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Romanoff:
How do I even respond to this.

You married her cause she was caring and hardworking.

Things changed when she got pregnant. You what a pregnant woman to be following you to farm?

You didn't know she was setting you up when she was showing you care at the hospital? You no know say she just dey find husband by all means?

You knew you weren't financially capable of being married, you still allowed her push you even against the advice of her poor parents.

You done enter am na, face it alone.

Good luck o.

PCSI:
Please run away and never come back.

You are coming online for advice.

Nkita

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me

ClixMaster:
This is why I laugh at guys rush into marriage without any tangible source of steady income just because one desperate girl is deceiving him that they will manage together. I will rather remain single than marrying on empty pocket.

The highest she can endure and claim good wife is one year and she will just show you her true color. Money makes marriage sweet

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me

Rekhi:
Which one be all these pregnancy hormone stories i've been reading up there?..So,pregnancy hormone gives woman power to be beating her husband upandan?*smh*..i can accept that she wasn't suppose to follow op to the farm and op has to help with chores,but locking her hubby out and beating him up is SOMETHING ELSE entirely..
Mr Op,the problem i can deduce is either your woman is desperate to marry,hence her initial pretense of being a good woman so as to make you marry her,and since she's got what she wanted,she started to show you her real colour. OR she's fed with the way things are financially..Just hustle and make more money,you will realise she won't be that toxic even if pregnant with twins..

Luak:
your headline is not appropriate. Nevertheless, I advise you work harder on yourself and marriage. You don't have any serious issue

grafixdon:
That woman deserves better... She expects you to take good care of her which unfortunately you are not capable.

Look for a way to 5ake good care of that woman, the good Lord will help you.

fineboynl:
your problem is poverty. please try to fix that first.

some girls are like that when they are pregnant and nursing a child. the family didn't support or bless your union. it's one leakage for satan the devil. the union has no foundation. maybe you try to fix that.

PCSI:
Please run away and never come back.

You are coming online for advice.

Nkita

udoji2021:
She knew my condition very well before coming. she was even the person pack her things secretly and come to my house.

As for the parents, their problem is money, infact, all I'm facing now all boils down to money but I can't kill myself to satisfy my wife. At least I'm trying to provide food which has not been easy, I always go to any length including borrowing and begging people just to satisfy her but all my efforts are not enough to calm her down. she bite my finger this evening and till now I don't have money to even buy cotton wool to cover it. I can't go to the farm again with this hand. How then did she expect me to prepare well for the future without me going to the farm?


I'm saying this simply but true, I feel like killing myself cos my life is just messed up

udoji2021:
That was my plan but the pregnancy is just 5months. Thinking of how to endure it for long is what will actually kill me. She can be violent sometimes and start hitting me. Infact, i think she is possesed by something recently cos her actions are NOT normal

cococandy:
Wow. You don’t deserve her . Smh

Edited. Once violence enter the equation, you need to reassess the situation. A pregnant woman can also kill you if she’s vexed enough even though she’s tired from being pregnant.

arkonpoint:
You're welcome to the vast world of parenthood. You never smell what's cooking, you're complaining already. Wait till school fees start kicking in, you go know say this life no get part two. As a man, you must get plans for survival only open to you, forget my wife is caring and understanding fables.

cococandy:
Wow. You don’t deserve her . Smh

Edited. Once violence enter the equation, you need to reassess the situation. A pregnant woman can also kill you if she’s vexed enough even though she’s tired from being pregnant.

udoji2021:
I'm not understanding this talk about pregnant women cos I was opportune to be with some of them but I have never seen this type of behavior before



did pregnant women always behave like this



My wife use to behave like she is possesed recently, imagine biting my hand with blood coming out, is that really normal

Righteousness2:
Calm Down bro..
According to you, she changed after Pregnancy.
Just see it like the things that come with pregnancy. Some ladies could be very unbecoming when they are pregnant.
So stay calm and do the best you can.

pstemma1990:
Good morning sir, I would love to have a private conversation with u over an important issue... with ur permission I can drop my WhatsApp number....

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me



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Rekhi:
Which one be all these pregnancy hormone stories i've been reading up there?..So,pregnancy hormone gives woman power to be beating her husband upandan?*smh*..i can accept that she wasn't suppose to follow op to the farm and op has to help with chores,but locking her hubby out and beating him up is SOMETHING ELSE entirely..
Mr Op,the problem i can deduce is either your woman is desperate to marry,hence her initial pretense of being a good woman so as to make you marry her,and since she's got what she wanted,she started to show you her real colour. OR she's fed up with the way things are financially..Just hustle and make more money,you will realise she won't be that toxic even if pregnant with twins..

fineboynl:
it's a phase. she is probably angry with the kind of life she is going through. initially she won't see anything coming to you. but now she has seen it all. so the real character will come out.

udoji2021:
She knew my condition very well before coming. she was even the person pack her things secretly and come to my house.

As for the parents, their problem is money, infact, all I'm facing now all boils down to money but I can't kill myself to satisfy my wife. At least I'm trying to provide food which has not been easy, I always go to any length including borrowing and begging people just to satisfy her but all my efforts are not enough to calm her down. she bite my finger this evening and till now I don't have money to even buy cotton wool to cover it. I can't go to the farm again with this hand. How then did she expect me to prepare well for the future without me going to the farm?


I'm saying this simply but true, I feel like killing myself cos my life is just messed up

Righteousness2:
My WhatsApp Contact is on my Signature.