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phazotron:
You yourself have admitted it

End of story. Friendship na cruise.

One to two weeks of she knowing you is enough.

Oga, relationship is not gra gra. Some people will like you at the get-go, others will take a while.

But I'll always advise friendship first, and when you finally ask and she says no, please move on to someone else.

phazotron:
Leave primadonna jare

Na woman na.....Wetin you expect am to talk?

oooookaaaayyy!
I didnt know nau!
woman like that are custom officers nau!

you bring your documents.they will inspect it ask for your clearance,ask for your receipts before you will even see your container!!

After I followed this girl for more than a year still she turned me down, I have decided to stay on my own ejeje.......to avoid further story that touches the heart...

i don't chase bitches no homo

Once I notice I'm heading for the friend zone. I put a stop to all forms of communication. Then if she initiates chat I ignore, if she calls I answer with the body language of what do you want.

PrimadonnaO:
Oga, relationship is not gra gra. Some people will like you at the get-go, others will take a while.

But I'll always advise friendship first, and when you finally ask and she says no, please move on to someone else.

I no talk say relationship no be gra gra abeg

Of course she must get to know you

But I disagree when you say you must be friends first

A girl doesn't need another male friend before she knows he will be her lover

Two weeks max is enough

Edit the "friendship first" part to "getting to know her" first.

PrimadonnaO:
See, first develop friendship with a girl. Give her a reasonable amount of time to get to know you.

Depending on the quality of communications you have, a month or 3 months max should suffice. If she's begun to like you, then trust me she's patiently waiting for you to ask her out.

Then you clearly ask her out.

If she tells you no, and the reason is not because she has a boyfriend already or she just got out of a relationship and needs some time to let wafer flow under the bridge before starting a new relationship, then please quit chasing, because she saw the question coming and has prepared for it.

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You can decide to hang around and strengthen the friendship so you ask again another time, but the chances of her stance changing is quite low, and you may simply end up investing more resources on a wild goose chase.

P.S This only applies to quality babes, not the ones who;

play hard-to-get for a living,

or the ones who think they should give any guy that asks them out a try.

or the ones who say yes because their birthday is close or they want to bill you for a new phone.

example of a quality

Tbvxl:
I give up easily bruvs!
The last time I had myself stressed over a lady was my ex. After she broke up with me because I caught her cheating,but still I wanted her back like mad. In a nutshell I pleaded with her from Feb till April,and everything got worse this month. But if it were to be other ladies,I'd give up easily. I hate to be taken outta my comfort zone

She broke up with you after you caught her cheating and you still pleaded with her 4rm Feb till April... Omehn, things dey occur 4 real life o! Nai be say, she 4 kill you if the reverse was the case be that na. E be things!

Muyiwaipere:
Immediately I receive the second turn down when I ask for the kpekus ...bros my ego go flare up

seconded

Yanbaba4u:
Girls in my department really made a mockery of me, I invite people tire from my 200lv, non showed up, ask few out all declined, even my girlfriend then started showing attitude, until she dumped my sorry ass �
Poverty is bad, fast forward to present day, boy don freshen up, come fine like madt, all the girls that turned me down started wondering, because the way I take change ee, the thing sef shock me,
They started seeking my face, even begging for visits, but I had to ignore them and face the one who later accepted me for who I am, I am with her now, and have no intention of cheating.

you are a real niga


For me once she says no or she accepted and denied me coochie DAT is the end. I would rather prefer to stay single than chasing shadows

Alright Magnolias
So tell me,I kind of saw this girl last night when I visited her elder sister,I was her senior in primary school
I was trying to talk to her,but she was just ignoring me.
Why and how can I,you know,get acquainted with her

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Y'all just can't resist. In you trying to teach men to be alfanic, you end up spoiling everything patapata with the need to always punctuate and ceaselessly share tricks you think are effective.[/color]

So d reason most nairalanders hustle for money is to attract women to themselves for what purpose?sex?
immature brains.

Tbvxl:
Funny right? I wanted her to admit her mistakes and I was even ready to give her another chance. But the bastard didn't know I was doing her a favor. Funny enough the guy she was seeing the has his own main GF ,so my babe was like a side chick to the guy. I saw this coming and I did everything possible to let her know but she thought I was depriving her happiness.

Work on your self esteem bro, it’s very low.

PataAlhajaKeji:
Shey Jesus get toto?

Abi the two of una be gay?

For man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that comes from Gods mouth.

TSBO:
I don't know how to chase ladies. If I get the sense that the feeling is not very mutual, that's the end of the matter.. Even if I really like her, I will eventually get over her; I don't do one-sided affection.

Recently, I decided to stop "approaching" ladies. Why? I feel the right person will gravitate towards me somehow. I think I can only make an exception if the "light" is EXTREMELY verdant.

When I was much younger (secondary school, Uni, and a little afterwards), I was quite shy so I never used to approach or try to woo ladies; however, somehow, my crushes usually gravitate towards me after some time. I usually did not follow through though.
Later on, I decided to start approaching girls cos it seemed like that was the normal thing to do (probably because many guys do that or are expected to). However, I have come to realise that it creates an imbalance that does not work for me. Therefore, I think it is better to revert to my previous style and let the lady try to position herself or let circumstances do that. I get the best interaction when I don't initiate, and I also don't have to stress myself trying to get someone to like me. Takes too much energy.

