Bola146:
It's natural, some men are just useless maybe by curse or behavior. If I give my mother #30 million, I'll give my father #1million

But he different is much now 30m against 1m

Because many Nigerian men are ignorant and selfish.

If you go through messages even here and see how much hate they share about their own family members you will know that their wives and children are suffering.

I will never be like that because the secret many men don’t know is that a man hated by his children is a poor man. Learnt from my grandfather and prosperity has graced us for generations.

Gbammmm.....


I think it happened in ur own family, so blame ur dad for his uncaring attitude and not every Father.


who knows maybe ur waywardness and nonsensical attitude being displayed on nairaland are attributed to the way you ignored ur dad chastisement in which ur mum embraced you thinking she was showing motherly love[/quote]

Sure

ottiz:
I know my children love me, but I don't expect them to give me money when they approach the age to do such. Maybe some sentimental gifts once in a while. However, I expect them to give money to their mom. That does not mean they love me less. It is just the way of nature and nurture.

Men should play their role as providers and head of the family, while at the same time plan for their retirement. Don't put pressure on your child(ren) to "pay" you back.

Bola146:
It's natural, some men are just useless maybe by curse or behavior. If I give my mother #30 million, I'll give my father #1million

Even if your father is a beast, is that how you portray him in public?
Even if your dad abandoned you and your mum, have you cared to find out why?

This says alot about your personality and upbringing.

*GIVE YOUR KIDS THIS PIECE TO READ.*

It takes a LIFETIME to realize that once DAD WAS THE BEST


*WHEN I WAS 4 years old, I knew my dad to be THE BEST*...

WHEN I WAS 6, I also knew Dad to have known it all...

*WHEN I WAS* 10 years of age, I knew Dad to be good.

*WHEN I WAS* 12 years I began to think that Dad wasn't as good as he was when I was a little boy...

*WHEN I WAS* 12 years old, I began discovering him to be more temperamental and strict as never before....

*WHEN I WAS* 16, I was convinced that he was an old school, and was not up to standard - to the current times we live in....

WHEN I turned 18, I thought Dad was very intolerant and hard to communicate with & also difficult to get along with...

*WHEN I* turned 20, I realized that he wasn't an easy person, and began wondering how Mom was able to put up with him in all the years of marriage...

*WHEN I* turned 25, it seemed like he had many objections to everything that I did....

*WHEN I* turned 30, I was convinced that we were not on the same page, and that nothing would ever please him...

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*WHEN I* turned 40, I then only began to realize how good my upbringing was, and that I should also raise my kids up in the same way...

WHEN I was 45, I started wondering how did Dad ever put up with all the challenges he faced with us whilst we were growing up ...

WHEN I became 50, I realized how difficult it was for Dad to have educated us and trying to instill good manners
in us, thus I began wondering how he managed to tolerate our excesses

WHEN I was 55 years of age, I only then started realizing the wisdom & foresight my Dad had of life in getting us to where we are today...

When I turned 60, ONLY then did I eventually realize that *MY DAD WAS THE BEST*

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It takes a lifetime to realize the true status of our parents. It takes us a lifecycle to really appreciate our parents.

The difference being, as teens growing up, we selfishly view life within the confines of our own interests, whilst our parents view life selflessly, sacrificing everything for us.

Sadly, we sometimes fail to understand that our parents are always our well wishers.

At 40 only, do we then start to realize that what we believed when we were 4 to be true...

Some are yet fortunate to have realized their parents true value whilst their parents were living, whilst others have unfortunately realized when it was too late - their parents have departed from this world; It's a painful guilt to live with.

mathskid:
For the over years now, despite all efforts put by fathers to train up their children, by attending to all their basic needs as fathers, after becoming successful in adulthood, children always tend to do great things for their mothers than that of their fathers. Even me is a victim as well, I want do great things for my mum but I remember my dad did all he could for me, make sure that I don't become a miscreant in the society by making sure I was discipline enough but still yet I love my mum more than him.
Why is it like that? Or is it written in the Bible to favour your mother than your father when you are fully mature?




