Righteousness2:
Brother, the Truth of your Matter is that you are CONFUSED!
You Don't know what u want! You don't know what u need! You are Neither here nor there, which is Confusion!

The Relationship you need now is a Genuie relationship with JESUS. You need to release yourself to JESUS so He will work on you and repair you to be the Man you are meant to be.

After that is Done , you will Understand and see Clearly what is for you.

What are you saying? That man clearly knows exactly what he wants! He has specifications which most people lack. In as much as expectations usually ends in disappointments, the few that become successful thrive with bliss.

Lostchild:



It is not bad if I see that Nigeria babes cannot handle me.

I'm not sure Nigerian babes want your type.

Lostchild:


1) I am not a Nigerian by personality that is why I find Nigeria culture and women very strange

2) Too many dick on a woman is very bad even though I will accept it as part of life. I just cannot trust my heart and re-ally on someone that is capable to change.

3) I just don't fit into Nigeria society, that is why I find it hard to merge with a typical Nigeria woman.

4) I must say that You are very right in your words

I keep laughing

1) You are Nigerian by birth. So that makes you Nigerian, OP. You're just not like the average/typical Nigerian.
2)Why does it bother you so much if a woman has had many sexual partners? You keep saying it's bad but don't specify why you think it is.
3) I get it. Nigerian society and culture can, at times, be very homogenous and if you are an outlier, then it may seem hard to fit in. But you need to create a space for yourself within the society/culture. The whole culture should not be thrown away in your thoughts and actions. You are Nigerian and you can't deny it so just find a space for yourself. Hence, going back to my original post about working on yourself instead of seeking a relationship.

You need a therapist and not a wife.

As many here have said, you should consider seeing a therapist, especially since it appears you could afford one.

Respectfully, some of the information you typed comes off as ethnic self-hate and I think your idea of a western mindset might be flawed as well. Caucasians are not a monolith. Some actually enjoy African movies, some are not outdoorsy and don't care about nature. Many are in Europe and don't speak English, speaking their own tongues as well. You also seem to have a distrust of the marriage institution based on your past experiences, even though there are obviously success stories.

I think a therapist could help you explore if there are really attributes you are looking for in a spouse (which could be present in any woman regardless of race), or if you feel inferior as a Nigerian and why that might be the case.

Good Luck!

You may be trying to find a perfect woman who will fit into the center of your universe. Please don't. The ideal women of our fantasies do not exist, sadly. Rather work on improving yourself, enjoy yourself. If you love western music, enjoy it!. If you love nature, enjoy it!
I too suffered from this dilemma, I understand that many average girls that grows up in the conventional Nigerian society tend to be mediocre, plastic, religious and very materialistic. They know very little but are the highest consumers of the current Nigerian trashy pop culture.
Again environment plays a big role. If you are an intellectual or have a sophisticated taste , and you live in a common, mundane Nigerian community comprised of lower and middle class citizens, weak power supply and bad roads, the kind of girls you'll meet won't meet your standards. It seems you live one of such places. Change your environment, go to highbrow places, go to where the big boys and high class roll, mix with them, worship in churches like House On The Rock, COZA etc. Go to places that exhibit your values, travel, INCREASE YOUR STATUS. And I tell you, you will meet lots of Nigerian ladies that meet your standards.
You are not insane. The average, poverty ridden Nigerian environment doesn't fit your taste and western ideology. You can't be forming Yankee when you live in adjegunle, change your environment and broaden your horizon. Don't let women be the source of your worry, stop searching for them. Let your lifestyle attract them.
Pls native tongue is not a sin, respect it. There are lot of cringey things nigeria has, but native tongue is not one of them, if you can't speak it, don't condemn another who speaks it. English is a borrowed language. Don't let the western mindset eat you doing inside out.

Ishilove:

I'm not sure Nigerian babes want your type.

Ishilove
To Nigeria women; money and affection is their priority in a relationship.

But

To western women; affection and compatibility is their priority in a relationship

Ishilove:

I'm not sure Nigerian babes want your type.

Ishilove
You want to kill me with laugh

You must be right
You are some how right.