Enjoying the new vibe a lot more. So much better than eyeing fine girl afer fine girl because...... fine girl no dey finish o. It is well..

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CapitalBank:
What is wrong in what he said? You ladies do hate it when you are being exposed for what you really are...

[color=deeppink]As "alfas," your chu chu chu chu chu postings are too much. Is the goal not to be mysterious and whatever? It loses substance, aim and gets stale when it becomes a regurgitate formulaic. But why am I even bothering? It's all y'all know. To put people in boxes and slam a manual on their behaviors.[/color]

WinterMinter:
Alright Magnolias
So tell me,I kind of saw this girl last night when I visited her elder sister,I was her senior in primary school
I was trying to talk to her,but she was just ignoring me.
Why and how can I,you know,get acquainted with her

[color=deeppink]Why are you soliciting 'advice' from me? You don't know the way to your red pill threads on here?[/color]

poweredcom:
They are all daft and not beneficiary to keep Dem as a lover
My greatest nightmare na t marry a naija gal
Go ask @mosdii and @womenareapes1 how e de go

I swear!
cant afford the to waste my life on Naija women!
fvcking piece of shiit

Well I thought you would be that smart to not divulge into the red pills and answer my question with diligence,but
This is what I'm talking about

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]As "alfas," your chu chu chu chu chu postings are too much. Is the goal not to be mysterious and whatever? It loses substance, aim and gets stale when it becomes a regurgitate formulaic. But why am I even bothering? It's all y'all know. To put people in boxes and slam a manual on their behaviors.[/color]



[color=deeppink]Why are you soliciting 'advice' from me? You don't know the way to your red pill threads on here?[/color]

kokaneprodigy:
Work on your self esteem bro, it’s very low.

Sure I will bro

Atticusxsz:
She broke up with you after you caught her cheating and you still pleaded with her 4rm Feb till April... Omehn, things dey occur 4 real life o! Nai be say, she 4 kill you if the reverse was the case be that na. E be things!

I was stupidly in love my brother

PataAlhajaKeji:
Shey Jesus get toto?

Abi the two of una be gay?

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Lilpen3758:
Who ask you?

*ahchoo*

zedman1:
You don't do that to girls. Ignore them the moment they show u they need space. There's a very high percentage of chances she'll come back than chasing them for so long that you did.

Yes MA man... I regretted it

mokkalu1:
I ask once. If you gree, better for you. If you no gree, better for both of us.

I like it when the men folks are stoic with a little bluntness..

As a person, na from when I dey collect your number, na straight up I go tell you 'if you know say you go wan show yourself just add one number at the end of your control' cause I no go call. It wasn't funny at the beginning but right now it save me from time waster...

Xenry:
When I realized that money is what wears the face of true love nowadays, I started chasing money instead.

I wish I can like this comment two times.

PrimadonnaO:
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[color=deeppink]So, I've read your response. Thank you for taking the time to answer...

I can't seem to quote it to respond properly, but it's okay! Picked some things.[/color]

Magnoliaa:


[color=deeppink]You go wait tayaaaa. Or I will even initiate 100% conversations 100% of the time and you will still see there's nothing there.

S'okay.[/color]

I know all this is just online fronting, when men want to move things further and you are not putting effort they will notice and drop you.

Gone are the days when men are expected to climb mountains for love.

Splitmind:
I know all this is just online fronting, when men want to move things further and you are not putting effort they will notice and drop you.

Gone are the days when men are expected to climb mountains for love.

[color=deeppink]Online fronting? Wtf are you even saying? How does your comment ever relate to my comment that you quoted? Mtchew.

And, I'm a feminist, by virtue of being played and dumped several times - so which men still wan dey approach me dey prove love to me?

Men don't come our ways, you remember?[/color]

TemmyT002:
The first girl: I told her I like her. She said she will give me answer in a week's time. After one week she said she is dating another guy. I vex delete her number. The guy later impregnated her and dumped her (I am not gloating).

The second girl: I asked her permission to toast her. She said no. I vex delete her number. Na later I realized that she wanted me to try harder.

The third girl said I was too old. She didn't believe I was just four or five years older. Even sent her my ID card. She said no. I ignored her until she later complained about me neglecting her.

Guy I like your narrative,I like to delete numbers tooo.If a girl/lady dey do yamayama,na delete sharpashopo.

zedman1:
You don't do that to girls. Ignore them the moment they show u they need space. There's a very high percentage of chances she'll come back than chasing them for so long that you did.

Guy... The main reason I dragged on was cuz I strongly gave up on other girls, put in a lot emotionally.... We both are anticipating marriage next year....

I just focused on my financial upgrade since av secured the future wife... We have a perfect understanding, alas, babe is thinking something else. As in ehh it took me by major surprise that I thought she was outta her mind....

I dragged on ND tried talking sense into her... But she was long gone