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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by seyz91(m): 9:01am On Jul 29, 2021

TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.

Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by seyz91(m): 9:01am On Jul 29, 2021

TarOrfeeek:
Whether she exhibit.

Whether she nor exhibit

I no like wahala.

Buhari hardship is enough for one person.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Flier: 9:01am On Jul 29, 2021*

This POSTER seem to be the problem in the marriage if you look at it from psychological point of view but since we are not able to read from the lady,everything he post is allowed
Some of the points the poster made make him the culprit
She has a weak womb
You later got to know she had abortion while in school
You have been married for 2 years but no kid
From your first post,she abuse you but society does not allow you to beat her
You can’t accuse her of the above and still behaves normal

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by seyz91(m): 9:02am On Jul 29, 2021

DaddyRochie1642:
You're in pains, I feel your pains but am sorry I cant help myself I just have to say it,.

I'm sure when the Love dey Shack you that time, you were like,
"Baby you're the angel of My Life", "Baby you're the Oxygen that I breathe", "Baby I can't do without you", "Baby any day I don't see your Face my day is not complete", "Baby without you in my Life, my Life is not Complete"

Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Lexusgs430: 9:02am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Love with your brain, because the heart is a hopeless place.............

Congratulations........... Marriage is not by FIRE or FORCE.........

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ImDStar: 9:02am On Jul 29, 2021

You will not kill me with laugh abeg

TarOrfeeek:
Whether she exhibit.

Whether she nor exhibit

I no like wahala.

Buhari hardship is enough for one person.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by lordally(m): 9:03am On Jul 29, 2021

ITbomb:
Alternatively (very cost efficient), once most of the box ticks and you have made up your mind and reserved enough cash for the marriage, give am belly, if e enter proceed

Hahahahah

I don laugh die!!

Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by BAVOSKI(m): 9:04am On Jul 29, 2021

TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.

Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally.

Don't think like that,My wife was raised by a single Mother and we're celebrating our 5th Wedding Anniversary Soon and we're blessed with a beautiful daughter...... But we dated for 10 years after Secondary school before getting Married...
Don't judge Your GF With this write up all fingers are not the same....No Mother will pray for Her daughter to get married and get divorce later....She Won't pray that what happened to her should happen to her daughter also

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ceeceeuwa: 9:04am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
No.....she had miscarriage twice
It was two year into marriage I got to know she had an abortion while in school.

She has a weak womb according to test results.

It could be cervical incompetence. It is usually nothing to worry about since a cervical cerclage can be done to enable her carry the pregnancy to term. Just work with your doctor! Except the doctor said otherwise.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by DWJOBScom(m): 9:04am On Jul 29, 2021

Well done o
You have advised and spoken well
Leave the shape and she's rich and do your investigation properly.

Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by streetsoldier1(m): 9:05am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Congrats, hope say u never born, if yes, go back and pick your pikin, dont put unneccessary financial burden on the woman... She will get another man that will soothe her, no need to quarell be at peace with her and everyone. Stick to your plan and get peace of mind.
BTW whats with the last statement?? womb and sperm count

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by lordally(m): 9:05am On Jul 29, 2021

CharisEleos:
Twp Captains cannot be in one boat.
The problem lies with both of you.
She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride.

Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage.
When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable.

The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter.

It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego.

If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws.

No one is perfect.

Please check his initial thread about the marriage and maybe you will understand better.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by NoToPile: 9:06am On Jul 29, 2021

Fountainofyouth:
Very lazy sets of fools, not all them though, but they are becoming the majority.

Loool this madam is vexing.

Its good to marry a working wife but this their mindset of not providing is totally not it.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by esdeemiami(m): 9:06am On Jul 29, 2021

Hahahahahahahahah!!!!!!!

TarOrfeeek:
Whether she exhibit.

Whether she nor exhibit

I no like wahala.

Buhari hardship is enough for one person.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Solatium(m): 9:06am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

I admire your courage to end it at that point,you are A strong will person,it takes a whole of courage to take such decision.

Yes that background check is highly important but no matter how hard you try you can never get all the required info until when you both fully involved but one thing can always save the day for everyman.
ability to read the game ahead of time will give you the needed time And space to prepare your response/reaction/coping mechanism.
once again i salute your courage bro and i wish you well

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Uzomacharles: 9:06am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

This is the best educational thread concerning marriage I've come across in my stay here on Nairaland...

SIMPs Be Warned....
Daughters Raised By Single Mothers Will Never Never Regard You Cos She Believes One Day You Might Act Like Her Dad....

