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almarthins:
You don't need to know him, we know him.

Congratulations Sir for knowing him👍👏

haybhi1:
no vex o, why you dey use "sir" for that guy? You go old pass am na

It's courtesy. Calling him "sir" will not remove anything from my body.
I'm sure you are a small boy too but nevertheless take your own "Sir haybhi1"

NaijaNaWaa:
And his beautiful wife, too. If he keeps drawing attention to her, comrades go wan taste ‘am. And believe me, Eve dey still chop bad sweet apple till today.

Exactly. You hit your head on the nail

clockwisereport:
Thought love is blind

Dey play
U dey wyne me?
That was in 1802....this is 2025 bruh

Ebus03:
Lol! I don't think you know hw good chatgpt is. I solve A LOT of problems in my work life and financial life by asking chatgpt alone. No human advice needed. The guy obviously used chatgpt if at all you are familiar with the way the AI present information.

Thank you so much. ChatGPT is my to- go -person. I ask it virtually everything. You won't believe what I ask it and the kind of satisfactory response I get.
The disadvantage is that it has made me lazy.....I don't stress my brain again

Bahamas95:
Two things are involved......


1. They discovered you're just a fine boy with no shishi

2. You nor sabi knack.

Even if he no sabi knack, having money would have made them stay. The Koko is that he is a broke fine boy

Lexzokomo:
Well I don't think masturbation is a sin but the idea of you imagining a woman you know or saw in your head is the sin, at least you can masturbate while thinking about your wife which makes it sin free

And how many of you masturbate with your wife in your mind? The fantasy has always been another woman

Englishisamust:
This guy I don't know why girls dont always comment on is post and videos. Is it because he always speak the truth.... . But which one be understanding boyfriend again, so simp don get category... Understanding boyfriend

Who is he?
We don't know him in this part of the world

mdsne:
MEN SLEEP WITH WOMEN FOR THE EXPERIENCE. WOMEN SLEEP WITH MEN FOR A CONNECTION. That’s Why One Leaves Smiling, The Other Leaves Crying.

Let’s stop pretending — s*x has never meant the same thing to men and women.

1. Men chase s*x for variety. Women give sex for meaning.

Men don’t need a reason. They just need an opportunity.

They’ll sleep with you because you're tall, short, thick, slim, or just available.
No emotions, no intentions, no plans.

But women? They give their bodies with a reason in mind: love, trust, bonding, or belief that “this might lead somewhere.”

That’s why after sex, the man rolls over and forgets your name.
But you lie there, wondering what the two of you are now.

2. For men, the goal is sex. For women, sex is a door to more.

A man can spend money, take you out, buy you gifts — not because he loves you, but because he sees it as “payment for access.”

After he sleeps with you, he walks away feeling like the transaction is complete.

You, on the other hand, start to wonder why he changed.

It’s not wickedness. That’s just how most men operate — sex first, emotion nowhere.

3. Women still believe in love. But most men today are running games.

A man will say anything just to get you:
“You’re special.”
“I’ve never met someone like you.”
“You’re my peace.”
“You’re wife material.”

And once you fall and give him sex, the game ends.
He runs. Not because you're bad — but because his lies are about to expire.

A man who tells the truth and stays? He’s rare.
But if he disappears after sleeping with you, it’s because he came with a plan to escape.

4. Women feel sex. Men just release it.

When a woman sleeps with a man, her brain releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone.
Her heart attaches.
Her soul connects.
Her mind starts planning a future.

Meanwhile, the man is just waiting to put on his boxers and leave.

No emotions. No connection. Just “mission accomplished.”

5. Women are wired to nurture. So they give too much.

Give a woman love, she multiplies it.
Give her a house, she makes it a home.
Give her a man — even a broken one — and she’ll pour her life into fixing him.

But give her heartbreak? She’ll carry that pain for years.

That’s why a woman will cry over a man that didn’t even care.
Because she wasn’t just having s*x — she was giving her all.

6. For a woman, s*x is submission.

She doesn’t just say yes on the bed.
She’s already said yes in her heart, in her thoughts, in her spirit.
She shaved. She dressed nice. She came prepared.

And when it happens, she gives you not just her body — but her trust.

You didn’t seduce her.
She convinced herself.
And that’s why she’s shattered when you ghost her.

7. Women use s*x to bond. Men use sex to sample.

After s*x, a woman assumes something deep just happened.

She assumes you felt it too.

But you? You’re already texting someone else.

She thinks you shared energy. You just wanted variety.

That’s why she’s hurt. Not because the sex was bad, but because she thought it meant more.

8. Women attach life to s*x. Men don’t.

She moans like she’s surrendering her soul because in that moment, she is.

