It's unreasonable to pretend to be poor, less qualified etc while looking for a girlfriend or wife in the guise of looking for TRUE love.


While I concede that it's wrong to brag, show off or flaunt wealth or achievements in the faces of prospective partners, I still hold that it's unreasonable to belittle yourself, hide your qualifications or achievements in the guise of looking for true love.

We men want our women to have certain physical, character or personality traits like figure 8, flat tummy, big bums etc and would easily gravitate towards women whom we feel have them.

By the same token, women usually look at provision, security, comfort etc. These are guaranteed by wealth.


Again, people's opinion have effect on our choices. An average girl or parents would be proud to have their partner or in law visit driving an SUV.

So why ride a keke so as to see if they will accept you?


If the girl pretends to be using crutches when you first sighted her, would you have approached her?

Imagine me pretending to be a primary school leaving holder despite being a graduate, just to test if the girl would accept me.


What if she is afraid of what the family and friends would say? What if the parents are professors, who would want educated suitors for their daughters?


There are always expectations, forget Nollywood films.

the idea is trying to find someone who loves you for your personality and not for outward looks or wealth. true love is hard to find nowerdays.for example most guys that chase after beautiful girls do it to show off among their friends. in reality they may not like the girls personality or character,what happens when she losses her beauty or the guy meets a younger and more attractive woman. if you marry a rich man and he losses his wealth, what happens. only true love can make a couple withstand difficult moments

LagosInter:
It's unreasonable to pretend to be poor, less qualified etc while looking for a girlfriend or wife in the guise of looking for TRUE love.


While I concede that it's wrong to brag, show off or flaunt wealth or achievements in the faces of prospective partners, I still hold that it's unreasonable to belittle yourself, hide your qualifications or achievements in the guise of looking for true love.

We men want our women to have certain physical, character or personality traits like figure 8, flat tummy, big bums etc and would easily gravitate towards women whom we feel have them.

By the same token, women usually look at provision, security, comfort etc. These are guaranteed by wealth.


Again, people's opinion have effect on our choices. An average girl or parents would be proud to have their partner or in law visit driving an SUV.

So why ride a keke so as to see if they will accept you?


If the girl pretends to be using crutches when you first sighted her, would you have approached her?

Imagine me pretending to be a primary school leaving holder despite being a graduate, just to test if the girl would accept me.


What if she is afraid of what the family and friends would say? What if the parents are professors, who would want educated suitors for their daughters?


There are always expectations, forget Nollywood films.

what if those things are no longer there and she dumps you out of the marriage , will you still see her action as the one with right expectation?


Making the right marital choices shouldn't be tied to material and financial availability. It should be tied to virtue, character, charisma and potential . People who make marital choices base on the former afformentioned criteria can't be said to have true love. True love is accessing the virtue and potential of your suitor or wife to be with the determination to work out comfort.

You don't inherit comfort,you labour for it, that is what these women of these days lack

Hmmm am here to learn ooo

felixzo1:
the idea is trying to find someone who loves you for your personality and not for outward looks or wealth. true love is hard to find nowerdays.for example most guys that chase after beautiful girls do it to show off among their friends. in reality they may not like the girls personality or character,what happens when she losses her beauty or the guy meets a younger and more attractive woman. if you marry a rich man and he losses his wealth, what happens. only true love can make a couple withstand difficult moments

This is debatable. If you consider a hard working woman who can take care of herself financially, by acting poor, he will miss out on women like them

I don't think you have to fake being poor to recognize a person's true character. It's very easy when you educate yourself and wise up

LagosInter:
It's unreasonable to pretend to be poor, less qualified etc while looking for a girlfriend or wife in the guise of looking for TRUE love.


While I concede that it's wrong to brag, show off or flaunt wealth or achievements in the faces of prospective partners, I still hold that it's unreasonable to belittle yourself, hide your qualifications or achievements in the guise of looking for true love.

We men want our women to have certain physical, character or personality traits like figure 8, flat tummy, big bums etc and would easily gravitate towards women whom we feel have them.

By the same token, women usually look at provision, security, comfort etc. These are guaranteed by wealth.


Again, people's opinion have effect on our choices. An average girl or parents would be proud to have their partner or in law visit driving an SUV.

So why ride a keke so as to see if they will accept you?


If the girl pretends to be using crutches when you first sighted her, would you have approached her?

Imagine me pretending to be a primary school leaving holder despite being a graduate, just to test if the girl would accept me.


What if she is afraid of what the family and friends would say? What if the parents are professors, who would want educated suitors for their daughters?


There are always expectations, forget Nollywood films.

I agree with you. Not everyone is comfortable with or able to handle wealth. True love is about loving someone fully. I think the problem is that many wealthy men try to win women over with their money instead of with who they are as a person

bepositive11:


This is debatable. If you consider a hard working woman who can take care of herself financially, by acting poor, he will miss out on women like them

I don't think you have to fake being poor to recognize a person's true character. It's very easy when you educate yourself and wise up

I will call it acting modestly not necessary acting poor .love is about sacrifice,

True talk.....

Forget all this talk, if they can't love you at your worst, they don't deserve your best ....

felixzo1:
I will call it acting modestly not necessary acting poor .love is about sacrifice,

Good point. Acting modestly not acting poor

About love being sacrifice, I don't know about that. I disagree to some extent. It's not worth living or signing up for a life of struggle in the name of love

bepositive11:


Good point. Acting modestly not acting poor

About love being sacrifice, I don't know about that. I disagree to some extent. It's not worth living or signing up for a life of struggle in the name of love

struggling today does not mean struggle forever, you have to believe and trust in your partner to succeed at his/her llowwest moments

felixzo1:
struggling today does not mean struggle forever, you have to believe and trust in your partner to succeed at his/her llowwest moments

True

felixzo1:
the idea is trying to find someone who loves you for your personality and not for outward looks or wealth. true love is hard to find nowerdays.for example most guys that chase after beautiful girls do it to show off among their friends. in reality they may not like the girls personality or character,what happens when she losses her beauty or the guy meets a younger and more attractive woman. if you marry a rich man and he losses his wealth, what happens. only true love can make a couple withstand difficult moments

Gbamsolutely!

@LagosInter Nice write up.

bepositive11:


This is debatable. If you consider a hard working woman who can take care of herself financially, by acting poor, he will miss out on women like them

I don't think you have to fake being poor to recognize a person's true character. It's very easy when you educate yourself and wise up

You both saying the same thing.

Lol, true love is hard to find in Nigeria not other places. If I want true love in a month, I'll find it. I just know which country to go. The poverty in Nigeria has made it so extremely difficult that people approach a relationship as a tool to a better life, instead of as an avenue to enrich their already better life.

Anything like unconditional love?