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[11].THE USER...
A user is a lady who wants to take advantage of u and dump u when she is through with you..A user wants u for you ur money,your connections and your know-how..She wants to use what you have or who you know to accomplish her own agenda in Life.She is always on one project or another and she gets you involved in it..You contribute generously to her life,make good things happen for her,but she does very little for u in return....
She contributes just enough into ur life to make you feel indebted to her and give her whatever he demands from you..Somewhere in ur subconscious,you feel used but you are scared to say anything that will upset the user and send her out of ur life..The sad truth is that no matter how bad you have treated a user in the Past,she still hangs around u because she needs u more than u need her...
This is an unhealthy relationship and you should extricate urself from it as soon as possible...
An emotional user uses you an emotional Recliner,to pour out all her bile,pain and hurt...She complains to u all day about her bad relationships,evoking self pity about how she was unjustly treated by her ex..She does not care about how you feel about her constant Bickering;all she is interested in is using you as a dumping ground for negative emotions..
If u want to remain the same,i will suggest that u tell any User in your life that u are not a dumping ground for toxic emotions..You did not create any of her problems and she has no right to dump it on u....And for your information,the more she dumps these negative emotions on you,the more u become emotionaly sick and depressed...If you want happiness and peace in ur life,you should distance urself from a User...
A User employs ur paternal Instincts against you..The sooner u let go,the better for u..While a User is using u emotionally and every other way she think of,life is passing you by and you are getting older....Get rid of a User as fast as u can and you will open the door for a healthy,emotionally satisfying relationship with the right woman for you.....

[12].THE PARASITE...
This lady sticks close to you and just keeps taking and taking and taking from you without giving u something of value in return..A parasite doesnt make any worthy contribution to ur life,yet seeks to enjoy ur company,brilliance,money and sucex..A parasite is different from a Gold Digger bcuz she could also be a sucexful person but she neva shares her sucex with anyone..She likes to use u to climb higher heights..A parasite will never bring u a good opportunities in life..A parasite wants to be in on all the great things happening in ur life,yet she will never do the same for u..She may see u as a huge money tree from which she colects loans which she never pays back..You should sit down and ask yourself: what value does this lady bring to my life?....
If the answer is "nothing",that is ur cue to get out of that relationship as fast as possible.....
A parasite could also be a manipulator who uses u to get what she wants..Unlike an ordinary User,a manipulator could entrap u with sexx and Pregnancy and demand that u get married to her..
If you are responsible for the child,you should own up to it but dont get married to a Parasite bcus she gave u a child...If she manipulated you with sex and pregnancy,she can also manipulate u with other things and continue to prey on you...
Parasites don Change..Infact,they become worse as the days go by..So,u should forget about trying to transform her..She's a deadly woman..JUST MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE......................................

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[9] THE LAZY WOMAN...
She is not physicaly chalenged in any way but she is totally laid back..She hates to lift her hands to handle simple household chores..She prefers hiring someone else to do her chores for her..In her business,studies or career,sge does very little to make progress and succeed..She is too lazy to read books,collect information on her field of competence,attend to the needs of her clients or make moves that will guarantee her succex at work or in business..She uses her charm to get by a lot of the time...
She throws herself at men who wil love to rescue and impress her..She leans on anyone,male or female who loves to do things for her...This woman detests any kind of work..She procrastinates a lot and avoids doing the necesary things for sucex untik she has no more excuses to give...
She is headed for failure if she does not change..Do not become her guardian angel in an attempt to win her love..Do not try to rescue her because u will do that for the rest of ur life..She will let u get very close to her bcus she desperately needs u to slave for her...She is a deadly Woman,let her go.....


[10]THE PLAY GIRL...
She is very lively,friendly with fantastic social skills..She is usualy the centre of attention wherever she goes..She is beautiful,inteligent,and very sucexful..She plays only with the Big Boys..Her taste is very High,classy and Expensive..Very enlightened and flamboyant,she attracts u with her incredible ability to think clearly,profer solutions to problems and help u handle your challenges with great ideas..She spends a lot because she has the money..She dates several men at the same time,but takes none of them seriously.She hangs out only with rich,famous and sucexful men from whom she regularly colects huge sums of money...
She is promiscuos and jumps in and out of bed with the men she goes out with..Her philosophy of life is Twisted;she believes in enjoying herself as much as possible without restraints...
She may attend Church and be very religious,but her lifestyle is a far cry from scriptural values and principles...
You can neva be sure she loves u becuz there are so many men in her life...SHE IS A DEADLY WOMAN,LET HER GO....................

