ogelekpomgam:
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Hmmm.you must be a good mathematician.oya..what are the two numbers that when you add them,they give you 10 and when you multiply them,you have 21?

7,3 (logically)

Mathematically:

x + y = 10 _______________(1)
xy = 21___________________(2)

Substituting eqn (1) into (2) after making x the subject of eqn 1

x = 10 — y

Therefore, y (10 — y) = 21

10y — y² =21

Putting it into the quadratic form of ax² + bx + c= 0

y² — 10y + 21= 0

You'll eventually get to use the quadratic formula on it. You'll get y first, then you can plug it into eqn (1) and get the value of x. But that's too long and not worth it. Last learned this decades ago. Interesting to see that it makes sense.

Hopefully some secondary school student is reading this.

isthatso:


I always say the biggest mistake Africans did to themselves was the abolition of polygamy by Christianity. It is also the reason why there are so many single women 90% of whom are dating married men secretly and who will never find a good husband and will not want the shame of having a bastard child wheras they would have been respectable wives with legitimate children under polygamy. It is the reason why women have become cheap playthings to married men of means and why women are no longer regarded or respected in society.

if you meet a single presentable woman of 30+ in Nigeria, 90% chance she is dating or has dated a married man, above 35yrs 95% chance, above 40yrs, 99.99%!!!!

Polygamy isnt abolished in Africa. It's allowed under Christianity too and Islam.

Why wud u settle for a lady in her 30s though

Na for Nigerian marriage problem dey

DEMZEE:


Polygamy isnt abolished in Africa. It's allowed under Christianity too and Islam.

Why wud u settle for a lady in her 30s though

I dont been abolished but we take it as a taboo

just saying,

JustforMen:


in the current reality, men dont have any of those gains anymore as the simp dominated society and the law has taken away all of that and you cannot honestly claim that men are still dominant.
so what dies a man gain in marriage today?

I don't know about u but here in Africa, we gain dominance, authority and responsibility

rocknation62:
Half of the men will gain stability, support, love and commitment if they make a good choice in a wife. The other half will make alimony payments, pay child support and be dragged through the courts until he's broke and his name in mud.



Choose wisely

I dare argue that ALL men will gain stability, support, love and commitment if they make a good decisions without MARRIAGE!

Continuity!

Akuruoulo:
What if u die doing does things ?

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You die like a warrior enjoying life to the fullest，not some old neglected man,who has become a nuisance to his own family, or in old people's homes or even in the hospital slowly dying away.

isthatso:


I dont been abolished but we take it as a taboo

just saying,

If u are wealthy, it's not a taboo in Africa

itsRhamzy:
Nothing much..

You marry her and foot almost all bills including hers.

Both of you get children.

The responsibility of those children rests on your laps from school bills to feeding for at least 2 decades while your wife contributes almost nothing in those bills. she'll tell you it's your responsibility.

A man can survive alone but a woman can't.

She wants your commitment in raising her children in the best possible ways as you're the disposable gender.

You're just a workhorse tool to fulfil her most desired needs -money, commitment, children etc.


So when you look at these factors as a man, you figure the only thing you gain is kids.. feel free to delude yourself.

brize take the gospel furtjer
I wouldn't say it any better

And to the comment, you forgot to add that those kids which happened to be d man's only compensation might not even regard the man .

The reason you see in today's society, women's day and mothering Sunday is always d loudest

While man's or fathering Sunday is almost swept under d carpet.
They(children) might not even notice even till old age that d provision of school tolls and other financial situation are mitigated by the father cos the mother is the secondary person that hands in the money physically to her children

So basically men has nth to gain

DEMZEE:


If u are wealthy, it's not a taboo in Africa

true but for the average christian polygamy is taboo but they still have mistresses or are mistresses lol

The whiteman really did a number on us!!!

If you re not yet a "man", you re a "victiman" "victim-man"
many will think that being a man is all around "having money" or being "strong emotionally/physically"
having money will only solve 20% of the issue..
Now what does being a man mean?
It simply means, a state of having the total mechanism of how to govern a fellow man/ or a woman...
When you have these rules, you re free.
How can you get these rules?
First, you must be in close & Active relationship with God.
Because the secrets of the lord is with those that fear him.

FemalePunter:
Family is the ultimate.
that's what he gain

DEMZEE:


I don't know about u but here in Africa, we gain dominance, authority and responsibility

Even in Africa, bro!
Men are just doing donkey job in most cases... nothing for them apart from suffering!

We can't continue to desecrate the union of marriage, our very own survival depends on it.

Just build your women up to be responsible and all these worry would go away.

Feminism, copying western culture, glorifying indecency and money worship is why the African is beginning to be at loggerheads with their females.

It's you the men encouraging it because you're western wannabes.

Go back to the traditional African way to fix!

JustforMen:


Even in Africa, bro!
Men are just doing donkey job in most cases... nothing for them apart from suffering!

