spiralwedge:
You are in the wrong marriage and i pity the man.
You are a shame to the man,and i am sure he is being mocked.

Imagine feeling "the Holy Spirit" where they cant correct you to go back to your husband. You are a worker in a church where they encourage disunity in your home. Thank God you mentioned the name of the church,i will never attend such a church.

Just separate from him and let him live long

Oga the church did nothing wrong. Op is just a stubborn and heady person.

CsRockefeller:


Let's say it's influence, my roommates and course mates were all Pentecostal, I soon found myself following them to their church since we did almost everything together.

Why I came back? Simple, "he maketh me lie down in green pastures" my green pastures has been in the Catholic church, I am a beneficiary of the enormous benevolence of the Catholic church from Nursery school till date so why should I leave were I was being fed spiritually and physically? Secondly, I saw the lives of my fellow Pentecostal friends and it didn't reflect any growth, yes they were all spiritual but mentally and financially, they were just hovering.

Nevertheless, I am grateful for the knowledge and experience garnered there, I was able to grow spiritually and took many things learnt there to the Catholic church. I still follow Pentecostal Pastor's online but I never hide my Catholic identity. Firebrand Pastors and Ministries are springing up everyday, are you going to be jumping up and down like a Kangaroo? The good thing is the Catholic church is open to some changes as I believe reformation per time is very important and we have been seeing such changes lately.

The work of the church is to help guide and direct you to finding Christ, I can agree to some extent that the Catholic church is lacking a bit in this aspect but the it can only get better, no perfections anywhere.

I was a babe, but not anymore have passed through that stage in my life and won't go back. The responsibility of my spiritual growth is first, in my hands.

Thank God for your life bro. I'm a Catholic and enjoy the programs of charismatic groups in the church. I also tried following friends to Dominion City then but I found out that what they did most was just preaching of prosperity and showmanship. I later realised the charismatic group in the Catholic Church is one of the best Christian fellowships one can have. I'm proudly a Catholic and understand the treasures the church have

If indeed they taught you as you claimed they would have told you to cleave with your husband church or no church..you are the one that is been sentimental here,until you settle the matter in your heart you may allow your stubbornness to bring heat into your family ...what you don't like In Redeem is unknown to me because they have sound teachings in bible study,believers class ,baptismal class ,workers in training ,Sunday school. You can't go through these training and be unsatisfied in spiritual depth...Sunday service is just a meal out of several meals available.. Get yourself interested in what your husband is doing ..your pastor ought to have taught you this if indeed he teaches very well as you claim.

debbycreamy:


Oga did u read d post at all, coz if u did u would have seen that I have followed him to redeem for almost 3 years, and please my home is a happy home, next time read b4 ur fingers rush to type

Madam I did o. I read through before typing. This is a problem of your attitude and believe me only a change in your attitude towards your husband and his decisions will solve the problem totally. This is not to say that you can’t suggest to him the way you want it but if he disapproves at first be willing to be patient and give it time.

Sebi JWs told you people that the gods you're worshiping is not the same but then you'll drive us away from your house.
Oya go on your knees and pray together with your husband, the angel from RCCG and that of DOMINION will come to an agreement and tell you who should surrender to the other!

When JWs say there's no sense in marrying outside your church you people will say you're in Love. Oya make love settle the matter nah, abi Love no dey again?

debbycreamy:
Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

What do young ppl really do during courtship?
I believe that a proper courtship would have taken care of these issues but unfortunately, we are more interested in the suya and yoghourt we drink during during courtship won't allow us discuss things as basic as our faith

debbycreamy:
Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

...but you knew his church before you said 'I do'.
Its either you ask God to step in and convince one of you about changing church, or you accept you fate (besides, how do you know if the Holy Spirit is not at your husband's church all because you don't feel a touch. My dear, it's not all the time the Holy Spirit makes you jump up and down. The Holy Spirit is a gentle spirit. He can touch you and fix you without you even knowing it. He doesn't show off...He is not trying to impress anyone).

debbycreamy:
Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

A home cannot experience God's love, favour plus blessing when the woman see herself as equal to the husband. There would always be conflicts and problems in the house. Two captain cannot control a ship.

It's your duty to attend your husband church because he's the lord of the house according to the word of God except if they worships different God beside God in heaven then don't follow Him.

