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Hello house,
I'm in love with a lady but I am not ready for marriage neither she is. But the problem is i will be travelling out of the country for studies and also to stay. The problem is I'm thinking if i should foster the relationship with this lady or should plan to get get a lady abroad. Issues of commitment crises in relationship bothers me a lot.
Pardon any grammatical errors

Give it time. This euphoria if being in love will die down. Think with your head.
If you are traveling abroad for studies why not focus on it first. With time that saying will come to play " out of sight is out off mind".

If you 2 are meant to be, then WHAT WILL BE WILL BE


THINK AGAIN. A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE

Pls plan to get a lady abroad else love go shack you and she will frustrate your plans through emotional blackmail by telling you if you love her, you should stay behind.

Thank you for this piece of advice

Focus on yourself..she should focus on herself too..

From experience, best to let each other know that you can only be friends. I don't mean insinuate it o, I mean sit down and have a discussion about it. It's best if you both go your separate ways. Except she wants to come and meet you there within two years or so

Like i will always say, purpose/ambition before anything called relationship. You first. Go to that abroad and make waves. U will discover that that shitty feeling called "LOVE" is so euphemera. But purpose is Permanent. So abandon dat distractionship for now.

Convention107:
Hello house,
I'm in love with a lady but I am not ready for marriage neither she is. But the problem is i will be travelling out of the country for studies and also to stay. The problem is I'm thinking if i should foster the relationship with this lady or should plan to get get a lady abroad. Issues of commitment crises in relationship bothers me a lot.
Pardon any grammatical errors

Travel out first, find your bearing then think of either to foster the relationship or get another there

Relocation is not a child's play, even the mind plays its own too

Thank you all for this amazing responses. I'm so grateful.

Long distant relationship can really drain one emotionally. It's not for kids.

Do you intend to marry her?
Can she withstand the pressure from other guys the moment you are out of sight?
Can you cope for a very longtime without cheating on her?

It's a journey you never know what you are getting into until you are already in the middle of it.

Give it a thorough consideration before you take your final decision.

If you'll be away from the country for many years, please leave that woman alone o. Body no be firewood. This is how y'all would leave and get angry when the lady can't take it anymore, so goes to scratch that itch somewhere else.