Bread contributes to the big stomach of Nigerians. It shouldn't be expensive. It should be sold at giveaway prices. Including that overhyped Bokku bread.

Nazgul:

You'd be shocked to know that a considerable number of Nigerian graduates can't even communicate fluently in English language. Many can't express themselves when typing without making obvious blunders and typo errors. But that doesn't mean that you should make jest of them.

The attitude Dr Paul Eneche displayed is very common with Pentecostal pastors. He simply talked her down because he felt she was poor. Do you think he would have sounded that way if she was a money bag?

A lot of Nigerian pastors are annoyingly arrogant and rude when dealing with their poor members.

I watched the video over and over again and could literally feel the arrogance in his voice. Even if she was lying, was that enough to embarrass her globally by making her an object of ridicule? Why not wait until after the testimony then respectfully point out to the congregation that law doesn't award Bsc?

I don't blame him tho, Nigerians are blindly religious, so many of them wouldn't see anything wrong with what Eneche did and even attack the poor lady.

This was the problem _ the arrogance in his voice. You could tell he was already irritated by her diction and was looking for a way to belittle her. So his question was random and irrelevant to her testimony.

I have never paid him any mind and I don't put mouth in pastors matter. But this one was a lot to take in. He didn't stop chastising her. He went on and on.

If he had left her to us (Nigerians), we wouldn't have called the testimony fake. We wouldn't have dragged his church. Not when we have seen worse from Nigerian graduates. It would have been NOUN getting a full dose of the Nigerian dragging.

yungchop:


Bro can you please share the road map?? Is it possible for someone with a life science degree to switch to this role too? Without a degree?

By without a degree, you mean a degree in business courses? The answer is yes you can switch. I know many that did it. You would only need 2.1 and above and go buy fundamental accounting and finance books to get the basic terms and concepts. So it would be harder for you. Asides that you will be fine. ICAN and CFA are highly recommended and globally recognised.

Unittyy:


Is age not a factor in these big 4 when it comes to employment?

In Nigeria? Yes
Abroad? No

To you...

The man didn't act Christ-like a bit and if I didn't watch the video, I would have doubted such happened. It goes to show the level of classism that has infiltrated the church.

While it is shameful a graduate doesn't speak well or know the degree awarded to her, she already stated her foundation was poor. You learn grammar/languages easily in your formative years. Subsequently it becomes a struggle. Hence the saying "catch them young". He should have simply told her the correct term and if you watched the video, before the microphone was put to her mouth, she said LLB. Maybe stage fright, she switched to the popular BSc and went back to LLB when he mentioned it.

I bet she had the longest walk of her life back to her seat. Maybe a pastor in a neighbourhood church wouldn't have noticed if she said B.Ed. Sadly she went to a big church where the head pastor dresses like a medieval magician.

jazzman7711:
Yawn….

Minimum wage then was 80 naira a month.

So that list doesn’t prove anything.

Children posting rubbish.

Back then those prices were expensive for the common man.

Even in the 1980s, my pocket money for a whole semester at university was 500 naira, and it was more than enough for everything including catching cruise, shacking beer everyday etc..

Interesting...
Are you serious about this, Sir?

Gloriousgbola please confirm for a millenial.

Konquest:

I've SUCCINCTLY stated my points clearly.

My convo with you will have to end here and now. Period.

You have not stated your points as you have failed to tell me just one SOCIAL NETWORK that would guarantee us 6ft+ men. The ladies need it. Tell us one, kind Sir.

Konquest:

Poco, what's triggering you today? Huh?

You DIDN'T read my post properly before rushing to type a response here. You have to read it again to get a hang of my post. I merely stated my opinion and NEVER attacked you OR negated your point. As a veteran member of NL who is well-educated and well-traveled, I don't go about talking trash here. I deal with FACTS.

"Inner circle of influence" in the English language simply refers to all the close folks within your family, social circle, business circle, etc. I NEVER refered to "influential men" in Nigeria like you incorrectly stated. I was referring to the social network or social circle that is required to create the linkages for meeting your SPECIFIC kind of man OR woman. Period.

I clearly NEVER said in my original post that you said TALL men over 6 feet don't exist.

Last but NOT least, I have to emphasize here again the importance of reading and re-reading a thread post before replying or responding so as NOT to misinterprete the context of the original message.

Enjoy your day.

There is no social network required to meet men over 6ft in Nigeria. It is height we are talking of, not doctors, engineers or accountants.

Tall guys of over 6 feet exist, but you have to be within the same inner circle of influence in order to collide or have things going on within the romance ecosystem.

