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A middle aged farmer, simply identified as Elder Samson, arrested a cow and tied it down for allegedly destroying crops on his farm at Sabon- Gari, Abaji.

A resident of the area, Yahaya Aliyu, said the incident happened on Wednesday morning when the farmer met cows eating some of the yams he had already planted on ridges. .

He said the farmer arrived his farm at about 9:00a.m and saw a herder removing the already planted yams from the ridges and giving them to his cows. .

“When the herder saw the farmer coming, he escaped and the farmer arrested one of the cows and tied it up, got a pick up van which took the cow to the council secretariat,” he said.

When contacted, the Abaji Divisional Police Officer (DPO), CSP David Kolo, confirmed the incident, saying the arrested cow has been brought to the police and was still waiting for the owner to come forward to claim it. .

The DPO added that a similar incident happened recently when a farmer arrested two cows and brought them to the police station after the cows destroyed his crops. “And we have been able to get a court judgment on those two cows which are still at the police station. .

The court had ordered that since nobody came to claim ownership of the cows, they should be sold out and the money be used in compensating the affected farmer,” the DPO added.

I am going to start with a disclaimer. I understand my home is considered pretty unconventional by most people, so this is not a call for anyone to do it like we do it. Rather, it is a way to say, perhaps you should consider trying something a little different …

I am very big on sexual education for children. Having myself grown up with little or none, having to navigate the dicey terrain of sex by myself, I wanted to give my child, something better than what I got. From the time my 3-year-old son asked me why “mine is different from yours” and I bought How Did I Begin, to teach him about baby making, I knew there was little I wasn’t ready to talk to him about.

To begin, how did he discover him and I had different organs? Well, back in the day, I would once in a while bath him naked. Me, being naked, I mean. I was a working mother who was also in a Masters program; as such time was not a luxury I had in abundance. Thus, I often have to give my son his bath first, send him off to dry himself up and begin with his breakfast, while I myself rushed through my own bath.

Living overseas at the time, financial considerations meant we shared a bedroom. So my son would still be in the room by the time I returned to dress up. I hadn’t thought much about what he was seeing or not understanding… until he asked about the difference in our privates.

Giving sex education is often awkward for both children and parents, because it usually requires a B-I-G M-O-M-E-N-T of two people barely prepared for it. Maybe Mom had noticed 16-year-old Wole paying particularly close attention to Ijeoma, the neighbours’ 15-year-old daughter. Mom decides she’s not ready to be a grandmother, calls Wole into her bedroom and bumblingly tells him not to shame her. Stern warnings are issued: “If you get her pregnant, you’ll marry her oh! Do you hear me very well now?!” Wole may or may not ever sleep with Ijeoma. Maybe it is Hauwa he will do the do with, and maybe he won’t use condom. Perhaps he will, but will not know the proper way to use it. By the time Hauwa misses her period, a frightened Wole tells her to find out from her friends what to do about this problem of hers.

So I did not want a B-I-G M-O-M-E-N-T with my child. The way he’s seen his father and I kiss so much it was now commonplace that he doesn’t pay us any mind. That’s how I wanted our conversations about sex. Like the time he was four and he walked in on me in the toilet cleaning up, and asked why I was peeing blood. Because of his question, we had a little talk about menstruation and a quick revision of what he read in How Did I Begin. Apparently, he forgot all about that, because come the following year, he was back asking me about peeing blood again. Other questions he has asked over the years include: why do his father and I have hair on our pubic area and he doesn’t? Why is his father’s penis bigger than his? What is his scrotum called? (he’d asked this one about a million times, very fascinated he was with the thing) I believe the ease with which these questions have been asked, and equally answered is due the efforts we made to remove that clumsiness that often surrounds those subjects.

