₦airaland Forum

RisenPhoenix1:
I think you're wrong. Not all modern men want a working woman to marry. Nor is financial contribution the best thing a woman can bring to the table. That is just a table promoted by social media and the entertainment industry.

Facts.

Chii59:
There's no way a woman will be guiltless before you . I wonder why Denique wasted her time explaining things to you.

Could it be because she has sense and you clearly don't? I wonder why people comment when they have nothing reasonable to say.

humilitypays:
when a reasonable lady speaks, you will know. You sound like one. Which makes me wonder why you are still single - hope you haven't neglected your physical beauty and attractiveness for money chase


Remember, physical attraction plays a key role in getting your desired man

Gotta admit I'm impressed with how she responded with grace and tact. She disagreed without resulting to childish insults and name calling like most females in this section.

I respect that.

LINTUNE:
they are making more money than men, yet society doe'snt pressure them in taking responsibilities, understand my point..

Unfortunately, men are to blame for this.. under the guise of feminism, women have clamoured for equal privileges while refusing to take on the responsibilities that come along with that and men allowed this by pandering to 'political correctness'.

Never in the history of time have we had such an amount of lily livered men who cannot hold women responsible for upholding their own side of a relationship/partnership. Women have now branded their own responsibility as "oppression" while ours remains "responsibility" - and we allowed that.

LINTUNE:
oga i disagree with u on this, todays world, favours women, more than men..

Yes, they may make money easier than men by monetising their private parts, practising hypergamy and whooring around.. but that doesn't mean they are happier.

Shortyy:
It's just so amusing because women are now waking up and fending for themselves and no longer depending on the "superior" gender. It's beginning to bug them. Stay pressed motherfvckers.

.. they sleep with men for money and claim they are "no longer depending on men"

Interesting!

Shortyy:
Every day this gender create threads upon threads to debate on women. So pathetic.

I hardly see women create threads like "why men are unhappy" or "how to be more cruel to men" or something like that.

..oh, and last time I checked, Nairaland is a forum where anyone is free to create threads on whatever topic they wish.
You can always avoid topics that don't interest you...
Quit being childish.

Uyi168:
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And when they decide not to work, sit and take care of the home, depending on your money solely.. you and your type will still turn round and call them leeches and liabilities..

A housewife who delegates her duties to a househelp is most definitely a liability and a leech.
Are men able to delegate their work to someone else to do?

If a husband is the primary breadwinner and the wife works but doesn't contribute or sits at home all day with a househelp, then what exactly is she contributing??

Kobicove:
Nowadays women are also breadwinners therefore in some instances they have to wait for their career to stabilise before they start thinking about getting married and having children...

... and this is the reason why there's an increased rate of depression amongst young women of today.

generationz:
Some people live in a bubble and they don't realize what goes on in reality. This why nobody should worship their pastors. Many of them are airheads with good diction. Just take a few things from them and find your way.

Someone who went to school in the 70s and all his kids either schooled abroad or had the best of education in Nigeria with good job opportunities, how can he empathize with the poorest members of society who have many dependents with little to no help or opportunities? The highest opportunity some have is to scratch and scrap to go to University.


His type will still preach against alcohol sales and Bet Naija forgetting that's entrepreneurship too.

If only our yahoo boys can scam these fools and leave innocent people alone.

You can't blame them. Blame the gullible/foolish generation of our parents who elevated these men of dogs into God-like status.

RenaissanceGuy:
But he didn't use such words in the quotation you gave

Go and listen carefully to what he said.

Denique:
It has to do with us trying not to be a liability—to ourselves, to the society.

The average Nigerian woman needs twice the amount of time of her western counterpart to achieve same feat; reason these people seem to be more independent than us, marry earlier than us.

It isn't about competing with the men; neither are we hoeing. For some of us, it's about bringing something to the table which takes us longer time to achieve due to our environment.

Back then, our mothers didn't need to have a means of livelihood before being taken(married). The narrative has changed!

