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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Iceyjayz: 7:43am On Jun 27, 2021
Hathor5:
Their challenge is how to fight women.

I am not surprised this generation of men has nothing to be proud of.
What about this generation of women? do they have anything to be proud of?

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Pharaoh4rin(m): 7:44am On Jun 27, 2021
MNDY:


I have no RIP to waste on any "gentle"man who gets killed by a woman because of leave-am-na-woman. Before it even gets to that, every man should at least be no-nonsense natured. That could even save him.

Absolutely.
How could a man reduce himself to "gentle"man? Every man is a gangster at heart and the moment you yield to society's fandangle called gentleman, you've lost ur place.

No prophets in the bible or wotan is a gentleman.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by J2381: 7:45am On Jun 27, 2021
The OP is lamenting and using sentiment to back up his write up.

The same law that stops a man from beating up a woman is the same law that stops a woman from beating up a man.

All this "oga leave am na woman" are words entrenched in sentiment. If a woman assault you, you don't have to hit her or retaliate, just file a petition and follow it up. I'm telling you, by the time the woman knows what's coming for her, she will beg you with the life of her unborn child...

Beating up a woman or fighting a woman or man is a no no. It's something that should be beneath any sane human being.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by seanwilliam(m): 7:46am On Jun 27, 2021
Honestly I’m totally against beating a woman but I’m never against giving woman a factory reset slaps if she’s wrong.

If a woman slaps me, I will not beat her atall cos I could kill her. But I’ll make sure I disfigure her face and disjoint her bones..

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Mustoph1(m): 7:47am On Jun 27, 2021
Anyway, I don't subscribe to beating a women with the same force and aggression you would a manly enemy because they are physically weak.

Is it true that women are physically weak? No
Like every men, the strength we possess differs from a man to another. I have seen men whose wives are physically stronger than them so do women.

For a lot or good number of them choose to be/are weak , does not mean we should generalise it on all women.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by 1EmmyKay: 7:47am On Jun 27, 2021
1EmmyKay:
Let me continue mine from here, because they know this they will misbehave, nag can cheat and even slap a man knowing fully well they are weaker and the man wouldn't dare do them anything because they're woman. But why really!?? Are men spirits? We are humans too blood runs in us hurtful words and painful actions get to us too. This thread reminds me of the case of the Chidinma Lady that killed Atiga the Billionaire Ceo. Am very sure he's aware and seen women as the weaker vessels and thought not to hit a woman even if he first were to be hit. Cos I never did hear in the news he beat his wife or any lady, and that's why he was killed by the weaker vessel, like gosh. He will think the whole slap and beat chidinma giving him at first was sex pre-intimacy, and even if it wasn't he's not going to hit her she's a woman, till the midget went to bring knife and stabbed the idiot. We men necessarily shouldn't hit a woman but we can dare them, rage make them fear us, walk away, make them seen as trash, they will humbly respect and fear us. And not be seen as weaklings and commit evil cause pain underneath.
Reminds me of some girl I had a fling with, we were together talking seems I joked about something next thing she became violent hitting me thought it was play, the werey want to show her real craze went to the kitchen brought frying pan to smash my face, at that moment she was coming out I stood up held her hand, raged and told her boldly to get the shit outta my house, with angry mean face, she at that moment knelt down and started pleading. because I hid my craze to let peace reign no mean sey I no get craze for head too oo.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Mustoph1(m): 7:48am On Jun 27, 2021
Nice write up man
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Iceyjayz: 7:54am On Jun 27, 2021
LadyRosa:
[s]Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please![/s]
You just typed trash, epistle filled with trash! smh

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Ayo2004: 7:54am On Jun 27, 2021
Fiscus105:



Neither I'm here to argue with you, I know you are talking base of ur age, ur gragra strength will fade away one day and it fades?

If ffk and dino keep trying to get woman after successful failure in marriage, how much less you.

You must be a joker,those guys do not care about marriage,they are just using women to catch cruise
Even if they marry,they will cheat on the woman a million times....
My decision has nothing to do with age,i am sure many married men are tired of their marriage,hence,the influx of side chicks

