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HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

I'm sure the friend activated Okafor's Law when the babe came to visit him

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Any of my ex that comes to visit me in my house will be banged, no exceptions

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

I don't want to believe that you are the monster you are trying to portray.
How can she go to her ex's house? To play ludo? She has no regards for the relationship and as such be disengaged.

Maybe she went to do send forth..

I don't understand why Nigerian men in the diaspora think it's a good thing to come marry wives from Nigeria. It is always a foolish thing.

Nigerian women are extremely sexually active, and I can just imagine the body count of a 33 year old Nigerian woman. This kind of woman cannot stay unsexed for more than a few weeks at most.

Stop fooling yourselves. If she's not a virgin don't bother coming to pick a Nigerian wife. If you cannot marry a woman in your immediate environment, you don't deserve to have a wife.

Hopefully, other men learn from this unfortunate episode

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

You're either trolling or naive. The mature thing for him to do is actually cancel marriage plans and move on. The woman has no business visiting men behind closed doors, least of all her ex boyfriend.

Your friend did the right thing by canceling the wedding plans. The olosho went to sleep with her exboyfriend. Next thing is to be pregnant for him. I wonder why they are even coming back to marry these oloshos when they can easily marry girls from other countries.

You go visit your ex just for nothing sake. Na lie. She go carry send off. You know what I mean by that She’s already a banger

If you live abroad and date a lady back home, OYO.

I won’t try it.

She’ll use one hand to pick your call while the other hand is stroking a flaccid DiK to get erection.

When you notice foul play and voice it, she’ll accuse you of insecurities to make you dumb and feel sorry for accusing her.

IbnBattuta1960:
I don't want to believe that you are the monster you are trying to portray.
How can she go to her ex's house? To play ludo? She has no regards for the relationship and as such be disengaged.

Na dis one only e see. Many other guys dey wey she dey play ludo with.

Romanoff see ya member

Ur friend picked the wisest option and for the lady she jst displayed the lowest of the low qualities ever recorded. asin who visits their ex after being engaged na dem de coz bad market 4 us.... lols

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Same floppy advice as usual. You forgive a hoe, she will only postpone the time to disgrace you.
Forget about her. She's not ready to marry you. Infact u engaged the wrong person....
.

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

his not matured to marry?
so nah maturity to marry a coded run girl abi? issokay
anoda olosho spotted

I need not read your writeup op.




Went there to do what please!!!

How did he find out she visited her ex?

AfricanGiant91:
his not matured to marry?
so nah maturity to marry a coded run girl abi? issokay
anoda olosho spotted

Those gals are unrepentant cold-hearted cheat...u take them serious at ur peril

Some Nigerian girls are useless.. she went to feel the rod and staff of that nigga. She's not ready for marriage yet. Maybe when she clocks 45 she will be ready just maybe..

It’s a good decision, I’m sure she slept with him

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

What should he do?
Hag wey you wan manage at 33 and you're asking what you should do?

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Maybe your thing no dey work.
If that's the case, I perfectly understand you.
You're good with she getting it out there but not too much and too often

blizard44:
What should he do?

he has done the right thing , Please he should find another girl, non Nigerian will be better cause most of dem are holes

Oga abeg disengage 4rm dat marriage cuz it will end premium tears.
If she was so bored, she 4 go see her female friends to gist & help her plan her wedding.
No lady who is to be wed in a month's time is that bored..cuz there are plenty things to do.
She jejely went to collect kpekus 4rm her boyfriend & she only agreed to marry you cuz u are ready,rich & u reside in the US.
She is still dating that guy & maybe they are in cahoots.
Nigerian girls do not visit a man's house if dey don't want to.
Abeg 4 ur sake...just cancel the marriage & go back to the US.

IbnBattuta1960:
I don't want to believe that you are the monster you are trying to portray.
How can she go to her ex's house? To play ludo? She has no regards for the relationship and as such be disengaged.

forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous

AfricanGiant91:
his not matured to marry?
so nah maturity to marry a coded run girl abi? issokay
anoda olosho spotted

forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous.. how do u know she is a runs girl.running ur mouth like a boy

NiRfreak:
Same floppy advice as usual. You forgive a hoe, she will only postpone the time to disgrace you.
Forget about her. She's not ready to marry you. Infact u engaged the wrong person....
.

forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous..if the man continues looking to Mrs perfect, he will be d oldest man

Belafonte:
I don't understand why Nigerian men in the diaspora think it's a good thing to come marry wives from Nigeria. It is always a foolish thing.

Nigerian women are extremely sexually active, and I can just imagine the body count of a 33 year old Nigerian woman. This kind of woman cannot stay unsexed for more than a few weeks at most.

Stop fooling yourselves. If she's not a virgin don't bother coming to pick a Nigerian wife. If you cannot marry a woman in your immediate environment, you don't deserve to have a wife.

Hopefully, other men learn from this unfortunate episode



You're either trolling or naive. The mature thong for him to do is actually cancel marriage plans and move on. The woman has no business visiting men behind closed doors, least of all her ex boyfriend.

forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous...can we all stop pretending for God sake..it's disgusting

IbnBattuta1960:
I don't want to believe that you are the monster you are trying to portray.
How can she go to her ex's house? To play ludo? She has no regards for the relationship and as such be disengaged.

forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous.. it's so disgusting .can we stop pretending

HRHQueenPhil:
...can we stop pretending

Yes, we can.

Can you stop being stupid?

No I doubt.

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

shut up! Not everything is pardonable.

Correct Man be that your friend
One bottle of beer for him.

He should allow her continue her wayward life until she is 50yrs
ODE!

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

wait oo where person go see wife to marry 4 dis con3..

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

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Let say the story isnt fake.

I think even if the girl got pregnant for her ex, Op should endeavour to forgive, at least that would be a sign of foolishness maturity.