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stonecoldcafe:
Wait o! Who will feed the four children as dad is not boxed up like that again. Is it the woman?

Madam, will you yourself take on this task if you were op's mum?

stonecoldcafe:
Wait o! Who will feed the four children as dad is not boxed up like that again. Is it the woman?

Madam, will you yourself take on this task if you were op's mum?

With OP's mums resentment and hatred for those children, I'm afraid she'll starve them silly.

But you know what? starving them will not kill them. It could make them stronger, wiser, and galvanise them to chase avenues for survival. It's just plain human instinct - the will power for survival. They might suffer now o! but with time, they'll have learnt enough survival skills and have more street sense to adapt with difficult times than the other aje butter side.

And ofcourse you know that whosoever have street sense, will cope and make it in lyf. They'll be fine when they eventually grow - I'm sure. I just pity the poor kids.

Some commentators might be wondering why I am taking my stance on this matter.

Hmmmmm...I really don't know where to start from, but let me put it this way, I have seen a lot in this my little world!

The story OP just narrated up there is an exact replica of what happened to a friend of mine over 25yrs ago! yes! you read right !

To cut the long story short as I do not have the luxury of time, both wives had 5 kids each, but the first wife swore to show the second wife's children hell on earth.

Then, we were both in JSS I think. I remember vividly that he had a younger brother in another class. They were both always looking gloomy, but very brilliant chaps.

I stumbled into him a few months ago and trying to catch-up on lost times, I asked what he was doing (tho I heard through grape vine at some point that he read med & surg). Today, he is an accomplished medical doctor and his younger brother is practicing Law in Michigan, USA.

on the other hand, none of the children from the first wife did well even tho they are all graduates today..many of them are even still searching for jobs.

I enquired about his step-mum, he told me she was bed-ridden with diabetes and things have not been too good with her kids. Guess what, he was the one they all turned to for help. He said he, at first thought of paying them back in their own coin, but later reluctantly decided to help. Now, he is the one footing all the diabetes bills and monitoring step-mums health.

PLS NOTE: This is not a concocted story! it's live

Lesson: be nice to people you meet on your way up, you might just as well meet them on your way down!

Abeg OP, make all of una calm down settle this matter.

My 2 pence.

JamesReacher:
Can you bear such? Is she Alakija? Her own kids would be successful too so far she didn't harm the children. I would be mad at the father if I was the product of his promiscuous ways! Men need to learn and wise up, we cause the most problems and expect a woman to tolerate and endure everytime.

@ bolded: Now you are gradually reasoning with me.

My question now is 'define harm'

do you know that resentment is harm?
do you know that telling them to pack-out is harm?
do you know that relegating their father by telling them he didn't build the house nor achieved anything is harm?

All these constitute psychological harm!

The kids have been born. Let them be..just live & let live

She should try to be nice to them, treat them as she would her own kids. be open minded & let God fight for her.

- If she's truly a virtous woman, her God will fight for her. I say " it's only those who serve dead gods that fight for their gods"

It's in times like these, you know a truly tolerant woman! the lousy ones, will RUN their mouth like tap.

Make una just take things easy.

JamesReacher:
You just want to be 'socially correct' , out of all the story it's the woman is rude you saw as a point, where's being rude displayed in the story. Divorce should be encouraged at a point, it simply means separation.

