bjt:
You mean radiator fans. Go check your cooling system,
You need to pay attention to your car temperature when driving if it is unusually high.
It could also be a faulty thermostat if you still have one on your car.
The sound you are hearing is the radiator fans trying to bring down the engine temperature before going off.
I don't think your engine can keep running after turning it off

I'm sure of what I'm saying. it's the engine. I opened the engine bonnet and saw the serpentine belts rolling and the engine ramming with full power.

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MissJoy29:

oh but I never said she shouldn't help the children (though no one should blame her if she doesn't). What I'm against is you insinuating that if she doesn't help or treat them right, then she's not a Virtuous woman.

Again, her blessings and favour aren't conditional: helping & treating the baby mama and her children right. The fact that she has endured all these years and stoid by him amidst the humiliating circumstances is enough to make her blessings flow.

Also, that a woman is more passionate and compassionate and more emotional than a man doesn't mean she has been equipped with super human abilities to endure ALL THINGS. Women are human beings. Even machines break down and I hear that machines have SUPER human abilities.

Finally, I ask you again, can you tolerate same with your wife?

You are a woman - & I will give you a piece of advise which I plead with you as a woman to please take it to heart very seriously and make it a rule of thumb: "NEVER MALTREAT A CHILD". believe it or not, there's an inexplicable spirit guiding every child. The two step-mums can face themselves and quarrel - that's by all means fine. BUT leave the children & help them if she can!

MissJoy29:

Virtuous woman? Did I hear you right? I'm sure your own Bible describes a Virtuous woman as one who should suffer for another man's sins. One who suffers emotional, psychological and physical abuse.

I'm sure your dictionary also defines tolerance as being stupid.

She should be nice to the kids & treat them like hers? For real? Did the three of them bear them together? Where are the irresponsible people who birthed them? In as much as I will not encourage her to maltreat the children (which she hasn't done & might not even do cos she's that good ), she shouldn't be answerable to anyone how she chooses to react to them.

But Christ "suffered for your own sins and was the one who suffered emotional, psychological and physical abuse" for you.(Isaiah 53 v 5; II Corinth 5 v 21).

God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. (2 Corin 5 v 21)


If you are a true christian, I'm sure you'll be ashamed of what you typed up there after reading those verses.

MissJoy29:

Human beings like you equate others with qualities only a divine being or divine power could do. The funniest thing is that people like you don't keep to their words. It's not enough to say the woman should have done this & that. It's like when we watch football. The way we abuse all those players as if we can do better than them. Talk is cheap. Anybody can talk but not everyone can actually DO what they say.

Do you know the level of Grace it requires to accommodate children not just from any man but from a lying, cheating, arrogant, wide-beater and irresponsible man? Can you honestly say you can do it?

Have you for once, stopped to ponder on the thought & question why God (or nature if you are an atheist or whatever) would choose a woman over a man to gestate? i.e conceive a child, internally carry the child for months through-out developmental period from fetus to embryo to neonate, nurse the child, breast feed, nurture etc...even among animals, the female does this same task! I tell you, when it comes to passion, compassion, and emotional care, a woman has a softer spot than a man.

@bolded, that grace is what she needs to show now. It's NOT easy, but that is what differentiates a virtuous woman from the ordinary. Those kids will see it, their mum will see it, above all, heavens will see it...and her reward will not elude her. Even if the reward does not come to her directly, it will go to her children..somehow. Don't you stop to ask why some people seem always favored? They put in little effort and achieve so much while others labour so much and achieve only little. You call it blessing, others call it Karma. I tell you - they are most likely reaping the rewards of effort sown by their parents or someone related...not necessarily theirs.

Sometimes I wonder where, when , and how we all lost touch with human sympathy & empathy. The husby did wrong! YES! but can two wrongs make a right? stop to think, if that was the way you were conceived and born. Then, by challenges of lyf, you find yourself in such quagmire at a tender age. what will you do? tell step mum to please oppress you? or starve and send you packing? why can't we for once see other people's challenges as ours and stop to think how or where we can help.

I will advise, if she has enough to spare, let her give the kids from the other woman (except if she doesn't have). Not of necessity or grudginly, but cheerfully.

