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larryking540:
27 is old sha ,what's is the danger age for giving birth for a lady ,if they where dating before she hit 27 it's okay ,but starting a relationship when she is 27 ,,make op look well o

I don't think 27 is old. Considering how Nigeria is, many youths at 27 never balance

LLiKYekoba:
Actually, in our parents time when marriage was still valued, their families made match-making for them. Not today when you have sex today, the next day you are tired of the girl.
Today young people talk about 'boring' relationships, with divorce everywhere on per second billing.

that's true, thanks to social media, divorce is on the rise. But nevertheless a 32yr old working class should be able to make his own decisions.

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

You to seat them down and talk with them about your plans to get a woman and get married to

Ask them what's what's their opinion

The first question they will ask you is, so you ha e any woman you are dating.?

Just tell them that you need their support on any woman you want to introduce to them, very simple and end the talk their

BSsniffer:
Honestly it depends on your family background and what the marriage means for your family..... marriage for some families is much more than love. I [b]personally would marry whomever I want to but would certainly influence who ever my kids are marrying.

[/b]selfishness

LLiKYekoba:
Listen and listen carefully, when he is marrying anyone he is marrying that person into the family and they will all bear the same surnames with his siblings and family, so they have a say.

Mr OP, please don't listen to uncultured dysfunctional mugus here who think you shouldn't listen to family members about who you should marry and end up tearing your family apart.

You may be blinded by love, but what you can't see, your family members will see. They definitely mean well for you.

someone said a 27 year old is older than a 32 year old and they mean well for him?

First of, which tribe are you?

Newboss:
When a guy dey fûck pussy real good, the pussy go they behave one kind. To be honest, you sound like a pussy being fûcked by your family. Seems you're enjoying the fûck.

You want us to join the fûckery?

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Follow your heart because if you fail to do so well don't be angry for being frank with you, but you are going to experience the sweetness and bitterness alone.

SimplyFacts:
Nice of you!

thanks dear

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

Bro...follow whom your heart chooses and choose she that chooses you too...family can be problematic atimes...it's between you and her till date do u both apart not your family people...Na u and your wife go dey,not u and your family,Na that special woman u go marry,not your family..

supogift:
Me my dad I'm about to break the babe heart just for him to be happy

[color=coral]Don't sow a wrong fruit, you or someone you love will reap it abundantly [/color]

Okay nah. Tell your sis and mom to get a girl for you. If they do and you don't like her, tell them you don't want to ever marry again. That you are choosing singlehood and see as they will rush and beg you to bring anyone you see.
Sense no go kii me

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

Maybe you're not ready to get married then. You're incharge of your life after God. Not your parents or any love ones. And be ready to be responsible for your action

mrblessed:
There is nothing wrong with your family making recommendation to you, while you make the final decision to marry or not. In fact, they can sample as many ladies as possible for you to pick your choice. Alternatively, you can also bring a lady and try to convince them on why she is the best for you. Even if they disagree at first, they can still accept her if they see you are serious in choosing her as your wife. Never destroy the bond that binds to your family.

However, what struck me the most in your post is that I didn't read where you said/wrote you love your lady-guest that wasn't accepted by your sister. You clearly designated her as "your crush," meaning nothing significant has been established between the two of you. So why the hoopla?

Don't let anyone confuse that family is not important when choosing a spouse. A lot of people come from a background that lacks family love and protection and therefore, can't understand the interest of your family members in your choice of woman.

This is one of the best advice.
Please obey and follow it.

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

My dear you are not mature,you are chicken-hearted and can't stand your ground.
Infact you can't even convince yourself on something. My friend take a bold step and make decisions.

Educhelssy:
What da hell!! So you be man masquerading as woman here , omg ! Nawa o

na you sabi ooo
one cannot be Bisexual in peace oo

Bola146:
They love indeed, pele Continue with them till you reach 40 years, then they will know which lady is your type

40 still young, until e reach 50

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

Are you marrying for yourself or for your family?

Be a man make your own Decisions

Choose the kind of woman that meets your criteria and stand by her. Some family members are just impossible when it comes to marital affairs.

