples however is that they pursue the end goal of having a child without giving careful consideration to all that is involved in child rearing. Final Thoughts Being in a new relationship can be a wonderful thing. This should be one of the most enjoyable and rewarding times in your life. That you came here looking for new relationship advice speaks to the commitment you have to your relationship and your desire to create something that will last for the long term. We hope you found these 7 tips useful!

The Chairman of People’s Democratic Party (PDP), South African chapter, Hon. Ekos Akpokabayen has advised President Muhammadu Buhari-led administration to empathize with suffering Nigerians in the face of biting recession. Hon. Akpokabayen said this recently when he received delegates of the Nigerian Christian Association (NCA), South Africa branch at the party’s head office in Johannesburg, South Africa. He said: “President Buhari should empathize with the suffering citizens of Nigeria, a country which personal well-being indexes dropped by 0.06 percentage point, eleven months after the APC took over the government. A country which its masses are plunged into food crisis should hold its leaders responsible.” Akpokabayen said that “being surrounded by strangers, we can still get things done. The leadership should set aside their ego and begin wide consultations in order to figure out the pressing needs of Nigerians and address them quickly.” On the very recent arrest of Judges by the operatives of the Department of State Services (DSS), the PDP Chieftain observed that Nigerians should be very mindful of this creation of a monster that could hunt all of us in the nearest future. He said the government should channel their efforts towards the paths of economic recovery and growth, making it her number one priority, they should begin to involve the private sectors, banks, international business community via investors friendly policies and other stake holders, and all efforts should be non-partisan.

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Indecent dressing simply means deliberate exposure of one’s body to the public. This practice is contrary to the acceptable norms and values of the society. Moral decadence on the other is a reduction in the level of morality in the society. Do you observe that most children had gone haywire all in the name of the dressing? Indecent dressing is the major cause of the various assault and sexual harassment recorded in the society, over time. As a result of civilization, Nigeria ladies dress half naked to occasions all in the name of fashion’ and this is contrary to the prestige placed on African women. For instance Nigeria ladies derive pleasure in wearing cloth such as mini skirt, bumper short, armless e.t.c. The other day I screamed when I saw a girl whose parent barely fed well, dressed with half of her breast and buttocks outside. The trouser she wore is such that half of her buttock was out, with beads and terrible make ups and I heard her mum telling her “to have a nice day.” Some girls have been embarrassed and even abused because of their outrageous outfit. As a teenager you must be cautious of the kind of clothes you put on. Do you know your dress create impression about you either positively or negatively in the heart of people? Your dress could show if you are responsible or irresponsible, serious minded or unserious. Dressing in a manner that parents, society and religion frown at is not civilization. The way you dress show whether you are respected or not. Most youths now walk on the street half naked, with tattered clothes all in the name of fashion. Many innocent guys have been arrested along with armed robbers just because of the way they dressed. I see no reason why a child from a good home should relax or keep dreadlocks, piercing his ears all in the name of fashion. There is a saying that “you are addressed because of the way you dressed.” Nowadays, different styles of dressing are in vogue – low west, hot bosom, sagging etc. All these have the society’s moral value to its lowest ebb. In a nation that is endowed with varieties of culture and traditions, it is annoying seeing this culture and traditions going into extinction. Nigerians find it difficult to dress in their local attire as it is regarded as “old and archaic.” Indecent dressing is an habit embraced by all ages in the society. It has been inculcated by both the young and the old. It is common among celebrities, particularly among artistes. This set of people, while on stage will want to look unique and in the process turned themselves into lunatic. They wear tattered jean with holes, tight fitting shirt, some even go to the extent of wearing ordinary pant while on stage. All this is the cause of juvenile delinquency. Most of the under age children engage in early sex as a result of what they watch on Television as well as what they saw among their older siblings. Sadly, most ladies have been sexually abused because of their mode of dressing. The question is – who do we blame for these social malady – the parents, the society or the peer groups?

Hello. Today, I want to speak directly
to the good people of edo state, For elections to
be credible, they must be free, fair
and peaceful.
All good people of Edo state must be able to cast
their votes without intimidation or
fear. So I call on all leaders and
candidates to make it clear to their
supporters that violence has no place
in democratic elections—and that
they will not incite, support or
engage in any kind of violence—
before, during, or after the votes are
counted. I call on all edo state to
peacefully express your views and to
reject the voices of those who call for
violence.