From your write up, it shows that you are showing disrespect to the man as husband. You are not yourself as a woman God want her to raise a generation that will change situations.

When a man married a woman, the woman leaves everything behind just as Jesus Christ left everything behind in heaven.

And as he said, if you want to follow me, you must leave your father and mother and everything then you can follow me.

A woman must ready to leave something to follow the man God has given her.

Jesus is portraying this to a marriage where a woman would leave everything and follow the man in the way and fear of God.

Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.

1 Peter 3:6 - 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to

Please, go back to reading of your bible and read what God expect a wife to do. If you cannot locate it from the bible, search the chapters and the verses online, it will help your home to experience the presence of God and rule by God Himself and you will be free of mockery, breaking home and your children would have peace.

If I may ask, assuming you are attending rccg, and your son or daughter say, I'm not going to the church you are worshiping in even under your roof, what would you say?

It's shows the house is not in accord.
Not united.

Please listen to your husband, then God can change him through your respect and submissive if he's hash or not doing the right thing as a man.

If you want your home to be free of devil's presence then don't see yourself as equal right as to the man.

Then if you are faithful to all mentioned above, that you are not feeling the spirit of God in where he's going to and it's sincere that you are saying the truth, them communicate with God that He should speak to your husband Himself and have Him God choose a church for you guys.

God bless you.

AntiWailer:
Imagine.

So they did not discuss all these before the party ?

All this generation focus on is the wedding party with no idea of what will happen in the marriage itself.

If u married outside Ur church, u people did not agree before u went to the alter ?

And if u people cnt agree on 1 church to go and build the family, why are u wasting your time going to church at all.

You cnt trust your husband's decision on choice of place of worship and he is supposed to be the spiritual head of the house.

All the activities Una dey do dey form workers in church. A very high percentage of u won't make heaven.

If you can not convince your hubby to follow u to church and he can not convince u to follow him, the marriage is already on a wrong foundation.

The two of u will be acting strangely on different teachings. That is a recipe for disaster.

Imagine Oyakhilome and Ashimolowo as different Pastors in the family. One believe covid is 5G another thought it was just a pandemic. How Una wan settle 'spiritual' differences at home ?

Choose your home or the church. Which ever pays u. Just analyze the consequences, one must make way very veeeery soon. I will advise u choose wisely.





And aunty wey say she does not go to her husband's church despite the fact that he is a Pastor.

You are a disaster waiting to happen. Soon it will be obvious they can't believe in his teaching since the wife does not believe in the nonsense he is doing.

When he grows to a point, the sisters will arrange some session for him. Before u know he is long gone.

You are in spirit while writing this. God bless.

CsRockefeller:


Let's say it's influence, my roommates and course mates were all Pentecostal, I soon found myself following them to their church since we did almost everything together.

Why I came back? Simple, "he maketh me lie down in green pastures" my green pastures has been in the Catholic church, I am a beneficiary of the enormous benevolence of the Catholic church from Nursery school till date so why should I leave were I was being fed spiritually and physically? Secondly, I saw the lives of my fellow Pentecostal friends and it didn't reflect any growth, yes they were all spiritual but mentally and financially, they were just hovering.

Nevertheless, I am grateful for the knowledge and experience garnered there, I was able to grow spiritually and took many things learnt there to the Catholic church. I still follow Pentecostal Pastor's online but I never hide my Catholic identity. Firebrand Pastors and Ministries are springing up everyday, are you going to be jumping up and down like a Kangaroo? The good thing is the Catholic church is open to some changes as I believe reformation per time is very important and we have been seeing such changes lately.

The work of the church is to help guide and direct you to finding Christ, I can agree to some extent that the Catholic church is lacking a bit in this aspect but the it can only get better, no perfections anywhere.

I was a babe, but not anymore have passed through that stage in my life and won't go back. The responsibility of my spiritual growth is first, in my hands.