AchalugoNwa:
just like I'll marry you soon because we love each other.
you're a good woman so to marry you is a must.
can't wait to insert my amu inside your otu
chaiiii it'll be the best moment of my life

Adadike say yes naaa
I'm crying like this
please naaaa

You be mumu

See how lascivious you are

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

When I read comments like.. I have not been in a relationship before.. and other similar words, saying it with pride like it is an achievement..

Unless you marry a virgin.. if not.. then know you are a looser.. cos the mileage of the girl you are going to marry ToTo eeh..
She knows the game in and out and you are just a novice.. her exes would always continue banging her while the daft you won't be able to decode cos of lack of game experience..

If no be Virgin you go marry.. you dn cheat yourself and would end up being played..

You are a simp menh!

How would you allow your sister to ridicule someone you called friend?

A potential wife for that matter. Your family doesn't respect you.

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

Africans and there bitterness. Always hating for no reason

This is what we the elders call the word of wisdom straight from the stead of the Ancient book of The Undercover. OP seek no more advise from Nairalanders because The Undercover has bestowed you freely with the wisdom to surmount your confusion and align you on a right stand of your family and your desired woman. Family is golden especially when they love you so much.

TheUndercover:
Hmm, this is a complicated issue. What reasons do they give? Hope it's a valid one? Because if you choose wrong irrespective of their stand, you'll be the one to bear more of the consequences.

Since you're the last born, it might prove a bit difficult making a stand in order not to go against your family members. Sometimes what they see might not be clear to you yet until you get into it. When a man is in love, he tends to make irrational decisions. Reason with them and try to make a conclusion.

Since you're a man, you have an advantage. Marriage is not to be rushed into most especially in this generation. You also carry more of the responsibilities.. But in all, never let a woman come between you and your family, or you'll regret it deeply.

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

Were their own partners chosen for them? Please ignore their comments and let them understand that your life partner is your choice. They will calm down when they see that you don't find their intrusion funny.

I'm the last child too with 5 older ones. When my siblings try stuffs that doesn't go down well with me, I become silent on the matter and my face changes. Nobody tells them to tread carefully after that.

Your 32, believe me in 20yrs time, this wouldn't be your problem, you'd be worried about how to walk down the staircase

FORWARDEVERLY:
When I read comments like.. I have not been in a relationship before.. and other similar words, saying it with pride like it is an achievement..

Unless you marry a virgin.. if not.. then know you are a looser.. cos the mileage of the girl you are going to marry ToTo eeh..
She knows the game in and out and you are just a novice.. her exes would always continue banging her while the daft you won't be able to decode cos of lack of game experience..

If no be Virgin you go marry.. you dn cheat yourself and would end up being played..

The same old boring lines. E get people wey no dey relationship, but dem dey knack wella steady, and dem sabi knack wella. No be everybody get time to dey waste, in the name of relationship

So many immature people on this platform ditching out advise as if they are intelligent enough to do so.

If the OP discard the family advise that has always got his back and still showing him undiluted love and just follow a woman cos he wants to marry at age 32 or so. Please don't discard or disregard your family interest in whom you intend to marry and stop pushing yourself cos your friends and relatives are all getting married.

In the race of marriage, it's not how fast or early you marry but how loving and fulfilled you will be in the marriage. You are a novice in this game and your family knows and sees what you can't see and beside, ladies of nowadays are pretentious in nature and takes a woman to really know the pretense of another woman so you are blessed to have your sister and your Mum with you especially in this regards.

Take it easy and liase with your family on what they see and you aren't seeing.

Remember, if anything mistake happens, a woman can leave you and disappear but your family stays forever with you especially the family that loves you and you have confirmed it too. They want the best for you which I perceived you deserved after keeping yourself for long to succeed in life.

Good luck

kense88:
The same old boring lines. E get people wey no dey relationship, but dem dey knack wella steady, and dem sabi knack wella. No be everybody get time to dey waste, in the name of relationship

From the poster's post.. one can deduce that he is a novice and don't know a thing or two about women and their dynamics.. hence he can easily be played..
My comment is reference to one that hasn't had anything to do with the females..
Personally, I don't do relationships cos it doesn't worth it, I spin plates.. bang enough.. have Friends with benefits etc..

Try and Read with common sense. You would understand my angle better..

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

You need to break some rules if you want to go into such relationship and find time to ask your parents the kind of woman they want for you before you choose one.