Pls push to front page, let's know our mistakes as fathers in our children's life

Children love those who love them the most

kalu61:
Even if your father is a beast, is that how you portray him in public?
Even if your dad abandoned you and your mum, have you cared to find out why?

This says alot about your personality and upbringing.

Exactly your type, you need to ask Google

I would say I love my mum more than my dad. My dad always shouts at me, I'm 26years old now, I can't remember or have any memory of my dad showing me love or affection for me, he is never around, when ever he manage to come and he notice a go out to play then, he would flog with koboko. Because of this I have social anxiety and low self-esteem. I can't relate with people, I run away and hide in the room when people come to visit us, I'm always very shy and indoors, my mum is always complaining to go out and make friends, I was not like this before o. He said what ever he did was to make me strong. I Don't know, I guess

ceeceeco:
Blame it on your useless father.

Exactly has your useless siblings and father too Do you even know your father

Fiscus105:



who do you like more ?

I love both but I am closer to my mom

1x2x3:


Your mother poisoned your mind sorry to say. The sacrifices father's pay isn't made known to the children.

Ask your father, do you even know him? Mumu

IYANGBALI:
another mosquito brain on nairaland

Do you even know who gave birth to you No wonder you are a nuisance!

Kebbiprince:

Perhaps you have a useless father

Exactly like your own

EJanni:
The bond between mother and child is devine. Imagine being inside someone for 40weeks and two years of nurturing while father comes and goes. In other words mothers are always there for their children.

Guys are closer to their mum while the girls are closer to their dads except those girls with strong head and their dads tried to discipline them so they will hate their dads because he refused them to follow one boy

Kriss216:

After reading this your article, to marry don dey hungry me

Mariah nwanyi oma, kedu kà idi?

Símp.. if it was a man who posted this would u reply

Símp!

Fiscus105:


I think it happened in ur own family, so blame ur dad for his uncaring attitude and not every Father.


who knows maybe ur waywardness and nonsensical attitude being displayed on nairaland are attributed to the way you ignored ur dad chastisement in which ur mum embraced you thinking she was showing motherly love

Did you read well or understand English better I'm not sure!!!! Already knew this will certainly come especially those kids Pele

Kebbiprince:

You must be a useless mother by turning this beautiful thread to a hate one, filthy thing

Exactly like your filthy mother

Bola146:


Exactly like your filthy mother

Hahahahahahaha e pain am oo
Filthy dirty gal with ashawo mother

Bola146:


Exactly like your own

E pain am oo, only your father is useless and worthless and you rightly told us that, useless daughter of a useless father

You clearly don't have sense. I just have to tell u d truth.

Bola146:
It's natural, some men are just useless maybe by curse or behavior. If I give my mother #30 million, I'll give my father #1million

Kebbiprince:

Hahahahahahaha e pain am oo
Filthy dirty gal with ashawo mother

Exactly how your mother and her monkey produced you Kikikikikikikiki

sorextee:
You clearly don't have sense. I just have to tell u d truth.

Exactly how you lack home training too

95% of children are have been simped by mothers.
That is why some fathers suffer at old age when the wife would leave him to go stay with any of the children in obodo oyinbo.

benzene00:


Símp.. if it was a man who posted this would u reply

Símp!

Mariahangel, was called a simp cos I replied your post.


Maybe I'll desist from replying to your posts.

On the contrary it aint like that. For me it's the opposite. I love my Dad more than my mum. It's the connection between a Parent and a child or Guardian to a child that matters a child can even love his/her Guardian more than his/her parents. The heart felt welcoming and Love from my Dad to me am even yet to expirence it with someone else since His unfortunate demise
This was because while I was been tagged stubborn neglected and seen like a trash from my Mum, my Dad welcomed and loved me unconditionally. But albeit it was equal. Would have love my Mum more than my Dad. So to me its just the stance from both parent to a child that matters. But nomly a child is more connected to Mum than Dad. But still if no love and seen as trash the love the child will have is towards who accepts him/her unconditionally and loved and cared for him/her

I believe it is because most fathers doesn't create time to bond with their children. I so much loved my dad, I wasn't close to my mum until I lost my dad, in fact she was so scared of telling me when my dad died because of the bond. Presently I spend more time with my children than their mother does and I am reaping this already, my girls are so close to me. My advice to fathers, be a modern father, bond with your children, when you discipline them tell them why you did that. Shalom.