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by stanech: 7:56am On Jun 27, 2021
1EmmyKay:
Let me continue mine from here, because they know this they will misbehave, nag can cheat and even slap a man knowing fully well they are weaker and the man wouldn't dare do them anything because they're woman. But why really!?? Are men spirits? We are humans too blood runs in us hurtful words and painful actions get to us too. This thread reminds me of the case of the Chidinma Lady that killed Atiga the Billionaire Ceo. Am very sure he's aware and seen women as the weaker vessels and thought not to hit a woman even if he first were to be hit. Cos I never did hear in the news he beat his wife or any lady, and that's why he was killed by the weaker vessel, like gosh. He will think the whole slap and beat chidinma giving him at first was sex pre-intimacy, and even if it wasn't he's not going to hit her she's a woman, till the midget went to bring knife and stabbed the idiot. We men necessarily shouldn't hit a woman but we can dare them, rage make them fear us, walk away, make them seen as trash, they will humbly respect and fear us. And not be seen as weaklings and commit evil cause pain underneath.
You can't win with those people. My solution is that you make enough money and be careful
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Ayo2004: 7:57am On Jun 27, 2021
Hassanmaye:

Lol us that don't want to marry nko? Let me tell you the truth even if I will marry I will do it because of social pressure, but honestly the way things are going I'm jot interested in that institution
My guy,don't let any societal pressure kill u o..
Once u make enough money,nobody can force u into marriage,the constant nagging,financial enslavement,dull sex life after childbearing,emotional blackmail e.t.c is not worth your happiness
No let any person make u do wetin u no get mind 4

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by tunjilana: 8:01am On Jun 27, 2021
LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!

Lol...Nah, men solve their problems as they arise. The next generation may not be doing baby papa with some ill behaved chic...they will be buying eggs and doing surrogacy and solely raising their kids with loyal female family members or hired help. M3n react to problems with solutions. As for justifying murder, it is pathetic of you that u feel it is ok to kill a man. No one will justify killing a cougar by some gigolo and cheating is not a g3nder thing. Most women cheat as well, they don't just talk about it

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Lastborn90(m): 8:05am On Jun 27, 2021
Hmmmm...Correct talk
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by stanech: 8:07am On Jun 27, 2021
There s this fat bitch that assaulted me at my office a few months ago because she thought I was the one that disconnected her light. She came in rain abuses on me and tore my shirt. After they calm her down the mumu still went and called the police na there my head scatter. I just follow the police woman dey go with smile. She saw my boldness and started asking for details I no wan hear again that station we must go am.
When we got there I made a statement the police woman jejely carry her outside to tell tell her she's wrong come see beg. I no hear again she gat pay for all the damages
. these bitches think the world revolves around them and when u stand ur ground it kills them.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by stanech: 8:10am On Jun 27, 2021
My advise to women is that because it is socially unacceptable to hit you doesn't give you the yardstick to be a pain in the ass at all times.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by onadana: 8:11am On Jun 27, 2021
Hassanmaye:

Are you married before

I was.But I lost my dear,loving,quiet and peaceful wife.It has being turbulent finding a replacement thus I decided to stay on my own for my sanity.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by israelp(m): 8:11am On Jun 27, 2021
a gal get me angry to d fullest ,i was unable to control it,naso my hand land 4 d face.only slap con dy mk pson dy cry lyk smal pikin....abeg who knw d price for 10inch form wey pson fit sleep wth e gal?
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by onadana: 8:15am On Jun 27, 2021
efficiencie:


So sad bro...so sad! Marriage was intended to bring support to both men and women but unfortunately it has been the source of oppression for many. Now many lead more peaceful lives being without a partner and exploring life rather than spending it with someone. Ladies don't know they will be the worse for it. Many men now can do without families. Nowadays some women have become so useless that if you get rich, hire several housekeepers and indulge in self procreation you can go for decades without realizing that you need a woman.
It's so unfortunate!

I didn't walk away from the marriage. I walked away from a relationship. I was married before but lost my dear,loving and caring wife.Thus far,it has being a herculean task finding a replacement. "Fake" women everywhere. I decided to stay on my own for my sanity.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Kingstanding: 8:20am On Jun 27, 2021
faceland:
Make enough money and you can slap as many women as you wish. In fact people would help you slap the women. Ask Bishop Oyedepo.

Anyway, I don't subscribe to beating a women with the same force and aggression you would a manly enemy because they are physically weak. Even if you want to use that type of force, know when to stop because it is not a fair fight. However, a good slap here and there to a female animal that deserves it is okay by me. The same way I wouldn't want to see an adult beat up a toddler with all their might.
. African mentality. What Bishop Oyedepo did I wish he should try such act again in UK, Europe, Canada or US and he will know that the law of those countries have no respect for so called men of God.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by charly20(m): 8:22am On Jun 27, 2021
In trying to solve a problem, we've only succeeded in creating more problems. Women as I've understood do not want balance or equality, rather they want to call the shots and it's just unfortunate!

I'm not a "gentleman", if you dare raise your hand on me as a woman, it's going to be reciprocated in full.

