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I received this scam email. This one seems less creative than a previous one I have received because it says I made a request that I didn't.

"Dear Valued Customer
Microsoft account update
We received a request to terminate your Microsoft account ******@live.com (my email address). We will process your request shortly


To cancel request to terminate your account ******@live.com : Double Click To Update

To help keep you safe, update now. If your ******@live.com is not update before July 10, 2015 you will be automatically delete form our service.
Thanks,
The Microsoft account

Microsoft Corporation
One Microsoft Way
Redmond, WA 98052."

Why is it not authentic?

1. I didn't make any request.
Don't say maybe you forgot. If any mail says you did what you are not sure you did, please delete. Don't click on any link in the mail and don't follow any instruction it may contain.

2. (You will not see this in the above) The colour is the same but of different shade in the same line.
Never miss this! Although the mail was sent in blue, the shade of blue was lighter on the "Dear". A sign of alteration from probably an original mail.

Sometimes it is the font difference rather than colour you will notice. Some other times you will notice unclear features- the content just appears not as presentable as you would expect from a standard website.

3. Grammatical error
While once in a while you may find errors on blogs and websites of companies, never ignore grammatical errors from an unsolicited mail from a big or financial corporation or mails that request or suggest ( by colour displays, link provision with or without direct instruction etc) you click on any link.
You may have noticed the use of present tense where past tense should have been used in the above mail (like "update" instead of "updated" ) .

Read more here:http://boominn..com/2015/07/scam-email-dont-fall-for-it.html?m=1

cc: Lalasticlacla

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khachee:
i'm back with six different motives


PMICON...wats up?...saw ur pm...you got my reply?

Godsbeauty welcome on board

Seven different angels are saying, "Welcome Khachee".


*Khachee, only you with six motives?

Yes. Saw it not so long ago.*

^^^bro, if the consultation is free then why dont you simply advise them here online?!
and also, not ALL marriage need counseling.

^^^bro, if the consultation is free then why dont you simply advise them here online?!
and also, not ALL marriage need counseling.

I'm amazed at how negative some people can be. What's your problem with this person's post? So you think NL is a perfect place to counsel people? A place where people who seriously need counseling will be offering there views and countering the counsel of a professional?

[quote author=coogar post=35586894]don't waste your money on counselling in nigeria. they don't know squat & they are not even professional enough to keep your story confidential.

your wife is cheating - it's up to you to take any action you deem fit. [/b]

He doesn't even have to spend money. There are those who will help them free but they are trained for that. Please don't advise him against something that important.

freelance777:
Does that counseling of a thing truly do work? I am in a big doubt to that.

It definitely works if both parties are committed to having a successful marriage rather than focusing on who is right and who is wrong? If you both make that decision first, then counseling really helps.

Okay we finally got CNN's attention on our reactions to legalizing homosexual marriage.

One such reactions I read says, "When I came to America homosexuality was a crime, later it became accepted, now it is legal. I better leave before it becomes compulsory."

Below is a CNN report on Nigerians' reaction to the new law and President Obama's invitation to the new President of Nigeria, Muhammadu Buhari.


(CNN, edited)—Late in 2014 when my friend, Zachary, invited me to his wedding taking place in The Berkshires this September, I was less concerned about having to travel all the way from Abuja to Massachusetts. Zachary is gay. "What if lightning comes and strikes the building?" I asked. He replied that there had so far been under 100, 000 gay marriages in the U.S. -- and no bolts. "Of course, my partner and I could be the last straw," he added.
That exchange may have been facetious, but many Nigerians are genuinely terrified of gay marriage. And they are distraught over the U.S. Supreme Court's recent decision to legalize gay marriage in America.