Of course, we teach him about privacy. He’s been made to understand that seeing us naked is not a privilege that extends to his friends. Once they are around, he is not to enter our bedroom without knocking (in case anyone is trailing behind him). Our bedroom door must be kept closed (in case anyone is peeping in). He also knows it is only ok for him to be naked within the house. Also, while he can ask us any question about our body (and he can count on us to answer candidly), it’s highly inappropriate to ask outsiders. Every other week, he is reminded that nobody is to touch his pubic area and he is not to touch anybody’s. This is body integrity.
The other day, when we had a family sleep over, he refused to UnCloth completely in the presence of our hosts. He took off his shirt and shorts, but when it came to his pants, he went into the bathroom and closed to the door. We hadn’t told him to do that; he decided that all by himself, and made us so proud.

Body confidence is a big, though secondary, reason I had no qualms my son seeing me naked. Though it may be a lesser talked about aspect of sexual health, it is very important. As children, it may not seem to matter so much. But children who develop body issues from childhood grow up to become adults who struggle with their bodies. So it mattered to me that my child should be confident in his unclothedness.

Hopefully, when he grows up, other people’s unclothedness will not weird him out…or make him lose his mind, and think it gives him the right to touch it. However, like I said at the start of this article, I haven’t written this piece to try to convert anyone to our way of life. The purpose is to provide a different perspective, in case you hadn’t considered it before.

PastorAji:
Whether he's lying or not, let him tow the line of Francis Wale Oke

Simple

Jobia:
He made sense ✋

But why would someone get offended when told they have igbotic accent? Is it hausatic or fulanitic accent them suppose get before?

A 34-year-old man has been arrested by the police in Ghana for allegedly killing a Nigerian commercial sex worker, who he claimed stole his money after he had had sex with her.

Isaac Sackey is said to have handed himself over to the police after stabbing the said prostitute two times in the stomach and thigh on Wednesday, March 8th.

He is said to have approached the woman, identified only as Tina, a Nigerian, for sex at a drinking spot at Baatsona, near the Spintex Road, in Accra, at about 8 p.m after having some drinks with his male friends.

After drinking some bottles of liquor, the two are said to have agreed on a fee for the service and they went off to Sackey’s house where they spent the night.

Confirming the incident, the Accra Regional Police Command Public Relations Officer, Assistant Superintendent of Police (DSP) Mrs Effia Tenge told the Daily Graphic that according to Sackey, after several bouts of sexual intercourse with the woman, he went to the washroom to freshen up at about 2 a.m.

When he returned, he saw the woman going through his belongings in the bedroom and realised that GH¢120 cash had been stolen. Mrs Tenge said Sackey told the police that he immediately accused the woman of stealing the money but she denied it.

"In the heat of an ensuing argument, the woman is said to have pulled a knife from her bag and attempted to stab Sackey,” she said.

However, according to Mrs Tenge, Sackey told the police that a scuffle ensued and in the course of the struggle he overpowered the woman and the knife mistakenly injured her in the stomach.

She said Sackey locked his room and then went to the Psychiatric Hospital to report the issue where he was directed by the hospital authorities to report himself to the police.

After receiving the news, Mrs Tenge said police officers went to the Manet Gardens Apartment of Sackey where the body of the victim was found lying in a pool of blood.

A careful assessment of the body by the police, she said, revealed that the victim had a knife wound in the stomach and on the thigh, indicating that she had been stabbed twice.

The body has since been deposited at the Police Hospital morgue. The deceased is yet to be identified by the family since the suspect claimed it was the first time they had met at the drinking spot.
Some neighbours of the suspect claimed he had a mental disorder, but the police are yet to verify that information.

ritababe:
so for your mind na only Benin they yarn pidgin for Edo? my friend go and do your research, we speak pidgin everywhere in Edo.

saintmark88:
This op sef how dem go speak pidgin for Lagos pass Benin.... Lagos is more of Yoruba and English than pidgin


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NaijaWebGuru:
Nowhere in Owerri is pidgin English spoken. In fact an average Igbo man in the east can't speak pidgin.

janellemonae:
Please this list is a joke. Pidgin is not prevalent in either Lagos or Ibadan. Fact.