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Poloyanabo2:
Of course I Poloyanabo can never do that, but I want to know what that Feminist called shortty thinks

Shortyy is a feminist??

baralatie:
I read too to bottom.

the part that I have issue with is how does a woman tell er husband that his child is not his

trust me it is not as easy as it sounds.
it is easy for one time affair that is maybe for the one night stand episodes of a fling that went south but two,three,four.
the only solution is divorce and even at that it is the most painful process to even start sef.

the best is the advice you gave at the beginning.if as a women you just don't have it for him.For Christ sake leave him before it is too late

that we are good neighbours is better than to be enemies at heart

That for now is the best solution for women who are already caught in the web of "how do I reveal this secret" ?

For those who are about to enter into marriage with that mindset,number one is the BEST bet.

Deceiving someone into marriage,you'll only live a life of guilt and fear.

Dapcity007:
We are talking about cheating men
REDPILL is against cheating
It focuses on our wellbeing as men, personal development, developing a vision and plan for our lives, having strong inter gender relationship Dynamics, building our wealth, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, having good personal hygiene, avoiding and defeating manipulative women


The problem is that society specifically women have with redpillers is that they meet some of us in our anger phase and assume we are all rapist,sexist, misogynistic bigots, who all hate and disrespect women

These is not True at all


5 phases for redpillers and anger which is viewed as extremism is one of them

Lol

Redpill preaches against cheating??

Are you even active with the teachings??

Dapcity007:
Shortyy is a feminist??

By her comments so far, she sounds worse than a feminist. How can she compare cheating to paternity fraud?

StacyO:
That for now is the best solution for women who are already caught in the web of "how do I reveal this secret" ?

For those who are about to enter into marriage with that mindset,number one is the BEST bet.

Deceiving someone into marriage,you'll only live a life of guilt and fear.

even that best solution of a divorce is a problem.
how does a wife of over 10 years in the line of companion explain to a man that I want divorce because the kids ain't yours and seriously I never loved you
ha!
that is a nuke delivered straight to the heart


the easiest one that I know of if real which some men don't bother their brains about is the one where the wife after giving birth to like 3 kids to the husband wakes up one day and brings in two full teenagers older than the kids and she says honey uh these are also my children .I had them when I was in the village and blah blah blah.. .
that one the husband can get angry and overlook it and bear the load but the other one.
damn!

StacyO:
Lol

Redpill preaches against cheating??

Are you even active with the teachings??

See!!!

Spinning plate theory is not cheating
Don't prejudge the REDPILL
Im

Shortyy:
And you don't damage kids when you sleep around? Oh please!

I don't support anything, but don't do to others what you wouldn't want to be done to you.

You have just been blabbing on all the threads about this paternity fraud.

Lets imagine a lady gives birth and lost her child and at the same time a the husband's side chick gives birth to a baby. The side chick is not willing to take care of the baby, so the husband arranges with the hospital to present the child to the wife as her kid. after taking care of the kid including supporting paying of school fees, buy of clothes/shoes, going hungry sometimes to ensure the kid have something to eat. I mean the normal sacrifices a mother does for her kid. Then one day a woman appears to claim the child as hers, and DNA test proves she is the mother of the child, child while the husband is the real father. How will you feel?

agitator:
You have just been blabbing on all the threads about this paternity fraud.

Lets imagine a lady gives birth and lost her child and at the same time a the husband's side chick gives birth to a baby. The side chick is not willing to take care of the baby, so the husband arranges with the hospital to present the child to the wife as her kid. after taking care of the kid including supporting paying of school fees, buy of clothes/shoes, going hungry sometimes to ensure the kid have something to eat. I mean the normal sacrifices a mother does for her kid. Then one day a woman appears to claim the child as hers, and DNA test proves she is the mother of the child, child while the husband is the real father. How will you feel?

JESU!

another wahala

baralatie:
JESU!

another wahala

Bros, it is not another wahala.

This is the real correlation with paternity fraud.
In paternity fraud it is not the cheating but has more to do with presenting another man's child to the husband as his own child after every every, one day another man shows up to claim the kid(s).

Dapcity007:
Those tight fresh pussies ehnn
The temptations we go through

Now,this is exactly what redpill is all about.

It teaches you how to salivate over a kitten.

It can never tell you what you need to know. Cause your life will always want to revolve around the canoe shaped like thing between a woman's legs.

StacyO:
Now,this is exactly what redpoll is all about.

It teaches you how to salivate over a kitten.

It can never tell you what you need to know. Cause your life will always want to revolve around the canoe shaped like thing between a woman's legs.