But the ones I dated in the past they still love my style. Some said to me that I am very rare and strange

First time I have heard someone soul is a white man.
You are having personality disorder. Google it. It won't take you 30 seconds.
You need help from a therapist. It is a mental issue.
You know what people seem insane then is what people overlook to be normal.
A man will create is own deception and then says he identifies as... And wants the society to accept his madness and will create a damn community of psychos who will later will be offended as people do not accept them.
The society is going to perpetual chaos because everybody is offended about a particular thing.
Look at this man for example a black man identifying as a white man in soul and spirit.
God save you say you no talk this in the 19's lobotomy them go do for you

MisterRuk:
You may be trying to find a perfect woman who will fit into the center of your universe. Please don't. The ideal women of our fantasies do not exist, sadly. Rather work on improving yourself, enjoy yourself. If you love western music, enjoy it!. If you love nature, enjoy it!
I too suffered from this dilemma, I understand that many average girls that grows up in the conventional Nigerian society tend to be mediocre, plastic, religious and very materialistic. They know very little but are the highest consumers of the current Nigerian trashy pop culture.
Again environment plays a big role. If you are an intellectual or have a sophisticated taste , and you live in a common, mundane Nigerian community comprised of lower and middle class citizens, weak power supply and bad roads, the kind of girls you'll meet won't meet your standards. It seems you live one of such places. Change your environment, go to highbrow places, go to where the big boys and high class roll, mix with them, worship in churches like House On The Rock, COZA etc. Go to places that exhibit your values, travel, INCREASE YOUR STATUS. And I tell you, you will meet lots of Nigerian ladies that meet your standards.
You are not insane. The average, poverty ridden Nigerian environment doesn't fit your taste and western ideology. You can't be forming Yankee when you live in adjegunle, change your environment and broaden your horizon. Don't let women be the source of your worry, stop searching for them. Let your lifestyle attract them.
Pls native tongue is not a sin, respect it. There are lot of cringey things nigeria has, but native tongue is not one of them, if you can't speak it, don't condemn another who speaks it. English is a borrowed language. Don't let the western mindset eat you doing inside out.

Thank You
Thank You
What a splendid advice overall.

I don't live in the ghetto, but your write and advice is splendid.

MisterRuk. Bravo to You once more

Boss13:
You need a therapist and not a wife.

Lol

soundOsonic:
First time I have heard someone soul is a white man.
You know what people seem insane then is what people overlook to be normal.
A man will create is own deception and then says he identifies as... And wants the society to accept his madness and will create a damn community of psychos who will later will be offended as people do not accept them.
The society is going to perpetual chaos because everybody is offended about a particular thing.
Look at this man for example a black man identifying as a white man in soul and spirit.
God save you say you no talk this in the 19's lobotomy them go do for you

I am sure you still don't understand personality traits.

Do you think every one has a crazy Nigeria mentality as you?

Common man, go fvck your wife.

Lostchild:


I am sure you still don't understand personality traits.

Do you think every one has a crazy Nigeria mentality as you?

Common man, go fvck your wife.

I share some traits in your post but it seems you have some core Nigerian traits you are hiding. It’s glaring. Work on yourself first.

Seun and these fake writers... Let me pretend.

I am not sure what a "caucasian" heart is, but you haven't seen the level a white woman will go to finish you in the so called Western countries. One mistake and you will quickly land in divorce court. From there you may end up on 18 years of child support and possible alimony. It doesn't matter if she took on a lover and gave him doggy style, there is very little you can do.

If you are an introvert in Nigeria, you will be an introvert in Germany or America. Western women do not "endure' marriage. Marriage is about happiness. The moment the happiness leaves be assured she will give her happiness to another man. Your heart would burst into flames if you know the things I know.

Nigerian men should stick with Nigerian women, since they are too lazy for love. Always remember money=love, no matter if the woman is Chinese, Brazilian, Australian or Scottish. If your money is not coming forward, you will end up as a doormat for your Western wife or she will give her all to another man. Once a Western woman knows her man won't behave as a husband, it's called alienation of affection. She can use it mentally to justify getting it from the front, back and side form the man of her choice with no shame or guilt.

Lostchild:
My married and single brothers of Nairaland.

