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Yanbaba4u:
No oo my guy

Ok na

bossvitality:
when i realised that girls aren't meant to be chased but rather attracted

Bravo...... you really right bro........ that's just the factor in it. you just have to attract them first.

Tboy1419:
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Oga, be careful what you say

Jmw2kblogposts:
I don't chase, i just make myself visible around the p***y holder from time to time and make sure i get very catchy eye contacts with her for at least 10 seconds straight at those intervals. I stare with a nice look, no smiling, no facial expressions and no meet ups to talk sh*t, i keep her in the dark for as long as i want, on my own terms. She'll have lots of thoughts gushing out of her head about me, she'll want to figure me out. I can do this for like 3 weeks or a month straight.

Then when i walk up to her and start speaking in few but intriguing words at a time, she starts acting like an idiot around me. The p***y is then mine to exploit

<b>CHAIRMO</b> na sabi man you be...
Just keep up with a straight face with them for a period of time and they'll wanna get acquainted with you... Best technique ever ����

abbaashiru:
I swear na this girl get sense pass all the girls for this forum

[color=olive]Ah. So according to you I'm the most sensible girl in all of NL? LOL. Maybe it's a manner of speaking, but I'll never know by what standards you're judging. And that phrase has been used one too many times to hold any basis for me.

I've heard this one now, sha, and it's not new in my eyes anymore. I'm looking forward to the next adjective or phrase I'll be described as. [/color]

seyi360:
Men have varying pursuit capacity, some have a short fuse while some have developed thick skin for insults upon insults from women. It has been said many times that women mean yes when they say no at times. How long shall a man continue to read in between the lines of a woman. What are the red lights a man should watch out for?

When you become a STALKER!

Nigerian men, NO MEANS NO!!
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At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl

At the first inkling that she is playing hard to get, I delete her number sharp sharp. If she then calls me later, I play along and the next time she plays hard to get again, I delete her number again and I will not answer any more of her calls nor reply her chats any more. Life is too short to waste precious time chasing a childish woman who is still playing HTG when the mileage on her punnani is way high and she still has the effontery to play hard to get.

I can't talk too much to a childish woman. Its just not worth my while.

Yes the manner in which you speak is part of the grading system LOL...

Magnoliaa:
[color=olive]Ah. So according to you I'm the most sensible girl in all of NL? LOL. Maybe it's a manner of speaking, but I'll never know by what standards you're judging. And that phrase has been used one too many times to hold any basis for me.

I've heard this one now, sha, and it's not new in my eyes anymore. I'm looking forward to the next adjective or phrase I'll be described as. [/color]

Vulcanheph:
If I open up and tell you 3x and you still say no then I will simply move on and forget about you, I don't care if you're playing "hard to get".....make e no be say because I want eat egg, I go begin worship fowl...

You get plenty oil for head

Cutestboy:
Bravo...... you really right bro........ that's just the factor in it. you just have to attract them first.

It is not a man's duty to attract a girl.

The girl makes her Choice.

If it's not you, don't fret. Another girl will choose you

I was once in the game of chasing women. Until I realized that being in a relationship goes beyond just the sex, hugs and kisses.

A relationship is a responsibility actually. And as of this moment, I don't have the resources to take care of myself and another man's daughter.

Secondly, another reason I stopped chasing women is that, truth be told, women of nowadays are not worth the stress. Few are, but not the multitude.


I am an introvert.

I love being alone most times.

I loose interest in girls easily. I don't know why.

My bed and my room is sacred. I have consecrated it. It's high time men stopped giving their masculine and creative energy to women especially in their room.


Any girl you have sex with in your room leaves her imprint behind. Such imprint may be good or bad. I'm comfortable retaining my own energy. I got to know this the hard way.

STOP HAVING SEX ON THE BED WHERE YOU SLEEP DAILY.

Alot of things go on when we are in the astral real while sleeping.

Go to a hotel and have sex if you must or simply masturbate in your room when the urge is overwhelming.

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phazotron:
It is not a man's duty to attract a girl.

The girl makes her Choice.

If it's not you, don't fret. Another girl will choose you

Hmmmmm �

Vulcanheph:
If I open up and tell you 3x and you still say no then I will simply move on and forget about you, I don't care if you're playing "hard to get".....make e no be say because I want eat egg, I go begin worship fowl.

Hmmm

This process is long for a man suffering in the hands of Konji

Hope you are not Alhaji Simpson

TemmyT002:
The first girl: I told her I like her. She said she will give me answer in a week's time. After one week she said she is dating another guy. I vex delete her number. The guy later impregnated her and dumped her (I am not gloating).

The second girl: I asked her permission to toast her. She said no. I vex delete her number. Na later I realized that she wanted me to try harder.

The third girl said I was too old. She didn't believe I was just four or five years older. Even sent her my ID card. She said no. I ignored her until she later complained about me neglecting her.