The above is an excerpt from your previous post. So I read and understood you clearly, Mr Well-Travelled. If you know any social network filled with men and woman over 6ft in NIGERIA, please drop it. After all you deal with FACTS.

GloriousGbola:


hold in there chioma - this is what awaits you at the end - though you need to make allowance for ravages of weed, STDs and alcohol

Haha. She would be fine. Endurance is not for unreasonable women like me abeg.

Tallesty1:
Nah! She is not our spec abeg

This is too much. I know people will say that she knows what she signed up for, but I'm sure this is not part of it.

The babe is really strong o. Her and Annie Idibia are the strongest women in Nigeria. Tuface has rested and Davido is in his own phase. Sadly it may not stop until his popularity dwindles. Which I don't see happening in less than 10yrs. If Chioma can endure for another decade, she should have his weakened self for life.

Tallesty1:
Chioma is a strong woman

Redpillers spec . Everytime they tell me I am not reasonable and they won't marry me, I know they want me to be an endurer like Chioma.

Konquest:

If the "short" dude in the video is truly the tall lady's spouse as alleged, then he's got a great deal of confidence to have wooed her over into becoming his long-term woman.

Tall guys of over 6 feet exist, but you have to be within the same inner circle of influence in order to collide or have things going on within the romance ecosystem.

You don't need any inner circle of influence to meet tall men of over 6ft. Which one is influence here again? Na everything una go tie to influence in this country? Are all the influential men in Nigeria over 6ft? Except you are referring to basketballers. That is the only inner circle that is full of tall men.

I know tall guys of over 6ft exist. I never said they don't. I said they are not many.

It is always the men no woman wants reacting with so much vitriol on these threads. Marry one kwanu, let's see you married to your morning newspaper spec. No way. Just to be typing with anger upandan. Mtcheeew!

I am glad I am not up to 6ft. You will think there are many tall men until you are a fairly tall woman. That is when you will know 6ft+ men are not many.

5'8 to 5'11 is fine. 6ft highest.

Else you will most likely end up with a 5'8 man and be bending like rubber band in pictures with your man. You won't have mind to rock heels with reckless abandon. And na like this them go snap you and your husband put online. They will na say you married him for money. God abeg o.

Farfalla:


That's why the thread is still on Page 3.
If it were Nkechi, Adesuwa or Funke who had committed the crime, the curses, insults and swearing would be on Page 12.

I am happy we have a break from the usual mudslinging today. First thing I checked was her nationality. Then I heaved a sigh of relief.

Farfalla:


I know they have a thing against bankers and Nollywood actresses. Nurses too?

Bankers and actresses na for homebased.
Nurses na diapora based.

Girlyy:



Hi Poco, Hope you're fine?
Some months ago you said something about 'Aluminium' in underarm spray causing black underarms.

Please can you recommend any Aluminium-free spray?

You can also recommend exercises for the tummy. I hope to get dumbbells soon. Like you, one of my fears is getting a big tummy and I'm seeing the negative signs already.

Thank you as I await your response!

Hello Girlyy.

I am fine, thank you. How are you too?

- The only aluminum free deodorant I know is Essentials. Problem is that it doesn't hold well and it is not a spray. If you need a spray, it means you have to take your time to read the contents of every deodorant when next you shop. Some people are more prone to these pigmentation issues. So if you are not seeing any signs, you can continue with your regular deodorant.

- There are several exercises that target the core. But first I would advise you to reduce sugar, heavy eating and late night eating. You can read this for exercises and how to go about them https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/flat-stomach-workout#bicycle-crunches

You are welcome

RevenuesBoost:
There are many things I can do with my cassava flour.

I can decide to make fufu with it.

I'll soak it in water for a while, remember it was sun-dried, it needs to get soft again so it gives you the smoothness fufu gives when touched.

Place the pot on fire
Then keep stirimg it till it gets hard.

The joy in eating this, is that, it's odourless compared to some fufu.

This is how I make fufu. I am not good at pounding. But I stir well. I thought I am weird. Nice to see my teammate.

How did the chinchin taste?
Talk true o.

Nonexisting1:
For the first in my life, I really feel emotional for a Nigeria vaginarian girl. I wish her more comfort and especially the strength to hold on to life and to her sons. The death of that nigga is really bad and the timing is worth crying for after looking at the family he left behind. The wife seems like who depended heavily on her husband and it's good and bad at the same time. Bad because moving on and carrying on will be very difficult if something happens to the husband such as in this case. I pray that God, family, friends and neighbors be there for her and her sons any time they need them. Amen

Chochocho, she has a thriving event management business. @dopeevents007. Go patronise her, make she fit see money.