And when elections are free and fair,
it is the responsibility of all citizens to
help keep the peace, no matter who
wins. Successful elections and
democratic progress will help Nigeria
meet the urgent challenges we are facing. Please think twice before you vote for any political candidate. If you vote for any wrong person you will definitely suffer for another four years, so therefore vote for the candidate that is more reliable among the politicians, dont sell your vote, dont sell your future.

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Answer: First of all, no matter what view one takes on the issue of divorce, it is important to remember Malachi 2:16: “I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.” According to the Bible, marriage is a lifetime commitment. “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” ( Matthew 19:6). God realizes, though, that, since marriages involve two sinful human beings, divorces are going to occur. In the Old Testament, He laid down some laws in order to protect the rights of divorcées, especially women ( Deuteronomy 24:1–4). Jesus pointed out that these laws were given because of the hardness of people’s hearts, not because such laws were God’s desire ( Matthew 19:. The controversy over whether divorce and remarriage is allowed according to the Bible revolves primarily around Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. The phrase “except for marital unfaithfulness” is the only thing in Scripture that possibly gives God’s permission for divorce and remarriage. Many interpreters understand this “exception clause” as referring to “marital unfaithfulness” during the “betrothal” period. In Jewish custom, a man and a woman were considered married even while they were still engaged or “betrothed.” According to this view, immorality during this “betrothal” period would then be the only valid reason for a divorce. However, the Greek word translated “marital unfaithfulness” is a word which can mean any form of sexual immorality. It can mean fornication, prostitution, adultery, etc. Jesus is possibly saying that divorce is permissible if sexual immorality is committed. Sexual relations are an integral part of the marital bond: “the two will become one flesh” ( Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Ephesians 5:31). Therefore, any breaking of that bond by sexual relations outside of marriage might be a permissible reason for divorce. If so, Jesus also has remarriage in mind in this passage. The phrase “and marries another” ( Matthew 19:9) indicates that divorce and remarriage are allowed in an instance of the exception clause, whatever it is interpreted to be. It is important to note that only the innocent party is allowed to remarry. Although not stated in the text, it would seem the allowance for remarriage after divorce is God’s mercy for the one who was sinned against, not for the one who committed the sexual immorality. There may be instances where the “guilty party” is allowed to remarry, but they are not evident in this text. Some understand 1 Corinthians 7:15 as another “exception,” allowing remarriage if an unbelieving spouse divorces a believer. However, the context does not mention remarriage but only says a believer is not bound to continue a marriage if an unbelieving spouse wants to leave. Others claim that abuse (spousal or child) is a valid reason for divorce even though it is not listed as such in the Bible. While this may very well be the case, it is never wise to presume upon the Word of God. Sometimes lost in the debate over the exception clause is the fact that, whatever “marital unfaithfulness” means, it is an allowance for divorce, not a requirement for it. Even when adultery is committed, a couple can, through God’s grace, learn to forgive and begin rebuilding their marriage. God has forgiven us of so much more. Surely we can follow His example and even forgive the sin of adultery ( Ephesians 4:32). However, in many instances a spouse is unrepentant and continues in sexual immorality. That is where Matthew 19:9 can possibly be applied. Many also look to quickly remarry after a divorce when God might desire them to remain single. God sometimes calls people to be single so that their attention is not divided ( 1 Corinthians 7:32–35). Remarriage after a divorce may be an option in some circumstances, but that does not mean it is the only option. The Bible makes it abundantly clear that God hates divorce ( Malachi 2:16) and that reconciliation and forgiveness should mark a believer’s life ( Luke 11:4; Ephesians 4:32). However, God recognizes that divorce will occur, even among His children. A divorced and/or remarried believer should not feel any less loved by God, even if the divorce and/or remarriage is not covered under the possible exception clause of Matthew 19:9.

There are three New Testament passages that bear most directly on the subject of divorce and remarriage. I suggest that when they are carefully considered, they prove to be both more demanding and less restrictive on the question of divorce and remarriage than evangelicals have often acknowledged. Luke 16:18 is a very bold, straightforward saying that seems to settle the issue quickly: "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and whoever marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery" (all quotations from the NRSV). Both divorce and remarriage are just plain wrong—right? Almost all New Testament scholars agree that this saying is an abbreviation of a saying of Jesus that appears in its fuller form in Matthew 5:31–32 in the Sermon on the Mount. After discussing his views contrasted with those in Judaism, Jesus remarks, "It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' But I say to you that anyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." It is noteworthy that Jesus clearly sees some circumstances that legitimize divorce. A marriage continues to be valid until one party dissolves the marriage through unfaithfulness. This so-called exception clause appears ...