They express sadness and pity for what is supposedly God's Own Country. They predict America's inevitable decline. But the emotion most potent in their words is fear. The kind you might expect from news of an impending tsunami. Many Nigerians appear terrified that, having finally won the victory on home soil, America will now set its sights on imposing similar legislature in countries like Nigeria. "We must resist this wave," I have heard people say.
Rumors of America's plan of action have already started making the rounds. Over the past few days, a number of articles in local newspapers have revealed what some Nigerians believe to be the secret agenda behind President Obama's invitation to Nigeria's new president, Muhammadu Buhari. Allegedly, the meeting, scheduled to take place in the White House on July 20, is aimed at persuading President Buhari to repeal Nigeria's infamous Same Sex Prohibition Law signed by the previous Goodluck Jonathan administration. "Beware of Obama's Invitation," read a headline in one of Nigeria's dailies.

A June 2015 survey conducted by Nigeria's NOI Polls (which works in collaboration with Gallup) shows that 90% of Nigerians believe their country would be a better place without homosexuals. In addition, 81% do not agree that gay people should have the same rights as other Nigerians. Only 30% of Nigerians were shown to believe that gay people deserved equal access to public services such as healthcare, housing and education.

Despite these hair-raising data, I would be surprised if the anti-gay bill were the only reason why President Obama has extended this warm invitation to Nigeria's president, what with issues like Boko Haram currently siphoning global attention. But if indeed he has the welfare of gay Nigerians in mind, President Obama must proceed with caution.


Careful Conduct

At the October 2011 Commonwealth Heads of Government meeting in Perth, Australia, British Prime Minister David Cameron told African leaders that if they resisted homosexuality in their countries, they risked losing aid money from the United Kingdom. Those words registered quite highly on the scale of African indignation. From Ghana to Zimbabwe to Uganda, commentators, columnists and government officials encouraged Cameron to zoom off to hell with his aid.
Nigeria, the giant of Africa, went beyond mere sound and fury. Within weeks, the country's Senate swept aside other pressing national concerns and called for a 14-year prison sentence for anyone convicted of homosexuality -- an issue that had previously not featured on the national agenda. In December 2013, then president Jonathan signed the anti-gay bill, which illegalized public displays of affection between gay couples, and banned organizations that promote gay rights. NOI Polls showed that 92% of Nigerians were at the time in favor of the new law.
Cameron's bid to advance gay rights clearly backfired. And not just because homophobic sentiments are especially intense in Africa, where same-sex relationships are illegal in the vast majority of the countries on the continent. The Prime Minister's controlling and imperialistic choice of words inspired the need to reassure any doubters of their countries' absolute autonomy from Britain. Choosing the exact opposite of what pressured views stipulate is sometimes a way to re-establish your freedom to conduct your own affairs.
If the topic of gay rights arises in his conversation with President Buhari, President Obama must remember that he is the helmsman of America, not of Nigeria. He must realize that "We must not allow these 'white people' tell us what to do" is increasingly becoming a valid reason for Africans to ignore both unconstructive and beneficial counsel on various issues.

The legalization of gay marriage in America has led Nigerians to build up a fresh readiness to resist anything homosexual. The anti-gay swords have been unsheathed. How carefully President Obama and other activists in America conduct themselves when advocating on behalf of the gay people in countries like Nigeria will go a long way in either ameliorating or worsening the welfare of those they seek to help.
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cc: Lalasticlacla, Ishilove

First published on: www.boominn..com

KanwuliaJara:
Blame your "ever merciful GOD of mysterious ways"!

The foolishness of humans is not a proof of being incapable of wisdom.
Oh don't tell me I'm responding to another atheist! I have felt it that you are revengeful in thinking. I think you just feel offended at God because of something you might have attributed to Him. God may be mysterious but He hides things FOR us not FROM us. If you don't give up too soon, you will discover the truth. Most precious things including knowledge and diamond are hidden FOR those who are willing to find them out. That you give up doesn't mean others have not or will not discovered them.

We fed four children.


*Welcome Cirmuell!*

KanwuliaJara:
No. Their sons get molested! Simple!!!!

Statistics say the opposite:

1. Their sons are more likely to molestest other innocent children
2. Those molested (female or male) are more likely to molest others related or not

Is it a joy to you that innocent children get molested? Do you have to see this as a revenge?

chuna1985:
meaning its too late for u to see the truth.

