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greenie77:
It is those kids his write up shows he feels not obligated to is the main issue here. How can you as a father think it is okay for your children who are minors to be outside at night as where they would sleep is subject to the compassion of outsiders?

greenie77:
I believe your loving or hating your father now is not based on what your mother told you but what you yourself observed of your father and how he treated you while growing up.

Raalsalghul:
The man has presented his own side of the story now and our feminist-wannabe has stylishly avoided commenting seeing that the wife might have some faults of her own too.

Her own na to dey sniff for Alpha males/Red pillers up and down like those police dogs for airport.

Will heavens fall if their gender becomes logical/objective for once?

CHoccolaTE:
You really think toke and dj cuppy as rich as they are, dont have men chasing them or asking them for marriage?
Na cruise those women dey cruise besides they are influencers and content creators so they have to make posts that get people talking and interested in them.

Many women dont crave marriage as much as men will like to believe. Sorry if truth hurts but it is what it is.

FOLYKAZE:
As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

When we met back then, it wasn't that I manipulated her mind or took advantage of her young age, she had previous relationships that didn't work. So I don't know where the idea that I fooled her is coming from. Was she coerced, absolutely no!

Into the relationship, she got pregnant and moved into what she called uncompleted building. This very apartment is where my parents and myself lived. Though not a duplex or mansion, it is what we call home. She consented to live in the house. The room wasn't conducive enough, we cohabit in there, happily. We both weathered the conditions till she delivered and also had admission. I had a job that helped us patched up our livelihood. From this job, I was earning very little but managed to foot all necessary bills for her schooling, accommodation, her well-being and that of my baby. I also renovated that uncompleted building into a tasting simple apartment. During this period I was the best husband and best daddy. Yes, she had it all.

One fateful day, a year after she graduated, I found her personal diary. In it, she record all the expenses she incurred while in school. There she stated I only gave her N50,000 financial support in her first year, and afterward did nothing. Though infuriated, I confronted her peacefully about what I saw and what she meant. She stood by her words that I did nothing and that was it. I let it slide though. Days later, she informed me she is about to start processing her degree, and that she will need my support. There I told her, Madam, you have a job already and should bear the responsibility in issue like this, not that I couldn't support but the previous ones I gave were never acknowledged or appreciated. This became the genesis of our misunderstandings. She flared up, told me she would do it all herself, and maybe with support from her family. But till date, that ambition remain a pipe dream. Yes it was a good vision, however, I can never afford to contribute into a project my effort would be worthless.

Many months while she works, she never spend a dime from her earnings. All her money were saved, but mine was meant to be spent to the last penny. She never wanted to bear any financial responsibilities. I took up every necessary bills, even though when it entails monitoring and controlling every damn expenses. This include that of the kid and her own well-being. I systematically stopped footing her bills; clothing, hair making, among others, when I observed that her spending culture was becoming wild. During my maternal granddad burial ceremony, she requested for N5000 for her hair making. I told her I can only afford to pay N2000 as I have already spent more than N400,000 on the burial. Hearing this, she not only threatened to call all her families not to attend to ceremony, but acted accordingly. On that very day, I stopped investing on her personal expenses.

Aside that, she was disrespecting my Parents. At a point, she called my Mum a witch, not only to her face but went out telling people on the street. Those she told personally that my Mum is a witch who allegedly killed out late son, informed me of this. She kept grudges with my mum till her death. This is the woman who never killed her own son or grandchild. This is the woman who fed you during your first years in Ore.

Considering the unreliable job security in the nation, I decided to learn a trade. Cocoa Merchant to be precise. Told her about my plans. And since I wouldn't be earning enough, told her to take care of the kid school fees and also some miscellaneous. Since the apprenticeship would take a year, we both agree that she will bear those expenses for a year. Unfortunately, I lost my formal Boss, and was reassigned to another Boss. I was supposed to complete this apprenticeship in December but this Boss shifted it to March this year. Much of the running of things in the house come from her. I appreciated her for that, but I did contributed somethings. She painted a scenario that she had all the bulk on her shoulder. I have personally called her in April that I will take back school fees of our son and some expenses esp feeding of our daughter. All these I have done within two months that I am free. She is here calling me Lazy and over pampered.

Some years back, my Dad saw me helping her to fetch water. I was only trying to help her but my Dad saw the other sides of my actions. He asked me to stop because I have given her an Inch and would likely go for miles in the future. She wouldn't wash my clothes, sweep the house, and take days before she wash plates. She is here on this forum, and can answer when last she washed my clothes. Its more than 10months. I raised this issie many times but she was adamant, unwilling to bend. Worst still, she deliberately cook bad food, some she cannot eat herself.

