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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Rekhi(f): 5:20pm On Apr 28, 2021
Which one be all these pregnancy hormone stories i've been reading up there?..So,pregnancy hormone gives woman power to be beating her husband upandan?*smh*..i can accept that she wasn't suppose to follow op to the farm and op has to help with chores,but locking her hubby out and beating him up is SOMETHING ELSE entirely..
Mr Op,the problem i can deduce is either your woman is desperate to marry,hence her initial pretense of being a good woman so as to make you marry her,and since she's got what she wanted,she started to show you her real colour. OR she's fed up with the way things are financially..Just hustle and make more money,you will realise she won't be that toxic even if pregnant with twins..

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by armyofone(m): 5:48pm On Apr 28, 2021
Romanoff:
How do I even respond to this.

You married her cause she was caring and hardworking.

Things changed when she got pregnant. You what a pregnant woman to be following you to farm?

You didn't know she was setting you up when she was showing you care at the hospital? You no know say she just dey find husband by all means?

You knew you weren't financially capable of being married, you still allowed her push you even against the advice of her poor parents.

You done enter am na, face it alone.

Good luck o.

The biggest problem plaguing Nigerians - one of the reasons they are suffering, cannot feed, continuation of the circle of poverty etc. I don't know why every s.ex should result in pregnancy. You know you are not financially strong, why not use condom eh Op?

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:08pm On Apr 28, 2021
Well it could be hormones reacting,
especially from the Banana at night, some would even ask for chocolate at 3am,just be patient and be calm when the baby comes you do both be smiling.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:20pm On Apr 28, 2021
PCSI:



Please run away and never come back.

You are coming online for advice.

Nkita


You are the useless Dog.
If you cant advice him,Go and kill your entire useless famit,if you have one
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:21pm On Apr 28, 2021
This is why I laugh at guys that rush into marriage without any tangible source of steady income just because one desperate girl is deceiving him that they will manage together. I will rather remain single than marrying on an empty pocket.

The highest she can endure and claim good wife is one year and she will just show you her true color. Money makes marriage sweet

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:45pm On Apr 28, 2021
udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me

your only problem that need advice is poverty. Many women turn to tyrants when they are pregnant,just follow her with love and try your best.
Things will surely get better

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:48pm On Apr 28, 2021
ClixMaster:
This is why I laugh at guys rush into marriage without any tangible source of steady income just because one desperate girl is deceiving him that they will manage together. I will rather remain single than marrying on empty pocket.

The highest she can endure and claim good wife is one year and she will just show you her true color. Money makes marriage sweet

This is just the truth.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Luak(m): 7:51pm On Apr 28, 2021
udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me
your headline is not appropriate. Nevertheless, I advise you work harder on yourself and marriage. You don't have any serious issue
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:58pm On Apr 28, 2021
Thank you all for your advice and suggestions. I really appreciate it .





But I'm done about this issue, I was somehow confused but she helped me to take a decision already

I went out since morning and come back this evening only to see her sitting at the door that i must explain where I'm coming from at that time cos she personally went to farm but met my absence. I told her that I went out and I'm not going to explain more than that. she then started shouting. I was trying to warn her by pointing out my finger at her not knowing that she had other plans. She bite my hand unexpectedly and was refusing to let go till I hit her.

it's now obvious that we can't stay together for now so I'm leaving her in the house to look for another place and sleep. I will then move out tomorrow finally.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:00pm On Apr 28, 2021
Rekhi:
Which one be all these pregnancy hormone stories i've been reading up there?..So,pregnancy hormone gives woman power to be beating her husband upandan?*smh*..i can accept that she wasn't suppose to follow op to the farm and op has to help with chores,but locking her hubby out and beating him up is SOMETHING ELSE entirely..
Mr Op,the problem i can deduce is either your woman is desperate to marry,hence her initial pretense of being a good woman so as to make you marry her,and since she's got what she wanted,she started to show you her real colour. OR she's fed with the way things are financially..Just hustle and make more money,you will realise she won't be that toxic even if pregnant with twins..

God bless you.
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Apr 28, 2021
Luak:
your headline is not appropriate. Nevertheless, I advise you work harder on yourself and marriage. You don't have any serious issue

Not a serious issue?