This is a neatly/barely used Ford truck going for =N= 1mil. The truck has no fault whatsoever, the owner is into pure water business and simply selling due to business distress.

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Ishilove:

You can't know how the shoe pinches until you walk in his shoes.

I absolutely understand how much it pains - to be honest! but the deed is done! remediation strategy is what (particularly as first son) OP should focus on. I am ASOLUTELY against the dad's use of violence (citing flogging his wife with cane as if she's a public primary school pupil) that's barbaric to say the least. The hands of time cannot be turned to address the problem on ground from its origin - domestic violence, arguments, disagreements, wife leaving home to devout too much time to work & less time to satisfying the family/man's s*xual urges etc.

But it's never late for an approach to peaceful coexistence between the kids. OP shouldn't take sides (it will escalate the looming war), rather seek diplomatic approach to peace (or at least pretend to be neutral - just for peace). If they all dance to this drum of war, I'm sure both wives will go diabolic, kids will resent one another and wait for slightest opportunity to revenge, lives may be lost o! ranging from juju or planting sniper into food/drinks etc..such suspicions have already started if you read between the lines of OPs post - and this spells DANGER! A visitor is not even safe!

moonraker:



Lol like some Nairalanders would say, its seems that there is something paining you in your head ( This is not an insult or abuse, it is merely an observation).

Back to topic

Regardless of what you think of the woman (Being rude and all)

Are you saying that it was right of the father to listen to folks about having extra marital affairs??

I'm usually not disposed to replying teenagers with low IQ, but I think I can spare some fraction of seconds with your post. I'll simplify it for, your comprehension perhaps:

It's not about listening to folks. he engaged in 'the act' & now, he has kids through 'the act'

So, your point is that people born into the world through extra-marital affair (the act) are not entitled to live?

alexistaiwo:


Been long I had seen someone alternate between making sense and writing nonsense this good

That's how to balance it o!

cococandy:
Would you accept kids your wife had for another man just to not be rude?
I didn't even read past that line. Your brain is a waste of space.

Must you resort to insult? You have no brain matter at all.
You are a disgrace to all FOOLS! You've not only publicized how manner-less you are, you've shown your parents invested no effort towards instilling courtesy in you. Woe betide you. I don't blame you. Once nitwits like you run into a few MB data, you come online to spill garbage. If you meet me face-to-face you cannot muster any iota of courage to utter gibberish. silly scumbag. Quote me again at your own peril

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How did she appear rude? No one knew she's d sole financial of the house till the issue came up.... She was d financial backbone of dads business....she has tolerated too much.... The money never took over her.... Lemme give instances.... She wakes by 5am n get home by 6 or 7pm yet a man that has little or nothing to do still want her to perform some duties as if she's a house wife... It can't work mehn!....she was ready to support her husband to compete with big men outside.... Buh dad keeps complaining of not getting sex! That was his reason for going out.... I told him women subjected to hardship n stress hardly have urge for sex....thats his problem as men that have less worries n things to occupy their minds with often get Hot most time

To correct your impression I'm a man in my late 20s I'm just using my sisters account to pass my worries cuz I wanna remain anonymous to people that know me too well

You are a young man my friend. Just clamp down your pulse. I'll say it again..take things easy. Don't condemn your dad so brutally. Be a man.

stonecoldcafe:


Wait o! Who will feed the four children as dad is not boxed up like that again. Is it the woman?

Madam, will you yourself take on this task if you were op's mum?

stonecoldcafe:


Wait o! Who will feed the four children as dad is not boxed up like that again. Is it the woman?

Madam, will you yourself take on this task if you were op's mum?

With OP's mums resentment and hatred for those children, I'm afraid she'll starve them silly.

But you know what? starving them will not kill them. It could make them stronger, wiser, and galvanise them to chase avenues for survival. It's just plain human instinct - the will power for survival. They might suffer now o! but with time, they'll have learnt enough survival skills and have more street sense to adapt with difficult times than the other aje butter side.

And ofcourse you know that whosoever have street sense, will cope and make it in lyf. They'll be fine when they eventually grow - I'm sure. I just pity the poor kids.

Some commentators might be wondering why I am taking my stance on this matter.

Hmmmmm...I really don't know where to start from, but let me put it this way, I have seen a lot in this my little world!

