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A pregnant woman? The fact that you don't have enough doesn't mean you shouldn't think properly. Even animals deserve proper rest as some point. Be sensitive enough to her plight.

just accept it has your own faith.

DaddyRochie1642:
See why people are always advised especially men to be always be Financially stable before entering into Marriage.

See how this man is Weeping and gnashing his teeth because he didn't listen to logical advise... He probably watched too much Nigerian movies where the queen falls in love with the carpenter or welder and the got married and the lived happily ever after .

Oga I hope that you've now realized and seen that Real life and movies are two different things.

And to make matters worse, the woman is pregnant, how do you plan on taking care of the baby, the woman and yourself?

That's what I was wondering.

How does he plan to take care of another mouth if two is still an issue? What if the heavens make it a twin!

AfriNotesNEWS:
My brother her behavior is normal with few women when pregnant..

I will advise you to stop paying attention on her recent behavior and don't stop loving her..

You will learn to be more silent to her action and wise at accepting responsibilities that comes with marriage. Children


Don't run away from your house and don't hate her..don't instigate ur sister to hate her

Is funny her family is not in support of ur union..

Las las

U did not state where she came from

If she is from Benue or Kogi... My dear is normal things with them and her family may have reason for not supporting her to marriage at this time

Be patient, love her stand by her

Work hard
.
If you are into farming strive to increase ur seedings and farming..


Also go to buy and selling of agro crops


When she put to bed.. if she is from Benue or Kogi.. don't give her to chance.. get her pregnant as soon as possible.. or ex.. she may be the one to run out from ur home as soon as she put to bed and believe that her body is strong..


Sorry and be patient.

Both of us are from Benue state.

Her parents didn't give any reason for their refusal to support the marriage but I understand that I'm deaf and poor so they were not comfortable with it.

this guy needs deliverance.

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Udoji2021, Is this not fairy tale we are reading?

I like the fact that you said things went “north” instead of south. Lord knows the North is the problem of Nigeria.

If your story is real then you should not be surprised by her actions. She’s pregnant. Only banana she asked you with small insult, you’re thinking of fleeing. At least she has not asked you to go and find ice cream at 2 am. After somehow miraculously buying it she would say she doesn’t want ice cream anymore cos it’s irritating her.

It’s like you don’t know pregnant women. Her own demonstration is mild compared to others I know.

Women are not themselves during pregnancy. Pardon her and hustle. Last time, you needed her support. This time she really needs your support. Be there for her.

Mr. Man you see ur life. u marry her to take care of u abi?

Righteousness2:
Calm Down bro..
According to you, she changed after Pregnancy.
Just see it like the things that come with pregnancy. Some ladies could be very unbecoming when they are pregnant.
So stay calm and do the best you can.

Very correct sir, my wife then always requested for ice cream during her pregnancy .. It was really a stress going to get it coz of the distance but she didn't care... Until I got robbed one day on my way to grant her wish... She was all sober and apologized.. Surprisingly the next day, she needed fried rice n salad not minding what I went through the previous day..... So all I can say is for him to stay calm n do his best... And most especially HUSSLE!!!....

Beg Iyabo Ojo to give you 300k and restart your business. She is a Philanthropist, but you need to provide evidences. More so, she is a mother and she's always supporting courses like this as seen in Baba Ijesha's case.

Are you a handicap?

I need to know before I can give my own advice.

victorVIC1:
Baba...You have a good intention but you shouldn't expect your pregnant wife to engage in farming activities. It's not done. My wife lost her first pregnancy due to physical activities at work.

This is the point you need to take up more responsibilities and shower your wife with as much care as possible.

After her postpartum period, she can be more supportive.

Thank you.

But I think y'all are missing the violent part.

what should I do??

udoji2021:
That was my plan but the pregnancy is just 5months. Thinking of how to endure it for long is what will actually kill me. She can be violent sometimes and start hitting me. Infact, i think she is possesed by something recently cos her actions are NOT normal

her actions are normal. she is not possessed.

udoji2021:
Thank you

Watch diary of a pregnant woman (nollywood). The lead actor is RUTH KADIRI.