Hmm
Our polygamous nature fuels us with testerones which we can use for productive activities also

We need to find the right balance between work and leisure

Once we start worshipping and becoming addicted to the pussy(or pussies) we are finished

Look at Solomon and Samson

Dapcity007:
Hmm
Our polygamous nature fuels us with testerones which we can use for productive activities also

We need to find the right balance between work and leisure

Once we start worshipping and becoming addicted to the pussy(or pussies) we are finished

Look at Solomon and Samson

Red pillars worship puccy.
Nothing more.

It can never teach you how to stop cheating when you're already being given tips on how to get every girl laid.

StacyO:
Red pillars worship puccy.
Nothing more.

It can never teach you how to stop cheating when you're already being given tips on how to get every girl laid.

Do you want to marry a male virgin?

There is a difference between REDPILL and PUA(pick up artist -gamers who want to Bleep around)

Don't misinterprete both

REDPILL platforms provides for PUA knowledge if you are interested in them

It's a very big and diverse platform with many ideologies like game,MGTOW(men go their own way) Alphaness,men's right,PUA

Please don't make hasty generalization

Shortyy:
If you know you won't get revenge from a woman, don't bother hiding your bastard. Because her own revenge would be dangerous

You will only hurt yourself in the end. The world is full of men who don't bother hiding their bastards. But when a woman tries it, it's a different story.

StacyO:
Red pillars worship puccy.
Nothing more.

It can never teach you how to stop cheating when you're already being given tips on how to get every girl laid.

To be redpilled means to be aware of things- to be above average in smartness. It doesn't have to do with sleeping around or worshipping puccy or maltreating girls.

RisenPhoenix1:
The simple concept that men raise outside kids by themselves while women force their husbands to raise outside kids just doesn't seem to penetrate female skulls. One is adultery, the other is adultery+fraud.

I am sure the ladies understand the difference between a man having kids outside, and a woman deceiving a man to raise bastards without his knowledge. They are just looking for cold comfort.

Dapcity007:
Nymphomaniac is a medical condition for a promiscuous woman

None for men

wrong. Satyr for men.

StacyO:
Alright.

So, that certifies you able to taste all honey pots after marriage??

stop mentioning me pls

nymphomaniac:
stop mentioning me pls

Who is this one??



nymphomaniac


Do you equally support men having countless number of sex partners outside marriage??

StacyO:
Who is this one??



nymphomaniac


Do you equally support men having countless number of sex partners outside marriage??

no

nymphomaniac:
wrong. Satyr for men.

Ok

Dapcity007:
Until you learn that by nature;


Men are polygamous
Women are hypergamous

Then you can understand what it means for a man not to cheat , and for a woman not to cheat by keeping her Hypergamy in check

Men cheat because u ladies refuse to understand or acknowledge our nature of polygamy
Women cheat because they have to meet up with their Hypergamy


The solution LOVE from both parties these alone will destroy that polygamous instinct

Women should be submissive these alone keeps her Hypergamy in check

What is this in your opening statement

Polygamous nature works for some men not men! Haba, tied if hearing the justification of a faulty behavior.

By the way it takes more than love and submission for couples to remain faithful in my opinion (time will fail me to type) and I think Every relationship is unique so it begs for the two in it to make it work, hence my hatred for lazy partners, not just physically but mentally.

Dapcity007:
Do you want to marry a male virgin?

There is a difference between REDPILL and PUA(pick up artist -gamers who want to Bleep around)

Don't misinterprete both

REDPILL platforms provides for PUA knowledge if you are interested in them

It's a very big and diverse platform with many ideologies like game,MGTOW(men go their own way) Alphaness,men's right,PUA

Please don't make hasty generalization

If you think so. "

@kalu61

How did you come across my dairy?

StacyO:
@kalu61

How did you come across my dairy?

.... was in diary section reading stuffs then stumbled into your. I guess you changed the topic and myself haven't being following of recent.

Which part of my state are you?

kalu61:
.... was in diary section reading stuffs then stumbled into your. I guess you changed the topic and myself haven't being following of recent.

Which part of my state are you?

Oh

@Kalu61
Drop your digits. Perhaps here might be a bit fun

StacyO:
Marriage isn't a do or die affair for people who claim to love each other.
Rather than deceive or trick someone into holy matrimony with a hidden intention of sleeping around,giving him another man's child and making it look like he's responsible.
Why don't you just quit at the first instance
Why not tell him you got pregnant out of wedlock?

If he truly loves you, he won't prosecute you for saying the truth.

Marriage is meant to be a bond between two people,not a community service.


That men started this ugly behavior doesn't mean we ladies should take it to the extreme.


Honestly,if your husband brings another man's child for you to train while you both are married. Divorce him(he isn't faithful at all). Trust me,he's most likely doing more cheating on you.