Two months ago, she called me at the middle of the night, and informed, out of the blue, me that she want a seperation. I told her, this is fine by me. And I enquired when she would be leaving. She said December this year. Leaving separately for 10 months is unreasonable. I halted her and gave her grace until June Holiday. Days later, I often inquired from her when the holiday would be. She was curious though. I gave my words and will stand by it.

The window grace was opened wide, she stubbornly decided to stay on the other side. On Monday, I almost lost my life when the boat we boarded from Ese-Odo to Irele capsized. I arrived home drenched at some mins past 10. This is the Lazy me struggling in the wild, ocean and forest looking for daily meal. She saw me drenched and do not even care to welcome me home. She was busy watching movie, while I was dying away. I told her point-blank, she is in, this week. I gave her money to prepare food the following day. Even until Wednesday, we were cool until I surprisingly saw this thread blackmailing me.

Well, I believe strongly she is been influenced and wrongly advised. This is not her. But I cannot help it anymore. She just have to go away. I have informed her family and they seem contented with my decision. I wish her well

Lizzyangel:
Here is my contact and I will never disclose my present Location for my kids and I safety, anybody interested in investigating further, my 7yr old is still awake and my baby girl too, we've been opportuned to meet a savior who took us in after narrating my ordeal.

08163543897


And to you FOLYKAZE that had been her viewing and reading the thread to make me look like and idiot and take notes of my next line of action, I leave you to KARMA, but whatever karma will do to you I pray with the days of my pregnancy and delivery of this kids that your sins will not come to them in Jesus name.


The ridicule and shame you've subjected me to online and offline, the pains and misfortunes I've gone through for the sake of being there I leave you and your dad to karma.

View as much as you like, I'm no longer posting my actions and decisions, I only did that to counter the trolls calling me a fake, beggar and sort.

I'm done with You Ademokun Folorunsho FOLYKAZE!!


Eleda awon omo ti mo n ki Kiri a da fun e.

descarado:
You have not see crazy Nigerians?
So many lock their wives out.
As long as he is a narcissist, he will do that.

A friend( bless that lady. She is an epitome of submissiveness married to a chauvinistic narcissist). His words are final. You don't have a say. Wife hardly talk anyway. One day, I think the househelp did something wrong before going to school, she came back and he told this girl of 12 not to eat. A punishment for whatever she did. The wife unaware of what was going on told the girl to go and dish out food( she wasn't around when the order was given) He just gave the order and left the house. Wife went back to her business stand close to the house. At night when she came back, oga locked her and the girl out. She slept in one car( bad car) in her compound while the girl slept in one secluded place better than where the wife slept.

When I passed by the next day, wifey told me what happened. I made that man kneel down and ask for forgiveness cos I have him by the balls.
Their type only respects who has power over them eg money or position. And at that time, he is jobless. Has an suv, wife fuels and maintain that car for him.

That woman would have been very high in society cos I know the stuff she is made of, how she was before she met him if she hadn't married such beast and he disvirgined her.

Reason I prefer you have experience before you jump into marriage. It's always pity and guilt kinda marriage for most female first timers that keep them glued in such misery. Like 70%
Anybody marrying a virgin is out for control, nothing more. Forget Bible here. Just common sense.

limcar:
Wrong, most women esp in Nigeria wish they get married. Madam, if you know the population of single girls dreaming for husband, you won't be saying this. Every Saturday s including today, thousands of Weddings are taking place and you say they don't crave marriage. Think again.

pocohantas:
I remain of the opinion that the presence or absence of bride price has nothing to do with how some Nigerian men treat their partners.

cayorday89:
And to you husband, work on your ego, it's not a must she washes your clothes, she is not idle and a stay home wife, I never grew up seeing my mum wash my father's clothes except in rare occasions, both work for the survival of the family...

greenie77:
In the future, when his children would have nothing good to say about him on Fathers Day, those who are presently not seeing anything wrong with his actions would start posting how their mother has poisoned their hearts against their father.

Raalsalghul:
The man has presented his own side of the story now and our feminist-wannabe has stylishly avoided commenting seeing that the wife might have some faults of her own too. Her own na to dey sniff for Alpha males/Red pillers up and down like those police dogs for airport.

Will heavens fall if their gender becomes logical/objective for once?

CHoccolaTE:
Even when the woman is the one feeding and providing for the family her husband still expects her to wash clothes for him as if its his God given right.

Kondomatic:
True....
People will always find reason to attack each other. It's got nothing to do with bride price.
Women don't pay bride price yet they still treat the husbands like trash.

