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I have this particular wordpress site that is getting far to much request for comment moderation unlike the others I also run. What could be the solution to this before it boomerang into some major hacking activities on the site.

Alihamdulilahi....I personally know some people whom we fasted together last year and they are no more. I pray the extra time we all use on earth counts in favour of us when we meet our Creator. Amin

For a bachelor like moi, noodles and bread do the trick for sahur and ogi with moin-moin or fried meat for iftar

I downloaded past questions on the website for her(ascon.org) but I still need inputs of people who have done the exam

A sister of mine want to put in for ASCON exam. Can anybody who has done the exam shed more light on what its like and if its really worth.

Tony soprano...badest boss ever liveth. RIP

Didn't work for me...though I don't know the plan am on

I went with Whogohost and its being fine so far. I also discovered that you cannot register a two letter domain name according to NIRA policy. The only way to get such a domain is if it comes under auction.

I need a .net.ng domain. Can anybody suggest a good company to go with.

36409GE thanks in advance

My Ogagun baa, wonderful actinng. Keep it up. Hope to see you making your millions in the movie industry soon. At least your performance shows that of someone who knows what he is doing . Nice production as well. You could try creating more online hype to increase your appeal outside naija borders

Nice thread plus I appreciate @shady26 side of the discussion as well. Its easier said then done even though we know that applies to everything in life. A lot of folks know all of these stuffs about life and success but do they really have what it takes to forge ahead to actualize it? It sure entails a lot of discipline and consistency on ones part plus His infinte mercy and Grace.
What I feel from my own of view is that being fufilled as an individual in what one does is the ultimate (even though we know we have to consider others around us, because the breadwinner of the house who wants to embark on a journey of self discovery and fufilment should think of the impact on his dependants as well). May He who guides and knows what's good for us direct us to the correct path.

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@rufaai I already did that. Thanks man

How do i change nameserver on syskay host. I want to move my hosting to dreamhost.

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Sorry for the salata mix-up..Salat and solat should be preferrable

Is it allowed to wear a cloth with image on it for salat, even if its just the logo of the designer (like the small ralph laurel logo)?

I am sure I am not the only one who would like to have an answer to these questions.
1) The ablution made during ghusl, is it valid for salat?
2)I heard once from a source I cannot remember that one should try not to allow for the water used for ablution to dry off on once body before entering the mosque (not to sure how the statement was said )
3) Also, is it allowed to clean once body after ghusl (taking into consideration the other questions incase they are true)?

Please try and include your source as usual.
Salam Alaikum

Thanks everybody..I know about the importation thread and am a customer of chrisvicmall already. But am actually talking about the different UK, US products like Nivea roll-on, Smart collection body spray. If anybody knows anything, you should try dropping the info here instead of mail, am sure other people are interested as well.

Anybody know how Akubay clothing and shoes are being imported into Nigeria.

**Please if you do not have anything reasonable to add,kindly move to the next thread**

Anybody knows the procedure used in importing all this body products in bulk( perfumes,deodorant and the rest)

A lot of us guys want to get married ealry because we know the advantage of doing so....but na money dey do ojoro. As yourba's would say "owo ni a fin sey oko obirin"

by Sound Vision Staff Writer

More Muslim marriages in North America are breaking up in their first year than ever before, according to Shahina Siddiqui, executive director of the Islamic Social Services Association of the United States and Canada (ISSA).

The first five to seven years are the most challenging of any marriage. They are a time a couple spends getting to know each other better and adjusting to each other's habits and personalities.

Below are some of the main problems couples face in the early years and some possible solutions.

1. Lack of proper information before marriage

A number of problems are caused simply by the fact that the couple and their families have not discussed crucial issues beforehand. Some of these include:

whether or not the wife will work outside the home
will the couple wait to have children
which city and country the couple will live in after marriage
will they live with his parents or have their own apartment
These and other relevant issues need to be discussed and decided in the beginning stages of the marriage process.

