There's a friend of mine who doesn't get enough attention from her man in her relationship. she's always complained but he gives her same excuse "he's hustling". This time things went outta hand,after series of complaint he gave her the most savage replies. Telling her " oh,you're an ingrate, you're mad, since its attention you want, you have lots of wooers, you can chat them up when I'm offline to keep you company, go and look for your Mr perfect". It ended that way, the guy asked for a break up. My friend came running to me explaining that she only complained that he's not giving her attention. But yet its break up he wants. I told my girl,this guy doesn't deserve you. or are you blind? There are things a guy can and cannot say to his loved ones even when angry. Forget the guy.

my girl didn't listen. she came to me again saying they've settled. That he's apologised.
how did he apologise? by saying "oya,I'll send you money in the morning" pls isn't that insult? But no,my girl was smiling when she received the msg. she also said, he wants to get her a new phone that's why he's been acting that way. Tried explaining to her that self respect isn't pride. Did I advice my friend wrongly ? she sees me like I hate her rn.

There's always a constant tension between forces trying to hold a relationship together and forces trying to tear the couple apart.

Op which of the forces do you belong?

Preciousjewel01:
There's a friend of mine who doesn't get enough attention from her man in her relationship. she's always complained but he gives her same excuse "he's hustling". This time things went outta hand,after series of complaint he gave her the most savage replies. Telling her " oh,you're an ingrate, you're mad, since its attention you want, you have lots of wooers, you can chat them up when I'm offline to keep you company, go and look for your Mr perfect". It ended that way, the guy asked for a break up. My friend came running to me explaining that she only complained that he's not giving her attention. But yet its break up he wants. I told my girl,this guy doesn't deserve you. or are you blind? There are things a guy can and cannot say to his loved ones even when angry. Forget the guy.

my girl didn't listen. she came to me again saying they've settled. That he's apologised.
how did he apologise? by saying "oya,I'll send you money in the morning" pls isn't that insult? But no,my girl was smiling when she received the msg. she also said, he wants to get her a new phone that's why he's been acting that way. Tried explaining to her that self respect isn't pride. Did I advice my friend wrongly ? she sees me like I hate her rn.

Your Friend is Like every other Average Nigerian Girl, Useless!

SeekerofTruth1:


Your Friend is Like every other Average Nigerian Girl, Useless!

@OP, can you connect me with the guy ?
I need to help them and settle this fight.

I wish her the very best

@op, make them watch you carefully, you're up to something.

Your body go rest io (kuro nbe)
Papa tell pikin io (ehh)
Your body go rest io
Your body go rest io (ehh)
Dem come go confess io (so nu)
Your head go correct io (da nu)
You nor go forget io
Shey you get the concept


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You go learn your own lesson Ja ara Ja ara
Everybody keep on searching Ja ara Ja ara
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**Just singing out loud.**

Beckysexy:
@OP, can you connect me with the guy ?
I need to help them and settle this fight.

Settle or collect ya own share from the guy? My sister tell us the truth, we know as e dey go

We must realise that We may note be able to have it all in the Short-run but on the Long-run we can have them all. She has a Man that's ready to give her material things but there is no time for Attention.
She should understand that the guy trying to utilize Time for More financial resources now that the opportunity is here. If she knows she cant compliment the Guy she should please let Him go.

I also think you should encourage Her to get a Job or invest her excess time in productive ventures Or She should look for People like her who will give Her attention.

your friend is useless and a time waster.. for me time is money . if i have a girlfriend that want my attention and also want money and material things from me then it wont work . . a responsible girl will be busy with her own life and be hard working instead she is trying to tie the guy down in the name of relationship . the guy is a real nigga . tell your friend to get busy with her life and be productive . and stop depending on a man for your daily bread . it aint cool makes you look cheap and none respected .

Preciousjewel01:
There's a friend of mine who doesn't get enough attention from her man in her relationship. she's always complained but he gives her same excuse "he's hustling". This time things went outta hand,after series of complaint he gave her the most savage replies. Telling her " oh,you're an ingrate, you're mad, since its attention you want, you have lots of wooers, you can chat them up when I'm offline to keep you company, go and look for your Mr perfect". It ended that way, the guy asked for a break up. My friend came running to me explaining that she only complained that he's not giving her attention. But yet its break up he wants. I told my girl,this guy doesn't deserve you. or are you blind? There are things a guy can and cannot say to his loved ones even when angry. Forget the guy.

my girl didn't listen. she came to me again saying they've settled. That he's apologised.
how did he apologise? by saying "oya,I'll send you money in the morning" pls isn't that insult? But no,my girl was smiling when she received the msg. she also said, he wants to get her a new phone that's why he's been acting that way. Tried explaining to her that self respect isn't pride. Did I advice my friend wrongly ? she sees me like I hate her rn.

Op, Leave D Poor Guy Alone. Ur Friend Own Self Too Much. Dis Is What Idleness Can Cause. Na Which Kind Attention She Dey Find? Someone Is Huzzling To Make Ends Meet, Anoda Person Is Busy Pestering Him With Irrelevant Attention. Abeg Free D Guy.

Abeg concentrate on your own

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Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright

Haven seen the word "HER"...what comes to mind is FUTURE IS FEMALE!

Hmmm...were you not told not to interfere in people's relationships for if you do, you have denigrated yourself? Take this as a learning point and allow adults make their decisions. You could hint but do not advice.

heyaaa

E be like say you yaself no get job. If you have better things to do, na relationship matter you go dey settle?

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You that posted this is the bigger mumu...


Your mumu friend is wiser than you, and you are a terrible advicer...


I am yet to see girls give reasonable advice to a fellow girl...


You could have just kept quiet on the issue because it wasn't a serious issues for you to intervene....


Women love attention but will be quick to leave you if you have no money, how can a man give you full attention and still earn money?

The guy is a man in control of his relationship, your friend is ungrateful as he said,, I hope she changes.

Attention can never be enough... The more she struggles for more of his attention the more she is hooked to him.

Ok

poverty has robbed many of their self worth and respect. powerbank for laptop, over ten hours guaranteed and twenty hours possible. Increase your productivity and work when you like. Don't get mistaken for a Yahoo boy because of your generator noise

OP your own case is different.... From your description, it seems your friend is still a child.

I have a close friend that earns very well and drives a flashy car, takes care of his gf very very well.... he recently hacked his gf's WhatsApp account and was reading her messages....he said he felt like dying after seeing her chats.

I told him money can't keep a girl because you don't even know what she wants in the first place....

May God grant us a good spouse that won't send us to our grave early on with stress.

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what's your concern with someone else's business?
go find a job.

relationships are very technical and personal, some people will only learn from their personal mistakes.

We know people like you. You don't have a working relationship and you keep pokenosing in your friends' own, serving as the perfect adviser and looking out to ruining what used to be a working relationship.

If the guy is broke, you shame him. If he's chasing money and giving less attention, you'll blame him. How do you even have so much information about how they settled their disagreement?

Until you find a man, keep the relationship and probably get married, you're in no place at all to advise your friend on her relationship, especially when it's not a violent one.

Okay