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This one na ragebait. Because if she doesn't do all of this, what would she na do?

Fear women that too like man. They can kill you in a second. I hope she gets a longer jailterm. She is not innocent at all, neither was she locked in a room. She is the one that held her friend's leg.

folake4u:
Thank you for this!!

Millennials claim to be the best thing since sliced bread, until they open their mouth waaaaaaaa and spill n0nsense.

Millenials even good, didn't you see the grandfather actor who said something worse? But anywhere you touch them, GenZ this, GenZ that. Very immoral humans.

This is the generation that complains of GenZ.
You will think GenZs invented sin until you put a microphone to their mouths. Then they start talking all sorts of nonsense.

No be you go tell me what to do.
Na me born them. I have suffered for them, they must suffer for me too. That is the cycle.

Emaprince:
Though the man went too far asking for money from the 4k pounds. But its possible the familly needed it to solve one or two..and the man probably didnt have. I mighht be wrong. So the man went too far.

But saying the man intentionally wanted to wreck her is a lie and careless statement women make to paint a man bad. A man that sweated and sponsored her abroad where her life will become better wanted to wreck her? Make it make sense. If that never wanted her to progress..he would have kept her back home like many Naija men, who have seen what our women changes to, the moment they touch abroad and smell power.

And talking about all tbose home jobs...in todays world where a lot of homes has maids? How many wives do house chores today. Make una no dey claim jobs which most of una husbands are paying some else to come do.

The family didn't need it for anything. Don't create scenarios that doesn't exist. If the family needs extra income, it should come from both savings or not by force.

If there is a domestic staff, someone manages them. I have had 2 and I know managing them to get the best is not easy. The mental labour, routine and scheduling that comes with it is not play. More reason some women do not even want it. You reduce physical work and gain mental and emotional labour because they would wake up some days to piss you off.

No woman should do 50:50 with a man. Let alone a Nigerian man. Only exception is if she is higher earning, in that case she should take more financial responsibilities and not 50:50. Anything else is TOTAL SCAM! You want to be the head, go out and work.

He should sweat and work, hopefully he can land a (white) Canadian woman this time. Then do 50:50 with her.

ednut1:
She agreed to 50/50 but the man still wan touch her savings. Why

Don't mind him and his supporters. He wants to financially wreck her. It was an intentional move.

She even tried to do 50:50.
I cannot do such with any man. Be him African or Asian. Biologically and culturally, women already carry the burden of procreation, caregiving and home management.

YorubaLord:
Na oversabi go kapi dis one last, las.

Maid = Modern-day Slavery. Simple!

I like how some of you think you can gaslight me or anyone into not speaking when they want to. Maid = modern slavery indeed. Maybe everyone should stop working and go sleep at home. Such slow thinking and lack of depth.

If no be say the married woman kids are older then the alleged relationship, I for suggest DNA. Because why would a wife be locking arms with a man in the name of bestie? How does male bestie work? She doesn't post her husband, but everyday she is posting Fredrick abi wetin be im name.

The marriage no last 3mths sef.

You fit take your time still marry wrong.

https://www.nairaland.com/8279646/give-me-honest-opinions

This was your thread in 2024.
Who ignore signs go later see wonders.

Your wife is gaslighting you.

You go soon craze for that house.

Allthingswork:
I have hobbies that are celebrated off of nairaland.
Me, get a hobby?
You? Get a hubby. It's long overdue. Even if you swing both ways, just get you one and leave the game already.
I don't mind chopping a ban for saying this. I know she's watching! 🤷

There are good single women. Rather than marry those ones, you are here crying and convincing yourself I give a fck about you.

Why would you even care if a bad woman like me marries? Can you see are the one centering marriage and women? Because I don't care if y'all marry or die single.

Nairaland trolls need to be studied.

You don't mind chopping ban for crying?
It must be important to you. But na me give a fck. 😂😂😂😂

Allthingswork:
You, too, you are obsessed with being centered by men and what men say about women everytime. Even if their rage-baiting you, you must always sha fall for it and react. Of which they know you will.

Was that the only comment to saw that a female made ? No. But, in your usual irked self, you saw a window of opportunity to do your usal proxy insult and shade throwing at NL male commenters. 😅

You will heal someday in this lifetime. I bet you. Even if it's at 80 years of age, you will sha hang that boot of resentment. That's if you want enter heaven,oh. That's if you believe in it, since many here are atheists. 🤷

I don't give a fck about you, your fellow men, and what you say/think about me, bro. Let alone being centered by men. If I did, I will probably be a changed woman in 2026.

You have been the one constantly crying in my mentions and you should heal first. Or get a hobby.

epainos:
Well done ma. Thats the way to go.

Let me jhuat be frank, the original writer of that article is among those who will relocate abroad and have serious crisis in their marriages. Lol.

