I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Easy. Find some girl image you find very arousing (maybe through porn - just once) then think that image to get aroused to bleep. No need to go outside

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E dey happen, give it time.

In every match there's always a reserved bench and it consists of two or 3 players.

It's always the prayers of the main player not to be changed or injured during the game,but some coaches would still change them.

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FreeIgboho:
Easy. Find some girl image you find very arousing (maybe through porn - just once) then think that image to get aroused to bleep. No need to go outside

Save your breathe...he has already gone outside.

ahnie:

Save your breathe...he has already gone outside.

How ya know? No need to AT ALL. Sex is 95% mental

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster. I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket. We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter. Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage. Pls � admin help me to post it front page

Stress? See a therapist for help soonest so you can identify and resolve the problem either as an individual or as a couple.

You have to identify and know what it is that has changed , particularly in your life, in other to resolve it. Do not in anyway attempt to put the blame on your partner or attempt to make this a shared issue so you do not end up making the situation worse than it already is for you and your wife there.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster. I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket. We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter. Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage. Pls � admin help me to post it front page

Why don't you find her attractive anymore? Is it weight related? Hygiene related? Dressing related? Attitude related? Health related? Or your taste changed? Or you married her for something else other than looks, but now you want looks? Maybe you realized that you need someone who chases after you more than you chase after them? Maybe you want her to be someone she's not, like her sister? I noticed you had to tell us that her sister was your toaster. What exactly? Be more specific if you need better advice

Kobojunkiee:
Stress? See a therapist for help soonest so you can identify and resolve the problem either as an individual or as a couple.

You have to identify and know what it is that has changed , particularly in your life, in other to resolve it. Do not in anyway attempt to put the blame on your partner or attempt to make this a shared issue so you do not end up making the situation worse than it already is for you and your wife there.

Therapist my ass. Will simply confuse him. Sex is a mental game. If u position your thinking well, no woman is unattractive, and you'll not need more than one

Infatuation was the case from the get-go.

Her sister was the one you always wanted, but she declined and spat you on to her sister.

Talk about when the desirable isn't available, and the available becoming the desirable.

Now, you don dey satiated and reach your equilibrium, she don begin "sonor" (irritate) you.

FreeIgboho:
Therapist my ass. Will simply confuse him. Sex is a mental game. If u position your thinking well, no woman is unattractive, and you'll not need more than one

The man here is telling you that mentally he no longer finds his wife attractive. Obviously, he is mentally stressed and in need of help finding his MOJO again.

Asking him to go see a therapist is what I would anyone who is struggling with stressor. Why you think that will confuse him, I don't understand.

This is how some of you drives your wife into cheating, why should your wife beg you for sex? Instead of her to change it for you and go stone cold too she's begging for it.

If you don't find her sexually attractive, you must learn to make her sexually attractive since it is the only option you have.

Say no to extramarital affairs...and believe me, that bell ringing that she's not sexually attractive is just your head!

If you like TEGA , I can link you to her

Unfortunately, no matter the resolve here or with a therapist, This problem won't go away. Y'all would eventually go Bleep other people.

Then walk into Igando customary court and file for divorce.

Igando customary works like Magic.

socialmediaman:


Why don't you find her attractive anymore? Is it weight related? Hygiene related? Dressing related? Attitude related? Health related? Or your taste changed? Or you married her for something else other than looks, but now you want looks? Maybe you realized that you need someone who chases after you more than you chase after them? Maybe you want her to be someone she's not, like her sister? I noticed you had to tell us that her sister was your toaster. What exactly? Be more specific if you need better advice

OP, be more specific. Answer the above questions

I wonder how some men come up to say such things but easily find prostitutes sexually attractive enough to patronize them.

Now, my question is , what changed?
Did her body become loose after child birth?
Did her boobs stop being perky or what? Cos i know for most men with this kind of issue, it's always changes in the woman's body that come with child bearing that causes the drop in attraction.

Op, it's just only one child and you're already tired. Hope there's no other girl in the picture. It may not even be physical but mental picture? you sure you're not having someone else in mind?

The thing is, you have to bring your mind back home and stop trying to compare her to other women.

"See finish" can also be at play here like pastor Kumuyi rightly said in a post yesterday.
Maybe you need some time away from her ( not separation). Like take a trip out or something so you can miss her. Trust me this works.

I remember my experience with my ex. Whenever I was tired of his face and felt like dumping him for no reason, I'll just run off to another location for a month. By the time I get back, the attraction will feel all new and the relationship sweet again. So, "see finish" can be a contributing factor here.

Take a trip.

Why don't you find her attractive anymore? Weight gain or general lack of 'body consciousness'?
It's more of a mental thing though.From your narration,your mind was on her sister so there was already room for comparison.
If you decide you will work with her and work on her, you can get your mojo back.

ahnie:

Save your breathe...he has already gone outside.

Fatality!!.

daddytime:
Infatuation was the case from the get-go.

Her sister was the one you always wanted, but she declined and spat you on to her sister.

Talk about when the desirable isn't available, and the available becoming the desirable.

Now, you don dey satiated and reach your equilibrium, she don begin "sonor" (irritate) you.

Only an Edo man says "sonor".

folake4u:


Only an Edo man says "sonor".

Yes oh!

daddytime:


Yes oh!

Edo people and funny slangs .
Another one is "Sanka". Like "e don sanka finish".

Loool.

folake4u:


Edo people and funny slangs .
Another one is "Sanka". Like "e don sanka finish".

Loool.

" Sakan" e don rotten finish lol.

daddytime:


" Sakan" e don rotten finish lol.

Thank you for correcting me.

Yessssssss. Exactly that.

Tell us what attracted her to you first, and what kept the relationship going for 6 years before you married her.

Gettat of here. Go and take care of your woman. See your mouth like I don't find her attractive.

Married women dey try ooo.... Beg for sex ke

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster. I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket. We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter. Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage. Pls � admin help me to post it front page

That you no longer find your wife attractive doesn’t mean other men don’t find her attractive.
If you keep making her beg for (what is hers) your attention, a time will come when she will stop.
Don’t come complaining when she eventually gets tired of your shakara and starts accepting the attention freely offered to her elsewhere.
By then, she no go send you again!