nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

for your own good ,I'm advicing u as a brother.... This is the advice I'll give to anybody dear to my heart.

LEAVE THAT GIRL,..

contrary to the misconceived believe, marriage is not a Do or Die venture... If its not working its not working, both parties deserve to be happy... Let both of u go your separate ways and find the happiness elsewhere....

Stay blessed bro, u a good guy, u deserve better...

If you can observe, you see the church is still filled with black Nigeria n's, no Europeans there... Black's and vanity is just so inseparable... Black animals as always

oglalasioux:
It's our duty to help the less privileged but in your case the beneficiaries are taking it to the extreme.

Let everyone stay at his or her home. Send your help and contributions to them if you have as it's not an obligation to be responsible for their upkeep.

Once the world throw away religion and it's books and realize that giving birth to many children is not a right then the world will be a better place

Animalistic men will be making babies all over and handing them over to other people to take care for them. Pathetic!

you nailed it Bro with that statement, enough said, I needn't add much....

Beamborla:

Grow up!

sorry ma, no insults meant.... apologise if you felt that way, was just airing my opinion, honestly that was how I felt. Sorry okay.

nlfan:
This Is How I Broke Him Down After He Broke My Heart

I met this young man when i was 21 and he was 24 we dated 4 years, we were both struggling, we stayed with each other and help each other to grow.

We grow to become successful and i became very influential in my field and he was so proud of that.

Last october we agreed to walk down the isle, we were planning where we are going to stay after the wedding, he stays somewhere in Lagos mainland while i stay in the island. He told me that he will be moving somewhere in Mowe in Ogun State where his father built a house about 2 years ago.

I told him that will not be a good idea, going from Mowe to Victoria Island everyday will be terrible for me since we can afford a house in Lagos at least for now or we stay where he is staying currently, he maintained he cant change, we could not reach an agreement on that, the next thing i got a shocker, he traveled for event outside Lagos to the east, where he comes from, only to get attracted to a girl he met there and came boldly to tell me, if i cannot marry him and stay at mowe, there are so many good girls who will rush the offer and in annoyance i told him, have you found one please marry her.

To my surprise few days after i saw a photo of him and that girl he just met, less than two months all over social media, he has engaged her.

Initially i was pained, but let's face it he doesn't deserve my tears, his groups of friends started calling my line to ask when we stopped dating since we still stepped out recently to his friend birthday.

I didnt know what to say i asked them to ask him, things went that way and i started hurting, after he did official intro to the girl i knew it was over, i called him and told him i wish him happiness and best of luck with his wife to be.

He felt bad but said he knew i was a good person that he is not shocked i called, i ask him to keep me updated on wedding plans and he did and i told him i will attend he said he will be grateful.

On the wedding day, during the reception i showed up, i had gone to get a very flattering dress, i even paid for make up, i looked so beautiful i couldn't believe myself too

When i entered the room everybody went crazy, all his friends and associate knew me, some are even pained at what he did to me, i showed up all his friends rushed to greet me, it took over 30 minutes to cheek kiss all of them and hug a few, the few people who didn't know me was wondering who i was and why i am so beautiful

I went up to greet him, he almost fell down from where he was standing, i greeted his wife ( a village girl from akwa ibom lol - the way she pronounce the thanks for coming though )

I started catching fun and dancing crazy, my ex couldn't stand it anymore, he ask his wife to go inside the car only him came to greet his guys where i was seated, THEN BROKE DOWN IN TEARS

HE CRIED SO LOUD LIKE PEOPLE WERE SCARED, People will think that i will disappear from there scene since he was crying, i was still seated shaking body to the tune of music, he then told one of his friend, i don't know but i think i messed up - the guy was like you messed up big time, are you just realizing, then live with it the rest of your life, his wife rushed out of the car i guess he heard his prince charming was crying, he came and the moment she opened her mouth to ask daring wot isssit, guys had funny faces about to explode. :. .D

At that point he left and i continue hanging out with his friends before oping into my car to go home. He sent a touching sms yesterday.

how can we get married. I'm in love with you already, just tell me your father's house ill go pay the dowries, needn't see you .... I'm waiting.... BTW , is your PM Working? Expect 1 from Paul killer man. ?

Beamborla:
Never thrown myself at any guy.
Never had any reason to.

Since I do the running, I would really respect any guy who shows no interest in getting down with me.

you mean, guys actually go after You? Wow!! I pity my gender, nothing una no go pursue....

Because girls are tools for sexual gratification, just meant to be forked, when done, u trash them and pay them.... I guess he is done with the birch, and it's time to move on.... he's a smart nigga like me... hope he paid her for her Services?

gossipfreak:


Just SHUT UP!

