blekko101:
Every time I keep wondering if the society is ready for what is coming in a short while. People keep pushing that a man must not hit a woman, no matter what, which is a good thing by the way.

They come all out for you when you do, but smile and make jest when a woman hits or abuse a man in public.

Some will call the man a weakling for not fighting back. The best he will get from some folks is being called a 'real man'.

Real men don't hit women, which isn't a bad phrase. How about 'real women' ever thought of that? He dare not retaliate.

You hear the regular cliché "oga leave am na woman" and women already know this and they are taking full advantage of it.

Women often rain abuses on men in public at the slightest misunderstanding and often take up a notch by charging towards men with the intention of physically abusing them.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers. He will go home traumatized even for days to come.

Even in the so called developed countries for example, a woman's statement is admitted as true until you have a hard evidence to counter it.

Over there lots of men are already scared of getting married because they can lose all they worked for all their life in one twist of event with their wife.

Guess that's what gave rise to the growing trend of baby mama/daddy. Instead of pushing a biased ideology that obviously favours one gender, isn't it better to push a holistic ideology that says no body should hit another cos we are all humans.

We feel hurt the same way irrespective of gender. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Share your experience of abuse and how you handled it

reallifegospel:
No thanks to Feminist movements

Ayo2004:
True..my biggest problem is that no matter how guilty the women are,they always play the victim
How many men cope in long-periods relationships like marriage baffles me,even staying with my mother gave me problems

I think I will just make money,travel round the round,eat well,have fun and when I am like 40,choose one baby mama to have a child with

No be me dem go kill with high BP

Fiscus105:


And when you get to age 60, you become "baba n dagbe"(dad that leaves aloof) baba at 70 who sweeps, cooks and watches his clothes.

By then to remarry will be tedious and hand of clock won't be able to turn back.

Ask ur self why the popular saying goes.....responsible man. The phrase is loaded with meanings.

Again go and read about Dino melaye recent post about remarry, I biliv you know he is multi millionaire

What about FFK, he keep trying to have woman at home

blekko101:
Every time I keep wondering if the society is ready for what is coming in a short while. People keep pushing that a man must not hit a woman, no matter what, which is a good thing by the way.

They come all out for you when you do, but smile and make jest when a woman hits or abuse a man in public.

Some will call the man a weakling for not fighting back. The best he will get from some folks is being called a 'real man'.

Real men don't hit women, which isn't a bad phrase. How about 'real women' ever thought of that? He dare not retaliate.

You hear the regular cliché "oga leave am na woman" and women already know this and they are taking full advantage of it.

Women often rain abuses on men in public at the slightest misunderstanding and often take up a notch by charging towards men with the intention of physically abusing them.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers. He will go home traumatized even for days to come.

Even in the so called developed countries for example, a woman's statement is admitted as true until you have a hard evidence to counter it.

Over there lots of men are already scared of getting married because they can lose all they worked for all their life in one twist of event with their wife.

Guess that's what gave rise to the growing trend of baby mama/daddy. Instead of pushing a biased ideology that obviously favours one gender, isn't it better to push a holistic ideology that says no body should hit another cos we are all humans.

We feel hurt the same way irrespective of gender. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Share your experience of abuse and how you handled it

Ayo2004:

Na u Sabi..
The Dino Melaye and FFK u mentioned are living better lives than many married Nigerian men
See as u are insinuating that the benefits of marriage is having someone to sweep and wash your clothes!
Omo,una gullible gan
I hope u know that there is a possibility that at 70,u might be divorced with children who hate you because your ex turned them against,you lost your job due to depression,sick without funds and you also have to wash and sweep by yourself
Sheybi u want to talk scenario

Anyways,I am not here to argue with u,If u think marriage is good,go marry,no be by force
Let everybody do what he likes

blekko101:
Every time I keep wondering if the society is ready for what is coming in a short while. People keep pushing that a man must not hit a woman, no matter what, which is a good thing by the way.

They come all out for you when you do, but smile and make jest when a woman hits or abuse a man in public.

Some will call the man a weakling for not fighting back. The best he will get from some folks is being called a 'real man'.

Real men don't hit women, which isn't a bad phrase. How about 'real women' ever thought of that? He dare not retaliate.

You hear the regular cliché "oga leave am na woman" and women already know this and they are taking full advantage of it.

Women often rain abuses on men in public at the slightest misunderstanding and often take up a notch by charging towards men with the intention of physically abusing them.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers. He will go home traumatized even for days to come.

Even in the so called developed countries for example, a woman's statement is admitted as true until you have a hard evidence to counter it.

Over there lots of men are already scared of getting married because they can lose all they worked for all their life in one twist of event with their wife.

Guess that's what gave rise to the growing trend of baby mama/daddy. Instead of pushing a biased ideology that obviously favours one gender, isn't it better to push a holistic ideology that says no body should hit another cos we are all humans.

We feel hurt the same way irrespective of gender. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Share your experience of abuse and how you handled it

LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!

addictiv:
The truth is people are beginning to see feminists for what they are. I pity women because they are creating a world where men see women as their competitors and equals, men no longer want to care about women, before a man will give up his seat to help a lady but these days very few men will. The problem with wanting to be equals to men is you have to fend for yourself in the cold like a man does. No longer men protecting women, or giving the easy tasks to women. women are now being forced to become accountable for their actions. No longer women getting the easy way out for offences that would see men suffer harder consequences . Women asked for equality and equality they shall have.

WoundedLamb:
Nice one.

Actually, a man with a working class wife does not necessarily have to pay alimony. You pay if your wife does the home keeping while you work. So the fear of alimony does not really keep people from getting married anywhere. But yeah, some men in the western world don't want to get married just like some women don't want to as well. Having said that, the laws against domestic violence are not really gender specific. I don't know much about Nigeria but I believe a man hit by his wife has just as much right to sue her as a woman hit by her husband has to sue him. The question is, would the man's ego let him do that? I doubt this, especially in the African society where men front this super human personality. Even when he does, his fellow men would be the ones to make him feel like an idiot. Sad.

The point here is, African men need to know they can't have it all. The subjective society will always try to protect the weaker one (operation Cameroon), and African men go to any length to make it clear their women are not equal with them. The whole idea of men being the superior gender while the women are the submissive ones who are supposed to be respectful only puts women in a position where they're the ones that need protection; the "endangered specifie". But the reality is, you as a man can be hit, abused, etc. by a woman. You just need to come down off your high horse to get as much protection. As for me, if any woman hits or abuses my friend or brother, I'd drag her ass to the grave.

bepositive11:


I was impressed while reading your comment but your last sentence gave me shivers

It's not right for anyone to hit another, but if that should happen to you, it's better for you to be the matured one and walk away. After all, you can easily k*ll someone who's weaker than you. It won't be a fair fight

I don't know why some women dare to challenge men stronger than them. I'm pretty sure that they come from dysfunctional families though

bepositive11:


Good points but you have to understand the other side. Most of these feminists are traumatized. Whether growing up seeing their mother get physically abused by men, or them themselves getting physically or sexually abused by men.

Naturally, men should protect women but sadly, a lot of men abuse the power that they have over women. Men are physically stronger than women

Now, the traumatized woman becomes scared to show her vulnerability. She puts up a strong front so that she won't get taken advantage of. Most of these toxic men are intimidated by women who appear strong, so it works.

The sad part though is that healthy men are weakened by a woman's femininity. They want to protect women's vulnerability, but since these traumatized women hide it, they don't get to take advantage of non-toxic men's protection