BTW, how can i take the topic down or even delete it? I'm done about this already
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by grafixdon: 8:11pm On Apr 28, 2021
That woman deserves better... She expects you to take good care of her which unfortunately you are not capable.

Look for a way to 5ake good care of that woman, the good Lord will help you.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by armyofone(m): 8:24pm On Apr 28, 2021
Leave him, he didn't know his wife is indirectly telling him "baby is on the way and we don't have money"

grafixdon:
That woman deserves better... She expects you to take good care of her which unfortunately you are not capable.

Look for a way to 5ake good care of that woman, the good Lord will help you.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by fineboynl(m): 8:45pm On Apr 28, 2021
your problem is poverty. please try to fix that first.

some girls are like that when they are pregnant and nursing a child. the family didn't support or bless your union. it's one leakage for satan the devil. the union has no foundation. maybe you try to fix that.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Apr 28, 2021
fineboynl:
your problem is poverty. please try to fix that first.

some girls are like that when they are pregnant and nursing a child. the family didn't support or bless your union. it's one leakage for satan the devil. the union has no foundation. maybe you try to fix that.

She knew my condition very well before coming. she was even the person pack her things secretly and come to my house.

As for the parents, their problem is money, infact, all I'm facing now all boils down to money but I can't kill myself to satisfy my wife. At least I'm trying to provide food which has not been easy, I always go to any length including borrowing and begging people just to satisfy her but all my efforts are not enough to calm her down. she bite my finger this evening and till now I don't have money to even buy cotton wool to cover it. I can't go to the farm again with this hand. How then did she expect me to prepare well for the future without me going to the farm?


I'm saying this simply but true, I feel like killing myself cos my life is just messed up

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by frozen70(f): 9:03pm On Apr 28, 2021
PCSI:



Please run away and never come back.

You are coming online for advice.

Nkita

That was harsh, very harsh

He doesn't need this kind of harsh words now
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by cococandy(f): 9:09pm On Apr 28, 2021
Wow. You don’t deserve her . Smh

Edited. Once violence enter the equation, you need to reassess the situation. A pregnant woman can also kill you if she’s vexed enough even though she’s tired from being pregnant.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by fineboynl(m): 9:10pm On Apr 28, 2021
udoji2021:


She knew my condition very well before coming. she was even the person pack her things secretly and come to my house.

As for the parents, their problem is money, infact, all I'm facing now all boils down to money but I can't kill myself to satisfy my wife. At least I'm trying to provide food which has not been easy, I always go to any length including borrowing and begging people just to satisfy her but all my efforts are not enough to calm her down. she bite my finger this evening and till now I don't have money to even buy cotton wool to cover it. I can't go to the farm again with this hand. How then did she expect me to prepare well for the future without me going to the farm?


I'm saying this simply but true, I feel like killing myself cos my life is just messed up
it's a phase. she is probably angry with the kind of life she is going through. initially she won't see anything coming to you. but now she has seen it all. so the real character will come out.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by cococandy(f): 9:11pm On Apr 28, 2021
udoji2021:


That was my plan but the pregnancy is just 5months. Thinking of how to endure it for long is what will actually kill me. She can be violent sometimes and start hitting me. Infact, i think she is possesed by something recently cos her actions are NOT normal

Okay violence is not it. Can’t condone that
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by arkonpoint: 9:29pm On Apr 28, 2021
You're welcome to the vast world of parenthood. You never smell what's cooking, you're complaining already. Wait till school fees start kicking in, you go know say this life no get part two. As a man, you must get plans for survival only open to you, forget my wife is caring and understanding fables.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:01pm On Apr 28, 2021
cococandy:
Wow. You don’t deserve her . Smh

Edited. Once violence enter the equation, you need to reassess the situation. A pregnant woman can also kill you if she’s vexed enough even though she’s tired from being pregnant.