What she looks like is a woman who was well loved and didn't have to deal with a polygamous husband.

Yormie1884:
@pocohantas
Thanks for this post, I'm new here and it has really helped and encouraged me greatly.
I know this post is old, I hope u or anyone else that can assist would respond.
Plz aside payoneer, which other paying app I can use to receive payment ?
I'm yet to set up my profile on Upwork cos I'm still trying to equip myself more about email copy writing since its the niche I've decided to go into.
Now I needed to be sure a reliable payment account is up and ready before uploading profile and engaging in any transaction, Na so I say make i open Payoneer.
Omoh the app just dey show me shege wey I no understand.
I got to the receiving accounts part, na there wahala hook... I couldn't obtain further info on how to get the details, I no fit go front I no fit go back.

Valwezzy:


You can use geegpay, grey.co, and even ChipperCash

You are right.

Hello Yormie, thanks for the kind words. I am glad you find the thread helpful. Please register on Geegpay. 2) Create a virtual dollar account. 3) Go back to Upwork and add the dollar account. You can't move the dollar out of the virtual account. You can only convert to Naira and move to your Naira account.

Eunoiaa:


Simple. Not unfairly pushing the bulk of responsibilities to the other person, especially because they "ought to" do it and were made or created for it. Joint ownership of properties. Present parenting. "Sharing" in the experience of pregnancy. I mean, the husband being there during ante- and post-natal hospital visits and care. Say, electricity units got finished, and one of them was home, they reload a new unit and not wait until the other got home (unless they have an agreement otherwise) because "it's their duty." I could link articles to how healthy marriages are to avoid being long-winded.

Oh, and see, even the most what you described that I cut out, they are exactly how I understand a healthy marriage to be so I do not disagree with how you've put it (now).

Gender roles as in "this is what this person (usually) does in the marriage," is dandy. And they sometimes overlap.


Of course, it's not prostitution to want to have sex because someone has shown you love and you want to show how happy they make you feel, too.

The OP just made it all seem like some "you-must-stick-to-the-rule-or-this-must-happen" thing. It may be my opinion, but I don't think ultimatums like that are *healthy* for any marriage. It was so selfishly worded and insinuated that she has sex with him because he feeds her, so all the conclusions on the thread that's been drawn from it aren't so far-fetched. It read like a husband who has been doing something, but the moment it seems like he cannot comfortably shoulder her/the financial burdens in the home, then sex is out of the picture.

That account was even created newly and I think that was all she posted. But then, this is Nairaland. If a man posted same, I bet they would have made the sense out of his post, not minding the delivery. I simply made sense out of her post because I can't deny not getting her point.

Humans know what they are doing. They know what is healthy. They only choose not to do it.

Eunoiaa:


You agreed to "men being men, and women being women," or else, people will learn, but men being (major) providers and women bearing the bulk of non-financial labour, evidently, isn't beneficial (especially to women). It's the reality, but it's not a healthy arrangement. And there are plenty people who do not conform to that unhealthy set-up, hence my point. They are not being "men", and they are not being "women." Their marriages are working fine without "man bring money; woman bring body" and the whole shebang.

In reality, one person must do more of something. I won't go pressing calculator over every family expense, but given that I don't take up the major expenses, I already know he is doing more financially. Same way he knows he wouldn't be in the kitchen most times. Except we draw a timetable of who cooks and split every bill down to the last kobo.

The issue with this setup isn't the model itself as housewives ensure enough balance in a home to allow the man function effectively at work. The issue is always when one party doesn't know when and how to ease and appreciate their spouses.

I am sure I never said man should bring money and woman bring body, but I agree a woman wouldn't willfully lay with a husband that consistently doesn't provide. It is not prostitution, it is only normal people would go out of their way for you when you please and make life easier for them. It is the same reason husbands fulfill 1984 promises after a good sex or meal from their wives.

What does this mean, I'm honestly trying to understand? You mean a man who would carry a child to term and raise them with me being a 'provider' to him?

I am hoping you are the one to explain how these "healthy" people do it in Nigeria.

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I believe in gender roles and I am sure you know this by now. It creates balance and accountability. This doesn't rule out both parties ensuring the home is running smoothly and kids are being attended to. I do know that if rice is finishing, I am the one to most likely notice first and if the gen is faulty, he would also notice first. After all, he is the one that would switch it on most.

If I prepare their lunchbox, he would bathe them and whoever is going in that direction would drop off.

