MufasaLion:


Smart response.

Thanks

ImaIma1:


Perhaps because they are both women. Many guys always want to blame the wives, forgetting that the MIL is also a woman and an older one for that matter, and should be more mature with her dealings with her DIL.

But some mums still can't deal with the fact that another woman now has her son's attention even more than her. So also, some ladies enter a marriage with a mindset about MILs even without getting to.know them.

But the basic thing is two women competing against each other or trying to show their dominance in the guy's life.

The modem day women are not ready to accept their mother inlaws the way they see them
But the good thing is that, they too are future mother inlaws

Rubbiish:

Is this the thank u I am getting for answering your question? U asked the question in quote "Only God knows why mother inlaws and daughter inlaws don't get along". I only answered your question, telling u the answer is selfishness & used u as a case study! What u ladies will never do to your mothers in your dream, u happily do it someone's mother.

At this point I honestly do think the concept of marriage is flawed & if I have my way I will end it! Now a man has struggled to build a house, a woman coming into his life is supposed to be a complement, but her coming into his life has already brought about the topic of him moving out of his own house he built with his hard earned money & all the women on this thread are suggesting he should move out, ok fine! The evil thing here is; this woman(his wife) in question, will not be contributing a dime towards this moving out caused by herself, is this man not already inviting trouble into his life?

frozen70 please can u answer the bold question below;
Is this kind of move progress or retrogression??

You need to get married, live with your wife and your mother for just one year, then you will come back with a good point

frozen70:


You need to get married, leave with your wife and your mother for just one year, then you will come back with a good point

I have already lived with mother & wife lol

frozen70:


The modem day women are not ready to accept their mother inlaws the way they see them
But the good thing is that, they too are future mother inlaw

The truth is that everyone has their faults. Neither MIL or DIL is perfect. The MIL was also a DIL that was probably that way too, so the cycle continues.

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My dad is dead ...

mariahAngel:
What about your dad?

Yes my house

greenie77:
You mean compound? Like someone already asked, what about your father?

Sorry my mistake ...my apologies, my mother

SonofGod231:
OP Please let's fix the "Headlines" and your English first. Before fixing the main problem here.Its really broken.
Referring to your own mum as mother-in-law.
Makes you sound like an elementary school child.its embarrassing

3 blocks of flats

Rubbiish:

Do u mean 3 bedroom or 3 block of flats??
U want to go & rent when u have two empty flats because u want to get married?? Who are raising these kind of weak things called men? I already feel sorry for your mom

prealjewel1993:
My dad is dead ...

Sorry about that.

Does anyone stay with your mum? Apart from you...

The best thing you can give her (aside the house) is company.
Even if you’re going to live away from her, make sure she has someone living with her. ( to run errands and keep her company, while you help the person in return)

Nothing person no go read on dis green app oo, man build 3 flats house not 3bedrooms flat her mother live in one flat man want to marry he his here asking for advice if its wise for him and new bride to live in the same compound with MIL.
Now they are advising him to leave the house with new bride and be a tenant outside. The marriage already end in tears bfr it start.

Yes you can live in one of the flat, just for management sake, but there is no way there wouldn't be issues, mild squabbles as long as you live in same compound. Mama would always want to have a say in your new home. Mama would always want to bring what she cooked to give you, not minding if your wife already prepared a meal, etc. If the issues become too much to handle, maybe you can rent out the flat in future, and get another place to live.

frozen70:


You need to get married, leave with your wife and your mother for just one year, then you will come back with a good point

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Listen to your friends...

Your mother or your mother in law? This your English is comfusing.

ImaIma1:


Perhaps because they are both women. Many guys always want to blame the wives, forgetting that the MIL is also a woman and an older one for that matter, and should be more mature with her dealings with her DIL.

But some mums still can't deal with the fact that another woman now has her son's attention even more than her. So also, some ladies enter a marriage with a mindset about MILs even without getting to.know them.

But the basic thing is two women competing against each other or trying to show their dominance in the guy's life.

Nonsense competition,
When mother
In-law will die, wife will be crying like

I think the reason is because of fear of the unknown.
Many gists people have heard concerning mother in-law issues.
Just same as some are scared of getting into marriages,
I personally was scared of getting married, after all the gist I heard and read, but I have found out that marriage is actually a beautiful thing to behold.

Just as mom in-laws are not as bad as people paint it.

For me, if you should love your husband and able to accommodate his access ,also try and accommodate mother In-law.
Except his son says other wise.

Your wife to be ,
should be aware that she will be living next block to her mother in-law.

I don’t think she will have issues with that, except if other relations of yours will be coming to do aproko,
But if it’s just your mom, then no issues.

You dey find trouble. Separate the 2 women for peace.

But I wouldn't build a house and then go out to rent another nearby.

As long as I can stay with my mother, I see no reason why I can't stay with my mother inlaw, the same woman that birth my husband.

prealjewel1993:
Good evening everyone
Please is it advisable to stay in the same company with your mother and wife
Here is the situation
I have a house , three flat , my mother stays in one of the flat
Me, i will getting married soon , some of my friends said i should go rent an apartment that i should not stay in the same company with my mother and my wife
Please i need your advice

It depends on all three of you. If you're a "good" man and your mother and wife(to be or not) are "good" people too, there's no cause for alarm. As much as possible let your wife have her space and freedom and absolutely no interference from your mother except when sought for . If the house is yours and in lagos, and you're an only son, don't leave your house for anyone. If she can't cope with living with your mom(absolutelyunderstandable) . Marry someone who will.

Rubbiish:

Go build the foundation of a single room, then come back & quote me, only then u can sound sensible! U think building a house is buying makeup kits? That u want a landlord to become a tenant just because he wants to get married? Senseless thing!

OP’s English expression is misleading. He means they have a 3 bedroom flat. His mum stays in one of the rooms in the flat.... I hope it makes sense now?

Hmmm

prealjewel1993:
Good evening everyone
Please is it advisable to stay in the same company with your mother and wife
Here is the situation
I have a house , three flat , my mother stays in one of the flat
Me, i will getting married soon , some of my friends said i should go rent an apartment that i should not stay in the same company with my mother and my wife
Please i need your advice

Abort mission.

I have a cousin who brought his wife to his family house to live before he got a place. Gosh, I saw what that poor girl went through in three months.

His mum always had something negative to say about the wife. "See what time she's asking up", "she can't even sweep", "what kind of semo did she turn"? "She washes clothes as of her hands wants to break".

If they were living in their own house, all these see finish no go dey. When depression almost wan kill the girl, the guy find money go rent house o. Now they are happy where they are and respect dey small.

prealjewel1993:
3 blocks of flats

Cc frowland

No matter what,never live with your wife and mother
Dem no dey tell person o
Na husband go suffer am pass

You can't possibly leave your wife and rent out another house but then you know the kind of mother you have.

This question is for the elders in the house

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