Magnoliaa:


That's too bad. Your motherland. Your father's tongue land. If everyone hates Nigeria, who will keep our identity to—forget the rubbish I'm spewing. Thunder faya Nigeria.

Nahh. Something is wrong. I'm just not in the mood, if not, I'd go spotlighting for the cause of the disinterest and maybe even rectify it.

MeghaneMorgane:
I am a young lady in my mid 20s. I don’t live with my parents. I live alone because I work in another city different from where my parents live. My problem now is immediately I get back home from work, I begin to feel lonely. Because of this, I like to close late from work just to keep my mind busy. I close early only if I have other errands to run or if I am very tired.

When I get home, I speak with my parents who try their best to keep me company. But there is still lots of time left before I go to bed. In the height of my boredom, I come to nairaland. Then I go to other blogs to read the news. I read all the news blogs I normally follow. I check out my chats on WhatsApp and Telegram. Usually there isn’t anyone chatting with me because everyone is busy with their lives. I go to Youtube which I have become tired of watching. And at some time I’m just bored to my mind. I don’t like to impose myself on anybody and so I only chat with people who come to chat with me including neighbours.

Sometimes I just want someone around that I can talk to but I’m alone by myself. Single people, how do you cope with boredom. I mean single people who are really single not the ones cohabiting or visiting their partners. Some tips will be very helpful right now.

Fortez:
You are still young and don’t need to complain because you are in your category which is single

For us adults as a single adult I enjoy my life to the fullest because marriage is a scam . I just plan to impregnate a fortunate damsel and take care of my baby

I fuvvvkk different hoess everyday and party in my house front yard every now and then . Keep myself busy with games indoor when I am not working and live my life watching time flies

Mblem:


Ops!! ... My current life now
But have never felt lonely
Infact time isn't enough for me
..
I do my personal development when am back from work.
Then on weekends church activities
I'm really closer to God now than before.

So I will advice you join a department in your church and be very active.
You will testify about the turn around

panini:
I somehow knew I wasn't the only one feeling like this. I get home quite early after work and I have a lot of time. I don't watch TV, play games or watch random YouTube videos.
I tried reaching out to friends, some of which stay in the same compound with me, but they claimed to be busy..(even during their week-long breaks...) I guess people have different goals and lifestyles, so I realised I shouldn't impose myself to people who don't want to socialise.
I started working out and I'm trying to get the body I always wanted, I learnt how to cook some foreign meals using local ingredients and I'll soon register to a foreign language school (Je veux parler française tres bien).
To those saying you should take yourself out, how do you guys cope sitting by yourselves in eateries, cinemas, beaches and other places?

Samchik:
Sometimes you love the fact that you're alone and another moment you will get tired of the boredom.

I have been alone for a year now in a new city where I know nobody, I work remotely and I also enjoy learning more, infact I don't think I have enough time for myself considering the courses ahead of me, these are programming courses. I watch TV programs or go out when I'm bored though this does not totally take care of the boredom.

I also tried to join a church but they want to kill me with midweek programs, vigils and calls, men I no dey for all that.

So my advice for you is to start learning something you are interested in, make a time table, read up about something you're curious about and whenever you're bored...go out and chill at a restaurant, cinema or just stroll.

Don't welcome any tom dick just cause you're lonely, but be open enough to recognize a like minded person where you will never lack topics to discuss.

evy800:
Singleness with money isn't on the same level with singleness without money u are fighting two battle on a single front.


I used to read lots of books, listen to music to keep myself busy when I was sure of my life's trajectory now that I'm not so certain I use all that time to take certification courses that will help to improve my income cos I cannot survive being broke and lonely

MeghaneMorgane:


I have all these things you asked me to get but i still feels very lonely. I just want to have the feeling of someone sharing the same space with me. I told my sister to come and stay with me and get a job in my city but she said she wants to stay with my parents and work in the same city as my parents.

At some point I thought about changing accommodation and renting a shared space instead of a full space where it is just only me but on a second thought, I said no because I don’t want to have issues with anybody.

Most Saturday I go out with some of my colleagues who are also my friends and on Sunday I go to church bit immediately I get back home, it is different.

MeghaneMorgane:
I am a young lady in my mid 20s. I don’t live with my parents. I live alone because I work in another city different from where my parents live. My problem now is immediately I get back home from work, I begin to feel lonely. Because of this, I like to close late from work just to keep my mind busy. I close early only if I have other errands to run or if I am very tired.

When I get home, I speak with my parents who try their best to keep me company. But there is still lots of time left before I go to bed. In the height of my boredom, I come to nairaland. Then I go to other blogs to read the news. I read all the news blogs I normally follow. I check out my chats on WhatsApp and Telegram. Usually there isn’t anyone chatting with me because everyone is busy with their lives. I go to Youtube which I have become tired of watching. And at some time I’m just bored to my mind. I don’t like to impose myself on anybody and so I only chat with people who come to chat with me including neighbours.