What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Respect is earned not "offered".

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by jimmychang: 8:28am On Jun 27, 2021
LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!



Shut up abeg like say the women na saint (women don't cheat) grin grin .... Always finding a way to blame men grin grin grin

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Oyinlomobambam(m): 8:29am On Jun 27, 2021
poshestmina:
It's simple!
Never hit anyone if you don't want it reciprocated.

Domestic violence is bad irrespective of the gender.

I was in a market sometime ago ,this customer (a woman) was shouting and slapped the apprentice boy ,the boy withdrew back ,she charged towards him and slapped him again (the boy was almost in tears,still trying to explain to the woman ),the Oga came ,told him in igbo "Are you not a man ,why you dey zuzuaria" ,madam wanted to rush him again , believe me,the boy gave her brain resetting slaps and punches and none of us onlookers tried to intervene not even the Oga.

She left in shame with mostly women abusing her . Trust market women and their foul mouth .
" Na so you dey beat your husband for house"?
"You for wait fight na", "person like you no fit accommodate inlaws ,tufiakwa" .
She was even bleached so her face became really red grin grin grin.

Women are becoming aggressive and murderous these days.

Defend yourselves.



Are you really female
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by eyeforeye(m): 8:31am On Jun 27, 2021
I was shocked when my gf said to she'd stabbed me if I return home drunk to stupor, this is someone that look so innocent and fragile in nature, however, am yet to study her to know if she can really do such..... Gals please over to you.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Sebgajere(m): 8:33am On Jun 27, 2021
Asin eeh, d matter tire me
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Hassanmaye(m): 8:39am On Jun 27, 2021
onadana:


I was.But I lost my dear,loving,quiet and peaceful wife.It has being turbulent finding a replacement thus I decided to stay on my own for my sanity.
May God bless you with another good lady though its very difficult to find honestly
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Hassanmaye(m): 8:41am On Jun 27, 2021
Ayo2004:

My guy,don't let any societal pressure kill u o..
Once u make enough money,nobody can force u into marriage,the constant nagging,financial enslavement,dull sex life after childbearing,emotional blackmail e.t.c is not worth your happiness
No let any person make u do wetin u no get mind 4
I will take the bull by the horns, are tiu married before
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by sun123: 8:45am On Jun 27, 2021
Ayo2004:
True..my biggest problem is that no matter how guilty the women are,they always play the victim
How many men cope in long-periods relationships like marriage baffles me,even staying with my mother gave me problems

I think I will just make money,travel round the round,eat well,have fun and when I am like 40,choose one baby mama to have a child with

No be me dem go kill with high BP grin

We gather dey solidly behind you bro
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Ayo2004: 8:49am On Jun 27, 2021
Hassanmaye:

I will take the bull by the horns, are tiu married before
Nope but wetin I don see no fit make me marry...
Nigeria gives me a lot of problems everyday,I won't let a woman add more to it in the name of marriage

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by sun123: 8:51am On Jun 27, 2021
poshestmina:
It's simple!
Never hit anyone if you don't want it reciprocated.

Domestic violence is bad irrespective of the gender.

I was in a market sometime ago ,this customer (a woman) was shouting and slapped the apprentice boy ,the boy withdrew back ,she charged towards him and slapped him again (the boy was almost in tears,still trying to explain to the woman ),the Oga came ,told him in igbo "Are you not a man ,why you dey zuzuaria" ,madam wanted to rush him again , believe me,the boy gave her brain resetting slaps and punches and none of us onlookers tried to intervene not even the Oga.

She left in shame with mostly women abusing her . Trust market women and their foul mouth .
" Na so you dey beat your husband for house"?
"You for wait fight na", "person like you no fit accommodate inlaws ,tufiakwa" .
She was even bleached so her face became really red grin grin grin.

Women are becoming aggressive and murderous these days.

Defend yourselves.

Your submission is apt, objective and devoid of any form of biase, irrespective of your gender . You just won me over

Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Nobody: 8:57am On Jun 27, 2021
Fiscus105:
For a young man to settle down, buying neccesity which will make wife comfortable is a problem

I pity young lads who are planning to settle down.


N.b A 32 inch TV last year for 36k, has been skyrocketed to 60k, ditto all households properties.

The rate at which things are getting cost Is alarming....
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Hassanmaye(m): 9:10am On Jun 27, 2021
Ayo2004:

Nope but wetin I don see no fit make me marry...
Nigeria gives me a lot of problems everyday,I won't let a woman add more to it in the name of marriage
Lol we are in the same shoe,

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