One day the coconut shell will crack, but until then see yourself as a success, and don't let anyone put you down especially if they do not feed you and they can't make you rich.

Op, I understand the undermining event and how uneasy and demoralized you felt at that moment but I just want to strengthen your hope that you shouldn't hold that to heart.. Honestly I don't want to be a motivational speaker, at least not on account of your self esteem... But you shouldn't work with someone else's time, her time is different, all that matters is that you should have a clear cut out plan of how you want your future to be regardless of how long its taking... Be happy always, be around people who share your ambitions, don't get intimated by another person's success, as a matter of fact, I think you get closer to them and try to know how they did it, make friends with them if you can... With time, I promise you'd live your desired life

Jerryherd:




You better don't use a woman's clock to run your own race. Your female class mate can marry your father tomorrow and become your step mum, she might marry your boss and become your MD...

Just run your race on your own time


.

WORD!

ashybabs:


not just bout that...
its so painful i feel so left behind.

Take an audit and plan how you want your life to be, where you are coming from,where you are and where you want to be.

It's achievable, don't sit and whine and crying like a baby ask for help when you need one.

ashybabs:


what flow bruh...

this is pressure

Are you okay, which pressure? Do u know how she got the money, All that glitters ain't gold, keep up with your hustle, and stay focused, if burna boy had this your mentality, he won't have been africa's giant now. it took burna only two years blow, to hit a grammy, Oga stay focused!.

ashybabs:


thanks... its too late now
i will not bother calling her

so wetin concern us? you are ashamed to be helped or ask for help. koshi danu

las las you go dey alright

ashybabs:


legit done tire me o, come be like say i dey waste my time.

Oya if legit tire you kukuma go kee your sef na. See this one o! Better get your ass together and follow your race jeje. Dey there they compare your hustle with that of a woman

Bro there will always be some1 that looks like they got life workin out better for them than you, just as there would be people that think life's better for you, this rude awakening should motivate you and at the same time teach you humility. Na so life b

ashybabs:
i just had a rude awakening...

i feel so lost!

i ran into one of my school mates after 10 years... and there i was holding a black water proof bag while she called me from her mob...

no words, e b lyk say make ground swallow me!

we exchanged numbers and she showed genuine concern but its so fuxked up i cant dare ring her

am such a loser

This guy do feel bad... eyaaaaaa

ashybabs:
i just had a rude awakening...

i feel so lost!

i ran into one of my school mates after 10 years... and there i was holding a black water proof bag while she called me from her mob...

no words, e b lyk say make ground swallow me!

we exchanged numbers and she showed genuine concern but its so fuxked up i cant dare ring her

am such a loser

ashybabs:
i just had a rude awakening...

i feel so lost!

i ran into one of my school mates after 10 years... and there i was holding a black water proof bag while she called me from her mob...

no words, e b lyk say make ground swallow me!

we exchanged numbers and she showed genuine concern but its so fuxked up i cant dare ring her

am such a loser

Low self esteem is the problem here.... Your old school mates never talk down or deny knowing you....... YOU ARE EXACTLY WHAT YOU CALL YOURSELF

After 10 years of leaving school, you still sound immature! Obviously you have pride issue. That won't help you go far. You better drop that your pride and call her.. DMH

ashybabs:


thanks... its too late now
i will not bother calling her

After 10 years of leaving school, you still sound immature! Obviously you have pride issue. That won't help you go far. You better drop that your pride and call her.. SMH

ashybabs:


thanks... its too late now
i will not bother calling her

Wiseandtrue:
When you know that you are ashamed of the black nylon bag, why you buy am in the first place

Nobody can like you more that you like yourself jàré

This one wey you never say you won commit suicide

The dude mentality and way of reasoning already showed who he is... Such people can never make money in life. Allow him talk trash And pity him self up and down

Get sniper use am end am, depression can lead to suicide. I always advice people to get a bottle of sniper closeby in case you want to end your life make it quick before you change your mind.

Real niggar don't complain brave up...

See you

And I'm sure u go de pray everyday make God send a helper to you. ... Who knows if she's the one God want to use to connect you or even help u. "dead body no de hide for who go wash am"... I understand how u feel but the worst she could say is "ill get back to u" and not. Brave up bro. Just tell her Ur situation. If she'll help, she would...

I had almost the same experience five years ago in Abuja. I was sweating profusely and trekking under the sun when I heard a voice from a car calling out a name that sounded as mine. As I never expected someone in a posh car to know me, I kept my pace and didn't turn back.
She pulled up beside me, wound down the glass and asked where I was going under this hot sun?
I was stammering while answering her in a voice I could scarcely believe was mine.
For a second, my self esteem almost dropped but I immediately boosted it by telling myself not to worry.

But the good news is that, everything is normal now and I am enjoying my life as well.

Hardship can make one feel intimidated unnecessarily especially if you the pompous type back then,that's why I advise guys to always roll with all level you can't tell what 2moro comes with. I still maintain good relationship with all my folks whether I am above you or below you in the ladder.

