Good morning and sorry to disturb you with this but I had a sleepless night and I thought to share this with someone.....who else if not my good brothers and sisters on Nairaland.

About a year ago I moved in to a new compound and discovered one of my neighbors came from the state as me and we easily bonded and became like brothers, our wives not from the same state as us too became close. A few months later, another lady from the same state as us too moved in and became a part of the relationship.

Things became sour when we started noticing what other neighbors had tried to draw our attention to, being that my said brother's wife is a chronic liar and busy body who creates tension between people with her lies.

My wife and I had a fight when she told my wife I said she was the cause of my parents HBP. What I actually said to her husband while she was in the kitchen was " my wife tells my parents about our fights and I don't like it because they are hypertensive".

Among others, if she gives you #100, she tells people it's #10000, if she eats your food, she goes out and says no maggi or this and that. She calls you a miser while she can't ordinarily do more than you.

She had even matchmaked our sister in the compound with another man, the man later told our sister his colleague had brought him to collect his share of the "kpekus" and to eat her money but he can't go through when he realized she was a good woman with a good heart.

Now this said sister went for her introduction with another man last week Saturday without telling them because of his wife and her mouth. He called me as a man and complained to me how he felt bad when he saw others congratulating her while he knew nothing about it.

This man is a good man, very good but his wife is the problem. I don't want to tell him he wasn't informed because of his wife and I don't want to lie to him as a brother.

I faked a call and said we'd talk about it today.

My good brothers and sisters and elders on Nairaland, I need your matured advice. Thanks

If you tell him, he might tell his wife and the circle continues. I think you just tell him its a family decision

Wahala...


Can you just act like you're also not aware?

Run away from liars.

Tell him with good instances. Don’t say she is a liar explicitly, just tell him she misquotes others or misunderstands people too often. Use the HBP incident has an illustration. Tell him there are many others and everyone is now aware.

Tell him she is a nice woman but she needs to talk less and can not quote anyone when she’s not the one being spoken to.

ngkman:
Good morning and sorry to disturb you with this but I had a sleepless night and I thought to share this with someone.....who else if not my good brothers and sisters on Nairaland.
About a year ago I moved in to a new compound and discovered one of my neighbors came from the state as me and we easily bonded and became like brothers, our wives not from the same state as us too became close. A few months later, another lady from the same state as us too moved in and became a part of the relationship.
Things became sour when we started noticing what other neighbors had tried to draw our attention to, being that my said brother's wife is a chronic liar and busy body who creates tension between people with her lies.
My wife and I had a fight when she told my wife I said she was the cause of my parents HBP. What I actually said to her husband while she was in the kitchen was " my wife tells my parents about our fights and I don't like it because they are hypertensive". Among others, if she gives you #100, she tells people it's #10000, if she eats your food, she goes out and says no maggi or this and that. She calls you a miser while she can't ordinarily do more than you. She had even matchmaked our sister in the compound with another man, the man later told our sister his colleague had brought him to collect his share of the "kpekus" and to eat her money but he can't go through when he realized she was a good woman with a good heart.
Now this said sister went for her introduction with another man last week Saturday without telling them because of his wife and her mouth. He called me as a man and complained to me how he felt bad when he saw others congratulating her while he knew nothing about it. This man is a good man, very good but his wife is the problem. I don't want to tell him he wasn't informed because of his wife and I don't want to lie to him as a brother. I faked a call and said we'd talk about it today. My good brothers and sisters and elders on Nairaland, I need your matured advice. Thanks

well, send this nairaland link to him.... AS IF IT IS JUST A STORY... and let him connect the dots... but if this account bears your name or anything that can be traced to you, then it will create more problem.

Sometimes, minding your own business works, and praying he discovers it by himself.

He's a man and tight men have a code.. being that you both are married, take him out to a new location a cool bar to be precise so he's mind starts to ponder about what might be going on.. don't go straight to the point just yet.. stylishly ask him to judge himself why he wasn't told about the introduction! I bet you he knows the answer only that the needs to hear it from someone else. But ignore this advice if he's a dull man and a woman wrapper cos she might have a way of poisoning his mind against you.. be guided.. real gees got each others backs even if our wives they forkup

All of you are amebos but here you are victimizing and crucifying only the woman. Barack people smh

Rozcol:
All of you are all amebos but here you are victimizing only the woman. Barack people smh

I so much hate gossips , that your neighbor's wife and men like OP disgust me.. aproko up and down

fannybaby:
I so much hate gossips , that your neighbor's wife and men like OP disgust me.. aproko up and down

. Well, stuffs like this ain't part of me but the husband being a traveling man, whenever she ' buys market', I stand in for the husband to apologise and I've never told the husband about it. So, me being a gossip, that's not me.

Rozcol:
All of you are amebos but here you are victimizing only the woman. Barack people smh

Maybe we all are, but come to think of it, what makes hers so special?.

greatnaija01:


well, send this nairaland link to him.... AS IF IT IS JUST A STORY... and let him connect the dots... but if this account bears your name or anything that can be traced to you, then it will create more problem.

Sometimes, minding your own business works, and praying he discovers it by himself.

Thanks, perhaps feigning ignorance too would be just it

hopeforcharles:
If you tell him, he might tell his wife and the circle continues. I think you just tell him its a faily decision

. Thanks sir.