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6)THE LovePeddler:
This is not the woman u see on the street corner selling her body for money..She looks like a very decent woman until u get to realy know who she is..A LovePeddler is a woman who sells herself to the highest bidder..
She does not relate to u based on character qualities you possess..She only dates u for money..She is promiscuos..She gives sexx freely without regards to who she sleeps with..She usualy has multiple sexual partners..Each partner foolishly thinks he is the only one who dates her,but she alone knows the truth...
If u are in rush for sexual intimacy,you may end up with a LovePeddler because she has no moral qualms about getting into bed with you..Men have a strong sex drive;a sexy woman easily charms them...
If all u think about in a relationship is sexx sexx sexx,a prostitute wil give it to you..But the consequences of such a relationship maybe detrimental to ur future..A LovePeddler has no allegiances to anyone..She could date Mr A Today,and move Over to Mr B tomorrow..She is an experienced liar..I think u should take note of this fact becuz,it could save your life..A liar is not good for you..You cannot entrust anything of Value to such a woman..You cannot aford to trust her for any reason,under any circumstance..
A woman u cannot trust is not the woman for you..
A LovePeddler is also a troubled Woman..She may not look like it,but deep withhn her soul,she is being tormented daily becuz of the licentious lifestyle she chose to live..She stumbles from one crisis to another,and if you hold unto her,you may end up trying to solve her problems for her.......




7)THE LIAR:
She is very eloquent,inteligent,charming and convincing...You may not realise such a woman could be telling u lies becuz it is dificult to reconcile the outward facade she puts up with who she really is..She concieves and concocts tales that neva happened just to impress u..After a while,she just tells lies for no reason..She is adept at misrepresenting,hiding,camouflaging and bending the truth..If u catch her telling lies,she defends the lie with another lie,but later confesses to you that it is a lie..Because u like her,u forgive her..But,u should neva be in a relationship with a chronic,recalcitrant and hardened liar..She will cause u pain...She is a deadly Woman,LET HER GO....



[8] THE WASTER:..
A woman who wastes her resources,her potential and her life is a waster..She is addicted to buying whatever looks good whether she can afford it or not..She buys almost everything on credit..She is alwaz paying debts..Never satisfied,she continues to look for new clothes,jewellery or underwear to buy without paying up her previous debts..She is under the influence of the spirit of devourer,and she not only devours what she has,she also goes for that of others....
She compares herself with other sucexful ladies and tries her very best to be like them,even if it criples her financialy..She has no savings or other valuable investments that help her create wealth..Her idea of success is how large her wardrobe is..Because of her poor spending habits and non-existent financial skills,she is alwaz in debt problem,and dates only men who can aid her financialy...If u cannot,she dumps you for a rich guy..She may confess that she loves you,but the truth is how much u put on the table to cater for her "addiction" ...
Do not be decieved into believing that giving her more money will solve her problem becuz it will not..Her problem is not the lack of money,but an uncontrollable desire and drive to spend all she has..You cannot rescue her..She is a deadly woman,LET HER GO.....................TBC

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4)THE GOLD DIGGER:
Several best selling books,songs and movies centre around the life or activities of a gold digger..She is out to suck u dry financially,emotionaly and even spiritually..She contributes nothing to ur life,yet she demands for everything from you..
A Gold digger has four basic moves:
(A):She decieves u into falling in luv with her..She comes around you a lot in order for u to foolishly believe that she likes u and wants u in a healthy relationship..
(B):She spends all ur money on senseless,futile projects and bankrupts u financially,emotionaly and spiritualy..
(C):She gets rid of u promptly when she is through using you for her selfish purposes..
(D):She moves on to another man..
A gold digger is primarily attracted to you cuz u are financialy secure,there is usualy no other reason...Your age does not matter to her,only ur bank acount....
Do not try to change her becuz it will just be a waste of your time and energy..The moment u discover who she is,just let her go....