The big question in the business world these days concerns whether or not we are in a recession. If we are in a recession, the next biggest questions are when and how do we pull out. If we can answer these questions correctly in today's economy, we can make a fortune. From a Biblical viewpoint, however, we must ask ourselves whether or not we are experiencing God's economic curses. A recession is a temporary period of reduced economic activity or a cyclical slowdown. God's economic curses may or may not look like reduced economic activity or cyclical downturns due to market manipulations. God says that He will send economic curses if His people rebel against Him: Cursed shall be your basket and your kneading bowl. Cursed shall be the fruit of your body and the produce of your land, the increase of your cattle, and the offspring of your flocks.... The alien who is among you shall rise higher and higher above you, and you shall come down lower and lower. He shall lend to you, but you shall not lend to him. (Dt. 28:17-18, 43-44) According to Deuteronomy, our economy has been under "economic curses" for quite some time, even during the prosperous years preceding the recession. As an example, our national debt alone, not counting all of the consumer and other kinds of debt, is over $6,000,000,000, which translates to over $21,000 per citizen, and is increasing at a rate of over $1,000,000 per day. Sometimes we do not feel like we are experiencing economic curses due to our current macroeconomic policies. Just as a troubled business owner may continue borrowing because he does not want to face the facts about his current financial situation, today's civil authorities prefer to ignore the dangers and gratify the current desires of the people through market manipulation tools such as regulation, interest rates, and debt. In the long run, however, both the individual business and the greater economy will end up bankrupt. The Solution The Bible does not necessarily indicate how to get out of a recession as much as it does how to stay out in the first place (Dt. 28:1-2). In order to get out from under God's economic curses and experience His economic blessings, we must get to the root of the problem, which is disobedience to the law of God: But it shall come to pass, if you do not obey the voice of the Lord your God, to observe carefully all His commandments and His statues which I command you today, that all these curses will come upon you and overtake you. (Dt. 28:15) Since disobedience to His law is sin, the only answer is to repent by turning back to God's law (Jn 3:4; Ac. 3:19). Repentance does not just mean pointing the finger at the state for its unbiblical economic policies. When a society suffers economic curses, we can safely say that all God- ordained institutions have sinned and must repent. Then long-term economic recovery will be on its way. The Family God has given the institution of the family the responsibility of material stewardship, which can be exercised through business and trade (Pr. 13:22; 2 Cor. 12:14). Since business, trade, and household financial management is such an important component of our economy, the focus on microeconomics rather than macroeconomics will have the lasting impact. Therefore, the institution of the family must repent of the following sins: Coveting: Most of the average family's debt burden is an economic curse on coveting, for we desire what we cannot have, thereby becoming a slave to the lender (Ex. 20:17; Pr. 22:7; 1 Cor. 7:23). Irresponsibility: Another form of slavery is fearing entrepreneurial activity and thinking like a short-term employee, which Christ justly condemned in His parable of the minas (Lk. 19:20-27). This irresponsible and faithless fear is prevalent in our Christian circles, as we would rather become servants/slaves (employees) by showing-up to work for forty hours and getting a pay check at the end of the week instead of taking responsible dominion through entrepreneurial enterprise or self- employment (Pr. 12:24). Gambling: On the other hand, we have dreamers who take risks without hard work, always looking for the free lunch (Pr. 12:11). Prosperity comes through combining entrepreneurial spirit and hard work (Pr. 14:23). Self-sufficiency: One of the greatest sins that seems to be growing among Reformed circles is the need to be self- sufficient, which is an unbiblical doctrine. God encourages a large division of labor through excellence in specialization (1 Cor. 12:4-18; Rom. 12:4-. This is a key Biblical concept to economic prosperity. Sabbath breaking: Not only must we rest on the Sabbath, we must shut down our businesses and discourage any economic activity other than issues related to Biblical necessity, charity, and worship (Neh. 10:31; Mt. 12:1-14; Lk. 6:6-10). Then we will be ready to work a full six-day workweek instead of the typical four and half days (Ex. 20:. The State Unlike the family in its proactive economic activities, the state must return to its Biblical limits of being God's restrainer of evil. The civil government's power, the sword, should be used only to protect its citizens. Hence, our current civil government would have to repent by taking these economic actions: Economic philosophy and practice: The state must return to a true and Biblical free market economy in philosophy as well as practice. We must repent of our current socialistic and fascist economy by properly obeying