Visiting an ex boyfriend alone is a strong indication that they both are still in a relationship which might lead to sexual relationship, I read some say that the man should forgive to make the relationship work, I can only forgive when there is prove of repentance in her. You can safe much Future wahala by moving on with your life, look out for true love.

LilMissFavvy:
I trust the bitter egoistic males we have here. They will help you destroy that relationship. Your fiancee visited her ex, and that's enough reason to cancel wedding. Her life will not end, life goes on. You simply want to give her shame cuz you know she is eager to settle cuz she's a mature lady, but watch and see, she will still see another man to marry, just watch out. I wouldn't be surprised if you end up still picking a worse woman. I wouldn't be surprised as well if you are cheating on her over there, yet condemned her like you are better.

If Op happened to be ur blood brother now, ur narrative will change completely. Meanwhile,the question I want you to ask urself, ex that, engaged lady chooses to take away her boredom!
Dnt you think that decision is too heavy and pregnant?

I always happy to read posts like this, even if aren't real, always give me opportunity to read minds, to know how wise, foolish, wicked, myopic some people are.

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

Honestly, you shouldn't have brought this here because some of the "kids" here would give you wrong advise. I am not going to say this because I am a woman, so consider this an objective approach. Was that her first time visiting this ex? Asides this issue has she been showing any bad character? How did her fiance find out? Has he been tailing her? Does he trust her?


I think its possible that she was truly bored, reason why she visited that ex. Some people break up and still maintain the chord of friendship and Okafor's law is an exaggerated patriarchal happenstance. My grouse with her is , she should have informed her fiance before making such a move, but is that a good enough reason to break off an engagement?

What I think he should do is to get the marriage plans on, but in slow motion so they can get to settle this difference and further study themselves.

I wish them all the best!

LoveThemChubby:

Typical Nigerian women mindset of wanting to eat their cake and still have it. I guess you didn't read where he said he said he wanted her to change her contact but she refused.

Change contact? You want her to lose all her runs when wedding has not taken place? How will she call Alhaji to be Chairman of the occasion.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

You're a cheap LovePeddler

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Any of my ex that comes to visit me in my house will be banged, no exceptions

None whatsoever.

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

The first mistake he maid is coming home to marry. He’ll regret this.

Second mistake is even discussing the visit. He should immediately void relationship.

I foresee premium hot tears.

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

..... Forget age, the lady never ready to settle down.....she was bored, she couldn't hang out with a female friend or see a movie.... Na her ex house she go hang put...... I don't know what's wrong with women these days... Anyway it's simple, she should meet her ex for marriage........ Because if them marry and her husband travel go abroad and she becomes bored, she may still go hanging out with her ex.... God just saved her husband from a very big mess

EmmaxKeys:


what is Okafor's law abeg?

Any pussy bleeped can be refucked

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Any of my ex that comes to visit me in my house will be banged, no exceptions

DaudaTheSexyGuy... you are doing well

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

if you advice him to Marry that lady.
If he was your brother would you still encourage him to go ahead? Too many h.o.z here.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Words only the wise understands.
You spoke well.

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

Let it remain cancelled. How can you bored and the only place to think of having fun is in your ex's place. Balderdash!

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

You just spew rubbish, I am sure you are a kid!

Carchoice:
If you live abroad and date a lady back home, OYO.

I won’t try it.

She’ll use one hand to pick your call while the other hand is stroking a flaccid DiK to get erection.

When you notice foul play and voice it, she’ll accuse you of insecurities to make you dumb and feel sorry for accusing her.

Op,i hope you are also faithful, he that comes for equity, must come with clean hands.
There is no perfect person out there,forgive her and always try to make your relationship work.It is not always easy to abandon someone here and fly to America to enjoy.

IbnBattuta1960:

I don't want to believe that you are the monster you are trying to portray.
How can she go to her ex's house? To play ludo? She has no regards for the relationship and as such be disengaged.

Don't mind that one jare.
It was even a boring comment.

udomas:


Exactly bro.
With the recent hype for sex amongst Nigerian ladies, I'm 100% certain such took place.