I was wondering if I should share this on romance or family section. What I am about to write here may look weird but I just want to see your opinion over my insanity. Even my own mother marvel at me sometimes and she keep wondering what type of person she gave birth to.

About me
I am a chronic introvert and everyday I need alone time to stay healthy.

I am lover of peace and I can only dwell in a place where there is peace and harmony. I just can't underatand why people quarrel and fight. I prefare dialogue to do what is right and just.

I am financially OK

I am old enough to get married but I have too many problem with my personality that is preventing me from falling in love with any Nigerian woman.

I have dated pretty and hotties, but I always see that Nigeria women cannot handle me at all.

I feel so depressed as I strongly feel that I have a caucasian soul and I feel so alone and completely LOST.

MY PROBLEM No (1)
I need a woman with a complete western (mindset) mentality
I need a woman who will watch western movies with me.
I need a woman who love western music, rock, pops, acoustic, country and hip hop.
I love nature - and I like to expand my horizon but most Nigeria women don't even know what nature Is.

PROBLEM No (2)
All the beautiful ladies and girls I see all around me, they are just too Nigerian or too traditional. I have travel to different cities and town and I still see the Nigeria genes in them.

I cannot stand a woman that listen and dance over Nigeria music because Nigeria music are crazy, the music irritate me and always makes me feel so depressed.

I cannot stand a woman that watch Nigeria movies because I feel very depressed over Nigeria juju movies.

I cannot stand a woman that watches zee world as India culture is much more crazy with idolatry than Nigeria.

I cannot stand a woman that has tribal mindset or always speak her native tongue. Anytime I see and find a lady/girl attractive, immediately I noticed she has tribal mentality, and can speak her native language apart from English. I will instantly loss interest in her because I see Nigeria language as the number one evil in Nigeria soil and I dont want this evil languages to be transfer into the life of my unborn children.

MY PROBLEM No (3)
I cannot trust today's women that has fvck too many dick

I see marriage/wedding ceremony as useless.

I see that the love many Nigeria women confess to men are fake. To the typical Nigeria woman, money comes as the first priority

I have seen too many people divorce in marriage, there are just too many.

I have seen genuine men of God even divorce and their wives became the devil in their life.(shocking)

Me and all my childhood friends, our parent all went through bitter divorce and our parent hated each other.

MY PLAN.
I am planning to do baby mama plus. I mean, no wedding/marriage ceremony, no marriage certificate until she has proven her loyalty to me for many years.

I am planning baby mama plus because I just can't trust a woman and marriage of today.

I have this mindset that if I do baby mama plus, if she troubles me so much I can easily flee and left the house for her just to save my peace as I cannot stand conflict and heavy nagging women.

If she get tired of me or she start cheating, I can easily move out of our conjugal relationship and still take care of our children.

My western personality is really tomenting me with depression.

Guys; Am I insane?
Brothers; Am I being selfish?

What do you think?

Your opinion is highly welcome.

EDIT.
I was born in Delta and I cannot speak any native language apart from english. I have come to hate all the Nigeria languages because it brings so much division. Like i said I love peace and harmony

I have seen men who are suffer emotionaly because they married the wrong woman.

It is not a sin for a person like me to desire to find someone like myself, a compatible lover and a friend. For me, a long lasting relationship is base on mutual compatibility.

If i can even find a lady with half of my personality in her, I will even thank God, but I have not not met any of my personality type at all.

There is more harmony when birds of the same feather fly together. And I must say that all the comment I received here are just making me laugh and I keep laughing

your sit is vacant at Shiloh 2021

In life, extremism is sometimes insanity. You life history will be needed for me to know what to say. Or better organise your visa next month.
NOTE: Even in heaven women nag, so pray harder to go to hell

NaBanga:
Seun and these fake writers... Let me pretend.

I am not sure what a "caucasian" heart is, but you haven't seen the level a white woman will go to finish you in the so called Western countries. One mistake and you will quickly land in divorce court. From there you may end up on 18 years of child support and possible alimony. It doesn't matter if she took on a lover and gave him doggy style, there is very little you can do.