The truth is that when a man is solid and busy, he wont even have time to push his wife to the kitchen. The woman is meant to supervise. I am not advocating for girls not to know how to cook, but Nigeria has a long history of seeing women as kitchen utensils. When that same women get abroad and they are empowered, the men cant cope and there will be crisis.

A man who goes after the maid juat because she can cook will have wahala too. That same maid will only be submissive in Nigeria. Let her get to an environment she is properly empowered and then realises her value.

So, let the men keep going for maids or girls who can cook only. Lol. Dem go soon understand that things have changed.

I agree with you because this hasn't been a problem in my circle. He was even the one that suggested we get one to clear out my schedule. The most important thing is accountability. I hire, onboard, and ensure they carry out their duties well. I cannot be running around to go buy fish and ponmo in addition to other duties.

I really enjoyed my house assistants, especially the second one. Before I enter the kitchen, she has washed and blended every. It was a win win relationship for all of us.

Happy birthday to her. I am reminded her and Dbanj are birthday mates.

I think they have one song together sef.

dangotesmummy:
lmao draculas no wan gree rest

They are obsessed with being centered by women. You begin to wonder if they have crowned the women in their lives.

Skj13777:
With that kind of salary you can employ a graduate . So house help cost you N200,000 a month and your saying your still looking for house help? Your story does not add up.

English shouldn't be that hard. "I have had two house assistants". No part of my post said they worked at the same time. It is also clear that it is past tense. If at all they still work with us, you should understand that you do not know our income range and nothing is out of place for 200k a month.

Thank you

oroje1:
If you don't use harsh or unspeakable words on them when they make mistakes,then kudos to you and may God bless u abundantly.. Amen!!!

I have very strict rules and I have even suspended where necessary. No need to make up extra conditions before asking God to bless me. If He hasn't been blessing me/us, we won't see such money to pay them.

gabbytabby:
We are all at different stages of life and paying for some of the domestic services if you can afford to is an issue frowned on by people with a poverty mindset.
I can do it all ends up shortening peoples life especially in patriarchal societies with a it’s a women job mentality. Get and pay for help if you want to. Don’t let essentially lazy and poor men gaslight you into an early grave.

Enough said. 🎉🎉🎉

banku:
Lier, lier, lier. Your pants is on fire!
Even when most of you are looters, you refuse to pay minimum wage. Before I believe you, tell us what else they do for you.

You don't have to believe me.
Neither am I putting any effort into making you believe me, but if you ever employ one, endeavour to learn something from my post.

DeepSight:
Your terms are fair but I think your argument is simplistic. In this country we all know there are underage people given out by families / agents to "be trained" elsewhere and they have no choice and their salaries which can be minute, go to other people who they never see. You will be told they are house helps too, but its a form of modern human trafficking. I will be surprised if you dont know how rampant, even cultural, this is here and across Africa.

I think you should take this argument to those families, because I spoke for myself, not anyone else.

MightySparrow:
Train the girl - child. Sex is no longer a thing to tie any man down. intimacy gadgets are now taking over.

Once again, every child would be trained to cater for his/herself _domestically, financially and otherwise. Thank you

MightySparrow:
De

However, if you have female children train them for where they are going. No matter how affluent you are and what educational training your daughters have, whoever marries them marries a woman first and expects her to perform the domestic role of a woman. Anything else is addendum.

Every child, male and female, would be trained to tend to themselves and environment.

Esthered:
People can't relate and shouldn't be dignified with a response.

I am hoping his question is from a good place, but you can never trust Nairaland M's.

Harddiskng:
“What is important to us as a family”, like what?

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Most women that I have seen use a maid for almost everything, just use them to converse their energy so they can grow fat and round

Whatever makes you sleep better, bro.

Start your home and run it how you want. This is how we run ours.

No further explanations. 🤝

CodeTemplar:
Armed robbery is a work. Prostitution too. Which of them do you do?

Most Nigerians are not armed robbers or prostitutes. I work legally and honourably.

CodeTemplar:
what do you do for a living?

I work like most Nigerians.

Why asking?

stuffs2002:
Abeg gerarahia

See the way your mouth sharp dey praise yourself. Let us ask the maids and see if they will say all those glowing attributes about you

There is no praise there, it is simply basic decency and fairness. It seems like praise to you because Nigerians like taking advantage of people.

Kaczynski:
Slavery isn’t just chains and whips, It’s about control. It’s about making someone dependent on you for their livelihood. It’s about treating human beings like resources to be exploited.

Lol! You are simply delusional.
Adults took a job as a domestic staff. They go home to their families everyday and you say I am exploiting them? Which labour rule was flouted? Their future is in their hands now, they are not working with me anymore.😂