When av seen people suffer and die from HIV related illnesses and who tested positive for HIV as well as those who tested positive while very ill but whose conditions improved drastically once they started retroviral therapy- why won't it be too late to see your "truth".

KanwuliaJara:
Men are finally reaping what they have sowed!
Hallelujahs!!!!

*time to massshubate. wey my amala spoon?"!

So in your mind the men that molest females becomes the boys that get molested by females? .

chuna1985:
D lie has sunk.

meaning?

chuna1985:
I'm not talking about Nigerian doctors or House officers... I'm talking about real PhD holders who are renouned in d United states...


This is not up for arguments. Just launch an investigation into it.

Wen a lie is told for 20 years, it becomes the truth.

PhD is academic joo. Make Dem go si down. Even if there's politics in HIV, it is in many other issues too. It doesn't make it unreal o. I can't shout! HIV IS REAL. Don't believe those guys o. US or not doesn't make any difference- don't let me start on that at all.

holyteeboy:
They were nine girls saying the word 'jingoism' once

Holyteeboy, ten of the girls there are passionately against jingoism.

MrKontrovErsy:
whre are nairaland women abeg make dem come abuse moi
make we see who go run

Imagine a female friend got you drunk and started it while you are sleepy. That's a common scenario for grown up men. It is probably more devastating than raping a drunk woman because of men's ego. So better not ask for it. Google Male Sexual abuse and read life stories online before you beg for it o.

MrKontrovErsy:
whre are nairaland women abeg make dem come abuse moi
make we see who go run

Imagine a friend got you drunk and started it while you are sleepy. That's a common scenario for grown up men. It is probably more devastating than raping a drunk woman because of men's ego. So better not ask for it. Google Male Sexual abuse and read life stories online before you beg for it o.

chowlade:
They are men in woman's skin.

How do you mean? If that is true they will go more after the girls.

One of our house helps when growing up was popular for having multiple sexual partners- males. She actually made sexual advances at me at about age 5. Undressed both of us and asked for sex. Thank God I refused; maybe she done catch HIV or gonorrhea sef.

chuna1985:
Medically Its virtually impossible for any micro organism to live In a human being for 10 years n later kill the person.

Most people that die did not die because the virus is in their body but because it's presence empowers other diseases- including cancers- to suck life out of them.

Doctors who don't believe in HIV needs to go back to Med school. I once worked among HIV patients. HIV IS REAL O. ABEG!

Cutehector:
The good people dnt last...

If you buy that lie of the devil you will either live a mediocre life or die young. You better throw it off your head.

Just look around you or Google it, many people that changed our world lived long.

Bill Jenkins's memories of the childhood abuse he suffered are as sharp as the pain that accompanies them.

He remembers the diamond pattern on the linoleum bathroom floor tiles, the Moby Dick mural on the wall, the door handle which seemed so high up next to his six-year-old frame.

He vividly remembers, too, how he was expected to bath and touch his naked abuser, an ordeal which left him confused and ashamed, and changed the course of his life. 'The vision in my head is crystal clear,' he says.

What took place in the bathroom of that house in Sussex 50 years ago is shocking enough, but what makes it even harder to comprehend is that Bill's abuser was his foster mother - a woman entrusted with caring for him when his own parents couldn't.

'My lasting feelings about my childhood are feelings of fear,' says the 55-year-old from Thorpe in Surrey.

'I was always frightened of her and what she forced me to endure affected the rest of my life, but as a society we have a mental block about female abusers. We are shocked when we see it happens. We can't believe that women are capable of such things.'

But the stereotypical belief that sex abuse is a male crime was shattered last week by an astonishing report from ChildLine which revealed that the number of children reporting sexual abuse by women has doubled over the past year.

The latest figures from the children's telephone helpline show a 132 per cent rise in complaints of female sexual assaults. Where the children specified the gender of their abuser, nearly a quarter of all calls involved women assailants and the majority of those involved the callers' own mothers.
And while girls are still more likely to be sexually abused by a man than a woman, the opposite is true for boys. Research for the helpline found that boys were more likely to say they had been abused by a woman than by a man.

