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y3mi:
@zinizta @WORDWAR
I hope the both of you understand that the spectrum of the human emotion is broad and consists of various feelings such as anger, joy/happiness, sadness, contempt, envy, hate, fear, love, surprise etc so if even a toddler (not even a 7 year old) can feel any of these despite not being able to express it the way every physiologically matured human does, how much then shouldn't a human as young as seven years old or less would, otherwise you both should then argue it out that a seven year old should also be incapable of expressing other emotional feelings like fear, dread, anger, bitterness, envy, resentment whch every toddlers do, my point is you can't single out 'love' while including others. It's absurd. Humans feel love from a very tender age. Fondness is what makes you as a kid want to ALWAYS be with, give and share your things with those you have affection for, on the playground, in class, at home etc. Now, how would you feel if that nursery/primary school mate of yours never for once reciprocated that feeling or gesture, only for one day to see him or her with someone else sharing and giving as you did? Shock and heartbroken is what you will feel. Don't get me wrong as I am not trying to imply that should justify whatever monster that person may later come to be in life, no that isn't the point here. I am saying you both and others who continue to judge and admonish the OP for feeling heartbroken at such an age should stop being judgemental, unless any of you want to lie that you've never exhibited neither of the human emotions at a tender age. You've never felt love and fear, dread and friggt, joy and happiness, fulfilled and heartbroken when you were kiddies

In anticipation, before you think along that line where some people like to respond with the argument that because someone doesn't respond back to one's affections just to reciprocrate that love...please calm down, relax and think it through. You know you don't love him or her but yet you can accept his/her gifts, you are quick to oblige whenever he offers to assist, you involved her in several life threatening risks which she indulged herself in out of love just so you can make it, you forfeit many of your personal aspiration just to raise and elevate her out of love, and so on and forth, please guys what is love if not seeking of mutual success, what is truw love if not self sacrifice, when people do these things out love, let's not be snappy to judge them for being a fool while ignoring the other who pretended to love and simulated it so perfectly. Such people exploits and they are unfortunately the majority in todays materialistic world. Real people would let you know from the getgo if they are interested in your helping hands or not, decline your expensive gifts with or without reasons. At this juncture, I dare say Nigerian ladies are guilty of the act of not even trying to reach inward and check if she could later discover it within her to love this fellow who's is getting to know her after three weeks but readily willing to accept that new 2017 Toyota Camry from him, which he bought and offered her not because he has lots of cash or because out of some blind love, but simply because he has always being unable to repress his empathy to provide assistance in a situation involving someone his loved ones. After all he wouldn't if he is incapable of affording it, which still doesn't diminishes his natural predisposition to love. Many Nigerian ladies/girls would never reject any but accept every expensive phones given to her by the different guys who met her at different period in a given time, and neither of these guys know better and even if they do meet, "Babe, who is that guy we met at the Cinema asking about the phone he bought you months back and why you never called'' - "oh! That one, he's just a friend who came to do I.T. at my former place of work but now working in DSTV in faraway Enugu, don't think we have anything together, you know I love you." These I believe are the sort of exploitation that has made the OP hell bent on hating Nigerian ladies. And it is not any less different from what many Nigerian so-called big men and big boys do to exploit young girls and ladies thinking they are in love.

@Ziggylady @pafo and others expressing their disdain for a professed murderer. I have this to say...before judging the OP, which one of you is ready to swear by Ogun or Amadioha that never in your life have you ever felt like killing someone who wronged you or someone dear and close to you, so much that even if you don't see yourself doing the killing, you still couldn't help but to constantly wish death upon that someone. As humans, we all have different boiling points, and for some people once theirs begins to evaporates, they can do the unthinkable once the can't hold back but to be triggered while others but few have learn never to let that hate consume them, instead convert that hatred (powerful emotianal energy) and channel it into something purposeful. I am not condoning what he did, but I hate the self-righteous hypocrisy you are displaying here.

I wonder how @Ishilove and @pafo would engage this matter if the OP had left out the part where he admitted to have killed his ex-girlfriend as he narrate the horrendous ordeals he went through at the hands of the ladies he's been with. On the other hand, I guess he can't since he said he had always talked about it on other threads on the Romance section of this forum. But, nevertheless you guys j seem to be reacting only to the girlfriend killing side as if he is a career murdering criminal. A career murderer would take off and constantly try to evade an arrest being the prime suspect. Yet, he was arraigned, prosecuted and served his time. Finally, and for your information, there are two forms of death/dying according to Yoruba understanding, one is the clinical death where the dead is dead and gone, while the other is `ki won pa eniyan saye' (walking dead) which is almost close to what which his the ex-girlfriend lady did to him. Again, consider my analysis not as a provision to justify the murder he committed, but as the eventual outcome when viewed from another perspective, a grievous criminal offense that would still be probably adjudged as a `Crime of Passion' in the western world.

