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udoji2021:
Don't be quick to judge Sir, Let me ask you.

Can you fold your hands and recieve beatings from your wife?

Can you allow your wife to send u out the room in the night?

Can you allow your to sleeping while u go to the farm, cook, wash her cloths and all?

I did all this and more for peace to reign.

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me

udoji2021:
U will not understand what is Happening. Thanks though

udoji2021:
I get the point now.

As a lady, what do suggest i should do? Cos no human can be able to endure this kind of situation for good nine months

GboyegaD:
Oga,
People say pregnancy messes up hormones and lead to all sorts of cravings. You just need be cool with her and whenever she is in cool mood, talk to her how her actions are affecting you. There might not be much changes but she can improve on her current behavior.

udoji2021:
Explain this more Ma'am,

Are you saying it's normal for pregnant women to act violently and irrational?



Don't blame me cos i went to boys boarding school and become deaf shortly after my secondary education.

udoji2021:
Explain this more Ma'am,

Are you saying it's normal for pregnant women to act violently and irrational?



Don't blame me cos i went to boys boarding school and become deaf shortly after my secondary education.

Efewestern:
Yes, very normal for pregnant women to act weird. Your wife isn't a bad person, just understand and look for ways to sort your financial condition.

You guys will be alright.

PlayMaker14:
Oniovo, where you go hide?

Jason don miss you scatter...

Efewestern:
Oshare we they one corner, the economy no they let person come online they come sun teeth again

olabrinks:
You never see anything yet, wait till that child comes and starts crying all night. Marriage is not for the weak

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me

AfricanGiant91:
Guy, be a man joor!
i guess u've nt bn around a pregnant woman b4.
Me & my friend once went out to get suya 4 expressway at past 12am mid9t, on our way back vigilante guys hol' us say we b thief afta much explain' dem 4low us reach gate only 2 enta & den is pregnt gf say nah banana she want she noh want d suya again. Life taya me dat day

nams77:
Righteousness2 said the fact. When women are pregnant, their is an upsurge in their hormones that make some of them behave irrational.

As a man you must bear this. Every woman behaves weirdly during pregnancy. Some craves for weird foods, others become temperamental and quarrelsome.

Just do the best you can and support her through the pregnancy. Na im make dem say make man sabi cook
Lastly pray to God for favor

Assurance20:
Patience bro, double your hustle, try to calm her,
and assure her you understand what she's going through...Apparently, you're not financially, psychologically & emotionally prepared, hence the reason for your complaints. Expect more mood swings & irrational behaviours, it's not her fault.

Zabiboy:
@OP,
The root cause of all this is the fact that you don't have money....
Forget all these pregnancy hormonal changes talk, women know it's what they'll go through during pregnancy so if anyone is throwing tantrum during pregnancy, it because she wants to see a reaction from you or want to use the situation to her favor ( to make you do things you wont have done pre-pregnacy which is manipulation in real terms)...
If you were financially good, you wont experience most, if not all of these stuffs here..
So bro, this should be a lesson to you, your unborn child and everyone around you....A guy should ensure BOTH HIM AND HIS WIFE TO BE are financially OK before getting married...
Goodluck bro

nams77:
Same thing I told him.
Udoji, just imagine you carrying a baby in your belly and still going through hormonal changes. Can you really function well in such a situation?
This is even her first pregnancy. Show her some understanding

SweetCunt97:
So no one told you women change when pregnant? You have no money but went ahead to impregnate her abi? Just at this man wants d lady to join him in d farm shaaaaa! I know the story na lie but if true, u unserious

GboyegaD:
Oga,
People say pregnancy messes up hormones and lead to all sorts of cravings. You just need be cool with her and whenever she is in cool mood, talk to her how her actions are affecting you. There might not be much changes but she can improve on her current behavior.

AfricanGiant91:
Guy, be a man joor!
i guess u've nt bn around a pregnant woman b4.
Me & my friend once went out to get suya 4 expressway at past 12am mid9t, on our way back vigilante guys hol' us say we b thief afta much explain' dem 4low us reach gate only 2 enta & den is pregnt gf say nah banana she want she noh want d suya again. Life taya me dat day

udoji2021:
Thanks.

I just pray she should go back to her former self soon cos I still love her but the behavior is killing me

Rich4god:
Ladies who got pregnant for the first usually change alot. Some of them you can even control them again.


So I want to believe that this issue is related more to her pregnancy than her character.

For me I'd advise to bear with her for the main time till she gives birth.

And plz, don't expect a pregnant lady to join you on farm. Abi u want her to have miscarriage.

udoji2021:
Thanks my brother.

I can bear with her till that time but my only problem is how she use to be violent sometimes. imagine your woman slapping you anytime there is problem, but I can't do anything cos she is pregnant with my baby. I wanted running away from home but she will suffer cos there is no food in the house, I use to hustle and buy food small small to keep us alive so leaving her alone will make her suffer.


I have never been this confused in my life

udoji2021:
I pray you should not be in this type of mess some day. thanks anyway

Rich4god:
Just relax and take it easy. I want to believe also that part of the problem, if not the major part of the problem is your lack of finance. Don tleave her and run cos she might not have any where to go to since her parents were against the marriage. Hustle hard and pray too for a breakthrough.

udoji2021:
I tried talking to her but she is not giving me listening ears. the worse thing is, she will refuse to write or use sign language to communicate effectively with me. She will just be shouting without me knowing exactly what the problem is.

I can't even near her parents house to complain cos they might beat me up. I'm facing hell on Earth my brother

PlayMaker14:
I swear... The thing don affect me to the point say I don dey go bald.

Efewestern:
Lol, na still the economic situation they make OP they find fault from he wife. Them do us strong thing.

How area?