If she wasn't. why threaten to throw the innocent kids from the other woman out? Why not bear them, tolerate, and prove to them that she's truly a tolerant woman? why start telling them that their father did not build the house? she obviously resents them, and truth be told, if those kids grow with that resentment, they'll hate her. It's her house today, who knows tomorrow? Those kids (if shown some luv) might be of help to her & her kids tomorrow. yes, she has her own kids too, who can help her in future, but my brother, the world is a complex place! the vicissitudes of life might just turn the tides. "Help and reward" sometimes comes from where it is least expected - there are countless cases where kids who were victims of maltreatment ESPECIALLY by their step-mums turn out to be last resort for assistance in times of despair. Make una take thins easy o! Lyf na "time & chance"

MhizzAJ:
Did you read the storyline at all
How can u say her mom is rude...Thats a patient woman up there...who will tolerate all those nonsense for over 30 yrs and still be in d marriage

calm down o! Don't go to war with just one side of a story, particularly when it's narrated by a woman! SMH, women, fear them o! you prolly aren't married yet. Many of them are the reason their husbands seek solace in the hands of another woman. From the days of father Abraham (whose wife advised to take another woman, and latter accused him of taking another wife) even to our own time of 'equal rights' women. Ol boy! calm down o!

All I can say is...it appears your mum is truly rude. She made the money but it must have taken over her sense of submission at some point. No man wants to lose his regard simply because he's not making enough cash. The two should be one and whatever your mum has achieved, must not necessarily be publicized as her singular effort.

This has always been the problem...whenever a Nigerian man is the sole bread-winner, it's NEVER news! but when the woman is the bread-winner, there's always rancor, pandemonium & chaos. But why?

You have also taken sides with your mum and painted your dad as a monster. Please don't get married with this bias against men...it will only breed more trouble - often it's the reason why it appears as if divorce runs in some families like a genetic disease. It might not be surprising if your dad's side of the story contradicts yours. To every story, there are two sides. No judgement until a balanced case is presented!

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kakaraka:
800K

you're sitting there typing different prices. Call if you are serious.

Jethrolite:
What is the engine size?

3.0 L XLT

Anchor84:
Car is over priced sir,would u do 700k ?

No sir! Thanks anyway

OP, so you forgot Chevrolet (all)

nototribalist:
It's not like they're grabbing good food. It's hydraulic soup they're fighting for.

Guy, you wicked!

I'm trying to downsize engine pix..it's not uploading. Will, however, upload it very soon. cheers

neatly maintained interior..spotless & will definitely pass for a tokunbo.

more pixs

This is a neatly used highly functional and efficient RX300 (2001 model) for sale.

AC is working fine, Engine and gear box in great condition.

Price is 1mil (NON-negotiable), because it's a BUY & DRIVE

Phone: 08149777036

Pls note: I'm not a car dealer. My friend and colleague just got a new car (Lexus RX350 2015) and wants me to sell this on his behalf, using this platform.

**Good tyres, first body, everythings works fine!

Expecting your calls.

cheers

ShyCypher:

what's funny?

gerrarahia mehnnn

This guy claims to sell data, but he's the BIGGEST scammer on Nairaland. He blocks your line after payment and doesn't deliver the data

08163391336

OKORO COURAGE OGHENE, using ECOBANK account number is 4503063349, his mobile is 08163391336.

See threads about his scamming prowess

https://www.nairaland.com/3817737/data-reseller-scammer

Big fat lie!

Where is London?

Even from Heathrow Airport, you'll feel the Heat! They don't walk in London o! they sprint.

Can relate to the 4th pix. I was boiling egg and forgot. I went to the Pharmacy, then while waiting on the payment que, I remembered I didn't swith off the gas. Ol boy! I ran faster than my legs could carry me that day o! I don't know how I managed to cross the road that day. I think I must have jumped over several cars. in split seconds I was home. Merely standing by the door, I started coughing due to thick smoke diffusing from the kitchen.

The smell of burnt out pot was everywhere! I fumbled with the key twice and couldn't open the door out of panic. Then just by impulse and frustration, I kicked the door very violently, calmed down & inserted the keys again, a little twist and the door flung open. Then the smoke welcomed me.

Mistakes like these can cause devastating damages. I was just thinking "what if I set the house ablaze just because of N200 egg"? Where I go start from?

Meeeeehn that day, I learnt to always check everything in the house including the tap twice before leaving.

zickie:
No interior and engine pics

OK. will upload soon