Your guy should better pick someone there in US to avoid stories that touch.

Is the OP celibate there? Faithfulness in relationships should be from both sides.Rubb!sh

HRHQueenPhil:
forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous

Don't compare a cheating man to that of a woman. I can only impregnate two women differently if I sleep with them at the same time. What do you think it will happen to that of a woman?

Womanizer:
I'm sure the friend activated Okafor's Law when the babe came to visit him

The stupid girl went to receive the last gbola, a lot foolish girls do this and the guys uses maximum brutal penetrating force knowing fully well it could be their last day in the pit. Most times they impregnate the idiot on behalf of the would husband just to keep the memories alive. The man did well, wedding should be canceled plain and simple, i would do the same if na me.

LordReed:


Your friend can't trust his fiancee so there is no point in continuing. He will always see something to be suspicious of.

na you mumu pass!

Juliearth:





Honestly, you shouldn't have brought this here because some of the "kids" here would give you wrong advise. I am not going to say this because I am a woman, so consider this an objective approach. Was that her first time visiting this ex? Asides this issue has she been showing any bad character? How did her fiance find out? Has he been tailing her? Does he trust her?


I think its possible that she was truly bored, reason why she visited that ex. Some people break up and still maintain the chord of friendship and Okafor's law is an exaggerated patriarchal happenstance. My grouse with her is , she should have informed her fiance before making such a move, but is that a good enough reason to break off an engagement?

What I think he should do is to get the marriage plans on, but in slow motion so they can get to settle this difference and further study themselves.

I wish them all the best!

why can't she visit a female friend if she was bored..... which marriage plan again,the lady is not ready,she is still fucking around!

Ninisun:





Op,i hope you are also faithful, he that comes for equity, must come with clean hands.
There is no perfect person out there,forgive her and always try to make your relationship work.It is not always easy to abandon someone here and fly to America to enjoy.

because his not faithful,he should marry olosho!

Sometimes you people get just what you deserve. You mean you can’t find a wife in a land that has blessed and favored you? And then you had to come back for a Nigerian woman ? Hahahaha serves you right.


I know your brain has expired but the best you can do is to cancel the marriage. If for any reason or manipulation you go ahead to marry her then your life don burn and finish .


Find a woman in the USA be it an American, Nigerian or just anybody you like. Don’t ever make the mistake of marrying a Anika based woman.



Lastly, whatever choice you make over there, do not forget to sign prenup

uthlaw:
because his not faithful,he should marry olosho!

If he has a girlfriend he sleeps with there,he is also an oloso!!! You think to see a responsible American woman is easy? Abeg swerve

Useless olosho na so they be prick to prick they nor dey tire..

Ninisun:




If he has a girlfriend he sleeps with there,he is also an oloso!!! You think to see a responsible American woman is easy? Abeg swerve

American women still better than the ones in Nigeria!

uthlaw:
American women still better than the ones in Nigeria!

Eeya,even your relatives? Are you perfect

HRHQueenPhil:
forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous..if the man continues looking to Mrs perfect, he will be d oldest man

You should be smarter than this in life, it will enhance your possibilities of survival and also know that reposting a silly take 10,000 times don't make it any less infantile. Whichever moral code you're picking your forgiveness from, there's no religion that advises exposing yourself to the unrepentant after forgiving their recalcitrance.

He should forgive but wedding's off.

And your other "men did this, men used to do that..." stance suggests you should work on yourself, dunno who hurt you but damn, your a mess in there.

Anyways, have a nice life, ciao

If she truely visited her ex boyfriend i will cancel the wedding.No amount of preaching will make me to change my mind.

Ninisun:




Eeya,even your relatives? Are you perfect

even my family (💯% yes) perfect in what aspect...ask any Yahoo guy around you, how faithful are whites!

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Because your boyfriend is matured does not mean a lady should be banging dicks up and down.
How sweet will it be for someone to bang your daughter knowing fully well you will forgive the person afterwards.