the eighth commandment (Ex. 20:15). This means ending all business regulatory practices and privatizating all industries (i.e., banking, currency, transportation, education, and retirement benefits). Regulatory law: After removing all of our unbiblical regulatory law, we must replace it with Biblical contract law. Different parties would be free to negotiate their own terms aided by the enforcement of Biblical civil law (i.e., against bribery and deception) and without regulatory interference. Financing: Unbiblical government financing must be eliminated, whether it is the graduated income, excise, property, death, unemployment, worker's compensation, Medicare, Social Security, or capital gains taxes, as well as debt financing and theft through inflation. Property ownership: The abolition of property tax will return private property to its rightful owners (citizens), who are currently renting from their landlord, the civil government. Additionally, the civil government must sell all its property (i.e., land and gold) to the new free market and use that money to start paying off its debt (Dt. 17:16-17). The Church The church is the institution that must call for and lead in repentance. If the church falls, all other institutions follow. Likewise, if the church is holy and pure, reformation in all areas of life will follow. The church must remember the following: Lack of influence: The church is God's instituted rock, the center and foundation for all of life (Mt. 16:18-19). God's economic blessings will not come unless His church lays the foundation. Theology: Proper theology is absolutely critical to the long-term economic prosperity of any culture. For example, Biblical economic prosperity is rooted in proper long-term optimistic eschatology, the focus on future generations versus self, the concentration on Christ's dominion versus current gratification, and freedom versus slavery. Leading by example: If the church is not repentant, why should we expect any other institution to repent? The ministers of God must first repent, so they may also lead by example (Lk. 6:39-42). Emerging from God's Economic Curses If we truly want God's pleasure and thereby His economic blessing, we need to think long term, because it certainly will not come overnight. Though the Biblical prescription for getting out of a recession is not as complicated as most bureaucratic economists think it is, it is not a magic bullet either. The Biblical remedy for coming out from under, and staying away from, economic curses is simple, but it requires us to humble ourselves and repent, that we may truly love God (Is. 57:15; Jn. 14:15). We must individually repent and continually pray for cultural repentance at all levels, engage in our own economic activity and political action, educate our neighbors and future generations, and pray that God's rock will once again become the salt and light in our economy.

It seems to me that today’s language among children, adolescents and adults is much different than when I was a child. When I was a child, offensive language was associated with dirty old men, drunkards, or sailors, as the saying went, “you curse like a sailor”. Very rarely did I hear a woman curse and never was the name of Jesus used so loosely as it is today. Just the other day my children came home from school uttering a word that I know they had no idea what it meant. To their surprise in my reaction they asked, “what does that word mean?” I explained it to them, and I begged them not to use a word they did not know the meaning of. When I was growing up, we were often told we would get our mouth washed out if we repeated slang words. Today, I know most individuals do not know what they are doing or saying. For some it has become fashionable, to others a habit and they do not really mean to be offensive. Sadly to say, this language is causing tremendous hurt in the lives of loved ones, their families and the church. Besides the language, gossip, lies, complaints and criticisms are other factors that divide and destroy individuals, families and churches. Put downs and negative humor brings laughs to many at the cost of SOMEONE’S pain. I believe policing what comes out of our mouths is one of the most difficult tasks some of us must face today. We must guard our tongues, and say only what is uplifting and encouraging for the building up of the community. Scripture has a lot to say about the use of our tongues. The following are just a few: You shall not take the name of the Lord, your God in vain. For the Lord will not leave unpunished him who takes his name in vain. Exodus 20:7 You shall not swear falsely by my name thus profaning the name of your God. I am the Lord. Leviticus 19:12 I assure you, on judgment day people will be held accountable for every unguarded word they speak. By your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned. Matthew 12:36-37 As for lewd conduct or promiscuousness or lust of any sort, let them not even be mentioned among you: your holiness forbids this. Nor should there be any obscene, silly, or suggestive talk; all that is out of place. Ephesians 5:3-4 If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain. James 1:26 Not many of you should become teachers, my brother; you should realize that those of us who do so will be called to be stricter account. All of us fall short in many respects. If a person is without fault in speech he is a man in the fullest