'This report has shattered common myths about sexual abuse,' says ChildLine founder and president Esther Rantzen.

'We're trying to reach out to boys because we've always been concerned about two things: one is that four times as many girls were ringing ChildLine as boys, and the other is that suicide is the most common reason for young death among late teenage boys and early 20s young men.

'The obvious conclusion is that they are allowing really distressing problems to build up without actually being able to ask for help.

'So it became very important to ChildLine that boys felt able to ring us - and more of them are. But what it's revealing is how many of them are being sexually abused by women.'

Historically, of course, it has been hard for society to accept that women abuse children at all. This is something which, according to Bill Jenkins, makes it even harder for boys to come forward and speak about what happened to them.

'What chap, regardless of age, wants to admit his abuser is a woman?' he says. 'It's not something that men will readily admit to. It implies you are a wimp.'

This emotional conflict is echoed by the voices of more recent victims, desperate boys and young teenagers who turn to ChildLine for help. Many of them fear being seen as unmasculine and worry that what is happening to them will be dismissed as a teenage rite of passage.

'I've been having sex with my aunt - she's 28,' says one 15-year-old caller, in a harrowing transcript of his call. 'I want it to stop 'cos I know it's wrong and my mother would go crazy if she knew but we keep doing it.'

'Experts have known for years that women are just as able to abuse children as men are'

And another 15-year-old: 'Sometimes when Mum is very drunk she touches me and tries to get me to touch her. It makes me feel really weird. It's not right.'

Following the case of Vanessa George, who pleaded guilty last month to seven counts of sexual abuse and distributing pornographic pictures of children at the nursery where she worked, the traditionally-held image of women as carers and nurturers, incapable of behaving in such a despicable fashion with a child, is being challenged as never before.

'Years ago, people were very shocked to hear that children were abused at all,' says child psychotherapist Diana Cant, who works with the victims of female sex abuse.

'The same is now true about female sex abuse. People can hardly bear to think about it or get their minds around it. We want to push it away. It flies in the face of the image of mothers as carers.

'It's important for people to realise that it does happen and, as we do that, it becomes easier for survivors to talk about it. Many children go through life believing they are the only people to whom this has happened. There's an enormous therapeutic benefit in realising that they are not alone.

'For it to be more publicly recognised is enormously important in helping people get help.'

Experts have known for years that women are just as able to abuse children as men are. Detective Chief Inspector Graham Hill, of the Child Exploitation And Online Protection Centre in London (CEOP), has interviewed several female sex abusers.

'There's this cultural perception of women as the home-makers, and that men are the sexually aggressive ones,' he explains.

'Society as a whole has bought into that and the law has been shaped around that. The reality is very different. But those attitudes are ingrained.

'When you start to talk about this subject, people tend to not want to know. They shut off because it's a subject they don't think is very common. They don't think it's something that warrants serious debate. As such, women tend to fly under the law enforcement radar.'

Yet DCI Hill insists 'ChildLine's findings are very much in line with our own'.

He adds: 'We come into contact with lots of female sex offenders and we know that there are a number of women who have a sexual interest in children and that they do sexually abuse children. The idea that's it's always a woman being coerced by a man is a myth.

'Although the number of female sex abusers is still very low compared to men, their offences tend to be of a more serious nature - at the top end of the spectrum.

'Although the number of female sex abusers is still very low compared to men, their offences tend to be of a more serious nature '

'At the same time, women abusers are far more likely to operate alone as opposed to being part of large-scale paedophile networks.

'Their offending tends to start earlier in life in childhood. It's not usually of a violent nature. They will start as children with other children.

'Many female offenders we have spoken to are claiming they were victims of long-term physical and sexual abuse in childhood. But that's quite a common claim for all sex offenders to make.

'We don't see large-scale networks with loads of women,' says DCI Hill. 'We see lots of men and sometimes a smattering of women who become involved.'

Disturbingly, he adds: 'The majority of women we speak to will have abused their own children. Women tend to sexually abuse women who are close to them.'