5)THE BITTER WOMAN:
This woman has a history of unhappy xperiences with men and relationships..She has experienced rejection,relationship failure and probably verbal and physical abuse..She has been deeply hurt by men she dated and the relationships she contracted..Her wounds have not been properly healed so,she carries around her pain on her face..When u come in contact with her,you can tell she is hurting..She looks it,She talks it and she Acts it..Her primary targets of attack are men whom she holds responsible for the pain in her life..She neva considers the possibility that she could be responsible for her own pain and problems in life....Her conversations usualy revolve around her pain...She does not trust anyone,so any man who approaches her for conversation is tagged or labeled as a potential enemy...
The men she relates with can immediately sense that she is a bitter person just by spending a few minutes with her..Bitterness is acrimony and anger mixed 2geda,so it is easy to sense it in a person filled with it..
She could also be a single mother..She may be angry with the irresponsible father of her child who denied the pregnancy and put her through a lot of pain..She may also be suffering from pain of divorce...
Until she works on her emotions,a bitter woman will blame u for all her problems whether u contributed to it or not..She sees any man in her life as a potential enemy..She will pick fights with you for absolutely no reason..
No matter how hard u try,you will not be happy with a bitter woman............................

INTRODUCTION::
Let me introduce you to some deadly women...These women are toxic,and
are not good for you..They may look good on the outside,and make you
feel good,but the bottomline is that they will end up frustrating you in
ur life's Journey..forget about that sex drive,Women are emotionally
more mature than most us guys/men,and they use this skill to get what
they want in a relationship with men....If you are already in a
relationship with any of these women,i will sugest u come out of it...It
is definitely gonna be unproductive..Save yourself....
Men are moved by Sight,so they easily fall into hands of deadly women,I
warned You o.....Now,to the Main Issues:

1)THE TROUBLED WOMAN:
She may look great,beautiful and succesful on the outside,but deep
inside,she is really troubled.She has a history of Pain.She carries a
lot of emotional baggage which she has refused to let go of.She is
facing or has faced rejection in her life..We all face rejection in one
way or the other in our daily interactions with others,but the mark of a
Mature person is the ability to deal with rejection and put it in
proper perspective..Rejection is just the personal Opinion of the person
who rejected u,it is not how God thinks about you...
The troubled Woman takes on more than she can handle in life,so she gets
overwhelmed by her issues..A troubled woman usualy blames everybody but
herself for her problems in life..She neva gets down to the roots of
her issues..
She is driven to find solutions to her problems thinking that they exist
in a place outside herself..She is alwaz trying out a new preacher,new
religion or new doctrine..She is emotionally unstable..She is also very
argumentative and quarellsome..She tries to Prove that she knows about
subjects/topics which she has litle or no knowledge about...She may win u
over with her charm,but if u discover she is a troubled woman,just let
her go........

2)THE CAREER WOMAN:
The career woman is focused on developing her career..Highly
competitive,she is determined to rise to the top of her profession..She
invests her energy,resources and time climbing the career ladder..
She has litle or no time for relationships..She may dabble a bit into
romance,but she soon loses interest when her job is challenged..The
career woman may act very warm one day,and turn around and become cold
the next day if she feels the r/ship is threatening her career..
She does not give enough time to her intimate relationships to grow..She
has not developed skills to nurture her relationships,so they naturally
will wilt and die..She has history of broken relationships and offended
partners..She may contract a relationship in her company or place of
work,if she thinks it will help her ascend the corporate ladder
faster,and may hand on as far as the relationship favours her
career..Avoid her..

3)THE CONFUSED WOMAN:
She doesnt know who she is or what she wants in in life or in a
relationship..She is totally undecided,and is alwaz quick to start a
relationship..It is dificult to start a relationship with such a person
cuz u neva know what she wants from you..You neva know the direction in
which she is going in her own life...
You neva know her true feelings for u cuz they keep changing..Becuz she
is never quite sure of her feelings for her partner;she is the one who
usually gets dumped by her more serious minded partner..She keeps saying
she is thinking about the relationship,but she is not really sure about
her partner or she is processing her feelings ..But,she is never
certain about her feelings,so what on earth does she process or think
through?
She hardly comes to terms with her confusion..If u hold unto her,you may
also begin to experience her confusion in ur own life..
She is not sure if she wants you or wants to return to her ex..She cant
be sure if she is happy with u or happy with someone else..She is alwaz
uncertain..She puts the relationship in a constant flux of
confusion..The truth is that u will neva be happy with such a woman no
matter how good ur intentions are...A basic fact or Relationships is
that you cannot control another human being...Therefore,unless someone
really wants to be with you in a relationship,u cannot sucexfuly force
that person to be with u..The best Thing for both of u is to let go of
that Confused Woman...