You’re killing her softly — and she’s saying, “Don’t stop,” because she’s fully invested.
She’s not acting.
She’s bonding.

But you? You’re just performing. For you, it’s a workout. For her, it’s worship.

9. Women respect the man who gives them orgasms.

You might think sperm is just liquid, but for many women, the man who makes them climax owns a piece of their memory.

That’s why many marriages collapse — the woman was never emotionally tied to her husband.
But the man who made her cum? She still dreams about him.

And sadly, most men don’t even know how to make their own wives feel anything.

10. Women think of the consequences. Men only think of the moment.

Before you even finish round one, she’s already calculating pregnancy, shame, her reputation, and what her future holds.

You? You’re just looking for water to drink and maybe some jollof rice.

She thought it was baby-making love.
You thought it was chicken-eating fun.

That’s the tragedy.

AND THE SAD TRUTH:

This generation now trades s*x for data, iPhones, shawarma, birthday gifts, and hair.

Girls sleep with men they don’t even like — just to upgrade their lifestyle.
And in the process, they’ve turned their emotions into ashes.

Now love is dead. Trust is rare.
And true relationships are harder to find than a loyal politician.

ADVICE TO THIS GENERATION:

Don’t treat s*x like chewing gum.

Don’t give your body just because he spent small money.

Don’t give your love just because she called you “handsome.”

Sex is not a game. It’s power. It’s trust. It’s energy.

Save it. Value it. Respect it.

May the enjoyment of today not become the regret of tomorrow

My brother times have changed ooo
Sex means nothing to most women now. The way a man cums and think of the next woman to bash that's the same way women climax(do they even climax) and think of the next guy they will sleep with to pay their bill

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Why is this quote stuck in my head?

If You Can’t Beat Them, Join Them…[/color]

I see someone trying to compromise.
If sinners entice you my sister consend thou not

Sunnyrado:
Tell am for Twitter

Oya come carry me go Twitter naa. I dey my house

Xavier0978:
Hey guys,

Please, I need your opinion on this issue. So I’ve known my girlfriend since NYSC 2019, and ever since then, we’ve been best of friends. I travelled out in 2022, but we still kept in touch and from there we started dating. I’m 29 and she’s also 29. Honestly, I have plans to settle down and marry her when things are right.

A quick note: she’s been trying to come over to meet me as a student ever since I got here, but for one reason or the other it hasn’t worked out (Canada visa rejections and all). Now, she’s talking about how she plans to settle down before her next birthday and even suggested that I marry her while she waits in Nigeria for a maximum of two years before joining me. She really just wants to get married.

To be honest, I currently work and I’m also doing another master’s program in a very reputable institution here in Canada, and I will be done this year. The stress of working and schooling is a lot, and my current workplace pays the barest minimum. I literally have nothing left after sorting out all my bills and expenses. I’m not financially ready to settle down right now, and I even gave her a timeline of two years. Worst case, no matter what, we’ll settle down in two years max. Let me try and fix things for myself here. I can’t marry and bring someone’s daughter here to come and suffer.

I’m a worried person. My dreams are really big and God knows I’m working tirelessly to achieve them. She also knows because I discuss everything with her. Honestly, I understand her point of view, but I’m the kind of person that gets really anxious easily. It would kill me to get married, have kids, and not be able to cater for them.

I know you can’t have everything financially before settling down, but I want at least a moderately stable job. One that allows me to take care of her confidently even if she comes over and doesn’t work immediately. To be honest, my job pay is very low, like unimaginably low, and I’m just barely surviving. I’ve pictured every possible scenario, thinking and planning ahead, but everything is pointing to one answer — I’m not ready.

Considering her age and the kind of person she is, I strongly believe that after marriage she will want kids and to start building a family. That’s not a bad thing, but I, as a man, don’t want to get stuck in that life yet because I know the kind of future I envision. I’ve always promised myself that I won’t raise a family on “manage-manage.” I feel like if I get married now and start raising a family, my focus will shift entirely to making sure they live well, which could make me lose track of my personal goals.

I swear, I know my girlfriend loves me. That’s not in doubt. But I’ve been pleading with her to give me at least two more years. If after that things are still not great, then we’ll settle down and manage until something better comes.

Right now, to be honest, I don’t even have anything financially to plan a small wedding, and I definitely won’t borrow or ask anyone for financial support to do a wedding.

Please, I want your honest opinion. The two options here are: either get married before this time next year or end the relationship now, as there are other people already asking for her hand in marriage.

I will go straight to the point ......love will fly through the window when financial pressure comes. If she can't wait for you to be stabilized financially, she can as well go. Make money first.
I hate to admit it but love is not enough.