This makes reporting such crimes even more difficult for child victims, who know that by doing so they may be kick-starting a process which will ultimate tear apart their family and, in all likelihood, see them being put into the care system.

'If you are being sexually abused by your mother, there's such a profound and primitive confusion,' says Diana Cant. 'It completely confuses sex and care-giving for both boys and girls.

'They stand to lose everything and they fear that, if they report it, everything they know, their family, will be taken away.

'And it's not just their lives, it's the lives of their siblings. There is also the issue that while one child may feel ready to disclose abuse, their brothers or sisters may not and may deny it, so there's guilt and confusion there.'

Excerpts from Daily Mail, UK. Read the full story here: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1228366/I-abused-woman-haunts-day.html

OREMUSSANCTUS:
Apc is involve

Na wa for you ooo. Made me laugh. PDP was in power then sha.

You both should see a pro-marriage professional counselor.

Some people just talk about divorce as if nobody gets hurt- even the person initiating gets hurt by it. It only worsens issues. Statistics show that one divorce and remarriage is potentially going to end in another divorce. May be that's why the Bible's prescription is separation and reuniting if it has gotten to that point of moving apart. Just food for thought.

Heart to heart talk, yes. But about what? What should you talk about? How prepared are you to hear the details? What productive steps should you take to make your marriage better? That's why BOTH of you need a pro-marriage professional counselor.

If you can't get one, buy books they've written. Books like The Complete Marriage Book by Dr. David Stoop& Dr. Jan Stoop will be of help especially in communication and dealing with emotions in marriage. Please read together. I wish you the best.

You will meet someone that will make you happy and even take your daughter as her own. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to have a wife that loves you. Sorry o!

You can't be so sure about that!
Plus there is a very high chance a remarrying divorcee will divorce again- sometimes because s/he start seeing the original spouse again.

iamrealdeji:
so,we should just live the way we like?some say tradition is a big obstacle,some say religion is a big obstacle on this nl,these are the believes that turned America to a homolegal country today,afterall,we can phuck who ever we like cos religion and tradition can't tell us what to do. Ok ooo, on my comment about Miley kissing and fingering a girl,i said some girls dissing her will do the same thing 5 years to come,its a gradual process

tradition is not evil if it doesn't block our minds from showing care when it matter and, for me, if it doesn't contradict spiritual values.

iamrealdeji:
God forbid,its a taboo in yorubaland

Tradition is one of the greatest obstacles to successful marriage. For your information, many Yoruba men serve their wives this way. (service is one of the major 5 love languages)

Sassybae:
Dat man is cursed, disgrace 2men

I'm surprised a lady can respond like this. Different perspectives doesn't make anyone right or wrong. It depends on the circumstances.

I saw eight little girls playing with toys.
Eight players play my new game at once.
Why is "figure eight" used to imply sexy?


Next post should contain the word, "jingoism"

charijee:
[color=#CD1076]I met some beautiful girls today




*@PMIcon, my day was awesome [/color]

Hi Charijee, no numbers in your post. Please read the instructions closely. Thanks

One other thing I noticed is that some topics make front page after a long time. I was commenting on one recently (this is 2015) and didn't notice until someone mentioned the date it was posted (I think 2012 or 13)

So maybe I should add evergreen topics to the list but I don't think that alone will do.

Another person was surprised to have made FP again and was asking why s/he made FP

I think it's fairly okay NL Mods are silent on this anyway. Not knowing makes NL fun a bit(although frustrating to OPs who don't get a lot of views ) What do you think?

Anyway I salute the Mod in the Nairaland games section who is acting on recommendations from members for certain posts to reach FP subject to oga at the tops decisions. Check it here: https://www.nairaland.com/1566523/lets-complaints-suggestions

One other thing I noticed is that some topics make front page after a long time. I was commenting on one recently (this is 2015) and didn't notice until someone mentioned the date it was posted (I think 2012 or 13)

Another person was surprised to have made FP again and was asking why s/he made FP

asumo12:
OP u don make FP topics b4?

Maybe. I'm not even sure. I've had two over 11,000 views; I don't think that's possible for now without making it there.
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