A reunion was planned.I was scared to attend. It was 5 years after university. What could I point to? I had read on some of my classmates that were now made men and women. I made up my mind not to attend. I did not want pity or to be the subject of gossip.
Another class mate called me and encouraged me. “Come along, you might meet classmates that might assist you”. On that note i attended.
The colleague picked me up. At the reunion, plenty of back slaps. Excitement and joy. I felt inadequate when people shared their current status. I sat in a lonely corner. What would I share? What success? What growth? Luckily, I was not called upon.
The reunion ended. No one asked for my number. Many just glanced over me. I left feeling more dejected.
Some months after, I got employed and also into farming. Luck shined and I prospered. Married. Sponsored one or two candidates and became a man of influence.
It was 15 years. Time for another reunion. I got my best car out. Wore my most expensive attire.I desired to go and impress to tell my story. Now I have something to say. Then wisdom came to me and my wife advised otherwise. What was I going to get? False affection? Acclaims and applause. Some envy?
I decided I would not attend. I would look for 5 of my classmates struggling to assist to heights. To make them feel more adequate. It would be discreet.
I did. I supported them. Despite not attending, I was applauded for contribution. Last time I was there, none saw me. In my absence, my success spoke. They all noticed I did not come.
I shook my head sadly. I had learnt a lesson. My friends would remain those that cared when I was poor. Not those that were friends with my cars and money in the bank.
Note:- Please, let's reach out to mates who have not made it up the ladder and assist them. A Yoruba adage says "ajo je o dun beni kan o ni" eating together is not sweet if some in the group are indigent and not contributing. Not sure if I got that right, but, let the message sink. One great lesson I learnt during this lockdown is that nothing else matters but our relationship with God and people. Ki Olorun ran wa lowo o,
Amin.
Remember that your achievements lie in the number of lives you touch positively.

COPIED
This may inspire you and others. Have a wonderful day

How old are you again?

I ave coursemates who're driving posh cars, while i don't have close to a million in my account.

swankylay:
See you

And I'm sure u go de pray everyday make God send a helper to you. ... Who knows if she's the one God want to use to connect you or even help u. "dead body no de hide for who go wash am"... I understand how u feel but the worst she could say is "ill get back to u" and not. Brave up bro. Just tell her Ur situation. If she'll help, she would...

The point is that op must be one of those pompous n probably intelligent guys that intimidate others back then.

ashybabs:


not just bout that...
its so painful i feel so left behind.

Uhhnnn. Sorry bro. E go soft one day no worry.

Jerryherd:




You better don't use a woman's clock to run your own race. Your female class mate can marry your father tomorrow and become your step mum, she might marry your boss and become your MD...

Just run your race on your own time


.

true yarn

Wiseandtrue:
When you know that you are ashamed of the black nylon bag, why you buy am in the first place

Nobody can like you more that you like yourself jàré

This one wey you never say you won commit suicide

you be hidiot!

You are also better than some of your classmates also.
Just stay focused

Ikem11:


The dude mentality and way of reasoning already showed who he is... Such people can never make money in life. Allow him talk trash And pity him self up and down

Must be one of the above average guys that intimidate others in class.

ashybabs:


legit done tire me o, come be like say i dey waste my time.

You may as well go illegal and end up in jail, it's a choice.

ashybabs:
i just had a rude awakening...

i feel so lost!

i ran into one of my school mates after 10 years... and there i was holding a black water proof bag while she called me from her mob...

no words, e b lyk say make ground swallow me!

we exchanged numbers and she showed genuine concern but its so fuxked up i cant dare ring her

am such a loser

If you get sense, ponder on the bolded and keep moving with your life believing that your blue page will soon open.
If you no get sense, skip dinner for 3 days, your money go reach to buy sniper.
Regards.

ashybabs:
i just had a rude awakening...

i feel so lost!

i ran into one of my school mates after 10 years... and there i was holding a black water proof bag while she called me from her mob...

no words, e b lyk say make ground swallow me!

we exchanged numbers and she showed genuine concern but its so fuxked up i cant dare ring her

am such a loser

It's people like you that fail because of pride.

In 2012 I worked in a place in Abuja, my old school mates from secondary school turned up from no where...

I just couldn't believe it because of the excitement... That excitement made me forget the type of job role I was in...

He works for JP Morgan, then I cracked a joke by saying am not surprised because no be him dy give us expo for maths and further maths from JSS 1 till SSE... We laughed Soo hard.

As an office assistant then shame nu catch me at all...few months later he called and connected me to someone and that's how my life changed.

My point is and Soo what if she saw you with bag of water... Childhood friends in some cases are the purest because you all were growing with innocence.

If you like go if you like make ground swallow you.

ashybabs:
i just had a rude awakening...

i feel so lost!

i ran into one of my school mates after 10 years... and there i was holding a black water proof bag while she called me from her mob...

no words, e b lyk say make ground swallow me!

we exchanged numbers and she showed genuine concern but its so fuxked up i cant dare ring her

am such a loser

The losers are those in the grave without achieving their full potentials.

ashybabs:


thanks... its too late now
i will not bother calling her

You better call her

No allow low self esteem kee you

If she care about how you look, she for don give you fake number instead