Those are the poor and average men though and they are meant to be suffering cos men must become and men are judged based on our burden of performance

Bornsinner7:
Nothing! Nothing!!

The woman gains everything.. her title changes from Miss to Mrs.. the man remain Mr before and after marriage..

If anything should happen in the marriage.. the law favours the woman for the kids to be with her while the man goes back to bachelorhood

It is finance? you hear ratio like 90/10.. 70/10.. 80/20 where the man takes the bigger responsibility..

It is sex?? the ladies just lay there and the man does the work like an unpaid slave.. no pleasure just thrust thrust then cum.. sometimes he has to beg the entire family and even the king of her village before he can even taste it

Chaaaaaiiii , abeg who offend u , make d person help us beg u oooO, u haf finish everything, u no even liv one single thing.

isthatso:

true but for the average christian polygamy is taboo but they still have mistresses or are mistresses lol

The whiteman really did a number on us!!!

That's why I advice u don't become average as a man. Increase ur value and become polygamous

Youngmoney21:
Unlimited subscription to unmetered Kpekus

Unlimited kwa? You will know it is limited when the time the tune start to change to "I'm tired", "Not in the mood tonight", "Is it food"

If you find a good man or woman for yourself only then will u understand the importance of marriage. The joy , happiness & blessing.

Kestolove:
all those men supporting d op are loosers who don't have the means to get marry so they tend to discourage those that want to marry...May God count us among those that will marry

Tell us the gain. Don’t attack the OP!

Just simply tell us the benefits of marriage in today’s world.

weddingchannels:
Poverty is What's making a lot of People think this way, Who takes care of your seed(Children)? Who nutures and care for them?
The reason why we have alot of Children that lacks home training is because there are no parents to train, both parents are in the labour field。 The Man and woman gain companionship that you can never find outside marriage, there is God's blessing and It's God's institution.
The woman usually stay back so the man attains great heights for the family. Please see a responsible elderly person That can council you in the right way.

The children are no longer necessary!

ibedun:

No longer necessary or critical to life!!!

Please quote the one you feel is not necessary please.

DEMZEE:


That's why I advice u don't become average as a man. Increase ur value and become polygamous

Thats exactly what I tell men, focus on your career, make a lot of money and Nigerian women will dance to your tune whether you are married or not!!

Ofadaman:
Singlehood is the only time you're free, enjoy it while it last, after marriage its a slow ride down to depression.

When u have the chance fire as much as possible, it's one life, time is our only commodity don't be the guy that regrets all the pzzy, he'd miss out on, enjoy it now, be it that you're old or in marriage ， you'd look back and say you enjoyed life.

Don't hold.back, pzzy, drinks, party, good life, music, hangout etc, it's the very essence of life..

Your talk dey very point, but common that's not the essence of life.

xynerise:
Kids of these days won't understand how marriage works. They are so used to their fun style dating culture

Tell us the benefits first and then how it works.

isthatso:


Thats exactly what I tell men, focus on your career, make a lot of money and women will dance to your tune whether you are married or not!!

Exactly bro

U come first
Ur purpose second
She comes third

Never pedestalize ur woman or any fucking bitch

kokaneprodigy:


Which one is “without fear of another man sharing her” this is naivety at its peak.

Is it tho? Human psychology is very interesting especially the psychology of males, most men are jealous naturally, common boyfriend dey get jealous because his grilfriend was seen with another guy, not knowing he has no cliam to her becuase she's a free woman. Marriage often solves this problem because a married woman in our society behaves according to certain expectations.

DEMZEE:


Those are the poor and average men though and they are meant to be suffering cos men must become and men are judged based on our burden of performance

There are more poor men in Africa than anywhere else on earth, so how do I understand your argument?
Poor, mediocre and average, in fact completely useless women, still gain the same with any other woman in the institution of marriage.
I still don't see what a man gains even with your argument which suggests that if a man does not have wealth, then he deserves to suffer.
Another double standard against the man who marries the usually broke, dependent leeches without requiring them to have money and even if they have money, it is for their own selves alone! most women are broke anyway...I did not say ALL because an insignificant percentage still dey try get some money without men.

Since u won't gain anything in marriage, no one is forcing u to marry, remain single pls, it's not by force.

VULCAN:
Fascinating how the people that are insulting the OP are absolutely incapable of carrying out the OPs request of listing points to counter OPs argument.

The average blackman is just a bundle of emotions with only a teaspoonful of critical thinking.

Sounds very factual, need to look into it.

gudvibz:
Truth be told same can be asked of some women. I mean if u truly are honest you'll see that there are homes where women are the financial backbone yet you don't hear them crying or screaming for the world to hear.

I have seen homes where the men where just figure heads ,the women do everything yet the man takes the glory and they aren't dead.WHAT DO U SUPPOSE THE WOMAN IS GAINING FROM SUCH OGA POSTER

how many of these home do we have today?