If you are an introvert in Nigeria, you will be an introvert in Germany or America. Western women do not "endure' marriage. Marriage is about happiness. The moment the happiness leaves be assured she will give her happiness to another man. Your heart would burst into flames if you know the things I know.

Nigerian men should stick with Nigerian women, since they are too lazy for love. Always remember money=love, no matter if the woman is Chinese, Brazilian, Australian or Scottish. If your money is not coming forward, you will end up as a doormat for your Western wife or she will give her all to another man. Once a Western woman knows her man won't behave as a husband, it's called alienation of affection. She can use it mentally to justify getting from the front, back and side form the man of her choice with no shame or guilt.

You are 100% right. I know a lot about western women. In the western world women are very powerful and the divorce rate is as high as the sky. The divorce always favors their women.

Marriage that lead to divorce= alimony in the western world can devastate any man financially and emotionally. Child support is OK, but alimony is a pain in the ass

But I still prefare western women than Nigeria women

Me and Nigeria women with their naija mindset and tribal mentality no rhyme at all.

One day, I may settle for a Nigerian woman just for the sake of having chidren but I will still find her incompartible if she doesn't have half my traits

Map1:
your sit is vacant at Shiloh 2021

Laughing

Lostchild:


This my personality issues has been in my life since childhood. I thought I will grow out of it but it has gotten worse. I cannot change myself what makes you think I can conform any woman to be as myself?

I mourn in silence

Bummer!!! just found my other half, I feel your pain .
Ignore the bush monkeys I can relate buddy, I can relate

Villagedude:
In life, extremism is sometimes insanity. You life history will be needed for me to know what to say. Or better organise your visa next month.
NOTE: Even in heaven women nag, so pray harder to go to hell

Prayer can only take one to heaven and not hell. It is true that women nag but some are extreme.

About my life history is a very tough one. I cannot suffer making money, then after making money I will suffer in the hands of woman.

One issue I have when it comes to women is trust issue. I saw my elder brother suffer so much in marriage even though he is a good man and provider. My elder brother his life never remain the same again. I still feel for him when I remember him

Organize a visa next month?


lol

Lostchild:


I am sure you still don't understand personality traits.

Do you think every one has a crazy Nigeria mentality as you?

Common man, go fvck your wife.

You are a psycho. Google the word personality disorder. Your persona is bullshit. White people don't behave like what you described. I diagnose you with personality disorder.
I am serious dude please do well to google it. You might need a therapist who will help you.

Carchoice:
I share some traits in your post but it seems you have some core Nigerian traits you are hiding. It’s glaring. Work on yourself first.

I must tell you the truth I do not have any Nigerian trait. I did not even write all my trait here because if I do too many people will judge me harshly.

Even your so called garri (eba) is making me sick anytime I eat it.

Can you suggest any Nigeria traits you think I have that I am hidding?

Waiting to hear from you in return

soundOsonic:

You are a psycho. Google the word personality disorder. Your persona is bullshit. White people don't behave like what you described. I diagnose you with personality disorder.
I am serious dude please do well to google it. You might need a therapist who will help you.

At first I never insult you but you are just being too foolish. Your brain is inside your temper.

Like I said. Common man, go fvck youself

Lostchild:


You are just too foolish to understand personality traits

If I shared something like this on quora. I will receive a lot of encouragement because white people are not as foolish as Africans like you

And foolish people like you can only be found on Nairaland.

I see...how unfortunate you are...not everyone on quara has understanding

Its one thing to be very easy to live a stupid live wasting in hollow wisdom

And its another to live according to divine principles..I speak of the later which is beyond your understanding....

Seun lost his mind to atheism reading quora...so I am not surprised

individual difference. there is no general or definite rule showing how an individual should live his or her life

[Oga travel abroad and never come back.....safe journey in advancequote author=Lostchild post=100367696]

1) I am not a Nigerian by personality that is why I find Nigeria culture and women very strange

2) Too many dick on a woman is very bad even though I will accept it as part of life. I just cannot trust my heart and re-ally on someone that is capable to change.

3) I just don't fit into Nigeria society, that is why I find it hard to merge with a typical Nigeria woman.

