eazzzy1:
How did he find out she visited her ex?

I asked this question in my head also. Story seems fake.

Bro, this is not about forgiveness, it is about trust and submissiveness. If he married the girl and leave her in Nigeria, she will be fucking her ex and if she travels with him to the US, that will be the end of your friend. As he has cancelled the marriage let him move on with his life. Imagine feeling bored after introduction, mtcheewww

Prince001:


Say what? Forgive what? That means u concurred that she might have visited her ex cos they still doing something together. Woman sides each other when it comes to infidelity.
Bros that asked question, Trust me, she won't be faithful! Lastly most women in Naija wanted to go out with u when u are living abroad cos of d opportunity that may come with it!!
I'm talking from experience I just left Naija early this month cos I came to visit and I've been in Europe for 20yrs now. Naija gals knows how to pretend and fool u but some of them forget we are all Nigerians we all smart lol.
Tell ur guy to follow his heart that he shouldn't listen to anyone telling him to let go of what d gal did! Cos at d end of d day na u go face the outcome of ur decision not the people begging or pleading on her behalf!!!!!!!!!

Please learn how to forgive , d devil can use it to send u to hell, pray to have d spirit of forgiveness and don't use other people issues to generalise..u are more matured than that

I have seen a case like this where the ex pregnanted the wife to be of someone is too bad

od501:


Yes it is not. But,Who bleeps a 40 year old woman? Cos I don't. So yes, she is losing.

Losing? U almost make sex as if it's an achievement smh

chachanga:

You should be smarter than this in life, it will enhance your possibilities of survival and also know that reposting a silly take 10,000 times don't make it any less infantile. Whichever moral code you're picking your forgiveness from, there's no religion that advises exposing yourself to the unrepentant after forgiving their recalcitrance.

He should forgive but wedding's off.

And your other "men did this, men used to do that..." stance suggests you should work on yourself, dunno who hurt you but damn, your a mess in there.

Anyways, have a nice life, ciao

All I know is u wont make heaven if u don't know how to forgive, ekwensu uses this to make many lose heaven so work on ur life ..my life? Sweet as ever cos I forgive , love trust and understand my oga..

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

tell him congrats he miss a bullet .

na2016:


The first thing I did when I saw this comment was to look at the gender, I wasn't surprised when I saw "female". When you want to marry, allow your would-be husband to do this same thing...id*ot!!!

Unfortunately for u, I would kiss my man all over his head if he tells me d truth about we're he went and let him introduce me to her so I can observe for myself.i won't dare to agree to marry someone I don't love, trust and understand

Some ladies never learn

She's not serious, that shows how she will be when he won't be around her for a long time, if she's not patient now, she won't be patient in the future.

HRHQueenPhil:
a mature man will trust and understand his partner, he will NEVER give her a ring if he dosent have this for her..

Will she receive a ring if she keeps camping in her ex boyfriends house because of "boredom"? Are there no other places to go kill boredom other than an exs house? Is that what mature women do?

Galaxybar:



It’s living and not leaving, you ignorant presumptuous dummy.

I didn’t see any such question when I quoted you. But since you asked, I do not have the right to approve the terms of my brother or son or daughter’s relationship as long as it’s not criminal. Their rules of engagement is really none of my business. It’s left for them to set the tone of their relationship[b][/b] and figure out what works for them. Boundaries...dummy.

Now dummy, If you had asked if I’d permit my fiancé to make visits to his ex out of boredom, I’d probably say yes and no depending on various factors. Yes if it’s an ex that they’ve both come to terms with their relationship being platonic and have been good friends for years. And no, if she has shown signs of or expressed that she still likes him. It’s not even something that will come up for discourse because he’s aware enough to avoid that situation. I’m grateful I’m not surrounded by damaged men without self control like yourself. You know, people like you who have been poorly conditioned to view every relationship with the opposite sex as an avenue to scratch their smelly itch. Be better for the sake of your health.

It’s almost 8am. I’ve got to take my morning walk. I’m done trying to light up your brain.

At bolded

THEIR RULES OF ' ENGANGMENTS' "ARE" REALLY NONE OF MY BUSINESS, IT'S LEFT FOR THEM TO SET THE TONES* OF THEIR (RELATIONSHIPS).

I stopped there because your write up is full of errors, not obeying concord in English language. Take note of signs in the corrected version.