This got ms laughing hard.

PataAlhajaKeji:

That line got me laughing hard.

PataAlhajaKeji:
You send ID card because of toto!

Wonders ...

I weep for the future of Simpism.

I couldn't stop laughing when I read his comment.

God abeg o

This is the minefield every man walks through: *“How long do I chase before it’s disrespect to myself?”* and *“When does ‘no’ mean ‘try harder’ vs ‘leave me alone’?”*

Let’s kill the myths first, then give you hard red lights.

*1. The “no means yes sometimes” lie*

No. *No means no.* Always.
What people confuse is “maybe”, “not now”, “convince me”, “I’m shy”, with “no”. Those are different words.

A grown woman who wants you but says “no” is playing a game you didn’t agree to play. You’re not a mind reader. You’re not a detective. You’re a man asking a direct question.

*Rule:* Take words at face value. If she says “no”, it’s no. If she meant “maybe”, she should have said “maybe”. Not your job to decode.

*2. Pursuit capacity: Short fuse vs Thick skin*

*Short fuse men*: “If she’s not into me in 2 weeks, I’m gone.” Pro: Rarely wasted. Con: May miss women who are slow to warm up.
*Thick skin men*: “I’ll take insults, flakes, tests for 6 months to win her.” Pro: Sometimes wins her. Con: Teaches her you tolerate disrespect.

The question isn’t which is better. The question is: *What are you pursuing — her, or your own dignity?*

If chasing her costs your dignity, the price is too high.

*3. How long to “read between the lines”?*

*Answer: Zero minutes.*
You don’t read between lines. You read the line. If she can’t communicate like an adult, she’s not ready for an adult relationship.

Mature interest looks like this:
“I like you, but I’m cautious because of my ex. Can we take it slow?”
Immature interest looks like:
“No.” → then gets angry you stopped texting.

One is communication. The other is manipulation. You only respond to communication.

*4. Red lights — When to stop pursuing immediately*

These are not “yellow”. These are “engine off, walk away”:

1. *Disrespect out the gate*
Funny faces when you approach, “who gave you my number”, eye-rolling, insulting your appearance/hustle. If she starts with contempt, she’ll end with contempt.

2. *Shifting goalposts*
“I need time” → 2 months later → “give me more time”. “I can’t date now” → but she’s on dating apps. If the target keeps moving, it’s not a race. It’s a trap.

3. *You’re funding access*
Expensive first date she picked, then excuses to meet again unless you spend. Her time is only available after your money is. You’re not a boyfriend. You’re an ATM.

4. *Inconsistent communication with intent*
Online but not replying you. Picks unknown number fast, dodges yours. That’s not busy. That’s selective. You’re low priority.

5. *Tests with lies*
“I have a boyfriend” when she doesn’t, just to see if you’ll beg. “I’m pregnant” to see reaction. If she needs to lie to measure you, she’ll lie when it matters.

6. *Ultimatums before intimacy*
“Marry me in 6 months or nothing.” “My parents must approve first or I can’t love you.” She’s negotiating contract terms before you’ve even held hands.

7. *You’re always anxious after talking to her*
Gut check: After every call/text, do you feel smaller or confused? That’s your body reading red lights your heart ignores.

8. *She punishes withdrawal*
You stop texting → she pops up angry “so you’ve moved on abi?” But when you were texting, she was dry. She wants control, not you.

*5. Green lights — What real interest looks like*

So you don’t think all women play games:

1. *She says yes or “not yet, but here’s why”* – Clear words.
2. *She initiates too* – You’re not the only one texting/calling.
3. *She respects your time* – If she cancels, she reschedules. No “I’ll get back to you”.
4. *She meets you halfway* – You pick one date venue, she picks next. Not just “take me to Eko Hotel”.
5. *Her words and actions line up* – Says she likes you, then acts like it. No mystery.

*6. The final answer: How long do you pursue?*

*Until you get one of three answers:*

1. *Yes* – “I like you, let’s try.” Then you date.
2. *No* – “I’m not interested.” Then you vanish.
3. *Maybe with a deadline* – “I just left a relationship. Give me 3 weeks to clear my head, then I’ll give you an answer.” Fine. Set a calendar reminder. Day 22, you ask once. Still maybe? It’s a no.

Anything else — “I don’t know”, “can’t predict”, “see how it goes” for months — is a soft no from someone who wants to keep you as an option.

*You stop pursuing the day you realize you’re the only one pursuing.*

Men with thick skin don’t win more. They just bleed longer. Men with short fuses don’t lose more. They just exit faster and heal faster.

You’re not here to decode women. You’re here to meet a woman who doesn’t need to be decoded.

So: Take “no” as no. Take games as disqualification. Take clarity as attraction.

The red light is any moment you feel like you’re begging to be chosen. A woman who wants you will make choosing her feel easy.