Is he any better than he was before he killed her now? I can answer that question for you. No, he isn't. The world is always trying to make monsters of us but how we react makes or mars us. I understand we have different temperaments and we all would react to the same situation in different ways but nothing ever justifies murder. I do not agree with your assessment as a "crime of passion" because those you almost usually do by yourself and in the heat of the moment and what he did involved premeditation and therefore should be regarded as first degree murder; same as the gf did. So, in reality, there really isn't any difference between him and the girl and even though one less monster is off the face of the earth, we still have one left, but the good news is he can still change which is why I said he needs counselling and therapy. A lot of REBT sessions will help him but he needs to see the world and women especially in a different light.

@Ziggylady @pafo and others expressing their disdain for a professed murderer. I have this to say...before judging the OP, which one of you is ready to swear by Ogun or Amadioha that never in your life have you ever felt like killing someone who wronged you or someone dear and close to you, so much that even if you don't see yourself doing the killing, you still couldn't help but to constantly wish death upon that someone.

I like to believe I expect the worst in everyone and that way, I never put myself at their mercy so I can confidently swear by the old gods and the new ones I have never thought evil unto anyone in my entire three decades of existence and it would not change in the future because I really like my life and would not do anything stupid to compromise that.

I hope the both of you understand that the spectrum of the human emotion is broad and consists of various feelings such as anger, joy/happiness, sadness, contempt, envy, hate, fear, love, surprise etc so if even a toddler (not even a 7 year old) can feel any of these despite not being able to express it the way every physiologically matured human does, how much then shouldn't a human as young as seven years old or less would, otherwise you both should then argue it out that a seven year old should also be incapable of expressing other emotional feelings like fear, dread, anger, bitterness, envy, resentment whch every toddlers do, my point is you can't single out 'love' while including others.

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There is level to each emotions and this increases as we grow. The hate of a child is way different from an adults’ and is every other emotion. From every developmental theory I know of which is all of them, I have to say the op simply grew too fast and the feelings he described are in my opinion not "normal" and not until puberty should he have such strong attraction towards the opposite sex.

Constructive criticism in this part of the world?

Having a diverse opinion to someone else’s in this part is enough ground for insult.

Awon "Association of nairaland keyboard warriors".

HouseOfWine:
A footballer in the MLS recently did just this month or late June

A popular footballer I mean. They are there but just wont come out.

omosefeeguaibor:
on the field you can spot them gay, cause they'd be playing like a sissy

Lol! Sterling comes to mind but that boy has been knacking since like 16.

Eeeewwwwww! Eat a random pussy!

Pity the girl who will eventually date these ones o.

Still waiting for the first gay footballer to come forward.

Surely we have them aplenty.

The kids now think of diks and pvssy. Book nor be their priority again.

Blame exposure to social media.

Gpik79:
I have G4 for 35k. It's within your budget. 3GB RAM 32GB ROM

nah.
Want d v10

Pirates of the caribbean at world’s end.

Armageddon

The matrix

Braveheart

Bourne movies.

Armageddon is my best though.

I have 40k for the v10. Tuesday pickup.

Pepsi101:
Perhaps you need to go back to kindergarten.



Your command of English is wack

Baba! Why you dey try disgrace yourself na?

A simple google search would clear your doubt, or ignorance.

Jeez!

Feezah01:
I disagree with you on this..... I'm in my early 20s and i'm not cheating on my man............ I love him and he knows......... some girls are whores naturally so they blame every girls for their stupidity

Maybe you have had a lot of experience with guys or you are simply different.

Either ways, it’s good for you.

Pepsi101:
Guy, your grammar no correct




Task not ask

Lol! Very funny. I meant ask!

Thanks anyways but you should prolly go back to JSS3.

Pepsi101:
It's a big answer,no be only ask

What exactly is your point? That I was wrong?

English dey hard some Yoruba babes ehn! Getting their tenses right is a big ask.

This guy is way down the rabbit hole.

Messi fans won't like this!

Fixed

The thrill of forbidden sex is immeasurable.

Try it once and its hard to go back from it.

Money is just a secondary factor most times.

I always say this; date girls in their early 20s who are so dependent on men and be ready for emotional heartbreak at some point. They are only good at cheating on whoever is unfortunate enough to love them.

Cheating comes naturally to them as all you need is just a tight package, promises of a nice time and a few thousands and you’d get them 60% of the time.

I love my girls matured and independent!

Humility is key in life.

Lots of guys here you wouldn’t come close to.

You are an average looking guy.

Nothing to wow anyone.

Na lie! E nor go work.

What you have to know is there are hardly any ugly guy in the world,except you are Dean Whitehead or Kante but you really do not look good here.

Wait till you have money and enhance yourself more before seeking self approval.

You can look like Robbie Jones though with money and enough workout, but facially, you aint so good looking.

EDO! The name dey fear me.

Auladimeji2:
Mess I played for athletico de Madrid, but then you were still sucking breast

Oga, Messi never played for any club except Newells and Barcelona. That games was in 2009, a friendly with Newells Old boys and he represented both teams in either half.

Savvy?

This isn't pretty.

I actually find it quite repulsive

Ajsmart:
Motherfucker spotted

Quite literally!

Passed medical bawo?

Madrid have not even accept any bids.

Juliet exemplifies what a milf should look like.

Definitely wouldn’t mind losing sleep with her.

chikason68:
courto,haza,girud,cahil,willi,azilip,kante

Azpilicueta plays for spain!