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| Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by blessingchinny(op): 5:30pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Good day, I was the one that posted about having issues with my guy as a result of a text I sent to him out of anger. The text was about a girl he normally comments on her picture with lots of words of endearment even telling her that he loves her. I have confronted him about that before he told me is nothing, but i wasn't convinced, so i sent him a text that it is obvious he is dating her, that he should continue with her, and he blocked me after all the attempt to reach out to him. After giving him a little space as he said, I later tried with another, this time not to plead but to ask him if he still wants to be with me, which he replied that he's done. I am heartbroken now, someone should please guide me on the tips to move on. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by OgogoroFreak(m): 5:31pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Which text is that? Trust me, he didn't dump your sorry ass cos of any text. He is already done with your toto and has been looking for an opportunity to dump You. He wins, you lose. Move on. My advice: Move on. Look for another guy to start a brand new relationship with and be very submissive to him. You might still get dumped again tho. No guaranteed in these things. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Cholls(m): 5:34pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
My sister congratulation you just dodged a bullet... Now go to a eatery near you and treat yourself to a good meal bcz you just won |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Romanoff(f): 5:41pm On Aug 31, 2021*. Modified: 6:50am On Sep 01, 2021 |
He has been cheating on you for a while now, you've been the only one in the relationship tey try, e just dey find excuse to end am and thank God, it has ended. You should be thankful to God. On Sunday, carry igba ope and do Thanksgiving, the dude doesn't love or respect you. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by emorse(m): 5:49pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
OgogoroFreak:This may be from an ogogorofreak, but it's absolutely spot on! |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by nans24: 5:50pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
blessingchinny:If you are student, focus on your studies. If you are working, focus on your work. Learn new skills too. It doesn't have to be hairdressing or fashion designing. If you have a pc , learn graphics designing or video editing. My point is keep yourself busy with activities and leave boy or prick alone for once. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by donbachi(m): 5:53pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Mouth una no go fit control...even hand. Blessed is that woman that talks and types less.for her name shall be called blessed. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by TheWolfen(m): 6:15pm On Aug 31, 2021*. Modified: 6:32pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Sorry sis. But matters of the heart are complicated... No blueprint to to solve relationship issues and whatever anyone on nairaland might choose to say about it MIGHT not be the right solution or the cause of the the problem.. But I would say it is best for you to let things be. Don't force anything for your own good. It seams this life was program in a way that every human will at a certain point in their life go through a heartbreaking situation. I don't THINK y'all both understand THE point u tryna make to each other in the relationship. So it is best to let things be and move on with your life. Better opportunities and more good people to meet ahead |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Spider20: 6:33pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
blessingchinny:Abeg getaaaat.................. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Ndukings92(m): 6:45pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
U alone knows what your heart wants, no amount of advice can change it. U are already full of remorse and regret, can u be sincere to ur self and not us? U love him a lot right? u still want him, even if it true that he is secretly dating or want to date her, u don't care anymore. U just want him back cos u are seriously missing him, u seriously want him cos u seriously love him. I have been in ur shoes my dear, I broke into pieces in 2016 to d extent that I considered Suicide. I lost a lot of money trying to secure Dubai visa just to walk out of her sight at that time, my house rent expired and I closed my apartment and run back to my dad's residence. STILL I survived without running back to apologize for doing nothing. I am getting married by d grace of God by January to a lady that I don't even deserve, she is too good for me and my family so much love her even when she is not my tribe. Prayerful, a nurse, hardworking, caring and understanding. Me I love her so much but she love me more, Babe review ur self again to know if u were a blessing or a curse to him, will he later regret it when u move on? Or he don't give a damn, u know y I asked? My ex accused her girl when they were quarreling of recent that she was d reason y I left"that she gossip about her to me" and it's not true. My life now is better than before, so check ur self and work on ur self |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Sonnobax15(m): 6:58pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
![]() Sorry op,bros don offload you for suleja junction, drive leave ![]() |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by RPirez: 7:22pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Madam, carry ur wahala go Aso Rock... ![]() |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by magni101(m): 7:24pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Hello Op, If you feel deep down in your gut that he meant what he said then I suggest that you move on with your life. It'll hurt and sting like hell but you'll get over it and meet someone else that'll respect and love you enough without all those unnecessary entanglements. Find things to do. You'll get over it in no time. Ignore the bile comments from some folks here. Don't let it get to you. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Michelle55: 7:52pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
You've being told in your previous post to let go and move on yet you refused, I wonder what other tips you want that would help you to move on. Learn to appreciate yourself and your peace of mind first then everything would fall into place, you guys weren't meant to be and it's time you give yourself a pat on the back and move on. I do know how you feel because for the first time in my life, I experienced heartbreak too. Omo, I wan die it wasn't easy but I'm glad I've got good people around who helped me forge on. Just count it as your loss and be alert in your next relationship, the breakfast go reach everybody las las. Be happy for no one is worth the stress |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Offpoint1: 8:15pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
blessingchinny:Let's start dating, message me via the number on my signature. I can console you... |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Ndukings92(m): 8:29pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Michelle55:word, God bless you nwanne. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Truvelisback(m): 8:31pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