There are some people in "Abuja marriage" and they still fight eah other. No bride price, no introduction, no nothing.

pocohantas:
I have commented o. I told her to be submissive. She should wash his clothes and cook for him. But the wife has also replied that his response was a lie, what do you have to say?? ?

Shebi I was objective the day you called me wife-material and was quoting me upandan. I want to see you objective for once, me sef wan call you husband material. I dey wait you.

SegFault:
Why you still dey waste your spit. The lives of a huge majority of red pillers are upside down so no need replying anyone. Most of them are deadbeat fathers or the dregs of the society.

pocohantas:
I have commented o. I told her to be submissive. She should wash his clothes and cook for him. But the wife has also replied that his response was a lie, what do you have to say?? ?

Shebi I was objective the day you called me wife-material and was quoting me upandan. I want to see you objective for once, me sef wan call you husband material. I dey wait you.

pocohantas:
No, I want Raalsalghul to explain how I went from being a wife-material to wannabe-feminist in just one week. The other day e wan die for quoting me. This is exactly how narcissist and ungrateful they are in reality. Once you are not pandering to their views/request, you automatically become a bad person. How do you manage men like this as husbands?

CHoccolaTE:
I don't know why Nigerian men like to assume that divorced women desire marriage. In many cases they truly dont want to remarry because of the trauma they went through in their first marriage.
Even some single women are only looking for marriage because of societal pressure and not because they cannot survive without it.

I guess its very sweet and boosts their self esteem to tell themselves that females are craving marriage to men and are desperate to be with them.

FOLYKAZE:
As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

When we met back then, it wasn't that I manipulated her mind or took advantage of her young age, she had previous relationships that didn't work. So I don't know where the idea that I fooled her is coming from. Was she coerced, absolutely no!

Into the relationship, she got pregnant and moved into what she called uncompleted building. This very apartment is where my parents and myself lived. Though not a duplex or mansion, it is what we call home. She consented to live in the house. The room wasn't conducive enough, we cohabit in there, happily. We both weathered the conditions till she delivered and also had admission. I had a job that helped us patched up our livelihood. From this job, I was earning very little but managed to foot all necessary bills for her schooling, accommodation, her well-being and that of my baby. I also renovated that uncompleted building into a tasting simple apartment. During this period I was the best husband and best daddy. Yes, she had it all.

One fateful day, a year after she graduated, I found her personal diary. In it, she record all the expenses she incurred while in school. There she stated I only gave her N50,000 financial support in her first year, and afterward did nothing. Though infuriated, I confronted her peacefully about what I saw and what she meant. She stood by her words that I did nothing and that was it. I let it slide though. Days later, she informed me she is about to start processing her degree, and that she will need my support. There I told her, Madam, you have a job already and should bear the responsibility in issue like this, not that I couldn't support but the previous ones I gave were never acknowledged or appreciated. This became the genesis of our misunderstandings. She flared up, told me she would do it all herself, and maybe with support from her family. But till date, that ambition remain a pipe dream. Yes it was a good vision, however, I can never afford to contribute into a project my effort would be worthless.

Many months while she works, she never spend a dime from her earnings. All her money were saved, but mine was meant to be spent to the last penny. She never wanted to bear any financial responsibilities. I took up every necessary bills, even though when it entails monitoring and controlling every damn expenses. This include that of the kid and her own well-being. I systematically stopped footing her bills; clothing, hair making, among others, when I observed that her spending culture was becoming wild. During my maternal granddad burial ceremony, she requested for N5000 for her hair making. I told her I can only afford to pay N2000 as I have already spent more than N400,000 on the burial. Hearing this, she not only threatened to call all her families not to attend to ceremony, but acted accordingly. On that very day, I stopped investing on her personal expenses.

Aside that, she was disrespecting my Parents. At a point, she called my Mum a witch, not only to her face but went out telling people on the street. Those she told personally that my Mum is a witch who allegedly killed out late son, informed me of this. She kept grudges with my mum till her death. This is the woman who never killed her own son or grandchild. This is the woman who fed you during your first years in Ore.

Considering the unreliable job security in the nation, I decided to learn a trade. Cocoa Merchant to be precise. Told her about my plans. And since I wouldn't be earning enough, told her to take care of the kid school fees and also some miscellaneous. Since the apprenticeship would take a year, we both agree that she will bear those expenses for a year. Unfortunately, I lost my formal Boss, and was reassigned to another Boss. I was supposed to complete this apprenticeship in December but this Boss shifted it to March this year. Much of the running of things in the house come from her. I appreciated her for that, but I did contributed somethings. She painted a scenario that she had all the bulk on her shoulder. I have personally called her in April that I will take back school fees of our son and some expenses esp feeding of our daughter. All these I have done within two months that I am free. She is here calling me Lazy and over pampered.

