Oyin2212:

Some people just like to spout rubbish.

Aswear. Her bitvch comments dey provoke me.

She dey say forgive? A man has who has his pride intact will never forgive such atrocity.

uthlaw:
na you mumu pass!

Are you even reasoning at all? Why would you marry someone you can't trust? Also if the babe actual cheated why would he marry her either. Try dey use your brain small na.

God has open ur eyes wake-up. . marriage is not a part time stuff.i repeat myself wise up .

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

Dear Op, your friend has done the right thing by moving on, nobody should beg him to move back.
He has done what is best for his sanity. If he's not matured enough to forgive its a good thing to move on, most times forgiving in such case have indelible consequence if he doesnt have a large heart. Know this and know peace, she went to shine her congo and has been a regular deal for her

People will never learn. I'm very sure she wouldn't tell him except she was caught. She went for a quickie, disrespecting her relationship and fiancee in the eyes of the ex. You can't eat your cake and have it. I believe her destiny is not for the US. She's meant to live and die here

Cancelling the marriage is the right decision since his fiance does not have any sensible reason for going to his ex other than being "bored". Remember this parable "Don't marry your girlfriend and date your wife".

The babe is so funny.. She no even hide mouth say she was bored... if she was bored, she should have read her books, so many things to do but going to see her ex because of boredomness..Dikwa egwu

ifyonline:
The babe is so funny.. She no even hide mouth say she was bored... if she was bored, she should have read her books, so many things to do but going to see her ex because of boredomness..Dikwa egwu

The only female comment here that made sense.


You are blessed among women.

Lol I wonder how this women think sometimes....... You back to to your ex cos you are bored.Really! And I am sure some dumb women won't see anything wrong in that they will definitely justify it (they think the same way) at that age you are not still wise. Abeg let her go and be with her Ex jare. Once de be is Everly de be

Oyin2212:

Aswear. You said it all bro. God bless you for your wisdom.

Tnx and u Bro!!!!!!!

escapefromusa:


Oboy .. Eritrea and Swaziland ...

Eritrea where the Arabo dey straff anyhow for border.They even carry birth control when travelling.

Quit and look for another lady who is dedicated to marry.

This is a red flag.

Don't ruin your future.

I really would never come back to Nigeria to marry any woman, if I did, she must have be one exceptional unique lady.


andronite tell ur friend to forget her, the people asking to him reconsider are just doing so for thier own selfishness( shame) & not out of care for him. He ain't the first to cancel a wedding based on suspicion on fornication & definitely won't be the last....women never learn, dump her ass, DONT TRUST SUCH WOMEN, U WILL REGRET IT later

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

I want to believe that this was a joke.

Hmm

It happens to me,but my own,I cancelled my introduction, women always use their hands to scattered good things and later they will starts crying when they can't arrange it back, at that age she should know that it's important she should stay good and get married, what is she looking for,I love what your friend did,lack of containments has pushed a lots of women in getting married.

HRHQueenPhil:


Some still see their ex as purely friends so let's stop working with this reprobate mind. As far as u did not see Dem fvcking, give her the benefit of doubt

Yea yea, benefit of doubt that when she bored na ex she went to lol. Amazing how ladies defend each other on aspect of infidelity. I know men lie, women lie numbers don't! Let d guy follow his heart not benefit of doubt pls. If not d guy will be sorry at d end of d day cos I lives long time abroad and talking from many experiences I've seen and witnessed personally!!!!!!!!!

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

honest truth is that she still loves her ex

Marriage is an Institution of principles.
It is a place where there will consequences for every actions taken.
A man who is not interested in marrying you wouldn't mind sharing you.
However a man who has chosen to spend the rest of his life with you deserve reference and honour.

The lesson is this: Bad habits destroys destiny. Don't embrace a habit just for fun. Some bad habits like immorality have far greater consequences. It can bring disgrace and dishonor throughout a life time.


Proverbs 6:32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.6:33 A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

u are one of her kind so I still support her because u are girl or u be olosh also

I believe a woman can cheat even when they love you but a woman that that is discipline and principled won't cheat no matter what, as for me no woman without thier own lapses, what if is next date is even worst nko? Please let him forgive her.

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

IghravweIG:

Aswear. Her bitvch comments dey provoke me.

She dey say forgive? A man has who has his pride intact will never forgive such atrocity.

Gbam!

Belafonte:
I don't understand why Nigerian men in the diaspora think it's a good thing to come marry wives from Nigeria. It is always a foolish thing.

Nigerian women are extremely sexually active, and I can just imagine the body count of a 33 year old Nigerian woman. This kind of woman cannot stay unsexed for more than a few weeks at most.