2. Who's in charge?

One of the biggest problems is the tug-of-war between couples over who is in control in the relationship. This has led to a stalemate in disagreements, as well as bitter feelings.

Many couples today are refusing to compromise within moderation when differences arise.

While from an Islamic perspective, the husband is given the leadership role in the marriage relationship, this does not mean he runs the couple's family life like a dictatorship.

It must be remembered that Islamically, a leader is one who serves, manages, provides and nourishes. A leader must also have humbleness and humility.

A husband exercises the right kind of leadership by being listening to and consulting (doing Shura) with his wife.

Also, a husband is bound to follow the rules of the Quran and Sunnah. So differences in opinion should be referred back to these sources, instead of becoming a source of tension and problems.

3. The divorce option

Once upon a time, "divorce" was the seven-letter word most Muslim couples avoided using. Today, amongst many Muslim couples in North America, it is one of the first recourses turned to when conflicts occur in marriage.

It should be remembered that out of all of the things Allah has made Halal, divorce is the one He hates the most. Couples need to look at several other alternatives before turning to this drastic measure.

They should seek the help of older, wiser and trustworthy elders who will try to help them resolve their differences. Generally, they need to make a sincere, concerted effort to try to work things out before divorce is seriously considered.

4. Sexual problems

It is unrealistic to expect the issue of sex and sex-related problems to mysteriously disappear once a couple gets married.

In the sex-saturated culture of North America, couples tend to place very high expectations of each other in this area. They also expect instant results.

In reality, it takes time, commitment, disappointment and investment to establish a sexual relationship in marriage which is in tune with the needs of each partner.

It's important for Muslim couples to walk into marriage with proper information about sex and sexual etiquette from an Islamic perspective. They need to know what is Halal (permissible) and what is Haram (forbidden). They should also keep in mind that spouses must never discuss their sexual relationship with others, unless it is to get help for a specific problem with the right person or authority figure.

On a similar note, it's important for both the husband and wife to remember that they need to make themselves physically attractive to each other. Too many couples take marriage to mean an excuse to now let themselves go. The couple or one of the partners may gain too much weight, or may not care about hygiene and their looks in general. The reverse should be true: spouses should take the time out for these things and give them even more attention after marriage. Our beloved Prophet has recommended husband and wife both to do that, May Allah's peace and blessings be upon him.

5. In-laws

The first few years of marriage are not just a period of adjustment for the married couple. It's one of getting used to in-laws and vice-versa.

Husbands, wives and in-laws need to practice the Islamic rules of social relations with each other. These include: avoiding sarcasm, backbiting, calling each other by offensive nicknames, and making a special effort to respect each other as family members.

As well, comparisons need to be avoided, since every individual and every couple is different. So wives should not be compared to mothers and sisters. Husbands should not be compared to fathers and brothers. In-laws should not be compared to parents, etc.

In addition, there should be regular, healthy contact between spouses and in-laws. This can mean visiting each other at least once or twice a month, or calling if distance makes it difficult to get together.

6. Realism

Boy meets girl. They fall in love. They live happily ever after.

This is the plot of many a Hollywood and Bollywood movie, where everyone is "perfect". Real life is very different.

Couples may enter marriage with high-flying romantic ideas and expecting their partner to be the ideal human. But all humans have good and bad points. Husbands and wives have to learn to accept each other, warts and all.

6. Making a schedule and establishing rituals

Making a schedule may seem like an end to spontaneity but it's not.

This allows you to establish your own lifestyle and rituals as a couple. It's especially important if both the husband and wife are going to school and/or working. In this scenario, a schedule helps in setting time aside for each other during a fast-paced week of work and studies.

Some rituals couples can establish may include:

praying at least one prayer together
attending a study circle together once a week
deciding on a weekly menu
having a pancake breakfast every Saturday morning
setting aside one day on which no work or studying will be done
setting a day when both the husband and wife will clean up the house
setting a time to discuss finances and a budget
making a phone contacting during the day
deciding on a particular day and time once a month at least to visit each other's parents
By discussing and setting up these rituals, couples learn how to talk to and feel responsible for each other. They also learn to become a team instead of two people living in the same with separate lives.

