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EverythingFit:
My brother, this are not women, not real women anyway, anybody that takes or wants to take advantage of somebody just because they have feelings for them is not a normal human being. DO NOT, I repeat, do not spend a dime of your hard earned money on these people, it won't lead to anything serious, that's not how a relationship, a real one should start or even progress. Giving them money will not guarantee love, if anything, an idiot will think you are a fool for spending on them. Just be patient and wise and trust God, your own person will come along and when you meet her, you will know

Best advice so far. Am very greatful to u.

Stupidquestions:
20k..for what? Even 10k iwill make u look like u are trying too hard to impress....You are not even happy they disappeared..some will even give u green light but won't allow u to fvvck dem...but they will give u hope and milk u dry..lol
..3k or 5k date is okay..don't use expensive venue or expensive drinks or food
..infact go for cheap neat place...why waste ur money on gals who haven't shown any commitment for u..it's a wrong way to chike Naija gals

I don't have problem with spending any amount on somebody weather male or female as far as I intentionally do it. My only problem is if I know the person is after that money. That same day we spent 20k on a date she asked me for 200 naira recharge card and I refuse.

pansophist:
You should know in this era, it is far easier to go through the brutal path of becoming wealthy than to find a good woman to marry. Your experience is not an isolated case, it is general. Even worse, it will not get better. Sounds pessimistic right? okay, so let us go to the real deal. The girls do not love you, and honestly reading your post, it is obvious why. When a woman does not love a man, there is always a temptation in her female brain to recruit you as a sponsor, only a few have the integrity to let you go, not giving you a false illusion and embezzle you full-time. The girls you met lacks integrity, hence, they see you as a cash cow to cash out, not as husband material. If you meet a woman that truly wants you, you will know.

Also, you should work on your attractiveness. I am sure you are going for the women you find attractive, then hope that they have a good personality to complement it. It is the same for women. In fact, women objectify men, more than men will ever objectify women. If you doubt, ask short guys, even worse if he is broke as well, and god forbid, ugly too. So if you have a potbelly, lose it. Refine yourself to a point where it would be women coming for you. If you think women do not chase men, then you are probably not attractive enough. In a nutshell, you should be able to see yourself from the eyes of the opposite gender and be the best you can be. It's just self-respect.

OK sir am greatful with this ur advice. I will try and apply what you have said. Thanks for your contribution.

Beloved3:
Perhaps there is something about the way you come across that makes them take you for a mumu.

To answer your question, No. Asking you for money for hair do etc without showing you any form of affection is not acceptance. So it's best for you to stop wasting your time with these girls and look for a serious one.

And besides you don't just meet a girl and start professing love and sending love emojis. That's being fake and unrealistic with yourself. The girls will see through it and never take you serious because they know you don't really know them well enough and you are just being needy.

That's pretty immature if you ask me.

Rather, when you meet a girl newly you let her know that you like her and would like to be friends with her to know her more. This is a friendship period and you steer clear of throwing love emojis. Then if the friendship gets deeper and you guys are compatible, the love will come in naturally.
At that point she wouldn't even need to ask you for money because you would be willing to support her financially.

Bro, examine yourself and redefine your game. If you want a serious wife be calm, don't rush and take time to know the lady very well before you start exclaiming 'I love you'.

Peace be unto you.

Believe me I don't use to rush things by been too desperate. This last girl that asked me money for hair today is my friend for almost a year now. But the moment I started making my feelings clear on her, boom she tot she have found a Maga.

mrblessed:
We have been saying it with unceasing regularity that relationship with an opposite sex is transactional; it is a quid pro quo. If the bimbos are quick to submit their terms, nothing stops you from equally disclosing your demands. Why do you lamenting because someone is clearheaded enough to make their objectives unambiguously clear to you? It is you who has proven naive in the game, that has to sit up and learn the trade.

But sir me I am not looking for a game cos I am tired of it. All I need is to find a good woman and settle down.

[quote author=shuwaboy post=103809491]You come off too needy, for you to successfully seduce it most be indirect.

Start off as friends and stop that text shit,you only send romantic text to a girl you are in a relationship with.[/quote
OK sir noted.

zuby4real10:
I don't have problem with spending any amount on somebody weather male or female as far as I intentionally do it. My only problem is if I know the person is after that money. That same day we spent 20k on a date she asked me for 200 naira recharge card and I refuse.

Start having that problem cos it won't take u anywhere....
Some people don't deserve ur luxurious treatment .. that's the fact..it's like wearing gold on the neck of a pig because u have abundance. It won't take u anywhere. People Should earn the right to enjoy ur cash... otherwise, they will take u for granted. It's a game. Trust me...

luvmijeje:
Oga Ade, you are not serious. Do you know the meaning of a date? A date is not talking I love you on phone. It is taking a lady out as in going to Cinema, beach or anywhere that is not your house.

During that date, it is when you will start the story of your life. You will chip in the story of girls asking you for money and that you really don't want that kind of girl. Tell her money is not the issue but you really needs a lady that sees you and not your money.

But Oga, there is no how you won't spend o.

Facts!

Even if she comes visiting you at home, you must still shake bodi to entertain your guest.

Never give her cash in hand or do transfer, try and deflect such talks if they ever come up, BUT I strongly suggest you follow the advice given up there. It's solid.

zuby4real10:
All the 5 ladies I told you I have tried I took all of them to either cinema or restaurants where we gist nd relax b4 telling them my feelings on them. There was one I took to domino pizza where we drank ice cream and pizza of 20k. Only for her to reach house and tell me that she is broke she don't even have food to eat I should send her some token in her account. I tried to let her understand that today is our first date I think it is too early for that. That was the last time she talked to me again. My problem is not giving but y is it that they can't even tell me yes that they have accepted b4 start billing me.

O boy!!! NIGERIAN GIRLS THOUGH.

They can be so disgusting some times. Well, I usually don't ask them out. And I make expensive jokes like holding her waist and tapping her nyansh or pressing her boòbs just to see what I can get away with. If she rejects me altogether I know she is not into me at all, but if she shows any interest or responds at all, even the tiniest whiff, then I know she's into me and it's on.

I don't like to waste my time, I check to see if the lady is attracted to me first cos that is very important. As you are cutting her eye, she must be smiling mischievously cos she's grabbing the knowledge you're putting down. Feel me?

luvmijeje:
Hmmmm! Your issue is just for them to say yes. If any of them say yes, you don't mind them billing you from morning to night.

The solution to your answer is simple.



Please send her the money. And I'll leave you with this quote. The key to unlocking the world around you is to mask your flaws(Intelligence) And I'll leave you with pearl of wisdom. How do the rich gets to steal the wife of the poor.

The guy matter tire you, you con dey run. No be so now

@ bolded: Um... with lots of care and attention and sweet words??

zuby4real10:
I don't have problem with spending any amount on somebody weather male or female as far as I intentionally do it. My only problem is if I know the person is after that money. That same day we spent 20k on a date she asked me for 200 naira recharge card and I refuse.

Why will you spend 20k on a date? A date is not meant for eating and drinking edpensive drinks. You shouldn't spend more than 5k on a date. You buy drinks only.

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