Are you saying that she won because of a voice note that wasn't available for download to at about 3:30pm yesterday? Even going by the nonsense you just typed, she wasn't the most insulted, mimzy was. So STFU and stop spewing thrash! The girl doesn't deserve it and she is UGlee!

you sef whe dey cast person no kookoo fine sef..... mtchewwww, empty barrels make the largest noise

The heavyweight IBF champ has done it again, with a 7th round knock out of The American champ, retaining his world IBF title....


God bless Anthony Joshua....


My own brother, laced with his unperturbed humility has scored a shot


And he is 17-0 (17 K.O's)






God bless you bred.....

mira4u:
Cute guy.

trash.... that nigga no fine reach me...

Send me that girl number make I fork case clear for her eyes... Thank me later..

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

you are a very big fool for not knowing this since..... women are only sex objects, meant to be forked and thrown out the windows when u done.... All u pusssy niggaz keep on deceiving yourselves and keep on learning the hard way ...

Instead of me to spend my money on a girl for nothing, I'll rather burn it to Ashes..... If I'm not paying you to fork your asss, then go for yourself ...

Black pigs

AntiWailer:


Really she prostituted to u

How about me looking for ur Facebook profile, download ur picture and say u are a gay asking for 20k per nite may be u will understand the reason why u must verify claims before castigating the person.

you v really got nothing sensible to write, why are you disturbing this Thread?

SUPOL:
Seek d face of God in prayer n fasting to know his will. If it is his will den be rest assured He has gone before u to prapare d way

I hate this, this is as foolish as it can get, the worse thing any human being has ever adviced.... your mental slavery is irredeemable ....

Earth2Metahuman:

Ultimate warriors ko, hulk Horgan of naija delta ni

This is why you don't negotiate with terrorists... They are like virus, you either kill them or they kill you.
They will keep coming back for more if you keep negotiating with terrorists.
Today, mend. tommorow, NDA. next, warrior. later, justice league. It never ends.

Black's are animals that lives like pigs and savages, they will never know or learn, they were not created to rule themselves...

Even an idiot knows "There is no peace without victory"... We are worse than idiots...

Joice21:
If only God will send me an awesome bae like you, I'l b d happiest lady on earth. Just be man enough, carry out some investigations nd if d relationship is no longer worth it, call it quits, God will send a better lady that will reciprocate d love you show her.

you ugly, that's why you haven't seen one..... not trying to be rude , just thought i should air my honest opinion about your predicament.... no insult meant...

dante300:
Dating her for 5years now..contemplating marrying her..currently doing her phd..she's just 32yrs ,am 35 .I love her so much....no longer sure if all this will work out....she schools in a neighboring state and every God given evening her cell is swicthed off.

Wenever I ask why, we end up quarelling. I don't know how long all this will end. Almost thinking of joining that school of thought where I will just have children and forget marriage. I haven't made up my mind though. Just thinking.

Trust issue is choking me. I don't care if people think am insecure but I have bought her 3 different phones, powerbank etc just so I can get her on atleast one of her 4lines....all switched off....maybe I am crazy....I don't know I need advice....castigate me or abuse me nairalanders I don't care...coz trolls nogo do me anything....n my relationship matter to me now but I know better people go answer me wisely...sorry for the typing error...I dey vex.

P.s_ I am using a friends nairaland acc in my quaters...call me....nanle.

I keep on telling all you pussy niggax this, fork botches and leave them, that is their only use.... sexual gratification...

esosa993:






really Paul what could have gone wrong with you, are sure you okay? what has coming to you have to do with my love life......sigh! smh

I'm everything you need in a man, nothing else, ... without me your life can never be complete...

esosa993:




20, its really sad tho. have got to accept my fate

u better come to me and leave that useless boy alone...

esosa993:
dear nairalanders , I need your help and advice have been dating this guy for 4years now and we really love each other,have met his eldest sister,spoken with his elder bro several times on phone and even his mom.


the problem I have is his young brother,the guy hates me so much and I can't even point out exactly what I could have done to cause so much hatred, the brother tries to reason with both of us because he doesn't wanna take sides which I clearly understand, the younger bro once complained to my boyfriends friend that he doesn't like me and my visits to their apartment makes him uncomfortable and he even claims my boyfriend doesn't respect him and am the cause of it.


its really affecting me a lot and am so scared things are gonna end sooner or later I can't just get that feeling out, I love him a lot and I don't wanna loose him, I have this fear his going to influence his other siblings and they might end up hating me too.

so this is where u are, complaining of a hatred filled relationship, when I'm willing to give u better,... Hmmmm. SMH

swaggerdgrt:
Guy u are on point......... big tme,d so called gf rely on dia guy for evrytn jst in return for sex wen she bleeps four or fives guys arund,gettin a stripper is d best cos dhe givs u less stress,no hrtbrk or emotnal pains

bless u too breh