7. Marriage as a restriction

Muslim men who have grown up in North America may find marriage restricting. After all, before, they could hang out with their buddies and get home by 11:00 p.m. and no one would say a word. After marriage though, they have to be home by 7:00 p.m if not earlier.

While marriage comes with responsibilities and a tighter schedule, the benefits are also there. It takes time and patience to realize that in the end the benefits (i.e. a life partner, kids, etc.) are greater than the restrictions.

8. Friends and Islamic activities

Friends are a joy and a good friend is someone you want to be close to for the rest of your life.

But friends are often the source of many marriage conflicts. Too much time spent with friends, either hanging out or on the phone, means time lost with a husband/wife.

Also, friends, especially if they are of the same age group, may give the wrong advice on marriage, due to their own inexperience in the area.

Some possible solutions to the friends dilemma could be:

working out a "friends time" at least once a week where the husband and the wife meet and/or talk with friends privately
developing friendships with other married couples so spouses can befriend spouses
Islamic activities fall in a similar category. Young Muslim activists may think they can keep attending those three-hour Muslim Students' Association meetings as they did before marriage. Not so.

Too much focus on outside Islamic activities takes away from spouse time. Give Islamic activities their due but within a balance of everyone's rights, including those of your spouse.

9. Not keeping secrets

A number of young married couples are notorious for not keeping secrets, especially related to sexual matters, and exposing their spouse's faults. This is not only unacceptable. It's unIslamic.

Couples should seek to hide each other's faults. They should seek advice on marriage problems from a "marriage mentor", someone who is older, wiser, trustworthy and has the best interests of both parties at heart.

10. Finances

How much should be spent on furniture, the house, food, etc. These are staple issues of any household and can lead to a tug-of-war between husband and wife.

To keep spending in check, husbands and wives need to draft a budget then stick to it. The household will run more efficiently and that's one less source of conflict in the marriage.

A special note to husbands: in the beginning of marriage, husbands tend to shower their wives with gifts. They do this as an expression of love and because they want to provide for their wives. However, as time passes and they keep giving, they go into debt or experience financial difficulty. As well, wives get used to a certain level of comfort which husbands can no longer afford.

Providing for a wife (and later on, a family) is not just reserved to material things. It includes spending time with her, and treating her with equity and kindness. In fact, most wives would prefer this kind of provision over expensive gifts.

11. Give each other space
A number of couples think being married means always being together and serving each other hand and foot.

Wives may initially take over all household chores, not letting the husband help or even do his own things (i.e. ironing his own clothes). They later regret this as household responsibilities increase and their husbands become dependent on them for the smallest things.

Husbands may think getting married means being with their wives all the time. This later may lead them to becoming irritable and cranky.

The key is to focus on being caring, fond of and accepting each other and giving each other sufficient space. Doing this provides a necessary balance in a relationship which is so close physically and emotionally.

:http://www.soundvision.com/info/marriage/survivalguide.asp

----Girls----
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---- The boys don't want to reach ------
---for the good ones because they ------
- are afraid of falling and getting hurt. ----
Instead, they just get the rotten apples-
--- from the ground that aren't as good,
but easy. So the apples at the top think
- something is wrong with them, when in
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I guess most Ladies in this country of ours grew up to believe that all they have to do is receiveth while the man giveth..WRONG
While not turn the tables and give that special man of yours a treat( which am sure he would love) making him hold you dearer to his heart.
The ridiculous thing about it is that all it would cost you is just at your finger-tips.
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"The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever." – The Notebook

engrhamid: Anytime Sir.
Guess you were able to fix or bold 2 screen the other time?

Fix wetin...na throw-way ooooo.

@Engrhamid ...honourable,long time. Thanks for the heads-up