The story OP just narrated up there is an exact replica of what happened to a friend of mine over 25yrs ago! yes! you read right !

To cut the long story short as I do not have the luxury of time, both wives had 5 kids each, but the first wife swore to show the second wife's children hell on earth.

Then, we were both in JSS I think. I remember vividly that he had a younger brother in another class. They were both always looking gloomy, but very brilliant chaps.

I stumbled into him a few months ago and trying to catch-up on lost times, I asked what he was doing (tho I heard through grape vine at some point that he read med & surg). Today, he is an accomplished medical doctor and his younger brother is practicing Law in Michigan, USA.

on the other hand, none of the children from the first wife did well even tho they are all graduates today..many of them are even still searching for jobs.

I enquired about his step-mum, he told me she was bed-ridden with diabetes and things have not been too good with her kids. Guess what, he was the one they all turned to for help. He said he, at first thought of paying them back in their own coin, but later reluctantly decided to help. Now, he is the one footing all the diabetes bills and monitoring step-mums health.

PLS NOTE: This is not a concocted story! it's live

Lesson: be nice to people you meet on your way up, you might just as well meet them on your way down!

Abeg OP, make all of una calm down settle this matter.

My 2 pence.

JamesReacher:
Can you bear such? Is she Alakija? Her own kids would be successful too so far she didn't harm the children. I would be mad at the father if I was the product of his promiscuous ways! Men need to learn and wise up, we cause the most problems and expect a woman to tolerate and endure everytime.

@ bolded: Now you are gradually reasoning with me.

My question now is 'define harm'

do you know that resentment is harm?
do you know that telling them to pack-out is harm?
do you know that relegating their father by telling them he didn't build the house nor achieved anything is harm?

All these constitute psychological harm!

The kids have been born. Let them be..just live & let live

She should try to be nice to them, treat them as she would her own kids. be open minded & let God fight for her.

- If she's truly a virtous woman, her God will fight for her. I say " it's only those who serve dead gods that fight for their gods"

It's in times like these, you know a truly tolerant woman! the lousy ones, will RUN their mouth like tap.

Make una just take things easy.

JamesReacher:
You just want to be 'socially correct' , out of all the story it's the woman is rude you saw as a point, where's being rude displayed in the story. Divorce should be encouraged at a point, it simply means separation.

If she wasn't. why threaten to throw the innocent kids from the other woman out? Why not bear them, tolerate, and prove to them that she's truly a tolerant woman? why start telling them that their father did not build the house? she obviously resents them, and truth be told, if those kids grow with that resentment, they'll hate her. It's her house today, who knows tomorrow? Those kids (if shown some luv) might be of help to her & her kids tomorrow. yes, she has her own kids too, who can help her in future, but my brother, the world is a complex place! the vicissitudes of life might just turn the tides. "Help and reward" sometimes comes from where it is least expected - there are countless cases where kids who were victims of maltreatment ESPECIALLY by their step-mums turn out to be last resort for assistance in times of despair. Make una take thins easy o! Lyf na "time & chance"

MhizzAJ:


Did you read the storyline at all
How can u say her mom is rude...Thats a patient woman up there...who will tolerate all those nonsense for over 30 yrs and still be in d marriage

calm down o! Don't go to war with just one side of a story, particularly when it's narrated by a woman! SMH, women, fear them o! you prolly aren't married yet. Many of them are the reason their husbands seek solace in the hands of another woman. From the days of father Abraham (whose wife advised to take another woman, and latter accused him of taking another wife) even to our own time of 'equal rights' women. Ol boy! calm down o!

All I can say is...it appears your mum is truly rude. She made the money but it must have taken over her sense of submission at some point. No man wants to lose his regard simply because he's not making enough cash. The two should be one and whatever your mum has achieved, must not necessarily be publicized as her singular effort.

This has always been the problem...whenever a Nigerian man is the sole bread-winner, it's NEVER news! but when the woman is the bread-winner, there's always rancor, pandemonium & chaos. But why?

You have also taken sides with your mum and painted your dad as a monster. Please don't get married with this bias against men...it will only breed more trouble - often it's the reason why it appears as if divorce runs in some families like a genetic disease. It might not be surprising if your dad's side of the story contradicts yours. To every story, there are two sides. No judgement until a balanced case is presented!

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