Going back to the issue, no wonder guys and exes are passing you from one hand to another, when you enter menopause you will understand how relationship work.

Bye.

lexy2014:


Will she receive a ring if she keeps camping in her ex boyfriends house because of "boredom"? Are there no other places to go kill boredom other than an exs house? Is that what mature women do?

she made a mistake but a man dat loves, trust and understand his woman won't tink she went there for fvcking sessions,

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

I don't think your friend did anything wrong.
The truth is going to visit an ex in the house opens a vista for old flames to be rekindled.
Yes, one should not burn bridges but the lady should have had the meeting with the ex in an open place in the company of a trusted third party that one can vouch for.

Your friend did the right thing because the lady might later have sex with the ex if she hasn't already.

Belafonte:
I don't understand why Nigerian men in the diaspora think it's a good thing to come marry wives from Nigeria. It is always a foolish thing.

Majority of Nigeria/African men are naive, they want a submissive woman, they are scared of western women lifestyle and easily intimidated hence they seek someone they can control and intimidate.
Western women are the most easiest to control and demand respect from if you understand their psychology, it was 17 years ago I slept with a Nigerian/African woman, I don't need their timid wahala anymore.

goslowgoslow:

You just spew rubbish, I am sure you are a kid!

. U are the kid here sir, it seems u don't know the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understanding ur spouse

Homguy:
you are an id.io.t if you advice him to Marry that lady.
If he was your brother would you still encourage him to go ahead? Too many h.o.z here.

Mr importer, I will never allow him break up with the lady, she was honest and made a mistake..if he dosent have trust and understand his woman, he shldnt have engage her

November24:


You are no queen who"re

and u are d queen abi? Better learn the concept of love, forgiveness,trust and understand everyone around u so u would prosper and establish bonds in relationships

the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36.

People telling him to consider her age.She was supposed to consider this first before going to her Ex's house, which mean they have been communicating , and may be they have been seeing eachother because being bored is not can come at anytime, anyday ones or twice a week.

As soon as I get married by babe will have to change her contact oo, many niggarrs only believe in let's have ses thats all.

Get away you....

HRHQueenPhil:
forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous..if the man continues looking to Mrs perfect, he will be d oldest man

he made the right decision.
if she wanted and respect your friend. she would have changed her contact after your friend insisted she change her contact to stop communicating with her EX. believe, if things go side for your guy, sincerely that lady will leave him. also if he takes her around. she might need up cheating on him or worse putting him up with the authority. b!**H can't be realiable.

Ukalejohn:

You're a cheap LovePeddler

nah, u are immature and spew thrash from ur mouth, a mouth meant to bless people..I pray u will understand the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understand ur partner

The lady nor serious! She was bored and she needed someone to shine her Congo. What the f**k are you doing your ex after being engaged?

Your friend should not reconsider the situation. What she did, is a token of what she has in stocks. Second chance is trash.

ElijahOnyeka:
Get away you....

Sha learn the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understand ur partner

nijaomegacode:

So because he wants to forgive, he should now raise someone else's child? Whomever marry such a woman is a fool who will die before his time or WORSE - burn in hell!

be careful with ur utterances, anyone can die at anytime, let ur tongue not land u in hell..go and learn d concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understand ur partner

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

I am not against Her hanging out with her Ex, I am against Hanging out with the ex in his house, are there no outdoor places they can go to chill.
Let's Be real, how many platonic relationships are really platonic?
A shoulder to cry on has always been a dick to ride on.
so Bros should move on.

ElonEmpire:

Matured Kee u there

watch ur utterances so it shall be well with u, go and learn the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understand ur partner

oluxy:

Forgiveness is different, cheating and infidelity is different thing.

Which means u can also do same by visiting your ex to and expect your man to forgive you right?

If your man is involve in such act by going to pass the night in his ex gal place and perhaps pregnancy comes up, I guess you would forgive him.

And he will go ahead to marry the said gal and leave you stranded after the both family members already approved your union.

I hope to see you forgive him.

God saved them from a marriage of disaster, he dosent understand the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understand his woman

HRHQueenPhil:
and u are d queen abi? Better learn the concept of love, forgiveness,trust and understand everyone around u so u would prosper and establish bonds in relationships

Madam you have been typing rubbish since the post came on, i wish your guy was online to see the type of girl he is dating.
I believe your type bleeps and spend the cash made from it on your guy.
Total Street, Away with your forgiveness biko!