DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Any of my ex that comes to visit me in my house will be banged, no exceptions

True story!

HRHQueenPhil:
. Be careful with running into conclusion, no one caught them fuking..may someone not accuse u falsely like this becos u told d truth

no she went there to play ludo. Nonsense!!! Women are naturally weird, how will you be planning wedding and still visit your ex? Who does that? Even if nothing happens nobody go hear that one. That was how my ex married to a pastor was begging me to give it to her one more time, say my d**k sweet scatter pass even him hubby own. I had to reject and flea like Joseph. God know say I no go for survive am to see another man dicking my wife, likewise I no fit do am for another man.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

U mean eating yur cake and still have it dat your own idea abt forgiveness

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

That guy is a MAN. Don't change his decision!! He stood up for him and chose what's right for him as a high value person.

Don't let people confuse him with nonsense like "Forgive" or maturity. She has shown herself by herself. See it exactly for what it is and move on.

Because if she repeats it again, people will then say "but you saw this happen beforehand. Why did you still go ahead with it?"

Biko, his head is there. He deserves better than someone who was firm in how shitty she was to begin with.

She went to her ex? Red Flag
You didn't stop communicating with said ex when found out? DOUBLE RED FLAG.

He should run.

Utter gutter garbage of a woman

HRHQueenPhil:


Don't use ur situation to judge others . .. many people are still ex with their friends..I just wish someone trained her to know that such places are off limit and some men are not understanding and trusting

So you know that some places are off-limits, yet you're still carrying your forgiveness preaching everywhere.
After her visit, he told her to cut the guy off and she refused...or you didn't see that one?
She didn’t meet him outside, she met him in his house. She clearly isn’t ready to be married then.

IbnBattuta1960:

I don't want to believe that you are the monster you are trying to portray.
How can she go to her ex's house? To play ludo? She has no regards for the relationship and as such be disengaged.

Omo 666 likes?
Mark of the beast tueh

Mcslize:


So, you believe a girl will tell you she slept with the guy? Even those caught hopping on top of a guy will still denied they slept with the guy let alone the one that was not caught?

may someone never throw aspersions about it or accuse u falsely becos u are honest..it's good d wedding was called off..imagine if she married someone who doesn't love, trust and understand her, many are in such marriages and drowning

Belafonte:
I don't understand why Nigerian men in the diaspora think it's a good thing to come marry wives from Nigeria. It is always a foolish thing.

Nigerian women are extremely sexually active, and I can just imagine the body count of a 33 year old Nigerian woman. This kind of woman cannot stay unsexed for more than a few weeks at most.

Stop fooling yourselves. If she's not a virgin don't bother coming to pick a Nigerian wife. If you cannot marry a woman in your immediate environment, you don't deserve to have a wife.

Hopefully, other men learn from this unfortunate episode



You're either trolling or naive. The mature thong for him to do is actually cancel marriage plans and move on. The woman has no business visiting men behind closed doors, least of all her ex boyfriend.

Have lived in the US and seen what other women do OPENLY?

DrayZee:

So you know that some places are off-limits, yet you're still carrying your forgiveness preaching everywhere.
After her visit, he told her to cut the guy off and she refused...or you didn't see that one?

he is narating the woman side of the story, u were not there or heard from her so don't throw aspersions or accuse falsely..may u never experience such situations

Ninisun:




You mean whites are faithful? you are joking right?...Maybe i dont watch Cheaters,yahoo guys use jazz to hold them down jare!

na lie, which jazz,na d new ones in the game they use science.....white are still better than black!

neonly:



U mean eating yur cake and still have it dat your own idea abt forgiveness

u are a neon light..the light of the world..learn not to accuse falsely ..u won't experience such IJN amen

LordReed:


Are you even reasoning at all? Why would you marry someone you can't trust? Also if the babe actual cheated why would he marry her either. Try dey use your brain small na.

why you change mouth!

No n this kain lady dem dey carry enter yankee oooo..
This one go turn kingkong for her husband house in USA ooo

kenoyad:

Birds of the same feather. The woke generation!!!

it's ok..Sha learn the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understand ur partner so u wld enjoy all ur relationships

Juliearth:




You concluded she is messing around because she visited her ex? What she did is totally out of line because, an ex, even though still a friend, should be distanced to some extent and catch ups should be done in public, not because the two are likely to cheat, but to douse suspicions such as this one. I still maintain my stance however, that it is possible nothing happened. The op and his fiancé just need to define boundaries.