Pregnant women react differently when they are pregnant. It will past my brother. Endure a little more

Sanchez01:
A pregnant woman? The fact that you don't have enough doesn't mean you shouldn't think properly. Even animals deserve proper rest as some point. Be sensitive enough to her plight.

Hahahaha. I didn’t even know what to comment. OP is so innocently clueless.

AfricanGiant91:
Guy, be a man joor!
i guess u've nt bn around a pregnant woman b4.
Me & my friend once went out to get suya 4 expressway at past 12am mid9t, on our way back vigilante guys hol' us say we b thief afta much explain' dem 4low us reach gate only 2 enta & den is pregnt gf say nah banana she want she noh want d suya again. Life taya me dat day

lol . I swear I just Dey imagine the situation lol. If I were the one , I will never go back and get the banana. She will either take the suya or drink water. Pregnant women ehn

udoji2021:
Both of us are from Benue state.

Her parents didn't give any reason for their refusal to support the marriage but I understand that I'm deaf and poor so they were not comfortable with it.

Sometimes love is not enough, you really need to find something doing and fast (aside the farming) .... Lots of responsibility comes with having a baby...

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

u change too

But why are people now coming up with different fairy tales?!!...some dey even do copycopy sef. Just wondering!! :

udoji2021:
I should expect more

Do you know what is on ground already? bro, I love her but she should not kill me because of pregnancy.



As for doubling my hustle, I'm trying but things are just tough this days couple with my disability, it's really hard but I thought she will understand cos she is the one that told me to forget about money

you’ve been scammed bro.


Regardless of anything , money is the most important in marriage of 2021

This man dey learn. Remember when my wife was pregnant of my first child i hear am. I was very financially buyout though. She will wake me around 10pm to buy orange, suya, chicken, watermelon, banana everyday. Could u imagine everything i do irritates her, get her angry easily etc. But deep down my mind i knew is not her acting just her hormones. After delivery she changed to her normal self. Any time u get ur wife pregnant better be ready for the worst. Don't start crying like a baby, be a man and handle it like a man u re.

udemzyudex:
Are you a handicap?
I need to know before I can give my own advice.

yeah.
I'm hearing impaired

Righteousness2:
Calm Down bro..
According to you, she changed after Pregnancy.
Just see it like the things that come with pregnancy. Some ladies could be very unbecoming when they are pregnant.
So stay calm and do the best you can.

Just see how you made sense today that you didn't bring in gibberish religious stuff unless you are an entirely different person

My brother na normal thing oh, i just dey pray make my own no change too much because i go balance her the remaining change wey remain

It is one of those things.. you just gotta stay stronger. You will get tired of being strong but you just got come back stronger.

nifemi25:
To leave a non working relationship is more referable than leaving as a corpse ...try talk sense into her but if she doesn't act on it...jejeli leave

leave marriage...hmmm!

Romanoff:
She's prolly a good woman, she just desperately wanted to get married and now that she's pregnant, you'd have to cut her some slack.

Double your hustle cause she can't be hungry and she can't farm.

Her hormones are crazy at this point so try to be understanding too.

E go better.

Na now u talk..

maasoap:
Just see how you made sense today that you didn't bring in gibberish religious stuff unless you are an entirely different person

Lol

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

Apologize to her and treat her better, while working harder,

there are two things involved here, her hormones during pregnancy, and her fear of the future due to the poverty that stares her in the face.

Get closer to God, He can open strange doors of blessings for you.

Love your wife as she is. God bless you

kpompey:
Beg Iyabo Ojo to give you 300k and restart your business. She is a Philanthropist, but you need to provide evidences. More so, she is a mother and she's always supporting courses like this as seen in Baba Ijesha's case.

I don't know how to go about it.

I will appreciate if you can help me with a way forward.



However, y'all are talking about money but I was like this when we get married. I don't think the issue here is about money entirely

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

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