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slimyem: Tell her point blank you are sorry you led her on but you don't think you can keep up with it or give her what she seems to want.
It should be that simple if you are bold and stern enough

..and btw,I'm not interested in your blog or "other stories".Thank you.

did u just say i shuld give her what she want? I dont even know what she want.
And for other stories you are welcome.

LADY OF RAGE: Enjoy the fun will it lasts! you must finish what you started. hehehehe!

but my dear you are not helping this situation. How should i discontinue without hurting her feelings

maclatunji: Always learn to observe limits. The widow is a woman. Do you think she was hanging around you for the heck of it?

I had a course mate try such games whilst in school under the guise of trying to learn from me? Cut her off point blank.

is that not too harsh? Dont you think she will be hurt?

feminine A: Its simple: you led her on. When you knew you weren't interested why did you give room for none sense chit chat?

okay am sorry for doing that, since the mistake has been done what should i do?

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I'm still stuck on the "But I thought she was a widow title".

What does that mean? Did you find out you thought wrong and she isn't a widow?

But you thought she was a widow you say and then go on to regal us with how she's displaying her feelings for you.....surely you aren't silly enough to think because she's a widow her capacity to feel will die with her husband hence the "But I thought she is a widow" title.

For more visit another site? Why on earth will we want more when the one you have offered here barely makes enough sense? [/quote]the 'i thought she is a widow' title was because i was not expecting that from a widow, also oweing to the fact that the difference in age is enormous.

Silly you said?, not at all, i know she do have feelings, but she should respect her age and limit her feelings to her age grade atleast.

Ujujoan: @ Poster . . .
You are very irresponsible, you probably started the whole thing.
I bet you though you'll hit it and run, no responsibilities whatsoever. Too bad she turned out to be soo clingy!
You made your bed, lie on it!

irresponsible you said? how do you mean?

Is it a crime to be friendly with your colleague?

Which bed will i lie? Certainly not this one.

aadetoyin: Tell her point blank cos she is way to clingy.
Plus u didn't tell us ur age but u seem too young for all these wahala.
You re the one financing her so that is why she doesn't want to lose u.
Just tell her that u re not interested.

sorry for that, am in my mid 20s.

But seriously it is not as easy as it sounds my dear, but thanks for ur candid advice.

A certain lady at work made me ask that question.

Please i want parents and experience fellows to help me out here. No insults please.


A widow who has two kids (14years and 10years) and myself suddenly became fond of each other at work. We chat, and crack jokes together. We are now so close to the extent that we eat together.

A lady who joined the youth group in her church rather than the widow group(she is in her early 40s)

she doesn't sleep or wake without saying gudnight sweet dreams and gud morning respectively.
She now addresses me as 'my dear' or 'my love' in her text messages.


She picks offence anytime or day i did not come to her office or call/text her during weekends, she will say that 'i am avoiding her and she is always feeling lonely.


she is far from sugar mummy because i have been the one doing all the spending in most cases (she is too demanding, buy me this buy me that, am tired)


she always want to know my whereabout, where am going?, where am coming from?, who is calling me? And so on.(though i was tinking its her little way to show she cares.


She has been persuading me to come over to her house and i have been postponding it. She said if i can't pay her a weekend visit and stay 3 to 4hours with her, it means i don't care about her.(see me see wahala oh)


she is even saying she want to celebrate the easter with me, that i should take her out. (osalobuameh) she wan spoil my personal runs for that day be dat.


Now, i can no longer take it, i think i am beginning to sense danger.

The other day when the news of an 8years old boy marrying a 61years old woman was all over, she said there was no problem with it if their is love. With love i can also do that, she concluded. (LOVE?, what does an eight years old know about love? Wow! What a mentality)



Before, i don't start what i cannot finish. But in this case i have started already and it is now obvious that i can no longer continue talk more of finishing. Am still a young man with a bright future, abeg i no dey for chere kan bia, i no dey for how manage?

My question is, how do i free myself from this webs without hurting her feelings?


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