blessingchinny:U caused it. U didn't give him a breathing space. Just give him a little space as he said. If u love him and want him back, just lower ur ego and tell him that u are sorry 4 everything, that u never meant to make him feel bad. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by CheedyJ(m): 9:12pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Forget tips , there’s no general tip for overcoming heartbreak, what works for A May not work for you so, look for what works for you and with time you’d be fine ..time heals most wounds.. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Ronnnie: 9:13pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
OgogoroFreak:Guy you wicked but that's the truth.... |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 9:29pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
My sister it's hard to move but at this point you have to and you will be happy you did.. He left you a long time ago and you've been dating yourself. Enjoy life and wait for your one man. Don't sqeeze yourself into a position that's not for you. In few weeks time you will be glad he dumped you. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by joviegghead: 9:47pm On Aug 31, 2021*. Modified: 10:23pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Hmm. One thing I personally know about relationship problems between couples is never to judge based on the story of one side. Probably there's something else you did to really offend him that we or even you don't know. Sending that kinda text was really immature on your part. So i sent him a text that it is obvious he is dating her, that he should continue with her. Really?! However, if I'm to judge based on what you've said, I'll say this: Its sounds like your guy wants out of the relationship. He was probably tired of you and looking for a way to call it quit cuz if he really loves you , he won't break up based on something as flimsy but childish as what you did. Now you're heartbroken ![]() Don't be a slave to the scarcity mindset. If he didn't leave you, how will you find someone very sensible and who values you. He not the only man on earth. Neither is he the only one best for you. See, there are lots of potential partners out there. Use the experience that you've gathered to select. And don't love too hard so if dem try break your heart, e fit only crack small. Lastly, I'm a supporter of self-development first and above all. I'll strongly advise, to give yourself a break and focus on acquiring skills and adding value to yourself. Oh! Have fun. Have fun. Have fun. Delete anything that'll bring back old painful memories. Know and appreciate your worth. There are over 8 billion people alive. Are you gonna punish and subject yourself to emotional pain just because of 1 man? ![]() |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by abimic(m): 10:13pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Ndukings92:Wishing you a blissful home ahead bro, nowadays, na when woman love pass, na im sure pass o.....so your mind would be at peace....It is obvious the op loves the guy more, so she should avoid the guy, because no matter what she does, the guy is done with her and would keep disappointing her as they would always have issues over irrelevant things. This is a red flag, op should disappear from the relationship and set a standard for herself. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Teerach: 10:14pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Don't allow people throw crumbs of love to you as though it's that little you deserve. Not when someone else will give way more of what he wouldn't give. Brandy said there's nothing worse than being in love alone. Trust me, you're a fighter, and thus you've come this far, dust yourself and move on. Set your priorities right, be positive, believe that you deserve better. Deserving doesn't have anything to do with your age. And the universe will serve you better. Lastly, it's okay to cry, it's okay to regret.... But don't spend the rest of your life hurting for someone who doesn't give a Bleep about you. You're strong. This too shall pass. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by RightToReject(m): 10:16pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
If you're going into a new relationship, wear your discernment cap, come into equity with clean hands and expect and accept nothing less. Don't make the mistake of rewarding nonsense with goodness or rewarding lovelessness with submission. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by macho44(m): 11:23pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Michelle55:We, we dey experience HEARTBREAK every now and then, once every 2 weeks, especially on Monday morning. Tell OP say ayam presently unattached, make she holla @ me, if she get money. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by macho44(m): 11:24pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
blessingchinny:You Need LOVE, I Get Plenty To Give You |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Moz22: 11:32pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
Honestly I'm becoming bored of this.. |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by arthurwillia(m): 11:35pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
blessingchinny:Tips to move on, come sit on the tip of my d*ck You’ll move on like that Shoni pe o rindin abi, wa to gbo? Watimagbo |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Ndukings92(m): 11:38pm On Aug 31, 2021 |
abimic:fact sir, u just said it all. The problem we normally have is that we already know the truth but when the truth is not favorable to our desire, we start forcing things even when we know that we are building a time bomb. A bomb we know will eventually burst one day, a broken relationship is far better than divorce. The world don't care who the architect of d divorce is, it's already a stain in ur records |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Pumpumking: 12:01am On Sep 01, 2021 |
Romanoff: ![]() |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Pumpumking: 12:06am On Sep 01, 2021 |
Romanoff: If yor commmon sence is common, u shuld no u cannot accuse a man if u have no evidense (silly goat). women like u are the reason why guys give up on women & torn to gay. Yor type go around givin stewwwpid advise coz u a single feminnnist loner that look like man no man wants. How did u no he cheated on her, did he yansh u? I always warn my women to stay away from things like u...clearly most of yor friend are single coz u gave them dumb advise. blessingchinny..please use common sence & ignore Romanoff simply becuz her comon sense definately not comon!!(no oofense) ![]() |
| Re: Did I Overreact By Sending Him The Text? by Caramia2020(m): 12:08am On Sep 01, 2021 |
Move on my dear, u are only an option to him n not his priority, d relationship died a long time ago but u fail to c d early warning signs. Be strong n move on from time wasters. Take care. |
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it wasn't easy but I'm glad I've got good people around who helped me forge on. Just count it as your loss and be alert in your next relationship, the breakfast go reach everybody las las. Be happy for no one is worth the stress