Stop fooling yourselves. If she's not a virgin don't bother coming to pick a Nigerian wife. If you cannot marry a woman in your immediate environment, you don't deserve to have a wife.

Hopefully, other men learn from this unfortunate episode



You're either trolling or naive. The mature thong for him to do is actually cancel marriage plans and move on. The woman has no business visiting men behind closed doors, .

Truth. Coming home to pick a wife is the worst thing any man shovld avoid. These days, you can't find any good girl outside ur environment. Snmeone got them all. They must go bck banging their old prick.

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

Well, every relationship or marriage has its negative and postive upturn as long as we live. No one is perfect as well even the Christian Courtship. Don't misquote me please .
I will suggest that you cancel the wedding plans now and use this few period to research more about the ex- boyfriend and other little secrets that were hidden from you, likewise getting to know more about yourselves and plans fo the future . since the relationship is based on Technology Communication Only .
If not satisfied you are free to make decision on staying or leaving. Remember an angel you know is more preferable than the unknown angel..

ifyonline:
The babe is so funny.. She no even hide mouth say she was bored... if she was bored, she should have read her books, so many things to do but going to see her ex because of boredomness..Dikwa egwu

She went to collect dick abeg

Galaxybar:
Maturity is truly not by age.

This is what happens when there is no real trust or love between a couple. How can grown man and woman have an engagement cancelled because of a visit to her ex boyfriend? Has she shown you signs of being a cheat or are you judging her by the true state of your own heart. Her phone number she’s had probably for years you want her to change it? Why? So she can lose friendships and business opportunities because you are insecure? Has it occurred to you that her stubborn stance may have been due to anger from your distrust and unfounded suspicion?

The worst that should have happened was that you express to her that you are not comfortable with her hanging out with her ex boyfriend in such a private setting and promise not repeat the actions since it makes you uncomfortable. A heart to heart discussion with a peace compromise. That’s all!

Some advice I’m even seeing here. Calling her all sorts of derogatory names. Anyway, they’ve warned me about how mentally juvenile some nairalanders can be. The first page of this thread says it all.

If you’re reading this and you truly love her and she’s never given you any reason to doubt her, act your 36 - 40 years of age and have a mature conversation with her. Then both of you should set boundaries and move forward in love, trust and understanding.

You seem to be projecting your level of "morality" on the average person, which is the first fallacy in your submission. To help you understand your submission, i will use an analogy, if you pick up a misplaced phone on the floor, what are the chances you will return the phone back the owner, now reverse that if you misplace your phone what are the odds the phone will be retrieved. If you will be honest with yourself at least 8 out of 10 times if you misplace your phone in an environment like Nigeria, it is gone for good.

When someone is naive /gullible, it may signify immaturity.

If a lady ready to marry goes to have a hangout in an ex house, the chances that they were entangled in sexual affair is high. you know this if you will be truthful to yourself. It is only fair that most peoples comment will mirror the scenario with the highest possibility.

Maybe she went there just to gwongrogwongro��

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

THE HOE DON'T DESERVE HIM.
MY EX CAME ON A DAY BEFORE SHE'S TO BE MARRIED AND FORCED ME TO SLEEP WITH HER , INCITING THAT SHE'S GONNA MISS MY DICK ,CARE AND MANLINESS.
Women can't be trusted and most of them marry money .

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

THE HOE DON'T DESERVE HIM.
MY EX CAME ON A DAY BEFORE SHE'S TO BE MARRIED AND FORCED ME TO SLEEP WITH HER , INCITING THAT SHE'S GONNA MISS MY DICK ,CARE AND MANLINESS.
Women can't be trusted and most of them marry money and not you.

uthlaw:
why can't she visit a female friend if she was bored..... which marriage plan again,the lady is not ready,she is still fucking around!

You concluded she is messing around because she visited her ex? What she did is totally out of line because, an ex, even though still a friend, should be distanced to some extent and catch ups should be done in public, not because the two are likely to cheat, but to douse suspicions such as this one. I still maintain my stance however, that it is possible nothing happened. The op and his fiancé just need to define boundaries.


The only red flag I see here is how op hot to know his woman visited her ex. Could it be that he doesn't trust her?

Galaxybar:


Obodo Nigeria.

Really? But your comment doesn't make you pass as someone who stays in Nigeria....or perhaps, you are oblivious of what is rife in the Nigerian society....the more reason why you see so many comments which are in tandem, the many, many, many bad girls have given the very, very, very few good ones a bad tag...

If u fuc k a woman very well and she cums always b4 u,she can never forget u. If u like insult her from now till next year. It has happened tobme like 4 times,4 diff girls who I bone suddenly came back months later begging me to come and fuc k them that nobody like me. Well I've moved on since.