I'm happy for you sir. Your marriage will last long but I will advise you keep your mouth shut, stay away from social media and enjoy your beautiful home.

uncleck:
Four reasons...

1. She married you because you were the available husband. The attraction was not really there. She might possibly be attracted to a guy next door...

2. Childbirth might have causes a hormonal change that makes her feel irritated when you touch her.

3. She's a lesbian or bisexual. She's more attracted to her gender....

4. You're weak. She doesn't rate you at all.

Add that he might not be financially capable to meet her needs.
The fastest way I lose my sexual urge is when I'm under financial pressure.
If rent is due, kids school fees not paid or no food in the house......don't just near me

MONEY247:
I was speaking with a lady colleague and she shared with me a story about her husband...
According to her she said she does everything, I mean everything for her husband...
From sexual needs to food to respect to whatever you can think of...to please him.

When she discovered/suspected he was cheating she went on to learn various sexual styles, even to the extent of watching pornography... just to make the bedroom game sweet for her husband....

This man still went ahead continuing the affair outside the marriage...
She threatened to leave the marriage and call it quits when he came back to his senses...
And became the family Man...
I can tell this woman is still beautiful, she keeps herself clean and classy....

My question is this, what makes a married man to commit adultery or cheat...
Just what...

If rich men cheat, it's understandable at least their spouses have been taken care of financially and materially but u see poor broke men cheating eeh......that one dey scatter my medulla oblongata

Sharpsharp00123:
law of diminishing returns

Another thing is that men are polygamous in nature

Another lie from the pit of hell.

Firebox123:
can you be his second wife

Why you come hate me like this naa
Second wife with 7 children in one room?

In my own case,, I didn't literally take a career break but rather I slowed down. I took up teaching job to enable me stay close to my children.
They are a bit grown now so I resigned from teaching and I'm heading back to the corporate job.
If you get better work for your organization, lemme know

Obavoh:
Since Bandits attacked my village last year, we had to abandon the 2 bedroom home that I built.

We have moved into the main town and I managed to rent a small but spacious room for my growing family.

The problem is that me, my wife and children all sleep in the same room now. This has affected the Romance between my wife and I.

The older children sleep on the floor and our last 2 babies sleep on the same bed with us. We demarcated the bed with a small curtain for privacy.

I have to make sure the children are asleep before I can touch my wife but I always feel the older children are light sleepers. Since we moved here I have not been successful in showing love to my wife.

Out of frustration, my wife and I started bathing together around 5a.m in the morning but the landlord warned me seriously and said such a thing is forbidden in his Gida so we stopped.

I work Monday to Sunday during the day so I only have night time to spend with my wife. I am losing my happiness.

I feel your pain sir, God will make a way.
I don't know about you but if I were in your shoes, the last thing on my mind would have been sex.

Lemme allow it run for 1 month. I will review in June whether to continue or opt out

Omoawoke:
Have some shame for your husband, olojukokoro

Shut up! This life is not that hard.
Enough of this up tightness

Still in the spirit of giving, I'm sure some of you have cars parked in your garage that you are not using, you can also gift me oo. Today na my birthday.
I don't want to be entering this Lagos rain again.
Chioma no fine pass me sef why my own different

Wait oo make I ask....shey na the same marriage all of us marry?
Life indeed no balance

Strength of a woman by Shaggy comes to mind.
We are indeed strong.
Kudos to all the mothers out there

Bobxin:
I saw something like this in the movie "The Beekeeper" don't you think stuffs like this happens in other countries?

My dear, we are blessed with natural resources and human resources. If both are well harnessed and utilized, our youths will be better off.
Other countries might not have what we have. Nigeria is blessed

Imagine me landing one of these job positions.
I know haters will say "For where, dey play"

OboOlora:

Poor people would come and condemn him now and say it's because the boy has started making money he has forgotten his family. They never reason deeply to know there might be more to his statement, their sentiments has eaten them so deep that they think in just one direction - in the direction of hate for the rich lol

I sight you rich babe

This is so heart breaking. What is the future of the future generation in this country?
It very easy to start arresting and arraigning these boys but what provision has the government made for them?

I'm condemning Yahoo business and every other illegal business the youths go into but I'm condemning MORE the heartless, useless politicians that have made life unbearable for the common man.

Nigerian politicians are wicked and evil

Firebox123:
why is the wife not having sex with her husband

Is sex not a right in marriage again

Sex with her husband ✅
Sex with husband and three other extra men❌❌❌❌❌❌

Firebox123:
which needful

Don't he pay her dowry to them

Just listen to yourself.
So because he paid her down, he should kill her?