Manq:
He's a man and tight men have a code.. being that you both are married, take him out to a new location a cool bar to be precise so he's mind starts to ponder about what might be going on.. don't go straight to the point just yet.. stylishly ask him to judge himself why he wasn't told about the introduction! I bet you he knows the answer only that the needs to hear it from someone else. But ignore this advice if he's a dull man and a woman wrapper cos she might have a way of poisoning his mind against you.. be guided.. real gees got each others backs even if our wives they forkup

. Actually I think he knows, while enjoying our palmwine, he had told me a 16 year old girl stopped greeting his wife and he noticed it. He playfully asked the girl and she said ' his wife told people she had gone for abortion simply because she traveled to the village after recovering from a sickness.'

ngkman:
. Well, stuffs like this ain't part of me but the husband being a traveling man, whenever she ' buys market', I stand in for the husband to apologise and I've never told the husband about it. So, me being a gossip, that's not me.

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Why are you apologizing on the husband's behalf What concerns you with that

Hello everyone, if you have people like OP and his neighbor's wife as colleagues at work, you will most certainly lose your job

All I see here is you trying to get back at her for causing quarrel between you and your wife, nothing more. Though I expect you to be a man and let it slide by minding your biz and telling your wife to cut off from such friendship.

You may think her husband doesn't know about her behavior and will be shocked that bringing his attention to it will make him team up with her and fight you or worst still cut you off. Remember, she's his wife and he won't throw her out just to keep being friends with you.

Be wise.

fannybaby:
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Why are you apologizing on the husband's behalf What concerns you with that

Hello everyone, if you have people like OP and his neighbor's wife as colleagues at work, you will most certainly lose your job

. I like your reasoning, were tides turned and you were me, your ' brother's' wife does wrong outside and the trouble comes to the house and your brother isn't around, what would you do? You seem overly intelligent

Rozcol:
All of you are amebos but here you are victimizing only the woman. Barack people smh

ngkman:
. I like your reasoning, were tides turned and you were me, your ' brother's' wife does wrong outside and the trouble comes to the house and your brother isn't around, what would you do? You seem overly intelligent

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Tell them to come back whenever her husband comes around......

fannybaby:
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Tell them to come back whenever her husband comes around......

. Lol, you think I don't say that? With her seated there, ' I said I'm sorry for what happened, but as you can see, her husband isn't around, when he comes back, he'll address the issue'. Unless if course if you'd wished I said exactly like you wrote

ngkman:
. Lol, you think I don't say that? With her seated there, ' I said I'm sorry for what happened, but as you can see, her husband isn't around, when he comes back, he'll address the issue'. Unless if course if you'd wished I said exactly like you wrote

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Are you always outside when they come to report or it is when you hear noise that you come outside??

CharisEleos:
All I see here is you trying to get back at her for causing quarrel between you and your wife, nothing more. Though I expect you to be a man and let it slide by minding your biz and telling your wife to cut off from such friendship.

You may think her husband doesn't know about her behavior and will be shocked that bringing his attention to it will make him team up with her and fight you or worst still cut you off. Remember, she's his wife and won't throw her out just to keep being friends with you.

Be wise.

Thanks, truth being said, I bear no grudge, just mindful of my issues which I discuss with my ' brother'. Thats why I think keeping quiet about it is best

ngkman:
Thanks, truth being said, I bear no grudge, just mindful of my issues which I discuss with my ' brother'. Thats why I think keeping quiet about it is best

Ok.

Better.

@ngkman it appears you’re out for a pound of flesh for what she did to you, lol. No be you go tell “brother” about your wife? He leaked the “secret” to his allies and it got to your wife. Your wife must have felt so embarrassed.

Anyway, from what you wrote, if you tell her husband, she will definitely hear it and fight you for trying to pour sand in her marriage. Her husband might even think you’re lying because no other neighbor will corroborate your story, and perhaps you’ll be the new problem of the neighborhood because he’ll think you made it up while other neighbors think you can’t keep secrets.

fannybaby:
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Are you always outside when they come to report or it is when you hear noise that you come outside??

Hahahaha, you're joking right? I said this man is like a brother, we eat together, drink together,zero watch ball together, he's family. Stands for me when I'm not around and vice versa and people around know the relationship we share with the husband. For your curiously, they came to my sitting room, with the woman oh

No point telling him, because she won't change... Just keep your secret from them

Klass99:
Loose lips sink ships.

Considering you all have a friendly relationship that goes beyond just being neighbours. I think you should tell your neighbour/village brother, you will be doing him a disservice by keeping quiet.

He already feels bad that he wasn't aware of the marriage introduction of your female neighbour and he may be wondering what on earth did I do, to be passed over with that information.

I'm sure he was aware of wifey's character prior to you moving to that area (I hear most husbands know their wives already and vice-versa) but perhaps if he hears it from you (a close friend) he may begin to really understand how her attitude damages relationships and he might do something about it.

Ngkman, please next time paragraph your post and use pen names like Dan, Chika etc for your narrative. The flow of your story wasn't easy to understand with the constant use of he, she, her, brother, sister - I couldn't tell who you were referring to sometimes, communication should be easy to understand my brother.

Thanks for input, and a big thanks for your lovely correction on the write up.... apologies for the mixed write up

ngkman

1) Privatize your life.

2) Play safe mode