Our modern men want a woman graduate, in some cases an MSc holder...working or owning a thriving business. These things don't come easy, especially: for most of us who didn't/don't have the foundation, connection, means, coupled with ASUU strike. So many factors impede a ladies marital growth.

Below is a link to a thread and Kriss216 made a resonating comment. As much as it isn't excusable, a lot of us take to it to survive.
Where then, is the time for such persons to marry early?
https://www.nairaland.com/6328015/blood-sister-smash-phone-lock

You are partly right, but I believe women themselves have conditioned fellow women to believe their value is tied to academic and financial achievements - this is an unfortunate adverse effect of feminism.

If a woman comes out today to admit her desire to be a homemaker rather than going to school, or expresses that she doesn't want to work but would rather be at home taking care of the kids and doing chores, it is fellow women who would shame her the most.

I'm yet to see a man who gets 'turned on' by the amount of degrees a woman has achieved. Yes she should be educated to a certain level, but a man would choose a loyal and faithful homemaker over an overtly ambitious woman who competes for equality with him.

Remember the lawyer who came out a few days ago stating his preference for a submissive wife?? ... guess who insulted and shamed him the most? guess who called him an oppressor and tyrant?

Women.

In order to prove themselves valuable, women have created unrealistic expectations for themselves.

Wealth and status can never bring the same fulfilment to a woman as being a nurturer does.

Kobicove:
Times have changed...there are a lot of things you can't control

How do you mean?

ThEGodFaThEr101:
Mumu, how many businesses have you built. Always trying to sound politically correct. Odę!

I've honestly never seen him make sense for once

Nice.

Just to point out how to know if a woman hasn't bleached her skin:

When her scalp matches the colour of the rest of her body

StacyO:
But miss Karen wasn't talking about black women(prostitutes). She was talking about able bodied African men.

Likewise I'm also talking about dirty black women who let foreign men expunge diarrhoea all over their face because of money!

You are obviously spurring for gender war, and trying to shame men while blatantly ignoring the disgusting acts you and your ilks do for money.

You will drink watery diarrhoea of white men but be forming "women empowerment" for black men.

Two can play that game little girl..

So what do you say about black women who fly to Dubai to engage in chropophilia - where they allow Arab men shiit in their mouths for money?

Or you don't know this is something a lot of "big girls" engage in?

Tunde Bakare recently took to his pulpit to give examples of graduates who finished from university but found something doing with their hands - he particularly laid emphasis on the woman who sewed his agbada, bragging on how she graduated from university few years ago but decided to start sewing clothes instead of looking for a job.

He also gave examples of other graduates who sew agbadas for a living of whom he patronizes their business.

Watch from 2:45

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qcaTyH2oSHs

In his words:
"The Future does not belong to Job seekers"
"Government cannot keep on employing people, that's not their job"

Do you agree?

nwaezeemmanuel:
@the bolded Partly true

But no woman is mandated to raise a family, no man should be mandated to as well.

Happiness isn't tied to that, the channel for it extends beyond having kids and the likes.

It is nature's call - an undeniable inbred desire for most women to raise children.. take Linda Ikeji for example who despite all her achievements being a millionaire, admitted that having a child was the most fulfilling experience of her life.

This is the same reason why no woman is happy when she gets married and doesn't have a child... why women start to wish for a husband when they reach their 30s (like Seyi Shay) .. or turn motivational speakers like Toke Makinwa, showing off material things online to mask her unhappiness.

It is an inbred desire for a woman's sense of accomplishment to be tied to her ability to nurture a child - call it God's will or Evolution.

Look at the rubbish you are applauding as "freedom"

Freedom to spit on the road
Freedom to climb trees
Freedom to litter the environment with laundry
Freedom to stain the road with mud covered tyres

This is why I believe most Nigerians deserve the useless country they get tbh.

Nonsense!

A picture they say, speaks a thousand words...

Women are not happy because they've traded in their youth and fertility to compete with men in the workplace, thus subjecting themselves to a more stressful and lonely life...

bolanto24:
Op I believe you. The government have something up their sleeves.

Most definitely