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Kebae: 9:07am On Jul 29, 2021

It is well. I am also in such. Saving grace was she
Is working on herself. Thanks for this

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Pinkyposh(f): 9:07am On Jul 29, 2021

I hate that shouting of a thing, making the whole world know what you are saying about your partner is very wrong

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by DWJOBScom(m): 9:07am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
Is she exhibiting those characters I mentioned
Not all of them are like that oo.

Exactly o
Some are raised well while alot are a whole lot more that what you described

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by muykem: 9:08am On Jul 29, 2021

Bro, you don't need to divorce her. 90% of women you will meet are the same. There's no woman without a reason why she should be divorced.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Christie171(f): 9:08am On Jul 29, 2021

CONGRATULATIONS grin

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Kiezodumah(m): 9:09am On Jul 29, 2021*

This might not be true. You said she had an abortion right ? So that means it was once. Induced abortion come in different forms: injections, oral, intra vaginal tablets ,evacuation or D&C
What method( s) were used ?
Now if it were tablets and or injections I don't think that shud cause issues going forward.Same cud be said abt evacuation.
However, a D n C cud pose issues and not jst once but rigorous or multiple times.
She might just be suffering from cervical incompetence, which is the inability to carry pregnancy to term. It cud be congenital acquired or no causative factor at all.
Fight for ur marriage. Ask God to change her and go for counselling.
Every marriage got its issues.
Anyways, when Una settle let us know.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by fredoooooo: 9:09am On Jul 29, 2021

Number 2 and 3 is everything... if you can dodge these two , yout marriagr have 80% chnaces of not crashing abi get accident i will say .. grin

Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ThothHermes: 9:09am On Jul 29, 2021

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

Sin get grade abeg.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ismaog4u(m): 9:09am On Jul 29, 2021

may lord be with you man, its really wound conscious for one marriage to crash

Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by cooltola(m): 9:10am On Jul 29, 2021*

Go for marriage counseling and stop airing your personal business online. All marriages get drama, u deal with it , evolve and grow from it. There is no marriage where husband and wife do not disagree or argue at one point, there is no perfect marriage, it is two imperfect people learning, living and working it together with love and respect. There is no perfect relationship, even brothers and sisters fight and make up. Should they stop being siblings because they fought? Boyfriend and girlfriend fight and make up. The only way to divorce is if your wife is a promiscuous and abusive physically or does anything to harm your children physically. She abuse you and you should respond maturity. Set boundaries in your marriage by let her know your stand. This Just not mean u should hit a woman or maltreat her. There are matured ways to work it out with a disrespectful spouse. Learn and get advices from those who have gone through this in their marriages.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Juicy001: 9:10am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

So o even after wedding, rest of mind is still not guaranteed?
Hmmmm
I sure say I go fit marry at all?

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Depressed101: 9:10am On Jul 29, 2021

CharisEleos:
Twp Captains cannot be in one boat.
The problem lies with both of you.
She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride.

Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage.
When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable.

The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter.

It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego.

If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws.

No one is perfect.

oga o
.. Most women are unmanageable, there's nothing to manage there, you will die on time trying to manage such women.... Some women are just toxic waste, they are only there to suffocate you...

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by naijatisumi: 9:10am On Jul 29, 2021

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not hear to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

That’s why most of you ladies keeps praying over and over again without a Man. You are already married to a man , it’s your home , it’s your family as such you should do everything to make it work. I love my wife so much and I will marry her over and over again. Na man come die as having the sole right to provide for the home. As a good house wife and a mother you should help your man at all times even if he has contribute. You will certainly receive in tens fold much more than you’ve giving. I pray GOD change your mind to know the beauty of what marriage entails.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by adedayourt(m): 9:11am On Jul 29, 2021

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

OP, let me first empathize with you as this must be that very phase of your life you wish not to arrive at.

Exactly what you stated up their is what I go through, but mine is happening while we still dating and we already have a wedding date. Introduction is supposed to be in few weeks from now.

But this lady is raised by partially her mum, partially her dad. She does most of the things you stated up there to the extend that when I step out of the house to buy stuff, she tails me and locks around behind (I have caught her doing this).

Now she has gone to my family to speak a whole lot and currently I am the worst guy on earth before my folks while she walks like an angel. Presently I called off everything with her and cancelling the wedding even though everybody is insisting I cannot take such decision.

I am only glad I am not married to her yet.

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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by tujays(m): 9:11am On Jul 29, 2021

TarOrfeeek:
Whether she exhibit.

Whether she nor exhibit

I no like wahala.

Buhari hardship is enough for one person.

I know say e don tey wey you dey find reason to dodge. you don finally get one silly reason. FYI even the ones from normal homes can exhibit such characteristics. grin

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