Nice that you are back in the Fold.. :

D Catholic Church has alot of prayers/ spiritual nutrients you need as a christian...
Just dat there are not intuned with current challenges in Nigeria
e.g, Delay marriage, Spiritual attacks, No jobs, Problems from the father/mother sides,etc..
Dats y you see some People running away from Catholic Church and saying bad things about her..
because There are Societies you can join in Catholic Church to give knowledge on scriptures e.g Blue army, Block rosary, Legion of Mary, etc..
There is Bible Study!!
While some Rev frs have weekly programmes you can attend in d evening!!
But Many catholics do not identify with such groups..
They get influenced by one Firebrand Pastor/church and next thing, dey claim dat 'God is not in the Church'..

edoairways:

This is where church indoctrinate people. They have so brainwash them to think their is better than others. A child may grow in a home where his parent attend the same church yet he becomes wayward. Another may grow attending different church yet he is better of.

that's because environment and innate qualities build a person. But it is not good we create the environment for waywardness

If you love your marriage, please submit to him and attend his church

MaxInDHouse:
Sebi JWs told you people that the gods you're worshiping is not the same but then you'll drive us away from your house.
Oya go on your knees and pray together with your husband, the angel from RCCG and that of DOMINION will come to an agreement and tell you who should surrender to the other!

When JWs say there's no sense in marrying outside your church you people will say you're in Love. Oya make love settle the matter nah, abi Love no dey again?

You Guys are Religious Extremists!!
Jehovah Witnesses are only Christian group dat refer to other demonination as Unbelievers!!..
One JW guy refused to attend his Best Friend's Wedding ceremony..
when asked, he said 'Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers'!!
Jehovah Witness member that will Ignore his Hungry Blood brother...
and instead give the Meat to somebody from Kingdom Hall!!
You guys are Bad-ass christians...

Lamanii22:
Tell God to take control of his heart.... It's God that can help you in this case oo... Tell it to God

I read this,I just laugh not because I intend to disdain your assertion but if I may ask, can God and God clash?,the will of God is revealed in different ways,but basically by the Word of God, are you saying that the husband is doing the wrong thing by insisting that the wife must go to the church he is attending, travel throughout the world,it's the standard of we men that keep changing,God has/will never/ change his own standard,The instruction is for wife to submit and this is not excluding church the husband is attending, using God now to beg God is somehow, I ask again can God and God clash?

The best thing would have been to marry from your church since you are so attached to it. Since that option is out, you have to open your heart to start to like his church, because you should be attending his church with him.

These are the kinds of things you prepare your mind for during courtship. You knew you would have to follow him to his church. So fighting it now is pointless except you enjoy the division.

Support your husband if you love him and find a way to work this chirch issue out.

STICK WITH FAITH OF YOUR FATHERS,THERE IS NO DENOMINATION OR SEGGREGATION IN HEAVEN!

You are lucky enough to be both Christians. Learn to live together and pray together, avoid the topic as much as possible and una go dey alright.

Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

You must be a Christian, right? If yes, then I guess you already know that God has a plan for your marriage and all matters related to it. If your husband asks you to attend RCCG, obey, ask the LORD to show you where you fit in RCCG and what problems you can help solve in the local assembly of RCCG...the response of the LORD will provide you with a purpose for attending the RCCG! Right now you don't have any real purpose for attending RCCG and that why you feel the way you feel...

NewDawn2O21:
don't let me troll you.
It's always not a funny experience.
I won't warn you again

And how did that imporove your life? . Surely you must have made something out of your trolling business/ hobby by now .

Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

I understand you completely as a fellow mortals with feelings , likes and dislike. All your excuses are fine and genuine to me , infact too fantastic to ignore, why must your husband even dare force you a woman born in egalitarianism to be a foolish woman like serah Abraham wife who called him Lord and follows wherever even to the point of submissively being allows to be given to a king or that foolish woman in the bible called Ruth who foolishly follows one poor widow ..Do you know that Christ was born of that foolish lineage because boaz married ruth ...

and you my dear eduacted wise sister was born in the egalitarian society of WISE lot wife ...she claim that city was appealing to her infact she claimed she forgot e.g. a jewelry there ...

But Christ the owner of the church you claim to be part of doesn't buy your excuse ...he said husband love your wife to the point of death and said woman submit to your husband like he submitted to the will of the father even to the point of dying death.

Listen , forget all my sarcasm and simply honour your husband so long he didn't ask you to come with him to a shrine or shrine-like place of worship.

You don't want to offer the sacrifice of a fool.

Who is a fool, he that dispose God own law and instructions .
The God you claim to serve ask you to honour your husband and you choose to follow your feelings dictated by your flesh .