Some years back, my Dad saw me helping her to fetch water. I was only trying to help her but my Dad saw the other sides of my actions. He asked me to stop because I have given her an Inch and would likely go for miles in the future. She wouldn't wash my clothes, sweep the house, and take days before she wash plates. She is here on this forum, and can answer when last she washed my clothes. Its more than 10months. I raised this issie many times but she was adamant, unwilling to bend. Worst still, she deliberately cook bad food, some she cannot eat herself.

Two months ago, she called me at the middle of the night, and informed, out of the blue, me that she want a seperation. I told her, this is fine by me. And I enquired when she would be leaving. She said December this year. Leaving separately for 10 months is unreasonable. I halted her and gave her grace until June Holiday. Days later, I often inquired from her when the holiday would be. She was curious though. I gave my words and will stand by it.

The window grace was opened wide, she stubbornly decided to stay on the other side. On Monday, I almost lost my life when the boat we boarded from Ese-Odo to Irele capsized. I arrived home drenched at some mins past 10. This is the Lazy me struggling in the wild, ocean and forest looking for daily meal. She saw me drenched and do not even care to welcome me home. She was busy watching movie, while I was dying away. I told her point-blank, she is in, this week. I gave her money to prepare food the following day. Even until Wednesday, we were cool until I surprisingly saw this thread blackmailing me.

Well, I believe strongly she is been influenced and wrongly advised. This is not her. But I cannot help it anymore. She just have to go away. I have informed her family and they seem contented with my decision. I wish her well

Nonexistent1:
I believe your own version and I strongly stand behind you. Daughters of Jezebel always run to social media with fake tears to deceive simps. Kick her out of your house if you can not take nonsense from her any longer.

doggedfighter:
Abeg, where's the reply?

The man finally dropped his matchete to write a write a reply

Sanchez01:
Not sure I want to be a part of gender wars but please, learn to sell your feminism or make points without having to generalise, particularly when it pertains to Nigerian men. We have enlightened, modern Nigerian men who do not align with societal views on women, divorce, singleness and happiness.

greenie77:
I believe you are also behind him kicking out his own children and had to spend the night in an uncompleted building with their mother some months back and roaming around last night looking for where to sleep.

Don't think the power you think he has now is not transient, tomorrow your type will be telling his then adult children to let bygones be bygones, that he is still their father and they should embrace him but the beautiful thing is that our society is fast losing its power to emotionally blackmail adult children.of deadbeat fathers to make him part of their lives which essentially is about providing for his weak bones.

CHoccolaTE:
You really think toke and dj cuppy as rich as they are, dont have men chasing them or asking them for marriage?
Na cruise those women dey cruise besides they are influencers and content creators so they have to make posts that get people talking and interested in them.

Many women dont crave marriage as much as men will like to believe. Sorry if truth hurts but it is what it is.

Sanchez01:
Not sure I want to be a part of gender wars but please, learn to sell your feminism or make points without having to generalise, particularly when it pertains to Nigerian men. We have enlightened, modern Nigerian men who do not align with societal views on women, divorce, singleness and happiness.

pocohantas:
Check the post the non.existing poster quoted on this page.



No vex. Na just say una no plenty. If not that Raalsalghul is smart enough not to quote people stronger than him, he would have called you SIMP for not supporting certain acts.

In fact, you see the enlightened, modern and nonconforming Nigerian men, na them be the SIMPS.

Nonexistent1:
Be here doing enlightened men. My professor uncle is now homeless in UK because his wife took everything from him. Before you started your "enlightenment", he had been a professor at Uniport before relocating to UK. A known medical doctor in US from Orlu in my state had his medical license suspended because his wife lied that he abused her. His license was recently reinstated after the daughter of Jezebel confided in her friend that she lied not knowing that her friend recorded her call and would later betray her because they were fighting over a manfriend. Meanwhile the doctor had suffered for almost 3years. Be there doing "enlightened man" and getting accolades from daughters of Jezebel in this thread until you get entangled with them and they destroy you. Most of them ranting here are either expired evening newspapers or frustrated housewives that married old men because of money. Flee from them and their praises.

Sanchez01:
The issue with most of those who parade themselves as red pillers are misogynists who found the perfect tent to mask their hate. It would surprise you to know most of them are the total opposite of what they parade themselves to be online.