4) I must say that You are very right in your words

I keep laughing[/quote]

Righteousness2:

That's the Greatest lie and Deceit the devil has used to Deceive you. Let no one Deceive you, You are Fully Responsible for your choices and Decisions you take.

"I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live"

Oga righteousness go and sit down inside dustbin, are you his God?

soundOsonic
Let me gives you a digest version of myself

I may be an introvert but I can still work and flow very well with everyone.

I am faithful and true in my words and ways
I am gentle
I am tender.
I am meak person
I am very caring and respectful
I am selfless and kind
I am a professional in my work and field and what I do has to be well done.
I am a lover and a genuine care giver.
I love and help every I see.

I always smile and I try to put smile on the face of others.

All the hottie's I have dated in the past, they all wanted me to love them. To these women relationship is base on money and looks, but for me it is not

Many women and ladies respect me because they know that I am not a walking erection. I am person of discipline.

You said I have personality disorder because I don't behave like a typical Nigerian person

It is only Nigerians that will insult a person because he is trying to seek opinion. What do you understand about personality disorder?

What is the meaning of a psychopath?

Can someone with all the personality above be a psychopath?

I don't mean to boast about myself but this is why I see that Nigeria is an insane place for many guys like me to live.

I may be a Nigerian by birth but I am not a Nigerian by personality

You lack understanding because your fvcking brain is inside your hot temper

Lostchild:
soundOsonic
Let me gives you a digest version of myself

I may be an introvert but I can still work and flow very well with everyone.

I am faithful and true in my words and ways
I am gentle
I am tender.
I am meak person
I am very caring and respectful
I am selfless and kind
I am a professional in my work and field and what I do has to be well done.
I am a lover and a genuine care giver.
I love and help every I see.

I always smile and I try to put smile on the face of others.

Women desire to be my friend

Girls has fought because of me.

Sisters quarrel and almost fought because of me

All the hottie's I have dated in the past, they all begged me to love them. To these girls/ladies relationship is base on money and looks, but for me it is not

Even a one night stand begged me to date her.

Married women and ladies admired me because they know that I am not a walking erection. I am person of discipline.

I am a rare catch.
I am a prayer point

You said I have personality disorder because I don't behave like a typical Nigerian person

It is only Nigerians that will insult a person because he is trying to seek opinion. What do you understand about personality disorder?

What is the meaning of a psychopath?

Can someone with all the personality above be a psychopath?

I don't mean to boast about myself but this is why I see that Nigeria is an insane place for many guys like me to live.

I may be a Nigerian by birth but I am not a Nigerian by personality

You lack understanding because your fvcking brain is inside your hot temper

Don't quote me if you haven't read what personality disorder is.
You are not a psychopath but you have personality disorder. You need a therapist you will be fine.
No need to drop your CV here. And don't quote me again I am done oga.

Lol wahala everywhere






To be a Nigerian woman's z not easy ooo
God no go shame us shaa


Op pls find a way to create ur own country or u move out from d country biko

Lostchild:


Prayer can only take one to heaven and not hell. It is true that women nag but some are extreme.

About my life history is a very tough one. I cannot suffer making money, then after making money I will suffer in the hands of woman.

One issue I have when it comes to women is trust issue. I saw my elder brother suffer so much in marriage even though he is a good man and provider. My elder brother his life never remain the same again. I still feel for him when I remember him

Organize a visa next month?


lol

Sorry for ur bro. Trust and love are not the same thing, when go into relationships seeking trust first, it usually makes one restive and expectant. And when what you expect is higher than what reiceive, you;ll easily get disapointed. You have built barriers to help escape the harsh realities of this world. But it is important you undestand that there varius estraneus variables you can't control. So adjust!
Pray work

You are selfish, self centered, you are not an introvert but someone with developmental issues. All girls in the world love money not just Nigerians, take a look at DR DRE and his estranged wife to see what a western girl can do to you. Rural/village life they hungry you not being close to nature rubbish. The way you were brought up has a lot to do with the way you are reasoning today. A true lover of music knows that when it hits you feel no pain, so you don't have genres you listen to you listen to all. Find money and go to Europe or wherever you will meet your western girls because the Nigeria ones are not enough to go round. Most important thing here is that you need to see a therapist because you go still your western wife problems.