Thank you.

she will not see me to kill by God grace. I will avoid her to the best of my ability.
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:06pm On Apr 28, 2021
arkonpoint:
You're welcome to the vast world of parenthood. You never smell what's cooking, you're complaining already. Wait till school fees start kicking in, you go know say this life no get part two. As a man, you must get plans for survival only open to you, forget my wife is caring and understanding fables.

my brother, if not because of the sickness that made me become deaf, I can tell you that school fees and taking care of the house would have not been my problem. Even with this, I'm trying my best to made her comfortable. I even started going to farm everyday from morning till evening just to make sure that we did not lack food later. By the grace of God, things will be better soon

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:11pm On Apr 28, 2021
cococandy:
Wow. You don’t deserve her . Smh

Edited. Once violence enter the equation, you need to reassess the situation. A pregnant woman can also kill you if she’s vexed enough even though she’s tired from being pregnant.

I'm not understanding this talk about pregnant women cos I was opportune to be with some of them but I have never seen this type of behavior before



did pregnant women always behave like this



My wife use to behave like she is possesed recently, imagine biting my hand with blood coming out, is that really normal

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by CalmElder(m): 2:30am On Apr 29, 2021
It's pregnancy o.
Don't run.
Your wife loves you.
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Assurance20(m): 4:11am On Apr 29, 2021
udoji2021:


I'm not understanding this talk about pregnant women cos I was opportune to be with some of them but I have never seen this type of behavior before



did pregnant women always behave like this



My wife use to behave like she is possesed recently, imagine biting my hand with blood coming out, is that really normal


Get financially stable & take care of her, then you ll know she's not possessed. Marriage becomes sweet when there's money, forget that thing: I ll manage with you...

Most importantly, pay her bride price, get the necessary approval & blessings for your union, never build on a faulty foundation, it's for your own good & future

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by pstemma1990: 7:40am On Apr 29, 2021
Righteousness2:
Calm Down bro..
According to you, she changed after Pregnancy.
Just see it like the things that come with pregnancy. Some ladies could be very unbecoming when they are pregnant.
So stay calm and do the best you can.
Good morning sir, I would love to have a private conversation with u over an important issue... with ur permission I can drop my WhatsApp number....

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by Righteousness2(m): 10:15am On Apr 29, 2021
pstemma1990:
Good morning sir, I would love to have a private conversation with u over an important issue... with ur permission I can drop my WhatsApp number....
My WhatsApp Contact is on my Signature.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:02am On Apr 29, 2021
udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me



cc: lalasticlala

you are the stupid, your woman is pregnant you want her to follow you to the farm

when go through different changes when pregnant from mood swings or hating food they used to like to eating weird foods, or even hating someone for no reason

grown up
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by SweetCunt97(f): 11:05am On Apr 29, 2021
Rekhi:
Which one be all these pregnancy hormone stories i've been reading up there?..So,pregnancy hormone gives woman power to be beating her husband upandan?*smh*..i can accept that she wasn't suppose to follow op to the farm and op has to help with chores,but locking her hubby out and beating him up is SOMETHING ELSE entirely..
Mr Op,the problem i can deduce is either your woman is desperate to marry,hence her initial pretense of being a good woman so as to make you marry her,and since she's got what she wanted,she started to show you her real colour. OR she's fed up with the way things are financially..Just hustle and make more money,you will realise she won't be that toxic even if pregnant with twins..
Yes she wad very desperate to marry now her eye don clear.
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by SweetCunt97(f): 11:08am On Apr 29, 2021
fineboynl:
it's a phase. she is probably angry with the kind of life she is going through. initially she won't see anything coming to you. but now she has seen it all. so the real character will come out.
But she willingly entered it naw
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by SweetCunt97(f): 11:10am On Apr 29, 2021
udoji2021:


She knew my condition very well before coming. she was even the person pack her things secretly and come to my house.

As for the parents, their problem is money, infact, all I'm facing now all boils down to money but I can't kill myself to satisfy my wife. At least I'm trying to provide food which has not been easy, I always go to any length including borrowing and begging people just to satisfy her but all my efforts are not enough to calm her down. she bite my finger this evening and till now I don't have money to even buy cotton wool to cover it. I can't go to the farm again with this hand. How then did she expect me to prepare well for the future without me going to the farm?


I'm saying this simply but true, I feel like killing myself cos my life is just messed up
You for kukuma drop account number make people send you money naw cos I'm sure thats what you want. You pretty learned for someone going through ur condition shaaaa.
Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by pstemma1990: 11:30am On Apr 29, 2021
Righteousness2:
My WhatsApp Contact is on my Signature.
ok sir....

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