But,if he brings in a child for you to train cause,he got the child before you guys met. Pardon him(you were just another random girl in the street who caught his heart)


Here are some of the dangers associated with paternity fraud;;;;;;;;;;;;;;

1) Heartbreak---No doubt this is the very first disadvantage of lying to someone about his biological children.
All those years they've spent together as father and child. All the sweet memories gone in just 2mins.

It drives him into a deep state of irredeemable thoughts.
*this child who calls me daddy isn't mine* ?

He starts looking at them from a very different and strange angle.

During this process,trust me, he is totally drifting away from his human form.



2) Shock and psychological trauma--- Certainly, you know you won't feel alright the day another woman walks up to you and demand you give her,her child.
I mean,the thousand in one thoughts running through your mind would fill up the entire earth.

You'll most likely start with fever then fall into coma or develop chronic HBP(high blood pressure).

This is the same thing that happens to a man when you take away the little lovers in his life and bestows them on another man.


3) Division--- Your household,in-laws, children and happiness will be divided and cut short.
The hatred your kids will develop for each other when they eventually find out they're not related, should even change your mind about committing that act.

How about your family members who won't only see you as a failure of a daughter. A disgrace to womanhood and a total bad tape to the marriage world.


4) Suicide--- So many people have fragile hearts. Men act tough but,they're NOT tough when it comes to love.
He might not cry but,he is broken hearted.

Suicide is a thought that creeps in when you think the whole world is against you. When you feel no one cares about you,when you don't feel loved by any.
When you think everything have been taken away from you.

In this case,you've taken away this man's life even before it began.
He thought he would see his grandkids but,he's seeing his grave.

Then he thinks,why not just jump into it and end all this hatred against me.

5) Sudden DEATH--- Just like in the movies. Everyone dies but,only one will survive. Guess who/what that is??


Your story.
The story of a woman who betrayed her husband. The story of a woman who shared her body to every man outside her matrimonial home.
That would be your story.

You killed yourself.
You killed your husband.
You killed your kids.





But StacyO,

HOW DO I LET HIM KNOW THE CHILD DOESN'T BELONG TO HIM??

You now realize your mistakes,right?
The best method to use when you plan to break such an abominable news to someone is to use the connection you both have.

And that connection is the child.

Open up the news to the child first and make it a deep secret. Get the child into talking to his/her or their daddy.

Starting with how much they love him and how any decision he makes won't affect their love for him.
They should even advice him to divorce you so as to have peace of mind.

Discussions should be centered majorly on their unconditional love for him.

You as the perpetrator can exit the house for some time so as to give the man time to think.





MEN---- Try to understand that DNA test is very important in a marriage where trust is not found.
Paternity fraud is not a death sentence.

As a matter of fact,it is your key to freedom from an evil partner.

Cause trust me, whoever has the audacity to sleep and birth a child while married,can kill her husband and bring in her second lover.

Be strong and move on. There is still time to birth a new bouncing love.


NB: Nairaland women bashers,this is not to support you in anyway oooo.
You are on your own.
I'm just saying my mind cause,this new trend is really pissing me off.



Ladies,what are your takes on paternity fraud?




Anyway,

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP INTO MARRIAGE.

@ bolded,
your solution to the problem is a dissapointment anddead on arrival. It shows a lack of responsibility and refusal to own up to your mistake. It is the act of someone who perpetually loves to play victim,is a covert narcissist and emotionally stunted

The woman should admit the wrong to her husband herself and ask for his forgive.

Dapcity007:
Until you learn that by nature;


Men are polygamous
Women are hypergamous

Then you can understand what it means for a man not to cheat , and for a woman not to cheat by keeping her Hypergamy in check

Men cheat because u ladies refuse to understand or acknowledge our nature of polygamy
Women cheat because they have to meet up with their Hypergamy


The solution LOVE from both parties these alone will destroy that polygamous instinct

Women should be submissive these alone keeps her Hypergamy in check

wonen are polygamous and hypergamous. Men are too emotional to accept that reality

DrFunmisticGlow:
@ bolded,
your solution to the problem is a dissapointment anddead on arrival. It shows a lack of responsibility and refusal to own up to your mistake. It is the act of someone who perpetually loves to play victim,is a covert narcissist and emotionally stunted

The woman should admit the wrong to her husband herself and ask for his forgive.

In life, we make certain decisions according to what's at hand.

After your kids must've made certain moves in easing the heat of the moment, you as a woman can then come in to tender your very own apologies.


No one is perfect but, trying to calm down an angry person with the same words that got him or her all furious will be just like adding salt to an injury.

StacyO:
In life, we make certain decisions according to what's at hand.

After your kids must've made certain moves in easing the heat of the moment, you as a woman can then come in to tender your very own apologies.


No one is perfect but, trying to calm down an angry person with the same words that got him or her all furious will be just like adding salt to an injury.

it's not the right thing to do, putting an innocent child as your shield. Whatif he kills the child.

Nice