sense, because he can control his entire body. When we put bits in the mouths of horses to make them obey us we guide the rest of their bodies. It is the same with ships; however large they are, and despite the fact that they are driven by fierce winds, they are directed by very small rudders on whatever course the steerman’s impulse may select. The tongue is something like that. It is a small member, yet it makes great pretensions. See how tiny the spark is that sets a huge forest ablaze! The tongue is such a flame. It exists among our members as a whole universe of malice. The tongue defiles the entire body. Its flames encircle our course from birth, and its fire is kindled by hell. Every form of life, four-footed or winged, crawling or swimming, can be tamed, and has been tamed, by mankind: the tongue no man can tame. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. We use it to say, “Praised be the Lord and Father”, then we use it to curse men, though they are made in the likeness of God. Blessing and curse come out of the same mouth. This ought not to be, my brothers! Does a spring gush forth fresh water and foul from the same outlet? A fig tree, brothers, cannot produce olives, or a grapevine figs; no more can a brackish source yield fresh water. James 3:1-12 He who cares for life and wants to see prosperous day must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from uttering deceit. 1 Peter 3:10 Breath and life are in the power of the tongue; those who make it a friend shall eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21 A soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse one crushed the spirit. Proverbs 15:4 He who guards his mouth protects his life; to open wide one’s lips brings downfall. Proverbs 13:3 Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee. Proverbs 4:24 The fear of the Lord is to hate evil. Pride, arrogance, the evil way, and the perverse mouth I hate. Proverbs 8:13 Above all else, my brother, you must not swear an oath, any oath at all either “by heaven” or “by earth”, rather let it be “yes” if you mean yes and “no” if you mean no. In this way you will not incur condemnation. James 5:12 Wicked designs come from the deep recesses of the heart; Acts of fornication, theft, murder, adulterous, conduct, greed, maliciousness, deceit, sensuous, envy, blasphemy, arrogance and obtuse spirit. All these evils come from within and render a man impure. Mark 7:21 That is why I tell you that nobody who speaks in the Spirit of God ever says, “Cursed be Jesus.” And no one can say: ”Jesus is Lord," except in the Holy Spirit. 1 Cor 12:3 A fountain of life is the mouth of the just. Proverbs 10:11 Then I said, “Woe is me; I am doomed! For I am a man of unclean lips, living among a people of unclean lips; yet my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts! Then one of the seraphim flew to me holding an ember which he had taken with tongs from the altar. He touched my mouth with it. ”See," he said, “now that this has touched your lips; your wickedness is removed, your sin purged.” Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying. Whom shall I send? Who will go for us? “Here I am,” I said: “send me! And he replied: Go and say to this people... Isaiah 6:5 Never let evil talk pass your lips; say only the good things men need to hear, things that will really help them... Get rid of all bitterness, all passion and anger, harsh words, slander, and malice of every kind. In place of these, be kind to one another, compassionate, and mutually forgiving, just as God has forgiven you in Christ. Ephesians 4:29 WHAT ARE WE TO DO? First of all repent of our sin and go to confession with a firm resolve not to sin again. The grace through confession will help us. The next thing to do is covered in scripture. Put to death whatever in your nature is rooted in earth; fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desires, and that lust which is idolatry. These are the sins which provoke God’s wrath. Your own conduct was once of this sort, when these sins were your very life. You must put that aside now: all the anger and quick temper, the malice, the insults, the foul language. Stop lying to one another. What you have done is put aside your old self with its past deeds and put on a new man, one who grows in knowledge as he is formed anew in the image of his Creator. Col. 3:5:17 HOW ARE WE TO DO THIS? Scripture instructs us: Because you are God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with heartfelt mercy, with kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another; forgive whatever grievances you have against one another. Forgive as the Lord has forgiven you. Over all these virtues put on love, which binds the rest together and makes them perfect. Christ’s peace; must reign in your hearts, since as members of the one body you have been called to that peace. Dedicate yourselves to thankfulness. Let the word of Christ, rich as it is, dwell in you. In wisdom made perfect, instruct and admonish one another. Sing gratefully to God from your hearts in psalms, hymns, and inspired songs. Whatever you do, whether in speech or in action, do it in the name of the Lord Jesus. Give thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:12-17 LET US PRAY, CREATE A CLEAN HEART IN US, O LORD AND RENEW A RIGHT SPIRIT WITHIN US. RESTORE RELATIONSHIPS AND HEAL US. HEAL OUR FAMILIES AND OUR CHURCH.IN JESUS NAME WE PRAY. AMEN.