If you truely have a fellowship with holyspirit as you claim you will know that he is not an author of confusion , he won't ask you to do one thing written down and turn again to ask you to obey opposite by your feelings of ..as...you don't feel him in your husband church .


If you were not married to a man who is now your spiritual head , you will be free or if he be dead you are free either way...the wrath of God is revealed against All form of disobedience. .,take note when God says all he mean all when he says some he mean some.

Ordinarily, church isn't a matter that should be debated among couples ...if you can't worship with your husband in a place like Rccg that I know ..How can you be with him if the Lord was to allow him to be tested like job with all his beauty gone ...

God send you to be his help meet but you have chosen to be your own lordship and you still see nothing wrong.
Take some of those your knowledge and go and add it to his place of worship.
Why not enter that church and be the light the church needs.

The word of God says Paul mightily grew the word of God in Ephesus and prevail

When Philip brought the light to Samaria , the word says great was the joy of that city.

Anyway...if the owner of the church stands and says to you get thee behind he rebellious and carnnally minded ...your husband won't be there ...and I won't be there and your dominion city pastors and members won't be there. ..



Ps.

Lol, your husband must be in a model Rccg run like deeper life ...everything is quiet.

Well, some Rccg parish are like Christ embassy ...to me all this too much buttock shaking is what you miss and call holyghost presence
With noise like ooooohhhhhh hhhaaaa...preach it on pasta..
Pasta we love ya
Yeah...that is it pasta

Oh yeah come on now ...come on now

But Christ will say yo them depart from me , he that work lawlessness, pls avoid this statement at all cost.

Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

There is no Dominion City or Redeemed in Heaven!!! Religion has finished some of you!!!

When you knew changing of church was a red line for you; why did you accept to marry someone not from your own church
What kind of advice do you now seek?
Go to your Pastor/God at Dominion City and narrate your ordeal, what ever he tells you to do, do it.

U are just a kid, grow up

U don't enter a marriage and divorce, if there is any challenges u look for solutions, like others that gave matured advice that has me helping me in my decision to plead with my husband

but in a situation you don't have any challenge in your marriage and you are trying to create one, those telling you what you want to hear are fools like you, definitely you will not want to hear truth.

If you really have God's Spirit, you will not argue with your husband. The order says,"obey your own husband.

thaprofit88:


Oga the church did nothing wrong. Op is just a stubborn and heady person.

Then the Church should have suspended her from being a worker.

Dear OP, it's your fault that this is happening to you. Did you and your wife discuss this issue when dating? Did you tell her that the issue of religion is a very important aspect of your life? Did you tell her the consequences of what will happen if one of you go against this? If YES, kindly stand your ground without being moved with her CHEAP EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL. If NO, kindly allow her CONTROL you with ease. LOL

Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

murphyibiam15:

I just pity the children who will be torn between going to mummy's or daddy's church

I and my siblings go to different churches outside our parents. Doesn't make any difference

b3llo:
Your spiritual journey should be different from his. Is your salvation in his hands?

You lot should stop misleading others. The wife has the salvation of the husband and likewise the husband the wife's.

The Bible is clear on this. The husband is the absolute head of the house and he must lead with love.

The wife here is simply going against the word of GOD. This is fact as contained in the Bible.

Your pastor should have advised you to be with your husband in his church n

davies:
If your mind isn't there my sister just keep attending your Dominion city. Those that worship God, worship him in spirit and truth.
I use to be a minister in RCCG but was brot up in Foursquare, after many years not actually finding the inner quest of worship with my creator at RCCG,
I had to return to my Foursquare Gospel Church & now I find peace, love and fellowship among my brethren

Mr foursquare, you encourage this poor woman to dishonour the Lord by dishonouring her husband. ..you were never a better worker ...weed among the wheat deceiver.

So foursquare encourage women to dishonour their husband ...shame on yiur because I know foursquare does not teach that satanic doctrine ...your are the offspring of yiur father the deceiver he was a rebellious person from the beginning

Crunchyg3:

I know that's what you boys of these days that dont understand how marriage work will say. But wait until you are old enough to marry then you will understand

weak weak weak.

Hmmm

This should have been sorted out while courting before marriage. Medicine after death can not profit anybody. So just submit to the headship of your husband and follow him to wherever.