To be continued..........

decepticos: they'll definitly be a team, but if supes were to go rouge, it will be for a short while, the movie continues with them wooping d bad guy(s), i still expect either the joker(the d amazing actor died) and lex luthor, a magic based entity like Black Adam (though he isnt supes villian), solomon grundy, or some alien entity like Darkeside, or the antihero/bountyhunter Lobo.

You just said my mind bro....

Who and Who they craze for this thread self?
Who dey compare Goat with Cow here?
Am not a psquare fan,but i love Dbanj......But as a Music lover,i can boldly and authoritatively tell u people that "Duo's" or "Groups" singers hardly get Nominations for Awards...Most of their nominations comes from "Groups" nominations,which are few......
Comparing a Solo star and a Duo is a comparism that shouldnt even exist.....
But for the Records,Psquare has better Hits than Dbanj....They have up2 four Albums certified Platinuums.....They are the Richest in Africa,and Moreover,they have two head(s) which are alwaz better than 1........
Infact,from the moment Dbanj left Mohits,HIS OWN FINISHED...............

veraponpo: @Poster,

I have thought like that too before but got to know later that GRAMMY is strictly an AMERICAN Award although they created other categories like Gospel , Reggae and Wold Music Categories. Under World Music category in which u have since Femi Kuti 3 times and King Sunny Ade, Tuface can't be put there not because he does not deserve it but because of his genre of music. Femi Kuti sings Afro-beat only, Sunny sings Juju only some other people sing Makosa, Salsa, Samba, etc Tuface sings hiphop, Afro hiphop, reggae, Afrobeat, Highlife etc. He is good and deserve the award but must either sign up with one American Record Label or stick to one of the above-listed genre-reggae, Afrobeat, juju,samba,makosa, etc. But for talent, 2 baba na king.

You are the most reasonable commentor on the thread,thank u...You just said it all...............
2face is a popstar,regardless of whether he sings hiphop,blues,rap,afrohip,etc.....Check Michael Jackson for example...Check Akon....Its a matter of being talented....You dont expect someone to be singing Rnb Rnb Rnb,while he can stil sing hiphop nd other genre's and still Wow their fans..Mind u,he still has bills to pay and Audience to entertain.......What ever happened to Diversity!!
Point is,2face has done Songs that deserve Grammy Awards,but the point is that,it is not an African Thing....Whether you want to believe it or not,2face is Africa's Biggest Talent and Export.....Others come Second...........Haters Are Gon' hate....

decepticos: HP was already a best seller and ppl anticipate movies of such thing (take the great Gatsby, or the 007 series, and even the adventures of Tintin), not saying dat superman or batman comics or marchendise aint hot in d market, but ppl dont really like the caped crusader no more, they prefer d bat (cos 90% of media dat features superman, show him holding back, d guys power is just too much, he has dis childish philosophy eventhough lore has it d guy is way older dan he looks, and there is his romance with governments quite annoying) and I believe that its d directors to be used that will sell this movie.

You said the truth bro.....But,with Batto there,expect a difrent tin altogeda....
So,how wil u like it? Both of them as a team or one of them the bad guy?

decepticos: well my 1st thought were (even b4 d post on who d bad guy may be) they were gearing up for the justice league, but can they (WB) pull off what the others (Marvel) did in/& b4 putting out the Avengers, that means a movie for most of the major members alone, then the final or other 1 that brings them together, no problem, that can be done, but two problems time and money. Even this superman bat man movie will be expensive as mentioned and may surpass its budget when u consider chris Bale's present worth, now u tell me, will dis movie b worth it?

You know na,once it is Warner Bros,Everything is Possible..........Use "HARRY POTTER AND THE DEATHLY HALLOWS PART2" as an Example....They had to bring back the Whole Casts,from The Sorcerer's stone upwards........

free2ryhme: fool's talking

No bad languages on the Webwaves pal......if u were wise enough,u cud have known why i asked that question

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