The only red flag I see here is how op hot to know his woman visited her ex. Could it be that he doesn't trust her?

she actually visited her ex,so if he trust her,he should not believe she visited her ex!

lapazi:

Omo 666 likes?
Mark of the beast tueh

Six hundred and seventy-something.
Tueh to such thinking

HRHQueenPhil:
he is narating the woman side of the story, u were not there or heard from her so don't throw aspersions or accuse falsely..may u never experience such situations

You’ve been saying a lot of wrong things on this thread:
She didn’t tell him she went to visit the ex, the man found out himself and confronted her. Yet most of your comments on this issue are that “the man should trust her for telling him”.
You are to judge the situation according to what you heard. This your generic response doesn’t mean anything. You’re not even attempting to think. You’re just defending her actions because she’s a woman.
Well done.

HRHQueenPhil:
pls don't judging so u won't be falsely accused in life, it's a very painful thing..it's better not to even put mouth

I'm not judging, do I know her, is my reaction or comment gonna affect her in anyway? Y won't I put mouth, what then am I doing on NL?

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HRHQueenPhil:
may someone never throw aspersions about it or accuse u falsely becos u are honest..it's good d wedding was called off..imagine if she married someone who doesn't love, trust and understand her, many are in such marriages and drowning

Let's come to it; what she did was terribly wrong for someone who was already engaged. It shows that she didn't value the engagement. If she was bored, why must it be an ex she must visit? Why didn't she visit her female friend, her mum or her aunties if truly she was bored and not dick bored?

Most ladies lack wisdom when it comes to their day to day life style. It is very good the man found out on time, he was possibly going to marry someone that will cheat on him. But the universe saved him.

There are things ladies should not be doing once they find a man that is ready to take the shame of being single off their shoulders.

Most of the things ladies do are always done out of foolishness.

The rest should learn from things like this.

HRHQueenPhil:
be careful with ur utterances, anyone can die at anytime, let ur tongue not land u in hell..go and learn d concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understand ur partner

Love is not stupid!
This is stupidity. Why am I even arguing this with you? If you have ever done this to a man and he forgave you and married you, he is stupid!

.

uthlaw:
why you change mouth!

Change mouth where? E bi like say something dey worry you for early morning.

neonly:



U mean eating yur cake and still have it dat your own idea abt forgiveness

Don't mind her. She's going to be a very bad mother who teaches Immorality.
Any man that forgive such a LovePeddler should rot in hell

Let him leave her and find a better person. Some of these girls do not really know what they want. They want to eat their cake and still hold on to it. I know of a girl that went off to her ex boyfriend for one last fling before finally tying the knot the next day. Who is to guarantee that when they are married she will still not go off to see him when she is 'bored'?

LordReed:


Change mouth where? E bi like say something dey worry you for early morning.

you wan fight me Ni?

Run.. Tell your friend that he made the right decision. She's a biitch. She is not to be trusted.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Can you all see why there will be no single woman in Heaven? Look at this post from a woman.

The woman is the only human that saw Lucifer face to face and had a discussion with him. Whatever they discussed, no human or Angel knows till today.

1ND3S7R4C71BL3:


Exactly my thought, If she's the one that told your so called friend, then I believed nothing bad happened, cos if anything happened, she will never tell you anything about the visitation.

Haven't you seen a thief being chased join the chorus of people chasing him.. Thief thief thief catch him.

Ewizard:


Yes, we can.

Can you stop being stupid?

No I doubt.

No mind d babe.......I been think say na Sapphire b4 self

HRHQueenPhil:


U make this marriage thing seem like an achievement, it's purely two people agreeing to fvck and share responsibility..if it's so important, Jesus wld have done it to fulfill all righteousness

You are definitely a prostitute. No sensible human being will be spewing trash.

uthlaw:
you wan fight me Ni?

No be you bring fight com? I dey on my own jeje, you com bring your mouth.

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

Reconsider wetin?
girls are very stoopid...an engaged woman that should focus on her hubby to be is hangin out in her ex's house and not an open place or garden?
she no see any of her female friends or any oda male friend na her ex she go em house and u tellin me she didnt hav sex wit him?
that's a fuckin lie bro!!!
Don't reconsider any shit bro...and d worst part is dat she even refused changing her number showin that sumtin fishy is goin on btw them.
Bro that her ex should go on and marry her...F**l
Niggas fear vagina people o!