You see I didn't use the words "masculine" and "feminine" because I don't see it from that angle. It is more of accountability to ensure smooth running of the home. We are a team, but even in a team, the striker won't randomly leave his position and go to the goalpost. Now imagine they don't have positions. Everybody just enter field and do the one you feel like doing that day.

Eunoiaa:


There have been successful marriages (or at least by the couples' definition) and there will continue to be successful marriages that do not run on this "a man is a man and a woman is a woman" stuff that y'all are prescribing sha. It doesn't even translate to real life where the lines of characters/personalities are blurred.

The fact that you that don't even believe a man should be an 100% provider is telling that you concede to compromises on the gender roles. They are not "fixed rules".

I don't believe a man should be a sole provider, but I believe he should be the major provider, given that we all know 80% of the time, the women handles childearing, nurturing and running the home alone! The only place I see most Nigerian men cook and clean with their wives is abroad and we all see how they complain and refuse to adapt.

Anything less, I don't recommend or practice. Goodluck on finding a man that would sometimes be a woman and allow you be the man.

inoki247:
Lol my own be say make the Dollar rise back since things no wan gri come down..

people earning in Dollar right now are at loss bkuz after converting money no go still reach....

I am not at loss. Anybody who has the interest of others and the country at heart wouldn't be excited that dollar was almost hitting N2000. I am only hoping the prices of good and services crashes in a month or less.

inoki247:

Lol things still bought at 1900 rate how can your 1100 rate meet up im talking from experience...

While things are expensive, I have noticed minimal decrease so far and hopefully it gets better.

descarado:

I love that a lot.
Actually, I will tell you the truth.
A lot of males here love and admire you. Some that are fighting you are simply those who fantasies to get a babe like you.
They rile you up cos they love the interactions whichever way it comes as long as they are interacting.
Just reminds me of a younger me and much older me at work having some black men under me.

Hahaha. I know right, because I wonder why they can't stay away from someone they claim to hate, that supposedly hates them too. I have decided to starve them of the interraction until they become submissive and respectful.

descarado:

Darling, I have no clue.
A friend watching it live on Instagram called to tell me.
Paramedics got to her fast and sprayed something on her to reduce the effect of the acid.

My friend was crying on the phone. Check Instagram.

That lady has been through a lot. I am short of words. Let me go check IG

descarado:

U know korra obidi?
Battling her life for survival now.
Acid poured on her by a masked white lady in uk with a knife.
What is going on?

Jeeeez. Korra? This happened?? ?

descarado:


You get mouth too much.

Na my work, mama.

poshestmina:


'Agunechemba' Generation of men!!!They want the glory without efforts.

They wanted "supportive wives that are not liabilities" ,women started leveling up to it.
Now they want "providers" that will be at the background except time to off pants.

If I buy motor for man ,he must pay Instablog and Gistlover to carry the news that his woman or wife bought it!

You sabi them. Who dey do that kind love with kwanu? Anything they want to talk, they should talk. I no kuku read am.

If these same guys dare know your husband is not living up to his responsibilities, they will troll you with it ehn. You go regret the day you voiced out such.

poshestmina:
Personally I'm a supportive partner but to be the provider for the 'head'(Good book and society says so) will never be my thing ,except inevent of ailments (this also depends on how he treated me/kids when the going was good).

A man is seen and known as the head of the family and get all the accolades regardless who provides ,he should take the responsibilities alongside the accolades.
Abi how many men ever came out to say "my wife fed and housed me for years"? But it's happening everywhere!!
I was once in a situation where I was the one footing the bills and I'll hand over money to him to 'pay' as Head of the house... These things happen but the woman hardly gets recognized!!!

A man that is not a provider or ready to be one has no business getting married and that's the truth.
If the man provides shelter ,I renew Dstv subscriptions and fill the gas .
Let the man pay School fees ,I'll happily pay for school bus ,PTA levies etc
Weekly/monthly allowance, I'll add mine when I get to the market or mall.
It's a 70/30 or 60/40 thing!

Providing and protecting his family will forever be a Man's responsibilities.
You don't want to provide but you want sex,and societal plaudits?
Akuko mary!!!
No be who pay the Piper dey dictate tune again?

They will even expect the wife to hide it.

You will hear things like, "I know one woman, she bought car, but you will think her husband is the owner. Very submissive woman."

You want the accolades without the work?
You are not getting it from me.

Proserpina:
As a man do not get married if you are not ready to provide.

It's as simple as that.

✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️

Or marry your good women.