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Yusufisraelj:
Hmmm you made us believe your wife is the problem, but from this little fracas with dacblogger, it leaves a lot on the table.

I think you should learn to see things from another perspective and more importantly be accommodating and stop being offensive and throwing words at people bkos you don't like their opinion. I'm no counsellor I'm just
stating the obvious.

I see...... since you are her advocate
1: why is picking the abuse line and ignoring the cursing part....I understood the angle she coming from most people have told me same which the bias I hate.

2: I asked If i was the one beating her would I advise be the same....she replied am I beating her
That was a dull one..

3:If she read my thread well she won't ask me some questions.

And for u have read some of your thread and quote here.... honestly you ain't worth it.

Lastly I doubt if either of you are married so just hush.

Yusufisraelj:
Nope madam, the Devil you know is better than the Devil you don't know.

There's nothing terrible about an Angel - they are mercenaries of peace and progress.

OP
Is there a willingness on her part to change her ways since it hurts you.

You see as painful as it may sound love relationships is not about you, it's about the other person, seeking the best interest of the other party, If your lady doesn't have this understanding, it's going to be difficult to fix things or amends her ways.

Well you're married, I don't encourage divorce but I think there's a way out.

I believe you should see someone she respects to put some sense and perspectives into her, it's painful to have an insensitive spouse.

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Thanks for this question.....she isn't willing to change infact she compare herself with a neighbor wife that do worst.... that her is small.

Most times I wonder how someone will rain curses on you and blame it on anger

She started with abuses and step up to curses....this days she even dare me to my face.

dacblogger:
You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

A psychologist indeed....answer the person above me first and mind ur damn business..... A wife I spent fortune to marry and provide for is always abusing and cursing me .....u are telling me to ignore her

To you a sensible woman who want her hubby to prosper will be placing curses on him.

dacblogger:
Are you beating her
If that's the case,I will have to advise the both of you ,not just you alone.

I see......well am not expecting anything different from a woman....Go read the post again this time slower so u can stop asking me lame questions.

dacblogger:
What makes you think that the next person he will marry will give him peace of mind?
Whenever she starts abusing him,he should just leave the house for her or completely ignore her.she will do it n get tired
You have to apply psychology in marriage,when you notice that the person you're abusing is less concerned,it's not somebody that will tell you to close your mouth.i am a psychologist n a counselor so I should know better.
Divorce is not always the solution please

Would you advise same if I was beating her??

You women feel abusing and cursing is lesser evil to a man beating is wife but get this am done.

She want to be beat her up but I won't.....I will rather walk out of the marriage.

chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

Good question

She showed flashes but most times to are colleagues at work.....we courted for two years but we never really stayed together so I didn't get to really know that part of her.

Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

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