Things are fast changing. Fathers are beginning to spend more time with their kids. Go to hospitals. The trend now is the mother carries the baby's bag while the father holds the baby to his chest. They have learnt and they dont want to be like their own fathers. Gone are the days fathers are seen as Draculas. Now they are more loving and actively involved in their children's lives

Bola146:
It's natural, some men are just useless maybe by curse or behavior. If I give my mother #30 million, I'll give my father #1million

Quote me and I'll give you your sincere answers

Maybe your father was useless..but mine was very responsible, available and useful.Growing up, it was my dad that was my lesson teacher.He would teach us how to do the assignments we got from school not my mom though she did her mothering duties well. My dad was very available and provided where he could. So don't make blanket statements that only applies to your shitty experience. Today I send money to my mon and dad not necessarily based on who did more..because they both did great.

bezimo:


Maybe your father was useless..but mine was very responsible, available and useful.Growing up, it was my dad that was my lesson teacher.He would teach us how to do the assignments we got from school not my mom though she did her mothering duties well. My dad was very available and provided where he could. So don't make blanket statements that only applies to your shitty experience. Today I send money to my mon and dad not necessarily based on who did more..because they both did great.

Exactly how useless you are because you are blind save your shitty to your skull

This is a typical example of what men go through in life.
Out of practical love for you, you dad insisted that you not only finish your university but also to finish with good grades, do you know why? Because he knows that there are hardly jobs around, and since he believes you are intelligent, he wants you to seat your arse out and bring out those potentials in you.
Rather than become that graduate that will be a role model to your younger ones, you have instead become a worker in a betting shop, which means you are also probably a gambler also, of course with the support of your mom. You see those players playing in the Nigerian leagues, many of them also thought they will be the next Ronaldo or Messi, but the chances are very low. Out of 20k young footballers, only about 100 eventually make it to the big stage, that was what the love of your father was guiding against.
Also right now, the man is alive to pay your fees maybe because he has not retired. What of if something happens to his source of income and he is no longer able to pay your fees, just you would have lost an opportunity? Then you will become bitter against everybody.

Just so you know, there is one Nigerian footballer that is a graduate, he recently got a job as a sporting director in Switzerland or so. If your destiny was really about football, nothing would have stopped you, you know how many of us when very young thought we were good footballers?
I do not want to speak ill of your mom, but she should have stood by your dad and since she has a lot of influence on you, where your dad was forceful, she should have been more persuasive.

gaftsoil:
When I was growing up, my dad was so strict and I'm his first son. He beats me up in any little thing I do. Everyone recognized me as a good footballer and I'm also intelligent naturally but I love football more than any other thing. I don't like to read. My dad many times banned me from playing football. He said I must go to school( higher institution). His strictness made me grow in fear and I'm always afraid to tell him what bothers me because he must scold me. During my second year in school I found out that school wasn't my calling. My destiny I based on football or business. I told my mum that I'm tired of school and she told my dad. My dad instead of calling me to find out why, he warned me never to say it again and I must graduate with good grades. In 2014 I told my dad to help me with money to open a bet9ja shop because there wasn't any in my town. He said I will use his money to play pool. I tried to explain but he didn't give me ears. To cut the story short I didn't fulfill my football dream and I ended up not graduating on time and started working for someone in bet9ja. Lately my mum got a loan for me to start up a bet shop which my dad never did. He keeps blaming me. WHY WON'T I LOVE MAMA MORE. If I want to send money home, I send to mum and tell her what to give to Dad

Coz the mum pampers and spoil them dad spank and raise them the hard way