Sometimes I just want someone around that I can talk to but I’m alone by myself. Single people, how do you cope with boredom. I mean single people who are really single not the ones cohabiting or visiting their partners. Some tips will be very helpful right now.

megatran:


I rarely post on nairaland but I a have to jump on this as I was brooding over how my life has changed these past few years.
I am currently going through this lonely phase of life and it is taking a toll on me. I used to be very comfortable with being to myself. However, I noticed that as soon as I got a job I started changing, I started seeing the need or getting the push to associate from colleagues. It didn't go too well because it was a hospital job and staff are for most reason always serious minded. I almost went crazy, outwardly I looked cool but when I am alone I yearned for association.
Getting months into the job I went spend crazy, I started buying cars, sport bikes and quads with the belief that I could get the much needed inner joy I needed but all those toys just kept me sane in the job. After much battles with inner self conflict, I bowed out. I stopped working and relocated to a new state. I wanted to see how life would feel with the toys, some savings, a very comfortable apartment and mostly no job �.
I rented a two bedroom apartment, furnished it to taste, got play station, even got me a music studio.
Basically, I had all I could have yearned for in my younger days except friends.
In conclusion, it's been 1 year and six months of living this life and I can bodly say I haven't found happiness. Meeting ladies In my city hasn't helped. They mostly can't understand me or are just about the party, buzz life style. I am more of the adventurous type.

I had to write this long epistle because I know money in not too much amount would not get you happiness. I guess having like minds would help matters but my city isn't a place where you did see people who want to hike, site see, or just explore unknown territories.

dingbang:
I have a maid doing my laundry and cooking for me, so i am coping fine.

MeghaneMorgane:


Actually I updated this thread at a later date. We tried starting a relationship but we are not compatible. We think very differently and it wasn’t going to work. So, we’ve both moved on.

AutoChick4U:
Get a puppy or a cat.

megatran:


You hit the nail spot on. One interesting thing I have noticed around is that poor guys rarely get lonely. I am still trying to unravel the mystery.

DARLINGTON869:
Omo, I was so lonely to the extent that I worked out money to get home thearte, TV and a video game. Didn't even know when I finished God of war 1 and 2 within the space of two weeks

Slimsinner:
Guess I've met my kinda human �� mine is not different from yours, but I thank God for the kinda compound I stay, there's always light. So I don't joke with subscribing my decoder. Cause it is my best companion. Whenever I get back from work, I on the t.v and switch to music channels I will be singing and dancing along untill I feel sleepy.
My T.v
My companion ��

Ishilove:

When I was in your shoes I was never lonely because I'm introverted and I loved my own company, but whenever I felt anything faintly resembling boredom or loneliness, I watched movies, surfed the internet or read a book. You just have to reprogram your mind to look for activities that occupy the mind. Enjoy these quiet years now because the time is coming when you will look back with nostalgia.

megatran:


I rarely post on nairaland but I a have to jump on this as I was brooding over how my life has changed these past few years.
I am currently going through this lonely phase of life and it is taking a toll on me. I used to be very comfortable with being to myself. However, I noticed that as soon as I got a job I started changing, I started seeing the need or getting the push to associate from colleagues. It didn't go too well because it was a hospital job and staff are for most reason always serious minded. I almost went crazy, outwardly I looked cool but when I am alone I yearned for association.
Getting months into the job I went spend crazy, I started buying cars, sport bikes and quads with the belief that I could get the much needed inner joy I needed but all those toys just kept me sane in the job. After much battles with inner self conflict, I bowed out. I stopped working and relocated to a new state. I wanted to see how life would feel with the toys, some savings, a very comfortable apartment and mostly no job �.
I rented a two bedroom apartment, furnished it to taste, got play station, even got me a music studio.
Basically, I had all I could have yearned for in my younger days except friends.
In conclusion, it's been 1 year and six months of living this life and I can bodly say I haven't found happiness. Meeting ladies In my city hasn't helped. They mostly can't understand me or are just about the party, buzz life style. I am more of the adventurous type.

I had to write this long epistle because I know money in not too much amount would not get you happiness. I guess having like minds would help matters but my city isn't a place where you did see people who want to hike, site see, or just explore unknown territories.

truthsayer009:


This was how I discovered I was an Introvert though, always love being by myself. Enjoying my own company listening to Rap music for hours. However during the pandemic last year I was somehow depressed, all of a sudden I wanted to unwind by going out to watch movies, beach but I couldn't. I just realized that this option was no longer there, no relationship, nothing. Omo this was when I realized that companionship was an essential for living, having someone to talk to who was physically there was a big issue, not just talking to someone on the phone on WhatsApp. I got tired of working, watching movies, surfing the net or reading a book. All those activities cannot cover up talking to an actual human being.

It suddenly dawned on me why a lot of Nigerian Canadians are depressed.

MeghaneMorgane:


You’re right. I like that feeling of someone being around. Even if we aren’t talking but just knowing that I’m sharing the space with someone and hearing sounds others makes gives me some kind of comfort. That is why I stay in the office for as long as I can because most of the time, someone is in the space with me.

Zainabthegirl1:
Ko easy ..,,.on God

wizi4tyn:


I’d like to be your friend shaaa but I’m scared that I myself can be very boring sometimes especially if we don’t have common grounds to hold discussions on. What sayest thee?